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Preshieben:
Omoh...
I know I'm not supposed to be worried but I have to

Whenever a guy approaches me,no matter how nice and lovely he looks,
All I think is,he just wants to explore my pussie and move on..and gbamm I'll just ghost him and this goes on with every guy I meet.

I've had failed relationships, infact the last one ended when I discovered my ex bf was cheating on me with my cousin that I'm four years older than and I'm sure that I've moved on completely but I don't seem to trust any guy any longer

The way I reject men who approach me cos all I think is "he only wants to fvck you, nothing else" is sooo alarming, and I fear if I continue like this,I may not marry

How do I change this mentality?
How do I change my mindset about men abeg?

. Maybe when you clock 40years and begin to go to Shilo every year, you will change.

Kingsnairaland:
That why USA is afraid of Russia many hidden treasures in mother Russia, Russia is a continent.

Mr Richard Stevens, who spent 22 years in the British Army as an explosive ordnance disposal soldier and later worked as a civilian bomb technician for 10 years in southern Iraq, Africa and other regions, said he had been exposed "to plenty of Chinese and Russian munitions, but I had never seen this". Mr Stevens posted photos of the munitions to a site for military and civilian bomb disposal experts that he started in 2011, and found that no one else seemed to have seen these mystery munitions before either.

. Ur mumu no get part two.

PrinceOfLagos:
Not necessary

Stop this tribal bullshit

. Yes they did. They voted a Deadwood mannequin to rule enlightened, educated and sophisticated people.

Hammyaladin:
Please lets not be tribal a out the situation @ hand! Please!

. Shiooor!!! She went to Afonja Alimi land to learn skull mining ministry at a tender age.

bewov:
Please guys, I have something bothering me so much, I will really appreciate it if I can get a matured response.

These might be long, but please bare with me

There is this girl have been dating since March 2021. Although, we met in University days and we have been dating since 2017, but because I was graduating and she has 1 more year to spend in the school, I left her and travelled to Lagos to work, because I got a job in a company in Lagos, immediately I graduated. I needed to concentrate on my future so I told her I want to pause the relationship to focus, but I will definitely be back for her, I promised her this. She was a virgin then!

After working in the company for 2years, I also learnt some IT skills online while I was working in the company, and I was earning cool money from it, so I decided to quit the job and focus more on the online business.

My business have been doing well and I have about 2 other virtual assistant helping me out, anyway I was kind of comfortable, so I thought of fulfilling my promise to my girlfriend. I called her one morning, and she was shocked! We chatted a bit and I told her I want us to see urgently, we schedule a date for her to meet me in the hotel, because I was staying in Lekki and he stays around Surulere, I wanted an hotel close to her house, so she can return early.

We met at the hotel and I can see she missed me so much, around 3pm I told her I'm back and I want us to continue dating and I'm ready to settle down, she agreed and we have been dating, all this happened around March 2021. Around April, I travelled out for about 2months, but I was very communicating with her, and when I got back around June, I discovered she had sex with another guy in May. Now, I wouldn't say she did it because of money, because I pay her 20k every month for upkeep, sometimes I just pay her 30k! She is not a wayward girl though, and she is not a type that sleeps around with guys back then in school, but once i came back into her life, I see a different girl entirely, when I came back she wasn't a virgin anymore, it's not my problem anyway, because the truth is I never forgot her during all those years I left her behind.

I didn't tell her I knew she cheated on me, but all I do tell her was that she did something bad to me and I want her to open up to me about it, but my girl kept on denying it, she sworn with her life, that she didn't cheat on me, that night I was shocked. Then, I didn't talk about it again till September, I gave her those months to regret her actions and confess to me, but she never did, also I didn't stop helping her financially, I still pay her monthly for upkeep. I know you will be wondering why I give her money, right? This girl was with me and loyal to me when I had nothing, like nothing at all! She was raised by a single mother and she is struggling a lot, after graduating she decided to go for Hair Stylist training, that is where she is currently. So I just give her money monthly just to stay strong.

So around September I decided to tell her she cheated on me, although it was that once, she begged, cried and told me she was drunk and regretted it, she told me she doesn't want to tell me because she knows I will end the relationship, well to be candid I love her so much, so I decided to forgive her, but since that day, trusting her was very very difficult for me. Although, I do watch her and since then I have never seen anything of such from her.

January 2022, her mother stopped her from coming to my place, she wants me to come see her first before she can allow her daughter to come visit me again. So, I went to see her mom last month and I made my intentions known to her, I told her I will want to marry her daughter and she said she is okay with it, if her daughter is okay with me.

This girl is my type of girl but, she has some behaviours that sincerely I don't think I can deal with.

She has this mindset of "A woman should be equal to a man".

