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protegesol:
I don even tire for their matter. A girl tell me no and I move on sharply. No time. I learnt the hard way sha! It's not worth the hassle.

bros as i dey I no get time for drama queen.

CoolKizzy( m), nosa2cool
common in.........fellas

Kylekent59:
Finally ,u back it up with prayer

You're damn right!

protegesol:
Is this a counter thread or we should be looking out for the guys version. Anyways, me thinks guys suffer heart breaks and rejection more often than girls.

Guy no b small matter after she broke my Heart almost 3 months ago she sent me txt msge on Xmass and New Year day,as a person dat has learnt his lessons I didn't reply or call her back.She ran-out of patience and started calling since ystaday! Do u wanna hear wat she says? I miss u,just wanna hear ur voice...

A single act of a woman cannot make me to hate women.

TrishaP:
No 14 worked just perfectly well. But that number4..nah..he is not worth it biko. I got better ways to handle my sh*t.

That no 4 happened frequently due to beign used to ur ex..

Aizebioje:
Really insightful. Thanks
Errr the emotional and home problem part nkor.

1. EMOTIONAL PROBLEM- Then as a undergraduate students I read better whenever i'm having a problem with my g-friend or a lecture because I really want to proof to them I can succeed wthout them. Infact I remember when I was in part 1 I lost my elder brother into d cold hands of death few weeks to our first semester exam.because of ds incident I doubled my efforts and I was inspired.Alas I had A's in all my results (RIP BIG BEN-miss u) Just because i dnt wanna disappoint him.

2. When it comes to reading to succeed empty ur worries.Be it domestic problems or others lay them aside and buckle up.YOUR BACKGROUND SHLDN'T BE A REASON WHILE UR BACK IS ON THE GROUND.

GO,KICK OPEN DAT DOOR OF SUCCESS....ON ENTERING CONFIDENTLY INTRODUCE YOURSELF.

Adex097:
Hmmm...I applied about 35% of what the Op wrote and I got a good amount of As..let's see wats gonna happen wen I add some your points.

KEEP IT UP BRO! Remember yesterday's success is no success but an history! Don't rest on ur oars.

liveyourlife:
Thanks for this.

Close With This :
I am indebted to my father for living, but to my teacher for living well.
-Alexander the Great. Join us. Get on [url=http://][/url]

C YA @ DA TOP BRO!

validblinks:
Lol, what a great source of inspiration ah swear

Hey! don't do dat to ur brain son. Weed na brain-frier

15 Ways to Get Over a Breakup Like a Grown Woman
That dumb trope of "women eating ice cream in bed crying after a breakup"
is out. (And sexist.) In fact, there's no better time than after a huge
heartbreak for a total life renovation.


1. Either block or unfriend him on Facebook, because that shit will be the
death of you. Maybe you assume you are a reasonable and mature lady-
human who can handle seeing the occasional reminder of him on your
Facebook timeline. You're both grown-ups, right! Except if u can stand looking @ him cuddling some dirty girls on his dp...u knw na "fori-fori"(to make u feel jellous)

2. Don't immediately suggest to "stay friends" — and if he does, tell him
you need to think about it. This is an impulse because you don't want to
seem like you care too much about the breakup. Because you're so chill.
You're so chill that your heart isn't beating. And, you're dead. But
truthfully, during this stilted, awkward breaking-up period, it's hard to tell
whether you'll be able to be friends or not. Generally, one person wants to be
friends and the other wants to be more. Gotta work that shit out before it can
be a healthy friendship … if it ever can be. You're not admitting defeat by not
staying friends with him.

3. If you feel an impulse to get drunk alone, call some friends instead. It's
the worst being alone and sad and drunk. When you've just broken up with
someone, you get all nihilistic, and because there is probably not a Hot
Topic near you to get some Tailor Swift CDs, you get too hammered to see and
wind up hooking up with a 50-year-old married man with a big pot-belly
bathroom. At least be sad with people you love! We've all been heartbroken
— it's not like they'll judge you for drinking wine with dirty hair, in Family
Guy pajamas.

4. If you want to drunk-text, get your friend to take your phone away or
throw it in a volcano. Oh, the number of times I have drunk-texted something
cryptic to an ex at 2 a.m. and assumed if he texts back, he still has feelings
for me. Drunk-texting an ex is a two-steps-forward-one-step-back slide
down the rabbit hole. Him replying, "nothing," to your booze-fueled, "sup,"
does not mean you'll have a spring wedding.

5. Begin some kind of intense, rage-based workout routine. Maybe this isn't
a good time for yoga! Maybe it's a good time for something new, like
kickboxing. Really get some of that negative stuff out.

6. Spend a lot of time outside. It's a cliché, but fresh air really does clear
your head. So does, you know, seeing the sun every once in a while. Take at
least two hours from each day just to leave your Cave of Forgotten Dreams
and interact with The Outside.
7. Rebound with one incredibly hot guy, if that's what you want, and then
give yourself some time to decompress and remember who you are. Go out
and get yourself some strange from a guy who is either a King of Leon or just
has dirty hair. It's hard to tell the difference. But then slow down and be low-
key for a while. If you've had one rebound, you've had them all, in this
woman's opinion.
8. If you start dating someone else, take it really slow. Dude. You just
ended a relationship and your heart flipped over and exploded like a tanker in
a Jean-Claude Van Damme movie. If you take it step by step and enjoy it as
a casual thing for a while, that'll give you some time to evaluate whether
you're actually ready to be with someone again or if you're just ready to have
really hot sex with them in an elevator once in a while.

