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Dear Admin,

I am a young man of thirty two. I deliberately searched for a wife to marry from my village because I fear women from the city here. So when I was ready a year ago,I sent my parents to help me find a wife.

Uru my wife just finished her NCE and everybody know here in the village as a very good and quiet, I was very happy when my parents chose her for me. Even when I was courting her (we courted for like 2 months before our wedding),she used to be very shy and reserved and I was impressed by how homely and godly she was.

Our wedding came and I was very much satisfied when I found out on our wedding night that Uru was a virgin. Because of this,I didnt fear or have any cause to fear or suspect my wife. She moved to join me here in the city but what I am seeing after the marriage is......


http://livelystones.com.ng/my-wife-pretended-to-be-innocent-but-i-am-scared-of-what-she-will-do/

Ohhhhh, another confirmation.

Good

She just has to remove Christianity out of it.

Beke2020:
you just spoke my mind

Yes but since the situation is like this ,she has to move on for now. I noe it's not easy but that's the case now.

Beke2020:
easier said than done. its her blood. wont be easy to let go like that

Congratulations !!

dukeprince50:
i didnt read past this post

Smiles

QueenSuccubus:


This WhatsApp is messing up sha... It's been yesterday they don't delelivered the message on time unless u have to open ur WhatsApp...

Dear Lively Stones ,

I've been reading different stories and people response on your blog. Actually ,there were times I never believed some stories until mine happened . One should never claim to be too smart until he/she survives some circumstances .


I have been working in the banking sector for a while now,a little over six years and its been a very tough job I must confess. The financial targets and pressure that comes with it,is not even a joke. Many times,we are pushed to do un-imaginable things in order to meet these targets. So far,these six years,I have done some things but never have I had to use sex to meet my targets.


Yes,sex. Alot of us use it here to keep our jobs. I am not even going to get into all that. But I was determined to keep my pants on. I was ready to resign if it ever got to that point. I worked hard,I pitched hard,I did all but not drop my pants.


Early this year,when I received my target for the year,I told my husband that this might be the year that I would resign because there is no way I would bring in the kind of amount I was given as target. My husband and I prayed about it and agreed to do the right thing when the time comes.


Towards the end of January,my husband came back from work and said he ran into a former colleague of his who now works with a big oil firm. They spoke and he agreed to help me meet my targets. I met Hassan in his office days later and we started talking. He helped me set up important meetings with the big wigs of his company. It really looked like I was going to meet my target about five times more. I was so happy.The final meeting with them held and they agreed to sign with my bank. Hassan being the deputy MD said he would need a few more days to look through the documents before finally signing.


A week passed,no word from Hassan. I called him and he asked me to meet him at his hotel in VI. I went to see him and waited for almost four hours. He was in a meeting. He eventually came out and .......


http://livelystones.com.ng/my-husband-set-me-upi-fell-for-it-the-rage-is-eating-me-up/

Now that the wife has fallen to the bet ,who is to blame ? There are some decision we take sometimes that larer back fire.

Beke2020:
Your husband bet on your head because he was.....am absolute he didn't anticipate the outcome this way.

If he doesn’t treat you like the catch you are by committing to you and being a consistent flame in your life, you shouldn’t spend time waiting for him. It really is as simple as that. A guy who’s hot and cold doesn’t belong in your life, the end.

HE’S GIVING YOU MIXED MESSAGES.

One minute he acts like he’s so into you, the next he’s giving you the cold shoulder. WTF? A guy who does this is either playing a game with you to keep you interested or just not feeling you, and honestly, it’s more than likely the latter. A guy who really likes you won’t play such childish games.

HE MIGHT SLOW FADE OR GHOST YOU.

Be careful: a guy who seems unpredictable and unreliable might be giving you hints that he’s about to get out of your life for good. Do him and yourself a favor by deleting his number and blocking him first.

YOU CAN DO SO MUCH BETTER. You don’t need to waste your time with a guy who’s not interested enough in you or who doesn’t like you enough. He should be committed to you 150 percent if he deserves you. Don’t accept a lazy jerk who keeps you on the ice.

 

HE LIKES YOU WHEN IT’S CONVENIENT FOR HIM.

A guy who blows hot and cold is selfish. He only makes an effort when it’s convenient for him to do so, like when he’s bored and lonely so he gives you a call. That’s some serious BS. He should be making an effort all the time, and you should demand nothing less from him.

HE SHOULD KNOW WHAT HE WANTS.

You don’t have time for confused guys who are all over the place and don’t know what they want. You need to be with someone who’s sure of himself and has a plan for the future in which you play a leading role. You’re not an extra in anyone’s life because you’re worth so much more. If he can’t see that, you should cut him from your life right now.

YOU’LL SPEND MANY NIGHTS WAITING.

