₦airaland Forum

RuthDaniels:


Everyone wants to marry a foreigner:

Can all live with one? No!

Can all cope with one? No

Do they all know who the foreigners are ? No

Can they all sacrifice ? No

Have all lived or at least been to foreigners' lands? No


So where on earth are these ideas from? Dreams baby Dreams kikikikikikkiki

theamerican:
It's past midnight, I'm here in bed, alone with my thoughts. I went through all the comments on here again about those who have been defending Nigeria and against moving abroad. I'm trying to see if I've been too harsh. Maybe there's hope and I should be optimistic.

I've been at it for over 30 minutes, I'm sorry. I just can't. Nigeria is rotten from top to bottom. I'll touch education for a bit. I came here for a Master's degree. I got my Bachelor's degree at the overhyped Unilag, completed my NYSC and left the country almost immediately.

After my first day in class here, I felt like sending an email to all my past professors in Unilag and cursing them out. I was really late because I could not find the class building as the jjc that I am. I opened the door, walked in and was expecting the professor to send me out or say something horrible. I walked in and everyone greeted me with a smile.

It was like one little family. You couldn't tell who the professor was among the students. Everybody sitting at a table like it was a meeting. There was one guy who had read the materials for the day and he was answering 80% of the questions. The Nigerian in me was getting slightly mad because I thought he was doing oversabi. The poor guy was just answering questions and doing his thing. As old and learned as the professor was, not once did he interrupt anyone while we were talking. We called him by his first name "Peter". It took me over a month to get comfortable calling the professors by their first names.

I got an email after a week from the H.O.D to meet him in his office. While I was there, he welcomed me officially, told me his wife was interested in hosting me for the weekend to welcome me to the town. I felt safe. They gave all grad students a big office with cubicles to study. Classmates interacted and talked, everyone was friendly. Snacks, drinks, coffee were always available in the students lounge and the professors doors were open most of the time. You can easily knock on a professor's door, ask him how he's doing. Talk for a bit and say goodbye.

After class, people would ask: "does anyone need a ride home?" and they would help whoever was interested without any nonsense strings attached. Professors do their jobs! Once you're failing, they know they're failing too and would try to help you to ensure you pass. If you don't understand a study material, just tell the professor. It's their job to help you pass the class! They'll provide solutions for you.

Nigerian professors feel like gods. You can't even make a mistake. A professor will open mouth and say "Nobody can get anything more than a C in my course" and the sadist will ensure it happens. Once a Nigerian prof says "see me in my office", you know you're doomed. I fear for my baby sister right now who's in Nigeria and I can't even imagine what she's going through in school.

No missing scripts, strikes, unexplained failures, poor living conditions, hopeless curriculum, terrible laboratories, pervert professors, ogbanje classmates... the list is endless. Learning is fun here, you have all the resources available to you if you ever wanna study and succeed. At the end of a semester, students are asked to evaluate professors and give comments on how they can improve. A professor who can't help students get better isn't fit to have the job.

These are the things they won't tell you about life abroad. They will focus on the negatives and tell you how high tuition is, and how you can use that money to start fish farming in port harcourt instead. Money, money, money is all Nigerians see. They worship money the wrong way. Call out an underperforming artiste and say something like "your music video was disappointing", you'll hear "hater, he's already making his millions and can feed your generation". I laugh when I hear such ridiculous things. Smh.

SuperSupremo:
Not this fake Israel which was only established in 1948 by Britain I. the Balfour war declaration, ancient Israel was lost long ago due to series of wars like many other ancient countries.

neolboy:
I believed you still know your way to the nearest lagoon, just go there and do the needful and stop convulsing

1stolax:
Lol
foolness is in some of you gene

The son of a carpenter that proclaimed himself to be God and killed like a Thief vy the Jews is some people's god. Lol! How miserable can some people be worshiping a dead man.

The same man that was rejected and killed by the Jews. Lol

QueenSuccubus:
Nope..If i will use his money, i wud rather invest it on physical gold rather than buying this kind of sunglasses that wud look like somebody juz got released from psychiatric ward

SoapQueen:
Okay. Thank you very much.

Nig4Greatness:
.......
whats your point my loverboy?

SoapQueen:
I am quite sure they do not mean it. I think they say it for fun. They get kicks from seeing us feel insecure. Guys know it makes us batsh*t crazy!