9. Allow yourself to cry when you need to. Thus preventing a giant tidal
wave of #feels to wash over you in the workplace, or the DMV, or anywhere
else inappropriate. If you don't, you'll repress your feelings until you break
down in the office pantry while you're microwaving your pasta and that
passive-aggressive asshole Susan comes over and takes you to the
women's bathroom and murmurs a bunch of vaguely religious-sounding
proverbs like, "This too shall pass." And then every time you and Susan
make contact afterwards, it will be weird.
10. If you get a Facebook invite to his best friend's party ... stay home, put
a face mask on, eat Chinese, and watch House of Cards. There is always a
strong temptation to show up with a fresh blowout and a low-cut J.Lo
Grammys dress, and grind with his friend that you hate just to make him
jealous. Eat your heart out , you think to yourself as you do a nasty seventh
grade dance grind with the guy you once referred to as a "dicksnack tool
slowpoke." Actually, assuming his best friend is some guy you don't really care
about, going to that party still makes it all about him — not your emotional
well-being. And seeing him will just pick the scab open.
11. Don't scheme to get him back — scheme to get yourself back. Get some
solid book recs, join a pickup sports game, go on a trip somewhere with a
girlfriend. Paint your bathroom; I don't care. Just do something for yourself.
12. Write him heartbroken letters and never send them. Get it all out — on
paper, so as to avoid accidentally sending them. ( E is for the "Extremely
messed up way you treated me." R is for "the rage I feel." I is for "I will never
love again." C is for "I HATE YOU YOU DICKHEAD, HOW COULD YOU DO
THIS TO ME." Sent from reallyreallysad@gmail.com .) I bet that's how Alanis
Morrissette wrote "You Oughta Know."
13. Avoid posting the details on Facebook. Or Twitter. Or Instagram. Or
Tumblr. Live ya life! Airing your grievances on social media is not good for
anyone, and it'll be embarrassing later. Who's gonna read it, anyway? Aunt
Maggie? That girl you met during Welcome Week?
14. Take baths. Baths are half wallowing and half cleansing/pampering, and
thus are perfect for breakups. When's the last time you really filled up your
tub (clean it first, please) and had a good soak with a glass (bottle) of wine?
Showers are not for the recently dumped.
15. Stop blaming yourself and thinking things like, "If only I'd watched more
Bourne movies/dyed my hair blonde/given more rim jobs/was cooler." It
takes two to break up — the problem wasn't just you, it was you two as a
couple. It's almost reverse-narcissistic to blame yourself that much! If you
try to look at the relationship from the outside, maybe you'll have an easier
time seeing how you both contributed to the breakup. "If only" killed the
dinosaurs. (Actually an asteroid did, but let's not quibble.)

Aizebioje:
Good post. But the writer didn't include other factors like schooling nd working at the same time which reduces time available for study. Also emotional problems and home problem(very very common). Also when you are busy running from cultists who just won't let you rest. Things that affect Nigerian students are plenty!

1. To avoid been forced to join cult group in ur campus,be identified with a xtian fellowship.Maintain low profile among ur peers.Stop been a party frick and watch whom you pitch ur tent wth as friends.

2. You can still excel as a working-student.All u got to do is plan ur time ,be hardworking and hope for the best.During my undergraduate days the best graduating students among my set was a guy that combined two jobs wth his academic work. He used to borrow lecture notes frm me to photocopy. You can b whatever u wanna be.

Go and make a difference.