A guy who’s hot and cold will leave you wondering WTF is going on with him. You might spend nights analyzing his odd behavior with your best friends or waiting for him to call as he said he would (but then he doesn’t). It sucks to go through this and give him the benefit of the doubt. It’s a waste of data, time and energy. If he’s blowing hot and cold now, he’s going to disappoint you again without fail.

HE’S BEING SHIFTY.

He can’t like and not like you at the same time, so what’s this guy’s deal? Clearly he’s being shady if he’s giving you so many mixed messages. A guy who’s genuinely interested in you will be clear about his intentions and feelings. He won’t make you feel like you’re dating two different people. If this guy is going all Jekyll and Hyde on you, it’s a sign that one of them is a total lie.

HE’S WAITING FOR SOMETHING BETTER.

He might be one of those guys who’s never satisfied with what he has and is always on the lookout for something better. A guy like that tends to keep women on the back-burner just in case he needs them, but then he can’t commit to any of them because he’s holding out for something else. What a loser.

YOU SHOULD BURN HIS NUMBER BEFORE HE BURNS YOU.

Wasting time with a guy who’s all over the place is never fun and it never ends well. Sooner or later you’ll get fed up or heartbroken, and he probably won’t even care because you’re the one who’s been invested in him. He hasn’t invested in you one bit!

YOU WON’T BE ABLE TO TRUST HIM EVEN IF HE CHANGES.

You might be holding out for when he’ll be a better man for you, for the day when he’ll be so into you that he won’t give you mixed messages ever again. Um, keep dreaming. Even if a miracle happened and he started being more consistent, you’d probably feel you can’t trust him. And why should you? If he could blow hot and cold once, he’ll probably do it again, which will be even harder to deal with.

YOU’RE NEVER GOING TO BE HIS PRIORITY.

The guy who treats you like this is never going to make you a priority in his life. You’re just an option to him. Instead of letting him treat you like an afterthought, demand more for yourself – but don’t expect him to give it to you. Give it to yourself by GTFO of his life. Free up the space on your phone for a better guy’s number who will chase you instead of expecting you to chase him.

For related post ,visit


 http://livelystones.com.ng/hes-hot-cold-time-burn-number/

Dear Lively Stones ,

I've been reading different stories and people response on your blog. Actually ,there were times I never believed some stories until mine happened . One should never claim to be too smart until he/she survives some circumstances .


I have been working in the banking sector for a while now,a little over six years and its been a very tough job I must confess. The financial targets and pressure that comes with it,is not even a joke. Many times,we are pushed to do un-imaginable things in order to meet these targets. So far,these six years,I have done some things but never have I had to use sex to meet my targets.


Yes,sex. Alot of us use it here to  keep our jobs. I am not even going to get into all that. But I was determined to keep my pants on. I was ready to resign if it ever got to that point. I worked hard,I pitched hard,I did all but not drop my pants.


Early this year,when I received my target for the year,I told my husband that this might be the year that I would resign because there is no way I would bring in the kind of amount I was given as target. My husband and I prayed about it and agreed to do the right thing when the time comes.


Towards the end of January,my husband came back from work and said he ran into a former colleague of his who now works with a big oil firm. They spoke and he agreed to help me meet my targets. I met Hassan in his office days later and we started talking. He helped me set up important meetings with the big wigs of his company. It really looked like I was going to meet my target about five times more. I was so happy.The final meeting with them held and they agreed to sign with my bank. Hassan being the deputy MD said he would need a few more days to look through the documents before finally signing.


A week passed,no word from Hassan. I called him and he asked me to meet him at his hotel in VI. I went to see him and waited for almost four hours. He was in a meeting. He eventually came out and .......


http://livelystones.com.ng/my-husband-set-me-upi-fell-for-it-the-rage-is-eating-me-up/

Dear Admin,

I am a young man of thirty two. I deliberately searched for a wife to marry from my village because I fear women from the city here. So when I was ready a year ago,I sent my parents to help me find a wife.

Uru my wife just finished her NCE and everybody know here in the village as a very good and quiet, I was very happy when my parents chose her for me. Even when I was courting her (we courted for like 2 months before our wedding),she used to be very shy and reserved and I was impressed by how homely and godly she was.

Our wedding came and I was very much satisfied when I found out on our wedding night that Uru was a virgin. Because of this,I didnt fear or have any cause to fear or suspect my wife. She moved to join me here in the city but what I am seeing after the marriage is ....


http://livelystones.com.ng/my-wife-pretended-to-be-innocent-but-i-am-scared-of-what-she-will-do/

Please advice me. The ladies in my office are driving me crazy.

I work in an IT company on the Island. In my team,we have two ladies who are both interested in me.I started work there like a year ago but I became the team lead like three months ago. I love my job and I would like to do well and move up the ladder quickly so I dont want all these distractions.