She doesn't respect me, she chats with random guys and if they invite her for outing, she goes with them, even if I tell her not to go! When she visits me, she says I must join her in doing the house chores, she will say "It's either you clean the house and I will wash the plates and cook, or she wash the plates and cook, while I clean the house". And sometimes if she wants to cook for me, she will want me to come to the kitchen with her and do some works, maybe Grind pepper with blender or slice onion, if I dont, she gets annoyed, saying will she be the one to be doing all?

She did something that annoyed me this morning, around 6am today I went to the filling station to get petrol, well she knows I eat early always, maybe 6am or 7am, I would have taken breakfast, but she has never dished me food at that time, I always do it myself whenever she is around. When I got back from the filling station, I still met my girlfriend on the bed pressing her phone, I told her I'm hungry and I will want to eat Spaghetti with tomato sauce, and she replied "Baby, please cook it yourself, you said I'm your queen, pamper me na" Really? What does that have to do with you cooking for your fiance?

Well, I was annoyed, I went to the kitchen and prepared the food myself, the truth is when the food was ready, I only dished my own and ate, she said "What about her? Won't she eat?" I didn't answer her!

Aside from this, sincerely sometimes she talks to me rudely, and one thing she and I knows is that she is very very stubborn and not ready to submit to any man. Sincerely, this attitude is making me scared of settling down with her, I want to propose her this year and do the marriage rights but with all this behaviours I'm thinking the marriage will be hell for me.

When she came over yesterday, I prepared food for her before her arrival, and I served her, all she could say was "What is this? The food taste bad! Is this food or poison?" She never gave a good compliments about the meal, yet she finished the food and went for second round.

Last night before we went to bed, I told her to warm the rice and the stew, she said it won't get spoilt that she will do it in the morning, I asked her if she is sure, she said Yes. And I went to the kitchen before preparing my Spaghetti, I saw the rice is already bad and can't be eaten, I showed it to her and she was like "haaa she doesn't know it will spoil"

Also, the chicken I bought yesterday to cook her the meal, I couldn't use all, I left some in the pot, and I forgot to warm it last night, my girl saw it while washing the plates this morning, and she was like "What is this?" I told her chicken and she said "And you didn't warm it" she left it there in the pot like that without doing anything to revive it. Before I went to the kitchen to do it myself!

She only washed the plates, bath and went to church this morning, she didn't arrange the bed, nor sweep the room littered with all we ate last night. I'm sure of the message she is passing to me... "Have washed the plates, you clean the house".

Please guys, I want to propose her around August and settle down with her in November, but this behaviours are the things turning me off.

Will she changed and act normal when we get married, or this will continue? The guys she chat with, which I told her I don't like it, she replied that "She will never and ever leave them". All these types of attitudes and not showing me respect, do you think she will change after we get married or she will continue?

Please guys, I'm very confused here

. You must be a SIMPle mumu for typing this long epistle for us to read just because of a girl. And a cheating one at that!!!

Iyaebe:
Eiya I wish they can compensate her with freedom,they should release her

. Upon say she used clitocurrency to win it?

Atimjessy:
I just signed up on nairaland today so I can just pour out my mind.
I have been coming to this site for almost a year now because this is where I get latest and trending news.
I live with my brother who cares about me a lot but he has been too strict with me. I FEEL CAGED! Can you imagine I don't have a Facebook account, I can't use WhatsApp, I don't even have a bank account. If someone wants to send me money, I usually use our neighbor's son account.
He monitors my calls and contact list.
I only use e-mail because he said I will be using it for future registrations.
I envy my friends a lot. I'm in my mid-teens.
I am just fed up.

. He doesn't want you to start gobbling dick. But you don't know that he's saving you from so many heartaches.

Jeon:
ur mouth still dy smell.

May God have mercy on you

Jeon:
yet wise men insult women because they don't have penis....

. Insults withdrawn, with apologies. Go and become a better, God fearing person.
God bless you.

Jeon:
ur mouth dy smell.

. Wise men seek Jesus.

gasparpisciotta:
Pastor wan buy GLE 4matic...

. With cannabis? He is just a ganja user. Cannabis is a poor man's drug. He said he would use it to be getting high during his "crusade".
End-time pastor.

Jeon:
how about you keep those words to urself..

. I won't keep it to myself only. I will share it with other people like you that need it. You need God. And I tell you that with the love of God.

Jeon:
ur cup of tea

u are fooling and catching cruise with urself... I meant every state I wrote on NL

well the sea never forbid body nor the transformers

so devil know God..
and how about ur fornicating career? have you turned a new leaf? or have you changed the hatred u have for the image he created because they lack penis?

. Just repent. It will be well with you if you do.

Jeon:
eno CONCER u..

so shut up

E concern God wey create you. Initially I was just joking and catching cruise with you. But discovering that you are gay, I am disturbed. Honestly, you need to change and turn a new leaf. God still loves you. Jesus can mend your life and turn things around for you.
Please make room for God in your life.
God bless you.