1. Be Organise
List facts in alphabetical or chronological order. Get a general idea of
the textbook material, note the simple to complex and general to
specific. Logical facts are easier to remember.
2. Make It Meaningful
Look for connections in what you are studying. For example, packing a
parachute by itself can be boring, however, the excitement of jumping
out of a plane gives a whole new meaning to this process. Focusing on
the “Big Picture” helps provide meaning to the learning process and
stimulates us to remember.
3. Create Associations
Associate something new with something you already know. This
creates a building process in your memory bank. If you already know a
Bill Smith think of the Bill you know and associate him with the new Bill
Smith.
4. Learn It Actively
People remember 90 percent of what they do, 75 percent of what they
see and 20 percent of what they hear. This saying is very accurate, as
action is a proven memory enhancer. Move your hands, pace back and
forth and use gestures as you recite a passage. If your body is actively
involved it will help you to remember.
5. Relax
Eating proper foods, avoiding caffeine before an exam and getting
proper exercise will help you relax and feel more confident. Relaxing
will enhance your ability to recall facts faster, with more clarity, and
you will feel better overall.
6. Create Pictures
Draw diagrams, make up cartoons. Use them to connect facts and
illustrate relationships. When abstract concepts can be “seen” they are
much easier to remember. You can be as creative as you want, as long
as you understand your scribble.
7. Recite and Repeat
When you repeat something out loud you anchor the concept better by
using two or more of your senses. Repetition is the “Mother” of
learning. If you use more than one sense you create a “synergistic”
effect which is powerful memory technique. If you recite out loud in
your own words, memory is enhanced even more!
8. Write It Down
Writing notes to ourselves help us to remember. If we write down an
idea or a passage several times, in different areas, we increase our
chances to remember.
9. Reduce Interference
Find an area free from distractions. Studies show that most students
study more effectively in a quiet area in 1 hour than in a noisy area in 2
hours.
10. Over-learn
When you think you got it don’t quit. Don’t miss a chance to review just
one more time. Ever hear the expression “I beat that subject to death!”
Do It!
11. Review Notes the Same Day
Studies prove that in order for us to store information “long term” it
must be reviewed within 24 hrs. or less. By getting in the habit of same
day review, we increase the chances of remembering by over 70
percent!
12. Use Daylight
This method is particularly effective for weekend study and review.
Study the most difficult subjects during daylight hours. For many
students the early morning hours can be especially productive and will
stimulate the memory process.
13. Distribute Learning
Research suggest marathon study sessions (3 hrs. or more) are not as
effective as light study sessions (1-2 hrs.) which are distributed at
different times during the week. Take frequent breaks. Some students
can study 50 minutes or more, others need to stop after 30 minutes. Try
to distribute your length of study in the same rhythm as your classes
(50/10/50). Give yourself rewards, you’ve earned it!
14. Keep a Positive Attitude
Studies prove that if you repeat to yourself negative feelings about a
subject you increase your chances to fail! Since we all want to succeed,
“Trash negative” and replace with “Positive Thoughts.” For example,
replace “I can’t do it” with “It’s not easy, but I am tough and I accept
this challenge.” Prove you can and you will! This is a self-fulfilling
prophecy as attitude directly effects the memory!
15. Go On an “Information Diet”
Just as we avoid certain foods, we can choose what not to retain.
Extract core concepts, study what you will be tested on, abbreviate
large passages of information into easy to digest phrases, this will help
you remember.
16. Combine Memory Techniques
All of the memory techniques work better when combined. You can over
learn a formula, sing about a famous person, think positive thoughts
about subjects, use sight, sound, and other methods to sharpen your
memory.
17. Remember Something Else
When you are stuck and can’t remember, think of something related to
the information. For example if you cannot remember a name, think
about what the person did, what period they lived or who they
associated with. Write down what you do know and soon it will trigger
facts that you are trying to recall. This technique really works!
18. Note When You Don’t Remember
If you tried some memory techniques that do not seem to work, it’s all-
right. Try an experiment with other techniques and use what is best for
you and not what works for a classmate. Be a reporter, get the facts,
find out what works and what doesn’t. Congratulate and reward yourself
when you do remember.
19. Use It Before You Loose It
Information stored in the long-term memory may become difficult to
recall if you don’t use it. Simply read it, write it, speak about it and/or
apply it. This is especially effective when you have to recall formulas
or facts from a previous course. The 101 course information may be
used in a 102 course. Therefore, retain your notes, the old text, and
keep the information fresh with a review.
20. Affirmation of Your Good Memory Helps You to Remember
When you are sharp and recall all the facts, accept compliments! When
you do not recall the facts, think that you know it, you can remember,
and the facts will come to you. You may have to use various techniques
to help you remember but never give up! You truly “never forget.” Those
facts will eventually “come to you.” Keep studying, try again and they
will!1. Be Organise
List facts in alphabetical or chronological order. Get a general idea of
the textbook material, note the simple to complex and general to
specific. Logical facts are easier to remember.
2. Make It Meaningful
Look for connections in what you are studying. For example, packing a
parachute by itself can be boring, however, the excitement of jumping
out of a plane gives a whole new meaning to this process. Focusing on
the “Big Picture” helps provide meaning to the learning process and
stimulates us to remember.
3. Create Associations
Associate something new with something you already know. This
creates a building process in your memory bank. If you already know a
Bill Smith think of the Bill you know and associate him with the new Bill
Smith.
4. Learn It Actively
People remember 90 percent of what they do, 75 percent of what they
see and 20 percent of what they hear. This saying is very accurate, as
action is a proven memory enhancer. Move your hands, pace back and
forth and use gestures as you recite a passage. If your body is actively
involved it will help you to remember.
5. Relax
Eating proper foods, avoiding caffeine before an exam and getting
proper exercise will help you relax and feel more confident. Relaxing
will enhance your ability to recall facts faster, with more clarity, and
you will feel better overall.
6. Create Pictures
Draw diagrams, make up cartoons. Use them to connect facts and
illustrate relationships. When abstract concepts can be “seen” they are
much easier to remember. You can be as creative as you want, as long
as you understand your scribble.
7. Recite and Repeat
When you repeat something out loud you anchor the concept better by
using two or more of your senses. Repetition is the “Mother” of
learning. If you use more than one sense you create a “synergistic”
effect which is powerful memory technique. If you recite out loud in
your own words, memory is enhanced even more!
8. Write It Down
Writing notes to ourselves help us to remember. If we write down an
idea or a passage several times, in different areas, we increase our
chances to remember.
9. Reduce Interference
Find an area free from distractions. Studies show that most students
study more effectively in a quiet area in 1 hour than in a noisy area in 2
hours.
10. Over-learn
When you think you got it don’t quit. Don’t miss a chance to review just
one more time. Ever hear the expression “I beat that subject to death!”
Do It!
11. Review Notes the Same Day
Studies prove that in order for us to store information “long term” it
must be reviewed within 24 hrs. or less. By getting in the habit of same
day review, we increase the chances of remembering by over 70
percent!
12. Use Daylight
This method is particularly effective for weekend study and review.
Study the most difficult subjects during daylight hours. For many
students the early morning hours can be especially productive and will
