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folake4u:
I don answer am already.

He nor even need citations and reference.

It is big MENT to say Women don't support women financially.

I saw your response... I said respond to his query not bury him 10 feet deep

You dey mind him, he's just being mischievous.

Funny story!!!

But you see that habit of church people visit without prior notice like they are looking to catch you in sin ehn it's not funny at all I don't like it at all.

lavylilly:

Sorry biko

I don't just like reading those stuff

Y'all won't hear the end of this on this section

If only ladies had quietly moved on, there will be no permutations and combinations like this .

Folake4u come and answer Op in not less than 30,000 words with graphical and pictorial illustrations. Citations and References not older than 10 years is a crucial requirement.

Your time start now.

Zonefree:
The person that introduced this nonsense "words of affirmation" to Nigerian girls will find it difficult to make Heaven.

That thing dey annoy me I won't lie

Say it to yourself in your quiet time and move on, you see these ladies posting it everywhere.

Sugarson dey celebrate him catch .

So now 40plus and above are the hot cake . Nlanders ehn

This is beautiful 😍

kakaaa77:
it's not by force if it doesn't work it doesn't work, just move on there's so many fish in the River keep on casting your net

A very good motivational drive to end up lonely and sad.

Instead of you to tell op to tame his mouth you are here giving "motigbetional" speech

pansophist:
What I wrote was a twist to the saying that "you should know the truth, and the truth shall set you free". If the op didn't insult her, then if she breaks up, the reason for the breakup will be revealed. There is a chance that this insult is just an excuse.

Anyone can break up with anyone, but the best you can do is not to operate and believe in a lie, thinking they left because of your mistake when in reality, they wanted to leave long ago, and just waiting for a justification.

Nope. I didn't made her to be anything, and I didn't blame for leaving. All I am saying is that one shouldn't be architect of their own problems.

If you'll shoot me, the least I can do is to not make you shoot me with my gun and bullet. I won't contribute to anything that will not be in my interest.

And if you will leave due to maybe you find another man, then leave, so I don't disturb myself thinking you left because I insulted you.

Anybody can leave and break up with you, but your actions should not conceal their true intentions for leaving. If she wanted to make it work for example, she might forgive, because people go hard for who they love.

Are you saying "being verbally abusive" isn't enough reason for anyone man or woman to leave? There is also a chance the insults are the only reason for the break up . Your first post suggested that " insults are not reason enough for break up" your second post solidifies that notion. I suspect you haven't met real verbally abusive people you'd ask yourself over and over again what you are doing with them. It's obvious from the narrative, Op does it regularly and I believe that alone is more than enough to leave. Although you may be leaning on the idea that it isn't enough for a woman to leave. Am I right?

You are right on second paragraph nevertheless that shouldn't absorb one of true reflections on what went wrong and how one can be better. I'm also an advocate of clearing terms when you end things. Leave no one in that dark place uncertainty and unwarranted guilt.

Taken. And being an architect can be something "as minor as being insulting to a partner"

Again you invalidate her reason for leaving because somewhere deep down, you believe that's not a valid reason. Pan am I right?

Okay let me reason with you here. There could be more than one reasons why the lady left with the major being constant verbal abuse. I mean what if there's someone who makes her feel better of herself than Op does and she decided to give the person a chance after several failed attempts to make the relationship work with op. Are you saying the fact that she chose that person overrides the major flaw that led to her decision of going for the other man? Does walking out of a relationship due to constant verbal abuse conceal the decision to be with another man who is better?

Point is there is a deal breaker for everyone, (verbal abuse should be for all but eh some people survive). There will always be a reason for people to walk out. You can be a perfect gift that ends up in the wrong hands. You don't have to be at yourself up over it. True reflections is fine but trying to be vindictive and all clean isn't a nice thing, nobody is that perfect. You don't have to prove yourself to anyone.
BTW you invalidate her reason with your last phrase. You can love someone and not be with them if they will be your end. That doesn't mean you love them less.

