₦airaland Forum

MariaLavina:
This isn't a war Sir,

Only blacks put down themselves, as a matter of fact only Nigerian Men put down their women. You will never see a white man insult his kind on a forum. But A Nigerian man will pull down, trample and mock his own. And you think these white will ever take you seriously? No. They laugh at you.

You think praising whites will make them respect you? Whites will never respect one who is insecure of his own skin.

Keep fighting, keep blaming, keep castigating . The joke is on you! If you don't accept your kind, how will you correct ? Smh. I feel pity for my own kind. I feel pity for the typical Nigerian Man!

How did you manage to get it all warped? Where do i even start?
First, whites are not being praised here becomes guys want their respect (this is typical Nigerian Bs logic) but because the guys appreciate the pattern implored by white ladies when it comes to relationship. Guys are saying it because they wish i want ladies to know their flaws and make correction. I dont see any lady that has gone through this thread making most the errors guys present here unless she is soo egocentrically thick .
Saying it subtly hasn't helped (ego won't let black ladies learn when its said that way or maybe because they were raised and corrected by being flocked from childhood unlike white babes so mere words dont penetrate thickened skull) otherwise this matter for done settle since so guys now have to loud it everywhere.
No one is dealing with insecurity here based on skin colour per se but based on ideology unless its the ladies.
I dont accept BS from any kind mine or not. I call it out and hope its corrected and will gladly want you to call out mine not embrace it so i can correct it.
Surely we will keep saying its wrong and fighting it, never embracing until its corrected or......and you should be glad to cause the opposite action may not be nice.

93Miles:
did u just say wait for a Nigerian girl to start a convo with you? That looks like a long distance dream.

Will pride allowed a Nigerian lady start up a convo? Won't she say she will look cheap if she start?

Even most of our Nigerian gfs find it hard to start a convo with their bfs when the come online and u are talking about a stranger starting up a convo.


Most Nigerian ladies will see u on the street can can't gresst because u are not driving car.
Some u will greet and the can't open their dirty mouth to answer ur greetings and u are telling me to wait for them to start a convo.

I was done with them anyway.

Now left for my brothers to have sense and leave them.

You know them well e. Phony enough when they become baby mama or old enough or become olosho after their egocentric orientation fuxks up their life, na dem go they lobby men. Prevention is better than cure they say.

ImaIma1:
You don't have to get cheeky with me. Try communicating without sounding offensive or defensive.

ok ma. I won't do that again.

You see, now thats a good conversation by you there.

Kenfil:
Mm��. If anyone knows they have a flaw, it's their duty to change and work on them however, BLACK MEN STOP THE FOOLISH COMPARISM. If u prefer the white women, by all means go for them but stop being ridiculous cos all the things you men are complaining about in Nigeria where actually caused by u guys.. list: bride price, women staying at home, women believing only a man pays, etc.were all standards set up by d African male.. U guys should sit and think bout it

What if they don't know? Is it not by real comparism that they get to know that their is better way and that that way is not out of this world? Do you know how many ladies have learnt one or two from all these criticism and submissions? Only those with under developed minds hate truthful criticism.

MariaLavina:
Lol....Nice conversing with you. I've spent too much time here already

No i bet you've not.

MariaLavina:
So you are saying no Nigerian Lady has ever turned you down? With an outright No?

Anyways there are boring men and leeches everywhere, its not in Nigeria alone. Most Indian guys I have met online are boring too. They are either showing you pictures of their diicks or asking what time it is in Nigeria. . The point is, Nigerians should embrace themselves and try to help each other grow.

No Nigerians cannot grow by embracing their nonsense but by dis embracing themselves with the present nonsense mental dispositions (by calling out the flaws on both side, talking about it like the guys are ready to do. Not by trying to shrug the problem aside like the ladies prefer), growing, then re-embracing.

ImaIma1:
So what? Nothing. I just wanted to know

Ok we do use that line sometimes if it will drive home a point. Are you satisfied now, miss Sabinus?

93Miles:
Why keep me waiting if u are not interested?

And for asking for 'airtime', it wasn't a way to put me off.

Most Nigerian ladies ask guys for money the moment the guy starts chattin them up.

Some will bring up stroies like 'My gas just finished. My mom is sick can u send me airtime to call her'?