stimulate the memory process.
13. Distribute Learning
Research suggest marathon study sessions (3 hrs. or more) are not as
effective as light study sessions (1-2 hrs.) which are distributed at
different times during the week. Take frequent breaks. Some students
can study 50 minutes or more, others need to stop after 30 minutes. Try
to distribute your length of study in the same rhythm as your classes
(50/10/50). Give yourself rewards, you’ve earned it!
14. Keep a Positive Attitude
Studies prove that if you repeat to yourself negative feelings about a
subject you increase your chances to fail! Since we all want to succeed,
“Trash negative” and replace with “Positive Thoughts.” For example,
replace “I can’t do it” with “It’s not easy, but I am tough and I accept
this challenge.” Prove you can and you will! This is a self-fulfilling
prophecy as attitude directly effects the memory!
15. Go On an “Information Diet”
Just as we avoid certain foods, we can choose what not to retain.
Extract core concepts, study what you will be tested on, abbreviate
large passages of information into easy to digest phrases, this will help
you remember.
16. Combine Memory Techniques
All of the memory techniques work better when combined. You can over
learn a formula, sing about a famous person, think positive thoughts
about subjects, use sight, sound, and other methods to sharpen your
memory.
17. Remember Something Else
When you are stuck and can’t remember, think of something related to
the information. For example if you cannot remember a name, think
about what the person did, what period they lived or who they
associated with. Write down what you do know and soon it will trigger
facts that you are trying to recall. This technique really works!
18. Note When You Don’t Remember
If you tried some memory techniques that do not seem to work, it’s all-
right. Try an experiment with other techniques and use what is best for
you and not what works for a classmate. Be a reporter, get the facts,
find out what works and what doesn’t. Congratulate and reward yourself
when you do remember.
19. Use It Before You Loose It
Information stored in the long-term memory may become difficult to
recall if you don’t use it. Simply read it, write it, speak about it and/or
apply it. This is especially effective when you have to recall formulas
or facts from a previous course. The 101 course information may be
used in a 102 course. Therefore, retain your notes, the old text, and
keep the information fresh with a review.
20. Affirmation of Your Good Memory Helps You to Remember
When you are sharp and recall all the facts, accept compliments! When
you do not recall the facts, think that you know it, you can remember,
and the facts will come to you. You may have to use various techniques
to help you remember but never give up! You truly “never forget.” Those
facts will eventually “come to you.” Keep studying, try again and they
will!1. Be Organise
List facts in alphabetical or chronological order. Get a general idea of
the textbook material, note the simple to complex and general to
specific. Logical facts are easier to remember.
2. Make It Meaningful
Look for connections in what you are studying. For example, packing a
parachute by itself can be boring, however, the excitement of jumping
out of a plane gives a whole new meaning to this process. Focusing on
the “Big Picture” helps provide meaning to the learning process and
stimulates us to remember.
3. Create Associations
Associate something new with something you already know. This
creates a building process in your memory bank. If you already know a
Bill Smith think of the Bill you know and associate him with the new Bill
Smith.
4. Learn It Actively
People remember 90 percent of what they do, 75 percent of what they
see and 20 percent of what they hear. This saying is very accurate, as
action is a proven memory enhancer. Move your hands, pace back and
forth and use gestures as you recite a passage. If your body is actively
involved it will help you to remember.
5. Relax
Eating proper foods, avoiding caffeine before an exam and getting
proper exercise will help you relax and feel more confident. Relaxing
will enhance your ability to recall facts faster, with more clarity, and
you will feel better overall.
6. Create Pictures
Draw diagrams, make up cartoons. Use them to connect facts and
illustrate relationships. When abstract concepts can be “seen” they are
much easier to remember. You can be as creative as you want, as long
as you understand your scribble.
7. Recite and Repeat
When you repeat something out loud you anchor the concept better by
using two or more of your senses. Repetition is the “Mother” of
learning. If you use more than one sense you create a “synergistic”
effect which is powerful memory technique. If you recite out loud in
your own words, memory is enhanced even more!
8. Write It Down
Writing notes to ourselves help us to remember. If we write down an
idea or a passage several times, in different areas, we increase our
chances to remember.
9. Reduce Interference
Find an area free from distractions. Studies show that most students
study more effectively in a quiet area in 1 hour than in a noisy area in 2
hours.
10. Over-learn
When you think you got it don’t quit. Don’t miss a chance to review just
one more time. Ever hear the expression “I beat that subject to death!”
Do It!
11. Review Notes the Same Day
Studies prove that in order for us to store information “long term” it
must be reviewed within 24 hrs. or less. By getting in the habit of same
day review, we increase the chances of remembering by over 70
percent!
12. Use Daylight
This method is particularly effective for weekend study and review.
Study the most difficult subjects during daylight hours. For many
students the early morning hours can be especially productive and will
stimulate the memory process.
13. Distribute Learning
Research suggest marathon study sessions (3 hrs. or more) are not as
effective as light study sessions (1-2 hrs.) which are distributed at
different times during the week. Take frequent breaks. Some students
can study 50 minutes or more, others need to stop after 30 minutes. Try
to distribute your length of study in the same rhythm as your classes
(50/10/50). Give yourself rewards, you’ve earned it!
14. Keep a Positive Attitude
Studies prove that if you repeat to yourself negative feelings about a
subject you increase your chances to fail! Since we all want to succeed,
“Trash negative” and replace with “Positive Thoughts.” For example,
replace “I can’t do it” with “It’s not easy, but I am tough and I accept
this challenge.” Prove you can and you will! This is a self-fulfilling
prophecy as attitude directly effects the memory!
15. Go On an “Information Diet”
Just as we avoid certain foods, we can choose what not to retain.
Extract core concepts, study what you will be tested on, abbreviate
large passages of information into easy to digest phrases, this will help
you remember.
16. Combine Memory Techniques
All of the memory techniques work better when combined. You can over
learn a formula, sing about a famous person, think positive thoughts
about subjects, use sight, sound, and other methods to sharpen your
memory.
17. Remember Something Else
When you are stuck and can’t remember, think of something related to
the information. For example if you cannot remember a name, think
about what the person did, what period they lived or who they
associated with. Write down what you do know and soon it will trigger
facts that you are trying to recall. This technique really works!
18. Note When You Don’t Remember
If you tried some memory techniques that do not seem to work, it’s all-
right. Try an experiment with other techniques and use what is best for
you and not what works for a classmate. Be a reporter, get the facts,
find out what works and what doesn’t. Congratulate and reward yourself
when you do remember.
19. Use It Before You Loose It
Information stored in the long-term memory may become difficult to
recall if you don’t use it. Simply read it, write it, speak about it and/or
apply it. This is especially effective when you have to recall formulas
or facts from a previous course. The 101 course information may be
used in a 102 course. Therefore, retain your notes, the old text, and
keep the information fresh with a review.
20. Affirmation of Your Good Memory Helps You to Remember
When you are sharp and recall all the facts, accept compliments! When
you do not recall the facts, think that you know it, you can remember,
and the facts will come to you. You may have to use various techniques
to help you remember but never give up! You truly “never forget.” Those
facts will eventually “come to you.” Keep studying, try again and they
will!