It happened like almost immediately I resumed work in that office. The girls were quite flirty around me but I didnt take notice of anyone of them. But when I became the team lead,two ladies took the flirty to another level. Now,one of them sends me nude pictures of herself on whatsapp,telling me what I am missing. The other one touches me in very inappropriate places when no one is looking. At first,I was enjoying the attention until both of them got to know about themselves.

As soon as they found out,the jealousy took a drastic turn. Both of them dont speak to each other and its affecting their work. Being their supervisor,its tough trying to mediate knowing fully well that I am the cause of their trouble. I hung out with one of them last weekend and she was something else. I tried to beg her to please cooperate with the other girl but she refused,claiming that she told the other girl she liked me first and out of greed,the other one came after me. One time,they almost came to blows during an argument in the office.

My weakness is that both of the girls are very .....

http://livelystones.com.ng/helptwo-ladies-in-stiff-competition-for-my-attention/

Now before you shoot me, let me scream to the top of my lungs… “I believe in the power of prayer!” I have seen God do too many amazing things in my life to believe otherwise. I know beyond a shadow of doubt that…Prayer Changes Things! James 5:16 states it clearly, “Confess your faults to one another, and pray one for another, that ye may be healed. The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man (woman) availeth much.”

However, as a psychologist who works with couples every day I see Christian couples often ask, “Why is my marriage stressful if we are both Christians and pray?” It’s a good question because intellectually, we believe that being a Christian and praying each night should be enough to make marriage (and life for that matter) work.

If you think about it, however, you realize that it really doesn’t make much practical sense. For example, do you believe that being a Christian and praying nightly will make you a great…Business owner… Real estate agent… Athlete… Chef…without also doing the work?

Of course not.

In order to be great at business, real estate, sports and cooking you have to put in the necessary work to develop and hone your skills. What does the Bible say about hard work? James 2:14-18 says “What does it profit, my brethren, if someone says he has faith but does not have works? Can faith save him? If a brother or sister is naked and destitute of daily food, and one of you says to them, “Depart in peace, be warmed and filled,” but you do not give them the things which are needed for the body, what does it profit? Thus, also faith by itself, if it does not have works, is dead. But someone will say, “You have faith, and I have works.” Show me your faith without your works, and I will show you my faith by my works.

In this short passage, the word “works” appears five times. So, it appears to me that God commands believers to exhibit faith and works. In fact, our works serve as evidence of our faith. How does this apply to Christian marriage? I’ll answer your question with a question…

How does it benefit your marriage if you are praying but…

Using abusive language towards your wife…?

Haven’t been on date with your spouse in months?

Not having sex with your spouse so that your mutual intimacy needs can be met?

Giving more attention to work, a smart phone, or social media versus your helpmate?

You shut down, walk out or over talk your spouse while trying to resolve conflict?

The answer is obvious…It doesn’t. The real truth is that in order for your marriage to work, you must also behave as a Godly couple. This means that you must combine faith, prayer, and works. What do I mean by works?

You have to follow God’s instructions on how to develop and maintain a Godly marriage. Specifically, you have to learn the necessary marital, relationship skills to successfully build communication, intimacy, quality time, and fellowship that defines a Godly marriage. “Just praying” for your marriage is unacceptable and only part of the equation when God is demanding you to take action!

Didn’t Paul actually have to send letters and visit churches around the world to establish the Church?

Didn’t Queen Esther have to actually coordinate that dinner to expose Haman to save her

people?

Didn’t Peter have to actually evangelize after betraying his savior three times?

The answer is yes, yes, and yes! And you must do the same. You must put in work on your marriage for it to work and combine that with the power of prayer. The question I have for you is when would be a good time for you to work on your marriage? I mean really work on your marriage by building up your relationship skills as a couple so that you can have a strong Godly marriage?

http://livelystones.com.ng/why-just-praying-for-your-marriage-doesnt-work/

Excellent.

You said it all.

oloriooko:
1. OP stop trying to justify your unacceptable infidelity by pointing to your jobs and sex life, accept your error and eliminate trying to find a reason for your error
2. Cut off any relationship with the lady you messed up with.
3. You have to work on gaining your wife's trust it's going to be hard but you must work at it.
4. The lady is hurting now, you must lay down your ego and sooth her emotional wound your action caused.
5. Make up your mind and bring her into your plan to make your marriage work again by discussing extensively why the error was made and how what you guys will do to avoid a repeat.
6. Love her more and stay positive and don't beat yourself over for the error you committed learn to forgive you and move on.
Wish you the best bro

True actually .All stories have two sides.

ishabablessing:
On this kind of stories one also need to hear from your wife,you already gave us an excuse for ur flaws, we can not jus take your story even doh it might be true,all stories have two sides

You better be careful or else ,you will have your self to blame.

z11111:
Dear Lively Stones Admin ,

Thank you for the impart your platform is making ,kindly share this with nairanders and your readers.

I am so sorry for what am about to say but I need help thats why I am writing to a relationship blog for advice.

