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Hi everyone. Hope you guys are enjoying ur camp.
How is the camp situation generally?is it as bad as people say?

I wanted to marry at the age of 24. It cant just be possible now.

Pls I want to know the general camp situations esp dt of sanition in delta camp. Tx

thorpido: Just do the needful.The earlier the better so you don't turn out to be the one that loses out.

Thanks dear.

thorpido: Whao poster,this issue has been close to a year and not only are you not married,you haven't even introduced yet.What are you waiting for?You said you want to do it close to the wedding?Won't they be the one to approve the time of the wedding?Are you trying to get preggy?

I think you should do the introduction now.Maybe you should look for an elderly person in your family you can take into confidence and hint the person.Try and prepare the ground.
Why is your guy too holding back?He should man up and go and see your parents.

Keep praying.If it is the will of God,he will soften your parents' hearts.

My dear,it is not as if I want to get pregnant or that my guy does not want to man up. He has made efforts to come but I am the one postponing the whole thing.

Ok,he told me that he will help to carry my properties home and use the opportunity to see my people just for me to inform him few days back that he should not worry again that I have sought an alternative.
My guy wants to see my parents as I have seen his. His parents accepted me and his mum even want me to spend some time with her.

Yields: Tell them now. You don't want them to raise issues now but you think the perfect time for them to do so is when the marriage is nearby? You're not getting married to yourself. Your fiance's in the picture too. If you don't care about having a peaceful wedding, at least think of him. Almost a year has gone by. You've had opportunities to tell your parents/introduce him to them, but you're still making excuses. Your brothers know, but you only mention your parents being against it, so at least you have your brothers on your side. I reckon you're worried about what your parents would think of you, as you yourself have expressed your disapproval of marrying outside your state and you're about to do it. Just swallow your pride, let them know that you were wrong and explain why. They will not understand it in a day, but it's a starting point. If anyone's in the best position to soften your parents' mentality, it's you. Just being "strong and prayerful" won't solve anything if you're just sitting back and not being proactive in helping the situation at all.

You spoke so well dear. Thanks.
The thing is I thought that telling my parents now when the marriage will take place like May/June will be a long period for them to taunt me,disapprove and call me unserious. I have once asked my dad what he thinks of inter-tribal marriage. He told me he does not have a good thought about it and added that proximity in marriage is very important.

As for my brothers they know about him but one or two are not fully in support but their own is not my problem but my parents.

I once told my mum that I am going to marry a calabar man and she bruntly told me that I am on my own.
All these grips fear in me.

nymphomaniac: prissy, guaranteed it won't splash one bit. Fish will taste perfect. Only Con is u can't use the oil to fry something else so u can decide to try my technique out wen u have plenty fish to fry. It works wella sha

Thanks dear.

Still on the matter ooo.
Our plan last year was that by this time this year we must have done our trad but it didnt work as planned due to some constraints.

Months have passed and I have not told my parents yet. My brothers are aware sha.

He wanted to come on April to know my place and also see my people and familiarize with them but that was cancelled because of our house renovation.

We shifted it to 1st or 2nd week of Sept. Few days to his coming,I suggested that since we are no more doing anything this year that it is better we leave the familarization and telling my people about him till when he will be ready. I wont like my parents to start raising issues now. Better the issues are raised close to the marriage

With the trends of things now,it will only take the Grace of God for my parents to accept this man.

What is so facinating about following one here?

I had one person I was following mistakenly,with the help of this thread I went and un-followed(if there is anything like that)him. Before then,I found out that his post werent making sense and always uninpsiring.

kellybently: u can avoid oil splash suing Samsung conventional microwave.
dip the fish into the oil and remove it.
put it inside d microwave it ll fry it.
with d little oil on it.

This one will cost ooo.

[quote author=nymphomaniac]For fish, rub flour allova it b4 frying

And it will not splash? How will the fish taste and can one still use the oil to fry something else?

Miscellaneous: overfeeding dey worry u..... which kind thread be this sef?

hahahaha. I seriously love fried fish.

Thanks all for the wonderfull contributions.

The general opinion here is for me to buy a deep fryer. That I will do.

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I do fart in his presence,even if I want to excuse myself,he will ask me not to worry that I should fart.lol. And if the fart smells too much,he will be like'babe,have you gone to toilet today?'

Loveangel1: Just add little salt into the hot oil before adding the fish

Thanks dear. I do that too but it does not guarantee the splashing.

prissyluv: pls do you automatically follow one by viewing the person's profile?

Thanks.

jnrbayano: Of course you will only follow one through the person's profile.

You will learn a lot from intellectuals if you spot them and follow them, trust me

I repeat, intellectuals!!!

pls do you automatically follow one by viewing the person's profile?

Javanian: Don't come here and use your medicority to dent the image of erudite scholars. Professor Charles Soludo obtained his three
degrees and then professorship at the
University of Nigeria in Nsukka, Enugu State.
He graduated with a First Class Honors

degree in 1984, an M.Sc. Economics in 1987,
and a Ph.D. in 1989, winning prizes for the
best student at all three levels.

Are you saying he got his Phd within the space of 2yr?

I dont know how it is done in your school but in NAU any course you dropped or didnt write is recorded as a carryover.
Well,think it through first. As you said,what is worth doing is worth doing well.

I was at the saloon today,plaiting my hair. The saloon is just near the road side so I was in a better position to have a greater view of passers -by.

I noticed that I saw often of young childern ranging from 5-13yrs carrying school bags and on mufti. It then struck me that they must be going for holiday lessons.

In my family and most families then,holiday lessons was so alien but nowadays,it is more of a 'culture/norm' that kids must go for holiday lessons.

Many families allow their kids/ward go for holiday lessons for reasons like to keep their brains alert,staying out of troubles at the yard/blocks and probably to avoid their(children) disturbances.

The above reasons notwithstanding, I personally think that kids should stay at home and learn things which they missed during the session. Go for holidays and also read stuffs like novels,story books etc to still keep their brains alert and improve their vocabulary.

What is your own opinion friends?

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I had a conversation with a friend who said that people who dont shave their pubic region often are seen as being dirty. He said that it should be shaved as often as possible and kept as low as possible.
I dont share in his views cos I believe that some people[women] dont shave often cos of the scratch that follows.
What are your views/opinions friends?

Babythug and Efemenaxy1,tks. I think buying a deep frying pan will do.
Breadplanets,tks too. I will ask of that.

Simplicity,naturality,understanding. We both like pepper in our food[though I ve stopped becos of ulcer] we laugh alot,like nosco yogurt etc. Would love it if we ve watchin movies as a common tin.

Justeenaleo: Use helmet nd hand gloves

you are just funny. How I wish.

okirewaju: What I do most times is to cover the pot or frying pan with a lid then I open to peep after giving the fish some time to fry.

When one part is fried I then open the lid fully and flip the fish to the other side with the aid of a frying spoon

The worst is frying fish head

Thanks. I will try that.

[quote author=kevoh]Water and oil do not agree. You need to let the fish (or any other substance) be drained of water completely before you immerse it in hot oil for frying. Shikena! Case Closed![/quote

I know but no matter how long you leave it to drain,it will still splash.

I like fish a lot when fried. But am tired of its constant oil splashing when frying it.
Is there any better way of frying it without the oil splashing?
Thanks.

I dont need all those rules. The only rule I need is just to be myself.

I think d first thing we should ask ourselves here is why do people get married?