I've encountered an Ameriacan girl on social media. She wasn't interested and she opend up. Told me straight up. She didn't ask for money as a means to put me off.

Simple. I didn't know Nigerian girls play by reverse logic when one like that told me straight up that she wasn't interested. I took her by her words and caned my lane only for her to complain that i didnt want her enough later. Oh men these naija babes dey wan twist person brain for simple matter

MariaLavina:
Nigerian Men lack creativity, they are boring too. I chat with foreigners too, I know the difference. but you won't see me litter everywhere with stereotypes. Its appalling.


If you ask me those questions, you are only doing yourself

Rather both of us are doing each other.

ImaIma1:
Is that the excuse you guys use these days?

Yes. So what?

ImaIma1:
So Nigerian guys usually chat "oloshos". Good to know.

Who do you think they will chat with when you snub him for saying the wrong Hi? His fellow guy so you can call him gay?

MariaLavina:

So I was feeling funky one night like that, I decided to play along with this guy

Guy: Hello
Me: Hi dear (I hardly use that though)
Guy: What are you doing now
Me: (shuuu? Na my spirit dey online?) Not much just chatting with friends and You... Gist me about your day.
Guy: It was good
Me: okay that's great, Well mine went.......
Guy: Cool. Eaten?
Me: (sighed) Yes, you?
Guy: same here. I will be calling you soon.
Me: okay

On phone
After exchanging pleasantries..
Guy: Ready to sleep now?
Me: Yes, will you sing me a lullaby?
Guy:..... phone went off.

The thing pain me ehn.

Oya make una sorry. Guys no go dey you done chop, your number "what are you wearing" it will now be
which bank account do you like using to receive cash, which network sib you like pass, what's your favorite eatery, whats the size of your middle finger etc....

93Miles:
Even if u give them 10 chances, they'll never changed. It's in their blood. The best is to avoid them. Huslte hard, get money and leave the country and go marry a white ass girl. Leave these leeches to themselves.

Sorry na my man, forgive them their....as....... Even Buhari sef never "change" Change no easy you know

pocohantas:
You forgot to add "have you eaten?" and "what are you wearing now?"

Guy: have you eaten?
Me: No, I will do that later.
Guy: heya , try and eat o.

Or
Guy: I called earlier, you didn't pick.
Me: I was bathing. My apologies.
Guy: and you didn't call me to bathe with you.

His trying to get a more correct realtime picture of you in his fantasy.

MariaLavina:
We can only play this role if Men are humble enough to be corrected. A "good evening or Good morning" to "sup" should have been a clue to a smart responsible guy that his approach is wrong. But no the next request would "can I have your number" if you manage to scale through the first fvck up.

I once tried to correct a guy who requested we meet just few minutes of chatting for the first time. It went this way.

Guy: sup
Me: Good evening
Guy: Can I know you?
Meseriously? I'm I jobless?) Depends on what you wish to know
Guy: Okay...where do you stay?
Me: ....gave him location
Guy: Let's Meet
Me: (pissed of) I think you should ask if I want to meet you.
Guy: hmmmm okay.
Me:Or don't I have a say?
Guy: Who do you think you are?
.... You can guess what happened next



This is the least of it all. We ladies don't talk or complain about these things, that's why Men always seem to be the angels.

....This one strong oo. I guess you met the worst if them all. I can't stop lol. Ofcourse their can be crazies like that but normally guys ain't this bad often. Are they?
On a lighter note, what is he supposed to ask for - your brand of your panties, the size of your left shoe, the name of your village clown? Cut us some slack, babe. Just kidding...... I get your drift anyway.

ImaIma1:
Yimu...you will still marry a Nigerian girl after you have chatted with all the girls from all over the world.

Nigerian girls too have complaints about chatting Nigerian guys. All they do is ask for nudes

Cheiiiiii!!!. ...this babe wan expose guys finish ooo...abeg no go there o...lol

93Miles:
Most white girls are straight foward and open minded.
A white girl will want sex and walk up to you and tell you straight up that she wants sex. They hardly hide their emotions.

A black girl cannot say to your face that she wants sex. I don't know whether is shyness or what. She will use some crafty ways to ask you for sex. Very cunning human beings.