My ex and I dated for three years and he cheated with me with someone I know and that prompted me to break up with him in anger. And just to show him I could move on without him,I married the first guy that showed up and we got married in less than a year. I know I made a mistake but I was hoping to find love quickly cos I was too heartbroken from the infidelity of my ex.

However,I knew in my heart,I never really got over my ex. A year after my marriage....

http://livelystones.com.ng/my-ex-and-i-are-flirty-and-i-dont-care-that-his-wife-knows/

No be small trouble .

Big one infact

Beke2020:
.....loading

Trouble! Trouble!! Trouble!!!

True. Its not nice to jump into relationship after break up

BoweryGirl:
The greatest mistake you can make is to have a rebound lover after a break up. It's best to heal naturally and move on. Don't hurt the next guy.

Dear Lively Stones,

My marriage is not working and I need help on what to do otherwise,we might just pack it up.

My wife and I have been married for seven years. We have a daughter that is five years old. A year ago,something happened. I cheated with a young lady in our compound and since then,our marriage has never been the same.

I feel terribly sorry that I cheated but it was not really my fault. My wife's job keeps her very busy but my job allows me flexibility. Our sex life paid the cost for the her career. She was barely able to keep up in that department. The daughter of one of my neighbors seem to notice how sex deprived I was when we both ran into each other one day at a grocery store. W

http://livelystones.com.ng/i-cheated-a-year-agobut-my-wife-is-pushing-me-away/

I am a 22-year-old girl and a civil engineering student. This combo is considered rare by many. Maybe that’s the reason why I’m experiencing what I am going through. I am not a conventionally beautiful girl. I’m fat since childhood and I am highly depressed. Even in our college, there are too many girls, and all of them are beautiful according to regular beauty standards.

In my 2nd year, I had a major crush on one of our seniors, he was in his final year at that time. Once in a midterm exam, we sat together, and that was the first time I saw him and felt something for him. I never saw him again, except once or twice during exams and presentations. Eventually, he graduated. One year later, we met on Facebook, that was the best day of my life! I had a feeling that he’s interested in me, and he was. So our chats went longer and we got closer.

We were sexting after a few weeks itself. I was madly in love, but he was not. This chatting soon ended abruptly. And he didn’t talk much except for once or twice. We are now like strangers.

He never said that he loved me, it was only I who felt that way, and so got my heart broken. I hated myself for the love that I believed was there and tried to forget him. Meanwhile, one of my good friends started acting strange and seemed interested in me. I don’t know if it’s true, but he seems to be interested in sexting only. This makes me hate myself even more. I think I can never get true love.

Why do I always attract what I don’t want? I can’t say anything to these boys, because it was not their fault. They didn’t make any false promises and they were clear about their intentions. It was me who let them break down my walls.

But also, I can’t keep it in, that is why I’m telling my story here. It might seem funny, but that is how I really feel. My depression has gotten even worse, there are many stories behind this state of my mind, and this one is the most recent.

http://livelystones.com.ng/i-give-true-love-a-chance-each-time-but-men-only-use-me/

Olumide and I were dating for almost two years. We were already talking marriage when the tragedy occurred. Olumide died in a car accident on his way from Ikere. When the news of his death reached me,I collapsed and I was devastated. But something else happened.

I discovered I was pregnant two weeks after Olumide’s death. I was so scared when I found out and I didnt know what to do. I didnt know how I was going to raise a child after the death of the father. I was also thinking it would be difficult to find a man to marry me if I have a child already. With all these thoughts,I had an abortion.

After the abortion,I started to have night mares and sometimes I see someone like Olumide crying in my dream asking me why I killed his baby. The nightmares continued for almost a year. I was too scared to tell anyone. That was six years ago.

I got married 3 years ago and since I got married,I have not been able to get pregnant. The doctors have examined me and my husband and have said nothing is wrong with both of us. But at the back of my mind,I feel guilty for aborting Olumide’s child and sometimes feel that is the reason for the delay in having my own children.

My husband’s mother isnt making things easy for me. She keeps saying that our delayed child bearing is a spiritual matter.. My husband does not believe in spiritual matters and has told me not to worry but this secret I have been holding within,could that be the spiritual reason? Recently I have been thinking about this and worse still I had a dream about Olumide,this time,he was just looking at me in the dream.

I am sad but still scared to .....

http://livelystones.com.ng/is-my-late-boyfriend-punishing-me-for-aborting-his-baby/

Precious one, trust its been a great weekend for you. Lets hear your view on this . Though it sounds annoying but dont be judgmental.

Dear lively stones ,

My boyfriend of six months,Akin, has just proposed to me and I said yes but I do not think I am in love with him. AKin planned a surprise proposal in front of our friends in my apartment and I said yes…oh my God,what have I done?..