[color=#006600][/color]Are you in an unhealthy relationship? Is it real love or just infatuation? What,
you’re not sure?
Here are the 11 telltale warning signs that you’re in an unhealthy
relationship:
1. Your personal growth can not flourish in the relationship
Whereas healthy relationships offer safe havens for personal growth, people
who feel that their own growth and happiness needs to be sacrificed for the
survival of the relationship often find themselves going the wrong way in the
tunnel of love.
2. You feel as if the life is being sucked out of you
Did you ever hear of emotional vampires? These unseemly characters thrive
while sucking the energy and life out of others. If you feel like you are in a
relationship that is draining your energy and leaves you feeling exhausted
and spent, there is rarely a happy ending.
3. They don’t “get it “ that it’s not all your fault !
If you are involved with someone who tends to blame you for their anger and
problems, and you spend too much energy either defending yourself or trying
to be understood, stop expecting the light bulb to turn on. Rather, it only will
serve to dim yours. After all, no one can make sense out of nonsense.
4. The conflict and arguments just keep popping up
Relationships that are defined by conflict, fighting, blaming and a lack of
forgiveness spell disaster. Remember that it takes two people to argue, and
another person’s unreasonable behavior is never any excuse for yours.
Arguments are like the Finger Trap carnival toy: the more each side is
pulled, as in an argument, the more both sides get stuck in the trap.
5. One person has most of the power over the two of you
Does your loved one have too much power over you, aside from the power of
love? A sure sign of unhealthiness is when someone has more power over
you than you have over yourself. Remember— no one has power over you
unless you give it to them!
6. The negatives aren’t turning positive
Unhealthy relationships are filled with negativity, and bring out the worst in
people rather than the best. Put-downs, criticisms, and insults are all
examples of emotional abuse and should never be tolerated. No one
deserves to be treated like that, and never make excuses for anyone who
treats you that way.
7. Being in need is confused with being in love
Look out for possessiveness and jealousy, as those signs are more about
someone being in need rather than in love. If someone’s love is contingent
on “what you can do for me” realize that there might not be room enough in
the relationship for the two of you. If there is no foundation of trust in your
relationship, you can trust that it’s a warning sign of more trouble ahead!
8. When the team is losing, they get lost
People who think they’re in love might really be more in infatuation. How do
you know? One sure sign is when times get tough, the tough get going. It’s
easy to be part of a winning team, but it’s time life does not go so smoothly
that reveal the depth of a relationship. Infatuation is less about what a
person can do for you and more about what you can do for the other person,
especially through challenging times.
9. You feel worse about yourself, not better
Watch out for a relationship that do not make you a better “you.” If the
relationship makes you feel worse about yourself and less comfortable in
your own skin, it might be time to shed yourself of the relationship! Mature
relationships are based on acceptance, not judgement of how someone thinks
someone else should be.
10. The focus is on changing the other person
In unhealthy relationships, the focus is more about changing others rather
than working on changing yourself. In a mutually respectful relationship, you
won’t be trying to mold someone into your ideal person. When you do that, it
becomes more about you than the other person, and becomes a recipe for
chronic relationship unhappiness. In healthy relationships, people are
respected for who they are, and are not anyone else’s “project.”
11. You lose yourself trying to find someone else
Last but not least, make sure that you don’t lose yourself in trying to find
somebody else. As much as you may think you need someone else, you need
yourself much more.
So if you find yourself in a relationship that stunts your growth and can only
survive at expense of your own emotional survival, might be time to get out
of the love boat before you find yourself sinking![b]Are you in an unhealthy relationship? Is it real love or just infatuation? What,
you’re not sure?
Here are the 11 telltale warning signs that you’re in an unhealthy
relationship:
1. Your personal growth can not flourish in the relationship
Whereas healthy relationships offer safe havens for personal growth, people
who feel that their own growth and happiness needs to be sacrificed for the
survival of the relationship often find themselves going the wrong way in the
tunnel of love.
2. You feel as if the life is being sucked out of you
Did you ever hear of emotional vampires? These unseemly characters thrive
while sucking the energy and life out of others. If you feel like you are in a
relationship that is draining your energy and leaves you feeling exhausted
and spent, there is rarely a happy ending.
3. They don’t “get it “ that it’s not all your fault !
If you are involved with someone who tends to blame you for their anger and
problems, and you spend too much energy either defending yourself or trying
to be understood, stop expecting the light bulb to turn on. Rather, it only will
serve to dim yours. After all, no one can make sense out of nonsense.
4. The conflict and arguments just keep popping up
Relationships that are defined by conflict, fighting, blaming and a lack of
forgiveness spell disaster. Remember that it takes two people to argue, and
another person’s unreasonable behavior is never any excuse for yours.
Arguments are like the Finger Trap carnival toy: the more each side is
pulled, as in an argument, the more both sides get stuck in the trap.
5. One person has most of the power over the two of you
Does your loved one have too much power over you, aside from the power of
love? A sure sign of unhealthiness is when someone has more power over
you than you have over yourself. Remember— no one has power over you
unless you give it to them!
6. The negatives aren’t turning positive
Unhealthy relationships are filled with negativity, and bring out the worst in
people rather than the best. Put-downs, criticisms, and insults are all
examples of emotional abuse and should never be tolerated. No one
deserves to be treated like that, and never make excuses for anyone who