All Nigerian girls beliv they're doing you a favour by dating you and they forget that they are the ones even gaining more in the relationship.

Ask a white girl for her cell number then ask a Nigerian girl for her cell number and see their reactions.

A Nigerian girl that will be disturbing you every night and day to send her airtime will be forming sh!t when you ask for her cell number.


I think I was done wit dis set of beings..

Yeah! I was.
To a living hell with African girls.

E reach to vex but no vex too much . Give them second to last chance....lol

MariaLavina:
(a) Because they were raised by people with reverse logic.

To a Typical Nigerian Man, A lady is expected to be less knowledgeable, quiet, more of a listener and most importantly be a follower. Even in conversations you tend to dominate, you talk about what you want and not what interest the lady. Most times you bore us out. . Worst is if a lady flows too much , she's a flirt, talk active, desperate etc you judge her.


Another point is manner of approach. I cannot count the numbers of messages I've ignored on my social media accounts because of this. Can you imagine who wants to chat you up for the first time starting a convo with "Sup" . Like seriously? A quick check on my profile will should show you the type of person I am. But no, they won't do that, they just want to sup!

And another is most guys these days are looking for who to date Not just friendly conversations. It's like everyone is looking for love.I can't imagine enjoying a good conversation with a guy only for it to go all mushy all of a sudden. Like shooting your shoot? Hell no! Don't blame me if I go cold with the same alacrity.


Accept it or Not, (b) Most guys who claim to have conversations with Whites compose themselves better than when they do with the blacks. They pay more attention, construct the languages better and present themselves well. So Sir, It isn't really our fault.

@(a) Its upto one to unlearn whatever BS he/she was raised with .

@(b) Actually @ the bolded no be lie. But the ladies have their role to play and being open in a conversation and not expecting the to automatically know and hit the right cords right away as i perceive from the upper part of your post is wrong, Young Ma. Noting stops you from replying that you dont like the sup to him or them. Thats why its a conversation not a lecture where he has to be all correct all the time. Just like the way we are conversing here, you can easily call me out if i say anything you don't like. I can then double down on it or otherwise....and visa versa me calling you out....... All in other we have a conversation going to build on......not all men are spiritually connected enough to automatically know what gives you the kicks or not with little on no help from you.

Now, look how long your reply was even though you were not concurring with my earlier submissions and may have found some part of it to be offensive. Are we not conversing by openly discussing or even quarrelling? why should it be any different(limited to one liners or outright snubbing ) if i fancy you enough to corner for " serious talk" ? Communication is almost the most important step and factor to relationship.

Afisbobo:
Beauty is not inconsequential, it is as important as other qualities. You don't wantu wake up everyday of ur life see a wife u are not physically attracted to

This does not fit into the reverse logic Nigerians are raised with. Little wonder many of the men are swallowing drugs for sex like eba because they married someone they are not sexually attracted enough to. And the enlightened ones play down the need for them to be sexy enough to their men while the uneducated ones use only boobs and backside to steal their men. Both character and being sexy is necessary for za oza room to be worthwhile because character alone no dey raise dick.

Whenever i lose interest its because i feel
-We don't have compatible ideology ( anti islam, anti LGBT, negative feminism, wrong religion ) and she is not ready to "change"- i can't risk my kids being raised with crazy values in the future if eventually.......Or

-Not naturally sexually excited enough towards her - I don't want to go online looking or asking for aphrodisiac drugs because of inadequate stimulation with a lover). Or

- She wants to create unnecessary drama like i have to compete with other guys for her or make reckless financial requests without complementing in kind. Or

- Not enlightened enough like the person just below enumerated.�

MISSCONGENIALITY:
Here to read lies

See them. Prefers their own delusion and cant comprehend reality even in the presence of straight truth. What will someone gain by coming here to lie?

weldersmind:
I see no reason so many of our ladies behave irrational when you approach them even in this hard economic times we are in Nigeria. I feel they should politely respond well and flow along cos they never can tell if the young guy is their future husband or some source of helper to them. is very annoying to see these ladies forming what they are not all in a bit to form hard to get.

to the question above, I really don't have time for ladies these days cos many of them are just after money. if they notice you are a broke guy they just dump you and look for another. work hard and use your money wisely rather than to spend on some random girls

Its like they all play from the same relationship rule book probably written by some grand mother in the early 50's. One had the temerity to tell me she was with her boyfriend when i called only to say she was joking weeks later when she observed i stopped calling. I guess, too much nollywood movies in their blood makes them gin up some drama when non is necessary.

