cococandy:
Marry a man. You’ll find all you seek. And probably all men won’t be the same to you

Rutherford2019:
I have never dated any girl before, in fact I have not hugged or kiss a girl before and now I'm 33..
I lost feeling for girls but the problem is that there is pressure for me to get married but I'm comfortable alone..
What should I do

needanswer:


I'm bored in this one already. We dont seem to talk too much minus the regular catching up and going out.

Sixfeetbelle:


Somehow your post implied that men are decidedly good and that women are the ones who need to be sifted.

Not every man 'wishing' to settle down actually deserves a good woman by his side.

Sixfeetbelle:


Somehow your post implied that men are decidedly good and that women are the ones who need to be sifted.

Not every man 'wishing' to settle down actually deserves a good woman by his side.

Just give them a few hours also, dear. They'll come and tell you women are the ones who do the 'picking of mates' now and weed out strong males from weak ones.

'Anywhere belle face...'

'Bad boys get the good women.'

Na why dem still never marry?

Liposure:
behind every changed woman, there's a good man

needanswer:


So no hope for me yeah,? I cant find someone like my ex but without the violence

needanswer:


So no hope for me yeah,? I cant find someone like my ex but without the violence

Lucrativress:

Goodnight Sir

trilobite:
Yeah it is when you want to settle down you realize wives are scarce.

The issue for me is double dating. Once any girl does that, I walk away. Have tried and tried but can't seem to find a girl ready to stick to one guy.
My friends tell me it's a waste of time. That I should just close my eyes, get married and hope for the best.

Also annoying is the pastor/reverend sister act Nigerian girls come up with because they think that is what all men are looking for. News flash, character matters more than faith. Speak in tongues from now till eternity, if you don't know how to be loyal you're not worth it.

It is all seriously exhausting!!!. I have decided to throw in the towel if my next attempt goes the same route (double dating). Will just close my eyes and get a girl pregnant like many of my guys.

vickydevoka:


His problem is, not been able to accept de fact that gals are wahala.
Once you have that believe. All you have have to do is to pick your wahala n go. If u can't endure you all go ur separate ways

needanswer:
Yeah, its hard o. All girls are the same to me (when I say all girls, I only mean gorgeous girls)

But beauty aside, most girls are the same. They are just in different packages but once I look past the beauty and into the person I get discouraged...nothing makes her special than the last or the next even my current girl.

Only one girl ever stood out, beautiful, emotional intelligent, charismatic, funny, homely, ****** and she was smart about alot of things, we both Learnt new stuffs talking with each other, things most girls normally dont like. She is a big GOT and Kdrama fan and because of her I looked into Korean movies and culture even wrote two novels based on kdrama that I published. But she could kill if she got angry, very violent. she spoilt my stuffs, na there matter spoil with her anger. If she had stayed maybe we would have killed each other, but if she wasn't violent she was a perfect fit. She has her own money (last born for that matter) and her family are well to do like mine, it would have been perfect.

I see my friends get married almost monthly but truth is their babes seem shallow to me, yes they are beautiful like mine but shallow. Me I cant cope o, after 1 months I will be bored of the entire marriage, if not for boredom I for dey with my babe and not here o

Guys how did you select your partner?

Me I am thinking this marriage is not for all o.

BlackNostra:

Go back and manage your ex like that, take her to therapy or something
Go back and manage your ex like that, take her to therapy or something

divineappo:
am in same shoe right now

My babe, I love her so much and she loves me, but she is a last born, she is 28yrs old, and she has this lazy last born attitude, she even told me whenever she falls sick, her sickness is always tough, yet she hates using drugs. Am conservative with spending but she isn't, she is the type that won't rest until she use iPhone despite not working.

Am patiently working on her, and hoping she would change. She has to change, grow up, begin to think and act matured, stop her last born attitude, before I marry her

Truth is, I really love her

Rebelsquad:
Omo.. this thread.. very few people actually offered advise. most came to fight and insult
we'll be alright in this country. I don't know what's always annoying us

TheVictim01:
Apt! One carton of di%^o for you!

needanswer:


It's good you like fixing peoples problems not me, dont have that time and we both lost out. She knows even today it was her violence and anger issues that drove us apart. He wish her the best in the future and myself too.

ogbonti:



My apologies if I came up as being rude, maybe I was trying to make you realize you are making a big mistake. Most girls who are very humble out there may be very broke and a huge liability if you marry them. This very girl is not broke as you said she has her own money. That’s a big one in today’s Nigeria. And she is pretty and every other thing is complete for her EXCEPT anger issues. If that’s the only issue, there are anger management programs you can get her into and try to fix the issue. No human being is 100% complete - no man is perfect, and once you fix that part of her life then you would have found your missing ribs. To find a woman lacking just one attribute out of a host of attributes is very rare, you will remember me in future, once again I apologize if I came up as rude, no vex - God bless you and hope someone else won’t take her before you realize your mistake - and you start regretting all your life why you let her go when you end up with an angry, broke and ugly woman! take care

needanswer:


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IamPlato:
thanks bro

needanswer:


Lol, why angry, broke and ugly woman? Three very bad combinations. Well thanks for your heart felt apology. Maybe I will look into her, maybe. The communication lines are still open between us although we rarely use it. So I'll see how it goes.

needanswer:
Yeah, its hard o. All girls are the same to me (when I say all girls, I only mean gorgeous girls)

But beauty aside, most girls are the same. They are just in different packages but once I look past the beauty and into the person I get discouraged...nothing makes her special than the last or the next even my current girl.

Only one girl ever stood out, beautiful, emotional intelligent, charismatic, funny, homely, ****** and she was smart about alot of things, we both Learnt new stuffs talking with each other, things most girls normally dont like. She is a big GOT and Kdrama fan and because of her I looked into Korean movies and culture even wrote two novels based on kdrama that I published. But she could kill if she got angry, very violent. she spoilt my stuffs, na there matter spoil with her anger. If she had stayed maybe we would have killed each other, but if she wasn't violent she was a perfect fit. She has her own money (last born for that matter) and her family are well to do like mine, it would have been perfect.

I see my friends get married almost monthly but truth is their babes seem shallow to me, yes they are beautiful like mine but shallow. Me I cant cope o, after 1 months I will be bored of the entire marriage, if not for boredom I for dey with my babe and not here o

Guys how did you select your partner?

Me I am thinking this marriage is not for all o.

Hatima:
I share your pain to be honest. Like you, I like to talk about everything and anything, try out new things etc.

I can't say you should overlook the anger issue or not. You wear the shoe, you know how it fits and ultimately you know what you want. I believe you'd make the best choice.. don't rush it.

Marriage scares me because I honestly think I'd get bored as well. I remember telling a guy to come with me to an amusement park, he asked if I was a kid, I love watching and talking about animes, history etc.. asking questions that lead to deeper conversations..I've been told I'm boring...

if not because I'm the first and only girl, I honestly would not bother about marriage..my mom would lose her mind if she heard me say this..

ogbonti:


Wise move and have a blessed day Sir!