I am a thirty six year old lady. I have been dating Deji for Four years. I eventually broke up with him because he has not proposed to me after four years.I met Deji about five years ago. When he began to toast me,I was not interested. He seemed like an un serious guy. There were always ladies with him but he kept persisting and I eventually gave in. We were exclusive and both in love. After like a year,I asked him where our relationship was headed to. I was 31 years at the time. He kept telling me to stop asking him that,we should just be happy to be in love. I actually left him after that but he came back begging me.

I told him I wanted to get married and he said ok but that I should give him more time. That was three years ago. We always quarreled about this marriage matter. Anytime I brought it up,he would get angry and we will not speak to each other for like two or three days. I even moved in with him. Living with him,cooking,cleaning and doing what every wife would do. Just to make him see how important this was to me. I think I was wrong,I just gave him everything for free. One day,I made up my mind,moved out of his apartment.

Funny enough,he didnt even come to beg me this time. I knew it was the best thing for me.

I met Akin about a month later and we have been dating. Akin is nice and all but he is not like Deji. Deji was romantic,he knew how to get me. He would do things that made me melt for him. Akin is just a regular guy. He does not know how to really get me. I love watching movies,going put on dates,little surprises. Akin just does the barest minimum.

When he asked me to marry him,I said yes but in my heart,I am scared I might be making a mistake. That is because I think I am still in love with Deji. Even sex with Akin is so normal. Deji knows how to make love in a million ways. I may not be satisfied with what Akin is offering.

But I am 36,am not getting any younger,should I just settle for Akin knowing that my biological clock is ticking? Maybe I could get to fall in love with him later?Or should I tell him I dont want him and break off the engagement before it goes to far?

Someone said love can be developed. Is that really true?

I dont want to sound selfish but I want to be fair to myself and Akin. I think he deserves someone who loves him enough. What do you think,can I eventually love a guy Like Akin? What should I do?

Kike,

http://livelystones.com.ng/why-i-want-to-marry-my-boyfriend-but-i-do-not-love-him/

I waited for him,he came in by 2.45am. I was waiting for him in the living room. Soon as he came in,I started to yell and scream and I went ballistic.

Bran,I am pregnant and I want a divorce!…those were the words I blurted out to my husband that night.

My husband,Bran fell to his knees and began to cry. It was not tears of joy. It was tears of anguish and pain and regret.He held unto me and began to beg me. Please my love,please dont go. I will do anything. I will change. I will I promise you on the grave of my late mother. Baba,dont leave me. He kept on tugging and begging. That was two weeks ago.

How did we get here? How did my husband and I who so in love become this kind of people? One time we were so in love. It felt like ages ago. Now,all we see is pain,betrayal and disappointment and I wanted a divorce.

Bran and I have been married for five years. We had dreams and goals for our lives. But all that crashed when after the second year,the strain of infertility began to take its toil on us. I became frantic and began fertility treatments after the second year. But Bran didnt support me as I would have loved. He kept saying nothing was wrong with him,that I should go check myself. we were always quarreling and arguing because I felt he was not supportive enough. All the tests recommended for him to go take,he never showed up for any of them. I would cry and quarrel. Meanwhile,the pressure from my family and his was just getting too much. I began to avoid everyone.

Bran started to keep late night because of our constant fight. I used to become afraid for him. I didnt want him ending up dead for coming late every day. This made is quarrel more. many nights,he would sneak into our home by 2 or 3am. I was depressed and desperate. One night,I couldnt take it anymore. I waited for him,he came in by 2.45am. I was waiting for him in the living room. Soon as he came in,I started to yell and scream and I went ballistic. He just looked at me and went into the guest room,locked it and slept off. He was drunk as a skunk!

The next day,I went to work and a couple of hours later,I became sick. I was actually giving a presentation at work when I collapsed. My colleagues rushed to help me and before I knew what was happening,I was bleeding all over the office floor. I was rushed to the hospital where it was confirmed that I just had a miscarriage.

I miscarried a baby that I had been looking for for almost five years!. I didnt even know I was pregnant. I cried and cried and cried. I became so depressed and upset. Bran didnt even come to see me in the hospital. well,I didnt tell him,I was too upset. I was discharged and placed on bed rest. I got home and was faced by the sad reality of what happened and how sad my life had become. It felt like my husband and I didnt know each other again.We had become strangers and always angry at each other. And of course,I blamed him for making me miscarry.

As I did our laundry days later,I found a piece of condom in Bran’s jean pocket. We never use condom because we have been trying to conceive. At that point,I broke down completely. I was in bed for almost two days, The depression had set in completely. I was suicidal now. I had lost Bran completely,he was now cheating,blaming me for our inability to have a child and when we had one,he made me miscarry. I was in a very dark place. One night,when Bran didnt come back as usual,I got dressed and went to a club. I ordered drinks and began to drink. I was looking for a way out of my misery. I wanted to get revenge on Bran for causing this pain. That night,I got drunk and had sex with a random stranger in the back of my SUV.