treats you that way.
7. Being in need is confused with being in love
Look out for possessiveness and jealousy, as those signs are more about
someone being in need rather than in love. If someone’s love is contingent
on “what you can do for me” realize that there might not be room enough in
the relationship for the two of you. If there is no foundation of trust in your
relationship, you can trust that it’s a warning sign of more trouble ahead!
8. When the team is losing, they get lost
People who think they’re in love might really be more in infatuation. How do
you know? One sure sign is when times get tough, the tough get going. It’s
easy to be part of a winning team, but it’s time life does not go so smoothly
that reveal the depth of a relationship. Infatuation is less about what a
person can do for you and more about what you can do for the other person,
especially through challenging times.
9. You feel worse about yourself, not better
Watch out for a relationship that do not make you a better “you.” If the
relationship makes you feel worse about yourself and less comfortable in
your own skin, it might be time to shed yourself of the relationship! Mature
relationships are based on acceptance, not judgement of how someone thinks
someone else should be.
10. The focus is on changing the other person
In unhealthy relationships, the focus is more about changing others rather
than working on changing yourself. In a mutually respectful relationship, you
won’t be trying to mold someone into your ideal person. When you do that, it
becomes more about you than the other person, and becomes a recipe for
chronic relationship unhappiness. In healthy relationships, people are
respected for who they are, and are not anyone else’s “project.”
11. You lose yourself trying to find someone else
Last but not least, make sure that you don’t lose yourself in trying to find
somebody else. As much as you may think you need someone else, you need
yourself much more.
So if you find yourself in a relationship that stunts your growth and can only
survive at expense of your own emotional survival, might be time to get out
of the love boat before you find yourself sinking![/b]Are you in an unhealthy relationship? Is it real love or just infatuation? What,
you’re not sure?
Here are the 11 telltale warning signs that you’re in an unhealthy
relationship:
1. Your personal growth can not flourish in the relationship
Whereas healthy relationships offer safe havens for personal growth, people
who feel that their own growth and happiness needs to be sacrificed for the
survival of the relationship often find themselves going the wrong way in the
tunnel of love.
2. You feel as if the life is being sucked out of you
Did you ever hear of emotional vampires? These unseemly characters thrive
while sucking the energy and life out of others. If you feel like you are in a
relationship that is draining your energy and leaves you feeling exhausted
and spent, there is rarely a happy ending.
3. They don’t “get it “ that it’s not all your fault !
If you are involved with someone who tends to blame you for their anger and
problems, and you spend too much energy either defending yourself or trying
to be understood, stop expecting the light bulb to turn on. Rather, it only will
serve to dim yours. After all, no one can make sense out of nonsense.
4. The conflict and arguments just keep popping up
Relationships that are defined by conflict, fighting, blaming and a lack of
forgiveness spell disaster. Remember that it takes two people to argue, and
another person’s unreasonable behavior is never any excuse for yours.
Arguments are like the Finger Trap carnival toy: the more each side is
pulled, as in an argument, the more both sides get stuck in the trap.
5. One person has most of the power over the two of you
Does your loved one have too much power over you, aside from the power of
love? A sure sign of unhealthiness is when someone has more power over
you than you have over yourself. Remember— no one has power over you
unless you give it to them!
6. The negatives aren’t turning positive
Unhealthy relationships are filled with negativity, and bring out the worst in
people rather than the best. Put-downs, criticisms, and insults are all
examples of emotional abuse and should never be tolerated. No one
deserves to be treated like that, and never make excuses for anyone who
treats you that way.
7. Being in need is confused with being in love
Look out for possessiveness and jealousy, as those signs are more about
someone being in need rather than in love. If someone’s love is contingent
on “what you can do for me” realize that there might not be room enough in
the relationship for the two of you. If there is no foundation of trust in your
relationship, you can trust that it’s a warning sign of more trouble ahead!
8. When the team is losing, they get lost
People who think they’re in love might really be more in infatuation. How do
you know? One sure sign is when times get tough, the tough get going. It’s
easy to be part of a winning team, but it’s time life does not go so smoothly
that reveal the depth of a relationship. Infatuation is less about what a
person can do for you and more about what you can do for the other person,
especially through challenging times.
9. You feel worse about yourself, not better
Watch out for a relationship that do not make you a better “you.” If the
relationship makes you feel worse about yourself and less comfortable in
your own skin, it might be time to shed yourself of the relationship! Mature
relationships are based on acceptance, not judgement of how someone thinks
someone else should be.
10. The focus is on changing the other person
In unhealthy relationships, the focus is more about changing others rather
than working on changing yourself. In a mutually respectful relationship, you
won’t be trying to mold someone into your ideal person. When you do that, it
becomes more about you than the other person, and becomes a recipe for
chronic relationship unhappiness. In healthy relationships, people are
respected for who they are, and are not anyone else’s “project.”
11. You lose yourself trying to find someone else
Last but not least, make sure that you don’t lose yourself in trying to find
somebody else. As much as you may think you need someone else, you need
yourself much more.
So if you find yourself in a relationship that stunts your growth and can only
survive at expense of your own emotional survival, might be time to get out
of the love boat before you find yourself sinking!