SlyDev:
Every tribe have apprenticeships system that work, they are not just as loud as igbos, every things you boast of others have done it before you.

Yoruba enrich themselves with civilisations like the Europeans but at the same time have respect and forbearance like the Japanese.

. Envy over even matters like this? Na waooo. Even when it's a Yoruba man that said the thing?

Jeon:
None of ur concerns smelly rotten decomposed dick that possess butyric acid, mercaptans +hydrogen sulfide smell looking for well been vagina to infect.

. Mumu rotten accursed abominable filth.

Jeon:
Cry the more, I love the pains you are passing through since yesterday.

. Tueehhhh
Rotten and arccused things claiming to be humans.
I hope you are wearing your Pampers on your leaky leaky anus.

[quote author=Jeon post=110973289]we don't deal with illiterate that think LGBTQ is about craving for dick and pussey..


smelly rotten decomposed dick that possess butyric acid, mercaptans +hydrogen sulfide smell..[/quotel]. You are a rotten abominable gay, Bleep off!!!!! I thought I was even engaging a normal human being. I didn't know it's an accursed abominable filth all along. Go away!!!! You polluted the whole world.

Jeon:
smelly rotten decomposed dick that possess butyric acid, mercaptans +hydrogen sulfide smell..

. I now see, you are abandoned and you crave dickkk. Well I can't help you. Mine is special breed. It's not meant for rotten toto holes.

Jeon:
smelly rotten decomposed dick that possess butyric acid, mercaptans +hydrogen sulfide smell..

I'm so glad you done the research..

now ur can learn how to keep your private part without infecting others

that was why the Lord said " thou shall not fornicate"

. You are actually an abominable gay??

Jeon:
smelly rotten decomposed dick that possess butyric acid, mercaptans +hydrogen sulfide smell..

. You are actually a gay? I should have known that!!!!!!!! Abomination!!!!!!

lecturer50:
Another thing that is surprising is that most men don't help a fellow man but would rather help women.

But when they have problem, it is a man they would run to for help.

Most men would not go to a woman to get help but they would rather seek help from a man.

But these are the people who like helping only women.

So if they have a need, why not go to women to seek help since it is only women you help?

Why go to a man?


If you are a man, and you help only women, why do you think another man should help you when you don't normally help a man?


I mean, it's very ironical.


Most males believe it is not proper for men to ask help from women.


They equally believe that as a man, they should help only women.


But when they have problem, they still expect a fellow man to help them.


Is it not totally ironical that you don't help another man but you expect another man to help you?


If you believe you must only help a woman, why not seek help from a woman when you also have problem?

I don't understand the irony that characterizes the life of men.

. Me, I no send women. I can try for a man anyway but not women.

Ahmed0336:
Love is Blind

. Blinded by lust and foolish emotions rather.

Jeon:
is like you don’t understand what is the meaning of @bolded if nah me I for don commot for this world.

smelly rotten decomposed dick that possess butyric acid, mercaptans +hydrogen sulfide smell..

All those chemical reactions are what caused your toto to smell like rotten fish? Sorry send your aza so that you can go and get treatment.

ChiefSosa:
I pity Putin. He is lucky Buhari doesn't have his time yet. By the time buhari gets angry, and start sending troops, nukes and missiles to Russia, I can assure you that Putin will beg for mercy, and he'll regret invading Ukraine. He is lucky buhari is busy landing from one hospital to another, if not, buhari for don show am pepper.

. Buhari would come and borrow his remaining money. Sapa go come hd am well.

Jeon:
smelly rotten decomposed dick that possess butyric acid +hydrogen sulfide smell..

. So upon your smelling tito, you are still a bitter soul?

Jeon:
smelly rotten decomposed dick that possess butyric acid +hydrogen sulfide smell..

. This girl like me well well. Thanks for trolling a dick. Fine babe like you. Send me your aza.

Jeon:
smelly rotten decomposed dick that possess butyric acid +hydrogen sulfide smell..

. Come, I go carry you dash aboki for our gate.

Jeon:
smelly rotten decomposed dick that possess butyric acid +hydrogen sulfide smell..

. Our aboki fit manage you. He dey like smelly tito girls.

Jeon:
smelly rotten decomposed dick that possess butyric acid +hydrogen sulfide smell..

. If no be say you worwor, I for manage you. But my aboki fit manage you. Im dey like smelly ones.

Jeon:
smelly rotten decomposed dick that possess butyric acid +hydrogen sulfide smell..

. And you so much want to have a taste of it? I for allow you if no be say you ugly reach that side.

MCKitchen:
Chai... Evil world. Some are wives , sisters , mother's, and best friends. Crime doesn't pay folks while some are also false accusations. Whatever you do keep your head up.
Prison warders dey enjoy especially the oga kpatakpata on top.

. Correct oil dey your head.