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Righteousness2:
From the Scriptures which is our Guide, what is Permitted by GOD Almighty the institutor of Marriage is one man one wife.
See Matthew 19:4-9.
Your rightful wife is the first woman you Legally got married to. Every other woman is a Husband snatcher , Home breaker, Home Shatterer and Adulterer.

As long as the First woman you got married to is alive, she is your wife.
Now that you are Saved, you have to call them together, Probably with their parents or family representatives. You let them know that based on your Repentance and belief in God's word, you want to make things right.

You settle 2nd , 3rd, 4th and so on. You send them to their home of their Parents. The kids are your kids so they remain under your care.

The first woman you married is your wife.

Pleasing GOD is the most important thing to do in all our decisions if Making Heaven means anything to you

I sighted you when you just peeped and disappear, I was trying to call you back, thank God you are back. So you mean I should sent the remaining two away, is it not wickedness, since they did not offend me and they were legally married. Will God be happy with that decision? if you are in my shoes can you send them away? what happened to their children? If anyone marry them did he not commit adultery according to the word of God?

Thank you.

Dtruthspeaker:
I am not Fighting at all, I am just going about it in a Matter of Fact way.

"Consent is The Law"! You willfully took them up and made promises to them (Contract), they have altered their Status and become liable because of the marriage eg Death from Adultery! Therefore, you bound them and they are bound to you, thus, you can not put any of them away without a reasonable good cause.

Case in point Jacob, David and the Silence, not Absence of The Law Forbidding more than one wife!

You have already broken the first Law (He made them male and female) but you need not continue breaking more Laws eg Promise/Covenant/Contract Breakers,of which the Mercy and Grace of God is that we should STOP BREAKING LAWS, For We Have Broken Them In Our Times Past, but it must not continue.

SO I CLEARLY SAY, DO NOT PUT THEM AWAY!

Hmm this is deep. God bless you.


so the right answer is to keep the three of them?.

I will meditate on these. Thanks.

I have not been able to get any convinced answer here. One said I sent away two and keep one while someone here says I should keep all of them, that they are my responsibility. Do you agree with it?

Who can help us here?

felixzo1:
what I am aware done in this case is this, you choose 1 among the 3 to be having sexual relationship with but care for all the 3 financially, the other 2 are free to remarry if they want.the kids are 100% your responsibility.when Christianity came to Africa more than a 100 years ago, this practice was very common. most men had multiple wives and this was how the church solved it

If I understand you clearly, you mean I should stick with one and sent the remaining two away even without them committed any offense to me or indulge in any sex sin? I told you am now a born again, does the Bible in support of what you said?
Thank you.

Dtruthspeaker:
You wilfully made them your wives, they have become your burden and your responsibility!

Yes I willfully married them, but now that I have realised I did it in ignorance, should I still maintain my position that I have realized that I should or supposed to be with one wife ?

Dtruthspeaker:
You wilfully made them your wives, they have become your burden and your responsibility!

Am actually here to learn, no be fight. So in your opinion I should keep the three of them even as a Christian? Is the Bible in support of it? am going to meditate on these. Thanks for your input.

livingchrist:
I dont mean sending them with the children away end the marriage with other women, this is just my opinion though

OK I should send them away and keep the children? let me get your point. Thanks

Dtruthspeaker:
Do No Wrong is the way of The Lord, So you can not send any of them Away without Reasonable Good Course!

You Promised to take care of them and do them good, so You Must keep your promise to the best of your ability!

So what you are saying in essence is that I should keep the three of them?

livingchrist:
If your wives have children for you, you don't need to send them away empty handed.
I believe your first wife is your legal wife, keep her but you can also take care of your other wives and children.

In other words I should sent the other two away with their children ? hmm any Bible backup?

Dtruthspeaker:
Do No Wrong is the way of The Lord, So you can not send any of them Away without Reasonable Good Course!

You Promised to take care of them and do them good, so You Must keep your promise to the best of your ability!