RealTrump:
It's not whether or not they are boring. It's their politeness n willingness to chat even tho they don't have shit to say that sets them apart of our Nigerian Queens. Our girls r not only boring but are arrogant about it. Two very different worlds.

Cc. MariaLavina, Xisnin, sodiqapril

On point. Even some American celebrity babes do reply messages on twitter but one village girl will be forming so as to be "valued". What they dont know is that delaying replies and not picking the first call or calling back does not add one ounce of value to any one rather it turns off serious minded guys. What give you value in a relationship is the value you give/add to the other by the joy, solutions and excitement you bring not forming.

Its easy to notice that Nigerian babes were raised with reverse logic.

sochey:
I dey tell you. Nigerian guys should just take a break. You text me on WhatsApp,text me on messenger, text me on Instagram,text me on twitter. And still call me and you expect me to reply all that. How many am II? Tomorrow they will say that girl is a snub...... Mtcheeeewww

Lol��

sochey:
I'm 100% lady. Just that love is bleeped up.

Na lie. What is bleeped up is loving the wrong person or the wrong way.

Kenfil:
Unfornatately, (a) I have strong and high self esteem to compare myself to any white lady and that draws me to only intelligent Nigerian men( and I married one) that don't think all Nigerian Women are the same. (b)Maybe we should show you how different most of you our lovely nigerian men are from ur oyinbo counterparts eeh? Stop d useless comparison and date whoever u choose to date.

@ (a)Please gladly do as i believe the guys are matured and emotionally developed enough to take criticism and use it o improve rather than childish doubling down on stupid.
@ (b) Don't think thats high esteem because its actually delusional ego which prevents the average black from learning and improving when their flaw is shown to them enough.

IamaNigerianGuy:
Guy, I don't usually comment on this section but I felt a compelling need to do so.

You goofed big time. The girl was into you but wanted a little effort on your part, wanted the thrill of being chased and the value it implies. What were you thinking? A girl was friendly with you and even got you to meet her father. Could there ever be any stronger indication you were had won her favor ? That early familiarity led her to be wary. She wanted you to affirm her value.
I think you acted too hastily.
However, there's always room for rematch .

no be lie.

deeswagger:
I called twice and she didn't return my call...


I have no time for BS, no be like say we dey find women like that, na dem dey rush us...

I've been there. If she is not willing to communicate sharply ......no time.

Kenfil:
Bla bla bla blA, those that haven't crossed murtala Mohammed airport always telling us how the white women are better. Please oga, u only attract people like urself. So if u think all Nigerian women are boring, then u r d same.. Y'all shoul[b]d stop all these ridiculous comparison with oyinbo women, go and date them and leave us then[/b].. u better not run back when they really show u ( lol African men become domestic once they marry oyinbo haha)

Go and improve so we can stop the comparism. Stop this nonsense Nigerian sense i the bolded for once.

Admin401:
Told her I liked her, then next time I saw her, she became saucy. And that's how I closed that chapter of my life.

That one dey?

sodiqapril:
like most Nigerian girls, she is boring AF...chatting with most Nigeria girls identical to chatting with a robot..i think its due to this their stupid pride...i've like five White girls I chat with on watsapp, we met on Instagram..(I use my real name and pictures), we are just friends.I've Even gone as far as making video calls with one of them..the level of maturity and lack of boredom in the way these girls converse has made me sworn not to waste my energy chasing Nigeria girls..what most of them understand is money but there are few exceptions sha

You have said it all

HigherEd:
The Nigerian fed govt by level of funding isn't qualified to have more than six universities. The idea of universities have been thoroughly abused in this clime. This is why i would continue to recommend the involvement of the private sector as our only way out of the shabble education we are being fed by universities who are so engrossed in their own problems to even begin looking for solution to society's problem.

As it is Nigeria has only one university in top 1000 while Pakistan has 10! Let that sink in

Nigeria needs more industries than universities.