Women with low mileage ? I felt a cold shiver down my spine.... What is wrong with 21st century African women?




Pls keep that thing 4 a man u can call ur own!

Ofumaria:
Dear Valued Teachers and prospective teachers , thank you for allowing "us" put You First in 2014, "we" remain determined to provide you with the best of solutions in 2015. Happy New year. Copied.

In subsequent days, "we" will be looking at mistakes we made before interview, during interviews, after interview and looking at how a teachers resume should look like.

Interesting tips..........Let's set d ball rolling ppu.

GOD will make u a solution provider and trailblazer,welcom to ur year of Heaven on Earth 2015,see, u will receive standing ovation this year in JESUS name.


DON'T GIVE UP IF U DESIRED TO SUCCEED...................

Until I can order for a plate of hot rice on my tabs n see it deliered asap,I don't give a damn abot tech-disadvantages....
*happy new yr buddies!

LaurelP:
Jarus
Xfire
GoldenDr
Strongbest
ProfGday
Ofumaria
Odunharry
Artisticallyart
Corkqueen
Evathyst

And many more...

Thanks bro,I always enjoy ur updates too

DrObum:
If I hear say person go read all that stuff!




















Make am 50 nah

ppu like u do include something like this "ability to pay attention to details" in their CV. Both na super-duper lies.Common 23 lines u can't read them patiently....

DrObum:
If I hear say person go read all that stuff!




