A one time thing or a regular thing?

pansophist:
You don't insult or curse who you love. It's like telling me you love me but give me poison to drink when I said I am thirsty. Your words are useless, it's your actions that matters.

Next time, make sure it's not your fault when things go bad. Control yourself and your mouth. Maybe she has set trap to leave and dump the blame on you, and you've given her the vehicle, fuel, and keys to zoom off.

You've absorb her of any guilt she may have if she was secretly looking for an exit route. And also soften the chance for her to retune, if her next relationship may not work.

You've missed the chance for her to possibly miss you after seeing the trash in the dating world. You've also legitimize the lies she may tell others, after all, you insult her and can be guilty of the rest.

No matter the nonsense out there, she will convince herself that she can't go back because you're abusive, and emotionally traumatised her, and more fancy words.

When smart people want to punish you, they will wait for you to give them the rope to crucify you with. The rope you gave her what's the insult, and she used it perfectly.

And your conscience will always tell you that she left because it's your fault. In your next relationship, try get small sense before you enter. It is important.

This is a bittersweet post as you somehow make it seem like she's evil, manipulative and dubious for leaving a glaring toxic relationship.

A relationship isn't a do or die affair that one has to be sneaky about ending it especially a bad one. If I read right, according to you a relationship is something you have to play smart about so you don't end looking bad even when you know it's not right for you. Like you have to play hide and seek so people won't think you are bad because you end something that doesn't favour you. 😂 abi did I read wrongly?

A lady walked out of a relationship with a tongue ripper but you made it seem like that's a very bad thing to do and Op gave her chances. What if verbal abuse is the only reason she ended the relationship?

You think it's only men that wants peace of mind? Lol You can't have a caustic tongue and expect the world to adjust to it. Honestly I don't know how partners "insult" each other during arguments. I have never experienced that! Like you argue, say your mind in harsh tones but "insults"? Naaaah.

That was how one too called his girlfriend " a prostitute" on another thread. Like who are these people? 😄

CrownOfClay724:
Apt!🥱

Reason a man has to expand his harem as much as possible when he have a job aresources to do so.

As a man you don't have a business being loyal to people who are only loyal to what you can provide for them.

Whatever makes you sleep well dude!

If you want to be fed, sheltered and clothed by a woman, knock yourself out. Don't come here to cry wolf when she demands submission or goes masculine on you.

As for your last paragraph, you don't need a woman who feeds you to be loyal, loyalty isn't the average Nigerian man's forte! So next time you want to ruffle feathers , do it right.

idahme:
I don't blame women who have this notion, I blame men for making life easy and allowing women enjoy without commiserate interest with knowing behind the scenes of how the money is made.

For an adult to have zero accountability and responsibilities for herself another must have made her to believe this rubbish mindset by throwing money at her thereby making her life easier. When you meet someone that allows you take responsibility for yourself you will start gnashing your teeth.

Roll this and shove it into the darkest part of your body!

I stated my opinion (a basic fact) if you are not good with it go twerk on a cactus plant!

Dexy4yah:
Madam i hope u have a source of income??
you seem like one that depends on a man toomuch. Just asking respectfully sha

Softlife baby! Just responding respectfully.

That's because women are not created to be providers! Whoever loses job should get another!

EmperorCaesar:
Did u even go through his write-up?
Can u feel the pain in his heart via this message?
After all that, is this the best u can fine up with?

U people no just get heart

Shame on men who still consider cohabiting with women in 2024

Eyah... Sorry

If you will waste your time making sense of a tale of a man who wrote thousands of words without sharing the Genesis of his problem then be my guest.

A woman can't be like that from the beginning and he goes on to marry her. Ask him what he did wrong, what he has been doing wrongly and what he's still doing wrongly for his wife whom is a descendant of women who "die there" in marriage (African Women) to give up on him and the marriage.

😂😂 Op is not ready yet 🤣