Next day,I was so sick of myself and I cried . I tried to continue living my life normally until a month later,I collapsed while getting out of the bathroom. This time,Bran was around,he took me to the hospital. The doctor ran tests and confirmed .....

http://livelystones.com.ng/i-am-pregnant-after-five-years-of-infertility-and-i-want-a-divorce/

Please help me,I am about to loose the one person I love so much in this world.

Henry,my ex is a bad guy,very bad guy. I dated him from university up to two years ago. He and I were together for five years. I loved him but he was a bad guy. A hood boy really. He liked the rough life and all. But I knew that was not the future I wanted for him. being with him was fun but I am getting older,I need a man who would be a good husband and father. Not a weed smoking,gun wielding man who I would be very fearful to spend the rest of my days with.

Henry and I broke up two years ago and since then,I moved on. I began to date Sunny,about 18 months ago and he proposed to me last September. Our wedding is in April this year. Sunny is a Medical Doctor. His family owns several state of the art hospitals in the state. Sunny’s family is well to do. His father was the former commissioner of health of the state for several years. I wouldnt want anything to bring a scandal to them.

Henry,having heard that I was getting married to someone from such a family decided to blackmail me. He is threatening to send nude pictures and videos of us having sex to my fiance and his family. He first demanded for N10million. I dont have that amount. I sent him N500k. He said its not enough. To prove he is not bluffing,he already sent me some very incriminating photos of us having sex and doing drugs.

Right now,I am at my wits end. I dont know what to do. I dont want to loose my fiance. It would be too heartbreaking considering how much preparations have gone into this wedding and marriage. It would also mean giving up a life I am planning to have with such a good man as Sunny. My honey moon is already planned for Hawaii. If Henry is only threatening to send such pictures to my fiance,I probably would try to beg him perhaps he could eventually find a way to forgive me but his family?His father is planning to run for governorship next year…They will never allow this. What am I going to do.

Any suggestion to got to the police is not the right move. Henry has police under his influence in this state. Where will I get N10million to pay Henry? Even if I give it to him,how am I sure he will actually stop all this blackmail?

Please help me.

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Editor’s Note:

This is the story of a teenager who has her whole life ahead of her. This is also the story of a teenager who has his whole life ahead of him. Both of them were responsible for what happened but miraculously, only one person suffers for it? We all know that in the long run, none of this will actually matter, then why is it that this girl is suffering so much pain? Share this story to make our men responsible- even if, and ESPECIALLY IF they are teenagers.

Hello Admin ,

I have been in a relationship with a person for the past 4 years and I know him since 5 years. The boy was after me and I also liked him. I was an immature teenager and I mistook his liking for love.

After 12th grade, we both went to different cities for college. He even came to meet me in our first year. Anyone who looked at us only saw a happy and lively couple. In fact, we were. There were no problems between us. We never let anyone come between us. And I was pretty sure no one could ever break us apart.

I used to feel quite alone as I was far away from my home. I used to miss my home and family very much. Soon, I got close to my college group and there was a boy in my group with whom I loved to talk to and spend lots and lots of time with. It was just a beautiful attraction which I had with him.

We used to laugh and talk so much that we never knew how time would pass. I loved his temperament, behaviour and his eyes. He was quite shy, innocent and an introvert person. He never let his inner self come out on his face but I could easily read through his eyes. I was that much into him. And I named this relationship “Dosti Wala Pyaar”.

I never knew my Dosti Wala Pyaar would do such wonders in my life. But there was something which ruined our relationship and that was a mistake I made. A mistake which I will regret my entire life.

My college friend introduced me to one of his other friends and told me that he was a great guy. I will regret one thing till the day I die. I will regret talking to that guy. I’ve never met him in my life, but because of him, my entire future is at stake.

I used to talk to him about our mutual friend and most of our conversations revolved around that. But one day, we had a different kind of conversation… a lusty conversation.

I don’t know what the hell I was thinking when I was talking to him. He pretended to be so good to me that I thought he was actually good. But he was a demon in my life. I’ll curse him my entire life.

He spoke about our conversation in our friends’ group in such a horrible manner, that everyone clearly interpreted that I was a characterless girl. But only my friend knew somewhere that I am not like this. But due to this mistake, he ......

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Good day Admin,

Women are the mostly the cause of the problems they have with their husbands. I say this because I have experienced it by myself.

We live in a yard with an Ibo man and his wife. These people are always fighting and quarreling. When they start,my wife and I because we are from Delta,we use to go and settle them. Sometimes the man will beat his wife so much that the woman will come to our apartment and stay until they cool down. We are close to them so the husband is aware that the woman is in our house.