Make am 50 nah

ppu like u do include something like this "ability to pay attention to details" in their CV. Both na super-duper lies

starlingleanets:
I think dis should be on FP

I agree with u bro

starlingleanets:
Wen u go get marry if u use all ur years to observe.

you keep on doing it until u get it right noni

23 Little Ways You Know Someone Actually Loves you.

     
1. They act the same way around you as they do around their friends.
2. They would go out of their way to bring you food and medicine and walk
your dog when you’re sick, even though your place is in the exact opposite
direction than would otherwise be convenient to them — and they wouldn’t
consider it going out of the way.
3. They’re not afraid to call you on your bullshit, but do it in a way that is kind
and not judgmental.
4. They don’t freak out if you don’t text them in x amount of hours, because
they feel solid and confident in what you have together.
5. But they also know that if they miss you, it’s on them to text — or better
yet, call — and say hi… while not overstepping boundaries and bombarding
you with messages (especially if you’re in a meeting).
6. They remember little random things like the fact that you’re in a meeting to
begin with, even if you only mentioned it in passing and not so that they
knew, but rather because you were venting about your stress level or
something only marginally related.
7. Flowers for no reason other than “just because.” (Or a steak dinner if
you’re a dude or allergic to pollen or something. But guys can receive
flowers, too.)
8. They respect your right to personal space, especially when you need your
alone time or to cool down from an argument you both had.
9. The apology they give you (if they were honestly in the wrong) is sincere,
and not a half-assed attempt to get you off their back. (But also, when you
actually love them, chances are good you won’t be relentlessly reminding
them hardcore about how much they messed up, anyway.)
10. They ask before they steal a fry off your plate, but don’t hold it against
you when you forget to ask and steal one off of theirs.
11. If some big opportunity arises in your life and they’re not entirely okay
with it because it’d uproot both your lives, they’ll actively work to see if
there’s some happy medium so that you both can get what you want. This is
called a compromise. (And if something huge happens in their life, they
consult with you before uprooting your world, too.)
12. They do the chore they know you hate so that you don’t have to do it
(even if they hate it, too).
13. They respect when your opinion is unwaveringly different from theirs,
and don’t press the issue as to why they’re right and you’re wrong.
14. They don’t judge you for that one verging-on-the-insane obsession they
don’t share. (But like, there are limits. Don’t expect someone who loves you
to understand why you’d be a stalker.)
15. They’re more concerned about how comfortable you are than they are
about how you’re stealing the covers.
16. They know that sometimes, it’s the little moments of affection — all the
hands held under the table, the inside jokes and glances that nobody else will
notice — that matter most.
17. But they’re also not ashamed to kiss you in public and then post a selfie
of it to Instagram every now and again.
18. They’ll share the last bite of something, whether they’re full or you just
really want to try it at the last minute.
19. They’re more ready to do something for you than they will ask something
from you.
20. For your birthday, they’ll never let it stand that you say you “don’t want
anything” or that you don’t want them “to make a big deal” — they’ll do
something special for you anyway.
21. They will continually listen to you about family and friend issues, but will
push you to make the relationship right, because sometimes just agreeing
with you is not in your best interests. (But on the rare occasion when you
just really need to vent, they will let you but they will know it’s not their
place to join in.)
22. They don’t burden you to take care of them when they’re sloppy or if
they’re in a really bad situation, but also trust you enough to let you know
what’s gnawing on them and to let you in if you show signs of wanting to
carry that load with them.
23. They’re not afraid of saying they love you, the minute it overcomes them
to say so. And whether it’s the first or thousandth (or ten thousandth) time
it’s been said, no matter if it’s a shout or a whisper, it still sounds honest
and sincere and like there’s no one else they’d ever rather say it to.

Every man want to be the best dad but marriage demands more than what we bargain for atimes.Infact situations of things in Nigeria can turn a caring father into a rabid dog.

To all the best dad in the world keep ur heads up......MY KIDS MUST B PROUD OF ME

Merry Xmas erudites scholars........................... I wish us Good jobs and plenty money.

TWO WORSDS FOR D PICS- BEAUTY AND THE BEAST



Celebrity married to chimpazee-look alike dude because of money since 1900....
i shake my head

In santa claus's voice:lukumonadeola "one BIG FAT CHICKEN FOR YOU"...................... Santa tinz

I thought he was held hostage truthfully? Misleading news caption

The attention of the Management of National Drug Law Enforcement Agency [NDLEA] has been drawn to the activities of illegal and fraudulent employment 'consultants' who are selling what they refer to as NDLEA RECRUITMENT FORMS to unsuspecting members of the public. For the avoidance of doubt, the Management of NDLEA is not conducting any recruitment exercise at the moment. The general public is therefore advised to discountenance any covert or online advertisements for vacancies in the NDLEA which is being perpetrated by employment scammers on the internet. The public is to also note that such recruitment notices are fake, fraudulent and criminal in all ramifications. Any person or group of persons that patronise such vacancy vendors do so at their own risk.

The members of the public are therefore urged to report without delay any suspected illegal sale of recruitment forms to the nearest NDLEA office, call or send SMS to 08062199999. The Agency is currently prosecuting all those persons arrested in the past years who defraudedmembers of the public through fake and non-existent employment programs, and will continue to prosecute anybody found to be involved in the fraudulent act.

Signed Management

NDLEA promoting a drug-free society

http://www.ndlea.gov.ng/v1/?q=content/public-notice-ndlea-not-recruiting

CHECK FOR THIS INFO ON THEIR WEBPAGE.....

BE WISE