Hmm

Somebody should help out please, it is urgent.

helinues:
I don't think bible is applicable in this scenario...

Who should take responsibility of the wives and their kids?

So what is the way forward? hmm the Bible should be applicable now since am a born again. That's the issue now.

Happy Sunday brethren.
Let me go straight to the point.

If I have three wives when am still in the world and the 3 of them are legally and fully married.
All of them have children 6,4, and 2 children respectfully.

And today am now a born again.
And the word of God only permit only wife.
.so in this case what do I do.

1 should I sent two of them away and stick with only one.
2 should I sent the three of them away.

3. or should I keep the three of them?
what should one do in this condition?
Somebody asked me this question and I don't know what to reply him.

Please who can give us a reasonable answer biblically?


I will be very happy if it can be pushed to the front page. God bless you all.

Kebbiprince:
I have just told u my mind, we don't want to hear your cries, we did it in 1967-1970 and we will do it again

Hmm and Kebbi state don't have civilians living in it? all of you are military ba?

Mr man this is not 1970 as you rightly said.

Willie007:
How 9ja police put phone charger as one of the exhibits recovered from UGM baffles me... This 9ja police no serious, UGM na weytin them tag ESN.

If the police thinks they can face ESN, then they should go and ask the army how it was for them in Orlu

Hmm I didn't support any evil in anyway. But this juju vest does not belong to the igbos that's Yoruba charm vest, 2 with that kind of sophiscated weapons I saw there how come they did not fight back and even if they would kill any one there it should be one of the gang and not the leader. It is very hard to kill a gang leader. otherwise it means you have almost killed all of them.

Slurity:
Cheap lies from IPOB, YOU CAN NEVER PRODUCE THOSE ARM LOCALLY EVEN IN THE NEXT 20 YEARS

But do you realized this same Ipob never bear arms initially, until the federal government pushed them to it.

jimi4us:
DSS try another propaganda, this one is not working.

Now we can now drive around without the fear of Police killing us or Army causing traffic cos of checkpoints extortion

Oh my God. I nearly cried the last time I traveled, From one checkpoint you will be seeing another check point as if we are in the war. Somebody traveled to the north where the Boko Haram where disturbing yet he never met any checkpoint.

Tadeknkeepcalm:
The headline made no sense at all before
How can that amount of people keep getting harvested without anybody noticing when they are not fish?


Even if that was the case, they will never write it like that. They would have simply said organ harvesting.

Facts might not matter there but it shows sense doesn't matter here in Nigeria

Edit: it's so unfortunate that some people are arguing that 7.2k people can die without leaving any trace or making the news

Hmm am not sure about the future though but people got missing everyday unreported. only the dead of the rich are reported in Nigeria.

Trimjos:
The police should go and do their jobs by finding these escapees. They should stop littering our internet space with their pictures. They should get to work already

I tire o.

Enough of all this escaped nonsense here. There is different between been escape and been freed. Do they break the prison by themselves or they were been freed by some more powerful people than the captive. Even if you identify any of them fear will not allow you to approach the police, we know how it goes here.
This is Nigeria.

dam4sam:
This one is a slave to Money, no doubt.



Comprehension is the problem of many people on this thread!

@Op DID NOT say Mother-inlaw should not visit, that would be wrong. Read the post again, please.

His complaint was that she should INFORM THEM BEFOREHAND, of her Visits How difficult is that? Carry your Mobile phone and say: I will be coming to your House tomorrow. next Tomorrow, carry phone again and say: I will be sleeping over tomorrow. After that, carry phone again and say: I will be spending the next two weeks in your House, as from tomorrow.

And the "Visit" should not be everyday, so to speak.
Once, in three or four Months is okay or does Mother-inlaw want to turn to second wife nii?

I got your point. But the truth of the matter is that, that guy can not tolerate even if he was informed he might give an excuse to stop the woman. He is just Using this as an excuse, he does not want to see anybody around him. Get the gist.

nnekaike:
shocked reading this from the OP, there is no issue here except he does not like her.