HigherEd:
The Torah, Bible and Quran all recognise Jerusalem to be Isreali. Now today's Christians whose Church Of the Holy Selpuchre is in Jerusalem and the presence of holy sites to which Jesus walked and died have refused to name Jerusalem as a Christian territory.

Yet the Muslims who were the last to come(violently) are insisting they can't have the AlAqsa Mosque in the hands of Isreal. Even when Isreal has vowed to protect the Alaqsa mosque which was built on the ruins of the Temple mount, yet out of hatred they would never want to see Jerusalem in the hands of the Jews. For a certainty if the Muslims have exclusive control of Jerusalem they would definitely kickout both the Christians and the Jews out like they did in Mecca.



It is high time the Muslims realise that Jerusalem is a city that can't be claimed by one religion. Jerusalem holds sentimental value to Judaism, Christianity and Islam but the political owners are the Jews.

And all these Intl media houses trying hard to make Isreal look bad should try harder. The remnant of the temple mount is proof that Isreal was there before anyone presently.
How can a name like Hebron, Jerusalem even allude to a Palestinian territory

pocohantas:
Some, not all.

Money is the major advantage an average Naija man has over his woman. No one wants to lose their advantage.

Every other reason they give is either secondary or inconsequential.

KhadyM:
Ok so you both come home tired after working the whole day and expect the woman to continue working in the kitchen while you bask in front of the tv watching football or something. Where is the fairness in all that? Where is the love for your wife? What happened to being teammates in the union of marriage? Dont you even consider her feelings that by the next day, she will be too exhausted to perform her optimal best at work? Men!

KhadyM:
So who do you propose? Say both couples work 9-5 jobs?

KhadyM:
Most women work these days and help in raising income for the household. The case youre talking about is if the woman is a full time housewife.

KhadyM:
Most women work these days and help in raising income for the household. The case youre talking about is if the woman is a full time housewife.

makydebbie:
Thanks dear.

makydebbie:
Thanks dear.

makydebbie:
Thanks dear.

makydebbie:
Really? This is the first time I'm hearing this. Please keep trying.

unknownsolja:
lol very true..na for poor man side them day for femininst

KhadyM:
Spot on! His attitude just shows that he has a male chauvinist mentality. He believes cooking is purely a woman's job. I would have dumped his sorry behind too, just like the lady

KhadyM:
These are the kinda guys whose girlfriends will serve them poisoned food or food laced with their period blood when they find them cheating...

Everyone should know how to take good care of themselves unless theyre handicapped or something

makydebbie:
IB I'm hungry.

Nig4Greatness:
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And who told you am single and looking for sugar mummy??..but since you sound so serious,I will help you beg her as you said hopefully she can give a desperado like you some chance .lols
It's obvious you are hungry that's why you are angry over harmless joke. OK if you can find your way to Abuja before weds,may be I can do something about your situation.

dinachi:
But of course! Very clearly you belong to those group of morose simpletons who think that the world still as as our dear mothers left them.
If you don't know it know today that 70%-90% of our young ladies of nowadays are practicing lesbians, bisexuals and masturbators! Most do not desire marriage thanks to weak men like you who worship women.

Finally, they are pushed into the idea by parental and societal pressure. As much as they can they try to delay the inevitable the much they can by coming up with frivolous and funny excuses! Those who know know.

Daeylar:
Responses here are very funny, all subtly supporting the man as usual, while trying to make this seem as if the woman is wrong.

I'm sure if it was a man that dumped a woman because she couldn't cook this thread would have burst into flames with posters coming out to bash this woman and( all women as usual using this woman as an excuse.)
Here they know he is wrong but as usual. In a case of a man vs a woman on nairaland. The lady must always be wrong

As much as I feel this is made up. She didn't leave because he couldn't cook, she left he asked her if she was a good cook and when she in return asked him the same question.
He said he is a man and the question does not apply to him LMAO Gosh

Daeylar:
Responses here are very funny, all subtly supporting the man as usual, while trying to make this seem as if the woman is wrong.

I'm sure if it was a man that dumped a woman because she couldn't cook this thread would have burst into flames with posters coming out to bash this woman and( all women as usual using this woman as an excuse.)
Here they know he is wrong but as usual. In a case of a man vs a woman on nairaland. The lady must always be wrong

As much as I feel this is made up. She didn't leave because he couldn't cook, she left he asked her if she was a good cook and when she in return asked him the same question.
He said he is a man and the question does not apply to him LMAO Gosh