The man is hot tempered. He says the woman is a talkative. And he accuse her of flirting too.The woman is a young woman of like 23. He is like 37 or so.The age gap is much so I used to think that is why the woman is immature to be talking to her husband anyhow and the man is suspecting the wife. She is also very beautiful. My wife used to counsel this young woman alot. They used to see us as their uncle and aunty.

But recently,exactly one week ago,this young woman came to our house crying that the husband just beat her again. My wife left her in our house and went out. So when I came in,I met this young woman. I asked what happened and she told me her husband beat her. I just told her,ok,relax here until your husband is calm. I went to our room and removed my clothes and went inside to have my bath. As I was baffing,the next thing I felt somebody touching me,my manhood. I was surprised and so I wash the soap from my eye only to see ...

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Serious one.

When you were sleeping with her ,it didnt occur to you that she is not good for marriage.

Mr Man ,you have to marry her.

Godslove2018:
Dear Admin,

My wedding is less than a week away but I am far from being very happy at all.

I made a serious mistake and I am getting married to someone I do not love to pay for that mistake.

I met Dupe through one of my friends in a church that I attend. The church is a large one and I was encouraged to register with one of the youth arms of the church. I joined this group where young workers meet once in a month. It was during one of the monthly meetings I met Dupe. I noticed she was overly an extrovert and it was very easy to spot her in the group. After the meeting,she came to introduce herself and wanted to be friends. That I didn't mind.

There were other ladies in the group other than Dupe. I was friendly with some too. This was made possible as there was also a whatsapp group that was used to keep in touch with everyone.

Dupe started liking me. She actually flirted with me. I found it interesting. Less than a month we met,she told me she was attracted to me. I told her I wasnt. Besides,I was not ready for any relationship. I was sharing an apartment with friends. I wanted to achieve a few more milestones in my life before getting married.She said its ok for us to be friends. I didnt mind that. She would send me suggestive text messages and she started to visit me. She flirted with the guys and before long,the guys told me they had slept with her. I was surprised.

It was that information that made me yield to Dupe’s advances. Seeing that she was giving out her goods freely,I didnt mind to partake in it. Thats how I entered into a sexual relationship with Dupe. As far as I was concerned,I was just having fun as long as she was giving it. And I was not the only beneficiary. But that fun was short lived!

Several months passed by ,Dupe came to me to me and to my greatest surprise , she was ....

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Dear Admin,

My wedding is less than a week away but I am far from being very happy at all.

I made a serious mistake and I am getting married to someone I do not love to pay for that mistake.

I met Dupe through one of my friends in a church that I attend. The church is a large one and I was encouraged to register with one of the youth arms of the church. I joined this group where young workers meet once in a month. It was during one of the monthly meetings I met Dupe. I noticed she was overly an extrovert and it was very easy to spot her in the group. After the meeting,she came to introduce herself and wanted to be friends. That I didn't mind.

There were other ladies in the group other than Dupe. I was friendly with some too. This was made possible as there was also a whatsapp group that was used to keep in touch with everyone.

Dupe started liking me. She actually flirted with me. I found it interesting. Less than a month we met,she told me she was attracted to me. I told her I wasnt. Besides,I was not ready for any relationship. I was sharing an apartment with friends. I wanted to achieve a few more milestones in my life before getting married.She said its ok for us to be friends. I didnt mind that. She would send me suggestive text messages and she started to visit me. She flirted with the guys and before long,the guys told me they had slept with her. I was surprised.

It was that information that made me yield to Dupe’s advances. Seeing that she was giving out her goods freely,I didnt mind to partake in it. Thats how I entered into a sexual relationship with Dupe. As far as I was concerned,I was just having fun as long as she was giving it. And I was not the only beneficiary. But that fun was short lived!

Several months passed by ,Dupe came to me and to my greatest surprise , she was ....

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Disclaimer : Most people think that its all bloggers that frame up stories and post to gain traffic but not so , We receive happening in people marriage and get approval to share with person who give suggestion on how an issue can be solved. Relationship issues are being mended because you gave your non judgmental suggestion.

Dear Lively Stones,

Oh…The things we do for love!…

I recently got married to the love of my life. I am truly blessed and happy. I coulndt have prayed for a better man.

Jackson and I met during our days in University of Ife. We were best of friends and later became a couple.

I was in the department of Linguistics,he was in psychology. Jackson was not a very intelligent guy,he had problems in school with his grades. I tried to help him as much as I could but he just kept getting Es and Fs. His best score then would be like a D. He kept getting threats that he would have to withdraw from school eventually if his gp didnt go up. Precisely in three hundred level,he was going to have to drop out. It had become too bad. I remember that Jackson became depressed and I was concerned. I didnt know how to help and I was in love with him.

One day,I summoned up courage and went to see Jackson’s HOD,Mr Kunle. I begged him to help Jackson anyway he can. I was ready to give him money if it came to that. Jackson came from a very poor background. His being in school this far is because of his determination to make it in life. I was moved by his survival story. I wouldnt want him to give up on his dream of being a graduate despite his academic performance.

