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While I do not believe in divorce and I am a hard fan of "till death do us part" I'd still choose my sanity and safety over anything.

I can't risk my life with a philandering husband or an abusive one. That is why I always pray to choose right. God abeg o

I won't say I don't forgive, believe me I do. I give lots of chances even senseless ones to anyone I care about. But the day I have had enough or you tell me to go, I'm never coming back. It's like closing a chapter never to reopen .

A woman can forgive countless times but once she's had enough lol it's over. And that isn't unforgiving it is letting go of thorns. No one wants to pick up a thorn he or she finally let go.

One of the reasons I stopped sowing for people back then. You would have spent money finish before cloth ready, he go come be like suffering

folake4u:
Perse please!!!

It's fast and cheaper nah

Use Oracle.

I like this part of Igbo culture Sha

Yes


Weirdest thing that ever happened.

folake4u:
It is oh. I dare not tell my family this piece of info right now.

For real oh.

Even before coming to my place, I had told her one month. She also told her sister that I gave her one month.

I will only be doing gentle reminder henceforth.

Lol... Don't tell them yet biko. From experience (not exactly accommodating someone but rendering help) Parents will blame you for being too helpful . It may not necessarily be blame but subtle reprimands especially if something bad or unpleasant comes out of you being helpful. Give them the full gist after everything is settled Else you won't hear the end of it.

Be glad you gave her a time frame... You played safe. Hold on to that lol two weeks is here already.

State of emergency? That bad? Omohhh I dey fear now o .

GloriousGbola:
Folake has had it up to here. She has spent the last 2 days researching how to handle undesirable roommates.

You saw her "shares" too? Folake4u shared 2012 posts ... E don be for that lady .

On a serious note though, the lady's attitude is why people hardly accommodate one another these days. It's very bad

folake4u:
Even me sef shock at her mannerisms.

I will tell her today and let her know she should start looking for space. Let me even shock you, she has an elder sister here but that one rejected her. I was SHOCKED!!!!!

Wawu that's serious!!!

She should do better nah.

The truth is you don't really know people until you get closer to them. If she's willing to listen and change you can help her get through it

If otherwise buy her "GHANA MUST GO"

Congratulations

Nigerian men monitor their women's veejays more than they monitor their country's GDP

See what leaders of tomorrow are debating and writing epistles on.

Believe in your husband more.. He can only lead better when you trust him enough to make right decisions.

Lol

@folake4u
I understand you oo, I just didn't expect it to be so soon .

Please let her know your grouse I hope she change without bad feelings

folake4u:
This thread is much needed oh. I have two weeks to tell this babe to leave my house because she's becoming too comfortable and also dirty.

How can you leave dishes in the sink for a full day before you wash them?

Phew!!!

Wahala

You all will be alright

Say what you want and stop confusing somebody's son.


BTW who beat the boy above me, why is he angry?

folake4u:
Abi oh.

The things wey concern me for this life nor reach 5 and this one nor join at all.

Old money and new money people. All of them go dey alright.

modernWays:
Did you see force sex in my post?

Did you acknowledge CONSENT in your post?

folake4u:
I don't want problem ohhh. For real.

Same here, I dont know anything on Dakore's marriage but this discourse was on Twitter earlier today.

I kuku tire for all these Old v. New money people sef. Money is money!

Oh . I see.


Make Old money dey marry Old money... Make new money stick with new money..

All these noise is unnecessary

obaidan:
Everything na gaslighting to una. E say rejects, thank God for faceless forum wey dey give some of una voice. If you are raising your own daughters already I wish u all the best on that, if you are looking to get married I still wish u all the best.

Offline I will say this to you over and over again with back ups self.

It's annoying how you lot in your shallow mindedness will pick the wrong lessons from narratives and project it as the gospel truth. So young women should kiss every frog because they don't want people like you to blame them for being lonely and call them failure even when they are successful in other areas of life.

Your case study Wofia had it rough in life but kept striving until she's where she is now yet the only lesson you could pick is her being just married and 38 . She even hooked old money young blood self . If rushing into marriage and not saying No is what you want "young women" to learn from her story then you have a very long way to go.

Keep your best wishes to yourself, I don't need wishes from a mind so shallow.

folake4u:
For real oh. Any family that does not accept me, no matter how much I love the person, I don run comot. I nor like stress.
Infact, they should give me $100m and I'd leave their son alone.

I wish her luck as well. That's how folks said Dakore's marriage was. That the family didn't approve and she had to write kini kan undertaking or so.

Likkkkkkeeeeee I don't want problem... Too much headache.

I don't know much about Dakore's marriage. Infact I know nothing. I barely keep up with all these celebrities and Old money people.

obaidan:
Dear young girls,

He is not my type, he is not rich enough, he is not trendy enough, he is not tall dark and handsome, he doesn't have full beards. He is not this, he is not that. Dem dey tell una now, una dey find weytin no lost.
Shey u see weytin dey happen to ur role models at 38. This babe still dey lucky na, shey the boy still decided to go ahead with her against the wish of his family, plenty babes dey for street, dem no even mind make the family of the man even do billboard and advert on NTA news to rubbish them like ds, make the boy just decide to be with them. Even if e no Marry them, make e just dey for dem like bf or fiance, make dem for get chance of pregnancy.

The babe dey play with fire sha, make nothing happen to the boy o, otherwise she go pay lawyer money tire. She no go jail o but they will unsettle her in a very big way

This gaslighting tactics is obsolete try another.

A woman has the right to reject whoever she wants to reject. She has the right to want the best and choose the best. If you fall in the post of the rejects , work on yourself and hope someone find you worthy.

Keep this tale by moonlight to yourself but you may choose to use it to scare your own female kids into marrying the wrong persons if you like.

folake4u:
Hahahaha you're not serious.

Old money people and their wahala.😂😂😂

I tell you! Marrying into such family isn't easy especially if the person is not of their social circle. They see everyone outside their circle as "social climber " no matter how "comfortable or well to do" the person is. If you don't have a name, you can't come in.

I wish Wofia luck. May God give her enough Panadol for her existing and yet to come headache.

folake4u:
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Tunde nor get family letterhead paper.

Chai... Na true o , shey I will not reconsider like this

Or better still I fit help am create one. That letterhead dey important.

folake4u:
But I nor lie. 😂😂😂

You no lie oooo my sister . Lemme go ask Tunde self

Jman06:
Easier said than done!

The truth is that no wise lady should get married into a Nigerian family without the family's consent. This is Nigeria not yankie

I agree with you on this.

See how they stylishly disown her .

folake4u:
Future date question: Does your family have letterhead paper?

This is so funny 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

GrandFinale2021:
Bamidele Olamide the troll on nairaland that cloned your account. That's his real name.
I'm also a troll too

Oh... He has an identity? I wouldn't know.

Like being a troll is an achievement or something? Lol Nevermind.

GrandFinale2021:
keep talking rubbish.
No wonder why Bamidele cloned your account and trolled you.
Next time he'll troll you to deactivation

And who is Bamidele please?

Afrobasic:
No you don't, but the redpill summarised what you proposed.

The redpill on Nl? You are kidding right? Nl redpill is all about hating women and not self development

modernWays:
You must be one inexperience in his early 20's to have asked this kind of question. Women don't visit random men withiout expectation of sex. The ones that won't have sex will only come during their monthly period or with a friends.

You don't need to ask a woman that voluntarily visit you any love/like question, just make your move and scope her small if she first resist.

Until they slam you with rape allegations then you come online to scream "Women are evil run away from them"

Una go learn .