Period. If he complained to her wife about it, that's will be the beginning of their problem. She is going to take it personal and that he did not like her mother, .and when her mother now hears about it, hmm end of discussion.

Ghostmode2two:
So he should die in silence right?

He should have remained single since he is not ready to tolerate. He is not matured enough to be in marriage. Just two months he is already complaining, yet his mother inlaw is only appearing once without notice, and this man can not bear it. Am twenty years in marriage, am talking from experience. I repeat that woman will be very disappointed that her daughter has fallen into a wrong hand. And that young lady will take it personal. Mind you she is not coming from another state almost her neighbor, so what is the fuse all about?

Ghostmode2two:
Tell your wife your mind. Your wife could be aware of her gestapo coming but she is feigning not knowing. You are the boss so draw the line fast

I bet it with you if he ever make the mistake of telling his wife about this, this will be the beginning of their problem. Only this guy will not come here to update us.

themanderon:
The relationship is still new. Don't bring bad blood between your in-law and yourself. Act cool. she aint gona stay with you forever.

With the way he is behaving I don't see this marriage lasting for too long.

alizma:
Pls calm down, with your own level of exposure and understanding, I will like you to stay back whenever she around to observe things, try to know if she does that as a sign of love for you guys or she has something hiding, also do objective assessment of your wife's family background and level of exposure to understand better what motivate her into doing that.
Finally, whatever your findings are, try and discuss with your wife so that she will stylishly tell her to always inform you guys whenever she wants to come over.
If you and your wife are in agreement that parents should inform you people before coming, then in one of her visit, you guys can stage a planned outing. Like 5 minutes after she entered, you guys start dressing up for outing and told her you have program that you are invited for then her daughter can use the opportunity to plead with her to always inform you people before coming so as to avoid such arrival when u guys are about going out or when she will come and you guys are not around. And make sure you both make her go back to her house earlier than she planned to stay and the two of you must go somewhere to avoid her catching you guys when you return home thinking she has left

You have a brilliant idea but some people think differently, may not understand like you. This might make her angry and she feels you don't like her mother, and she might take it personal. Some people love their mother so much. And this singular action might make their early marriage begin to crash. He will need to apply caution in handling this issue. Beside this man is a stingy person and not accommodative. The way he is going about it and don't see this marriage lasting for too long.

I have been married since close to 20 years now.

Theboy21:
Only if you have the balls to tell your mother inlaw one on one what you feel will make things better, but sending your wife to do your job will turn out bitter, trust me you won't be able to face your inlaw for five seconds when next you meet...you might need her help someday remember and she might be the most easiest person to reach base on closeness...think ahead

Don't mind him, the marriage is just two months old and he just want to destroy the whole thing.

I bet it his wife will take it personal.

mutter:
Some men are mean!
Why don't you allow them to get used to the fact that the daughter is now married!
It's not easy to break a bond like mother daughter.
Anyway personally I could. Never be married to a man with your expectations!
My family remains my family irrespective of marriage. Same goes for my husband's family.
This is why it is important for couple to agree about such things before marriage.
Very sad...

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QkQ2a_3mB4g

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I bet it with you if he ever make the mistake of telling his wife about this, she go change am foram.

Puloc:
Your wife holds d key...Once her mom is gone tell her u would prefer ur privacy with her and anybody visiting should always notify any of u.

The marriage is just two months, his wife might take it personal and this might bring an issue between them. This man is just claiming iyinbo.

I only have an issue with it, if you are coming from another state. Even if he was informed it is obvious this man is not accommodative.

Kestolove:
but wait! will this new dress code end boko haram? nonsense ingredients

That's one of the ways he will eat his own national cake.

[quote author= post=100692648]Peace is all we want in our nation[/quote]You wants peace and you are supporting evil

johnwegs:
Even if he calls for reinforcement those guys will still achieve their aim, dem even get luck dem no carry hope uzodimgba

Your right, thank God they didn't come, this one the whole operation was peaceful without shedding of blood. Otherwise the whole thing would have been bloody.