So I begged his HOD. He refused to accept money from me. Instead,he said if I wanted Jackson to graduate,I would have ...

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He said,that he was in a process of divorcing his wife of two years. The lady's parents were never in support of their marriage. They got married because the lady got pregnant. He married her two years after they had their first child.

My name is Sandy. I am 32 years old. I been in and out of relationships and none of them actually worked out . The last one where I was with this guy for almost two years ended when I found out the guy was dating me and engaged to another girl. The relationship ended just before the close of last year. I was very heartbroken and bitter. I made up my mind to stay off dating for at least six months.

This year, a young man was recently transferred to the Marketing department of my company. I am in HR. His name is Andrew. He is very handsome and dresses very well. We got talking and everything is cool. Just before valentine,he asked me what my plans for val was. I told him no plans cos I was not dating. On valentine’s day,he asked me out. I asked him what about his wife. He said,he is not married. I then asked about his wedding ring on his finger. He replied that its a long so. He said he would tell me about it on the date. So I agreed.

He took me to a very expensive restaurant on the Island. I felt so special,no guy has ever taken me out to this kind of place.We had the most exotic dinner. After which,we spent some time by the pool side talking. I then asked him to talk about the ring on his finger. He said..

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He said,that he was in a process of divorcing his wife of two years. The lady's parents were never in support of their marriage. They got married because the lady got pregnant. He married her two years after they had their first child.

My name is Sandy. I am 32 years old. I been in and out of relationships and none of them actually worked out . The last one where I was with this guy for almost two years ended when I found out the guy was dating me and engaged to another girl. The relationship ended just before the close of last year. I was very heartbroken and bitter. I made up my mind to stay off dating for at least six months.

This year, a young man was recently transferred to the Marketing department of my company. I am in HR. His name is Andrew. He is very handsome and dresses very well. We got talking and everything is cool. Just before valentine,he asked me what my plans for val was. I told him no plans cos I was not dating. On valentine’s day,he asked me out. I asked him what about his wife. He said,he is not married. I then asked about his wedding ring on his finger. He replied that its a long so. He said he would tell me about it on the date. So I agreed.

He took me to a very expensive restaurant on the Island. I felt so special,no guy has ever taken me out to this kind of place.We had the most exotic dinner. After which,we spent some time by the pool side talking. I then asked him to talk about the ring on his finger. He said..

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Dear Admin,

I met Peter about eight months ago. He is a contractor to my company. He and I started dating after he took my number the day he saw me in our dopemu office. I told him I am a christian,born again. He too say he is born again.

So I told him right from beginning,that I dont want sex before marriage and he agreed. We dated for five months and he proposed to me. Since our engagement,he started asking for more than the usual kiss. He will say,since we are engaged,I am now his wife. That we can have sex now. But I told him no that,engagement is not marriage. But he continue to persist,saying he wants to know if both of us are sexually compatible. I then told him to hurry and marry me then.

We had our introduction ceremony in the sixth month and he began to even demand for sex more and more. We quarreled one day and he said the relationship is over if I cannot allow him. He said he has proved to me that he is serious by carrying out the introduction. That if I am not ready,we should break up. We didnt speak for three days. I had to go and beg him and allowed him eventually to have sex with me. After that day,I didnt hear from him again. I tried his line but he refused to pick my calls. Later,he sent me a text saying after having sex with me,he realise that both of us are not compatible. That was his fear that I cannot please him sexually if I dont like sex the way he does.

I thought he was joking. I couldnt believe my eyes after reading the text. I rain curses on him. Later,I began to beg him. Telling him that I will change and do anything . That will make sure he gets the best sex if he marries me.I was too shamed,he has done introduction. I thought I was too hash on him,now I have driven him away. I beg him for days but he refused. Said I should stop contacting him. I went to see his elder sister to help me beg him but she said that I should not worry that she will try her best.

One month passed,I didnt hear from the elder sister or even Peter. I was so sad . But I now told my family that the engagement is over. Everyone sympathize with me and asked me to move on that God will bring my own husband one day.

Two weeks later,I didnt......

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Perfect !!

Xiadnat:
The insecurity ruins your marriage if you let it.

Three things women crave most: security, love/affection and protection. Quote me anywhere.


Unless she has deep psych issues, the problem of her insecurity is partly your problem. You can solve this problem with time, patience and a lot of TLC.

Others have mentioned it:

-remind her everyday, every hour (if thats what it takes) that you genuinely love, care about her and her health.
- make her feel sexy and wanted ( whatever that is for her).
- communicate with her how she wants to be loved, or her love language and then do them.
-help her loose weight or eat right.
-reduce her insecurity by curtailing your interaction with other women.

Just use common sense! How did you woo her when you were dating? Begin to “date/court” her again.

This isnt hardwork, just takes some effort and romance.