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eagleeye2:
No he cannot change a 'bad' person. But at least you have the support of your family.
If on the other you go for your man against your father's wish (in other words your family's support), and things don't work as planned then, WHAT?
By things not working out, it may not be your 'husband', it may come from MIL, SIL etc.
Marriage without parental consent is dicey issue. If you must marry this man, do everything in your power to get your parents consent. If you will cry, cry. If you will call the entire clan, please do it. BUT GET THAT CONSENT.

eagleeye2:
For some reasons I have mixed feelings about this advice. what if she goes against her Father's wish and marry this guy, and something comes up in the future who will she turn to?
I think it's better she tries harder to convince her papa, but if she can't she should let go. Had I Known it's not a nice phrase.

frmglorytoglory:
Parental consent is very key before entering into a marriage. Parents see what we never can see when we are in love. Sometimes their reasons for rejecting an intended spouse may seem trivial but if you dig deep you will see that their fears are borne out of a genuine love for you.
Pray about this issue and ask that if there is no truth in their reason of refusal to accept him that there should be a change of heart by your parents before the wedding date draws close.
Its not wise to get married without the consent of ones parents.

alutacontinua:
All the reasons he gave are not tangible enough to lose a good man.
if in your heart, you know and believe that this is the man you wanna spend the rest of your life with, let your dad understand that you'll gladly remain single in his house forever if he stops you and you have to be damn serious about it! .


If there is any reason like your man has some attitude problems etc, then you mighr wanna re-consider.

alutacontinua:
what does this mean? And why did he say that?

alutacontinua:
what does this mean? And why did he say that?

femi4:
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olahero:
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maxjax:
wel...let her go for the Note

maxjax:
which of them listed do u have for yourself?

Wendy80:
I didn't fight. No one objected. I come from a very liberal family. My parents believe in ones happiness and well-being and that's d way I am too.
I get to answer ds question evrynow n dn

Wendy80:
It depends on family. Its not culture or tradition. I'm Ada, infact only daughter and I'm married outside my tribe.
My close friend just got married 2days ago, an Ada too, she married outside her tribe too.

9inches:
Far as in?
My sis (who is an ada) is married outside my state

asandigbo:
yes my dear, little things count. and first impression matters a lot. that first act of humility and kindness worked for her o.

asandigbo:
my brother said she did a simple task no woman has ever done at her first visit. the first time she visited, she did a thorough clean up for him, quietly lock d door and left

yorex2011:
Well.. As for me.. I had an upper division 2nd class degree...i knw if i had put in my best i wud have gotten a first class.
So my first advice.. Put in ur utmost best so that at tge end of it all, you wud knw you tried your best ( to avoid d case of what i said in my second statement)

I had lots of close friends who graduated with first class, but didn't read with them except in my final yr.. And u knw wat.. I had my highest GP in that yr (4.7). So second advice.. Its ok being Friends with scholars but its even better when you study with them.

Plan your time, it's not about reading always.. There is time for everything... A time to study hard, a time to relax, time to play, time for your hobbies.. Plan your time well.

Knw thyself (Socrates).. Knw your capabilities and your limits.. Becos d scholar in ur class reads all through d night non stop doesn't mean you shud too (cos ur body might not be able to take such work).

Then very important.. Don't forget ur God for he maketh all things possible. Pray always, involve urself in spiritually uplifting activities and God will bless your hard work with success

God bless you all

Abuamam:
If he is your fiance, then you are not legally married to him, how can he claim paternity? I thought he would have to be your husband before he can claim custody. Otherwise, he can not prove the child has anything to do with him.
I am not a lawyer though, just thinking.

Abuamam:
If he is your fiance, then you are not legally married to him, how can he claim paternity? I thought he would have to be your husband before he can claim custody. Otherwise, he can not prove the child has anything to do with him.
I am not a lawyer though, just thinking.

aisha2:
That is some cultural practices but the constitution is supreme to any culture and the bottom line for the constitution is the best interest of the child. If the best interest of the child is not protected with the mom, the father can provide evidence of that and get custody

aisha2:
I will first advice you to get counseling. What you are doing is called emotional abuse and I wouldnt advice any sane man to put up with that.
You need to look within and discover what makes you resort to insults rather than dialogue when you are upset. Is it a pattern? Did you grow up watching your mother do same? Did you grow up in a home or compound where insults and fights are the only means of settling quarrels? Its very important you get help for yourself, your baby and future relationships. Adults dont throw tantrums and insults when upset, they sit, talk, stay calm and listen to the other party talk too. Insults never make you " win" a fight it just alienates sane people from your life.

Sorry for the unsolicited advice, now to your question.
A mother normally gets custody of the Child till the child is 7 but given your emotional abusive history he can go to court or social welfare get one or two witnesses you have fought with and argue that you are not mentally stable enough to care for a child in the formative years, some judges and welfare officers could be sympathetic to his case. Personally if I were the case worker, I wouldn't push strongly for a child to be left with a verbally abusive mother. My advice is get counseling and clean up your act. You are going to be a mother, time to learn to act like one. What do you do when your child does something silly?