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Corps1000:
So, just wait it out then? So, if he doesn't contact me for the duration of his trip, which is 2 weeks, shouldn't I assume it's over? Just because he is with his family doesn't mean he can't contact me. Of course, that hasn't happened and I shouldn't assume..

But today is Christmas and so far, didn't get a Merry Christmas call or text and I know in Nigeria right now, it's almost 930 PM

In my first post that i quoted you, I said something about "some" red flags on your own part. The first one i mentioned is that - you are too emotionaly.

Now the next one? your Ego, yeah you said "if he does not contact you, you wont contact him" well this ego dancing a ballet here. sorry if am picking bones on your own end but like they say

"the truth will set you free, but first it will piss you off"

You said something about being afraid that you dont want to get hurt, let me ask you who wants that? is it the men that are suppose to be guinea pigs for Dr Heartbreak to cut to pieces for his experiments? they say a feeble heart does not win a fair lady, i believe this goes both ways.

this explains why fvckboys are very successful, cos they will say what you want to hear, make that call you are now waiting for, infact they will go as far as they can go to get what they want. you will mistake their unrelenting effort for commitment. well i have news for you not every man has time for girls that make them feel they are not important.

Look my dear friend, they say its not easy to find a good woman and even if you did, they dont come easy, the same goes with men.
but if you feel you are too important for him to ignore you when he is with his family, then pls leave the guy alone and find a man that will give up his family for you.

The ball is actually in your court, cos you told him you will be too busy this period, so he has let you be i see nothing wrong in that.


Am just curios why use "Corps" of all the names for your moniker?

Corps1000:
I admit I can get make emotionally rash decisions. I guess because I like him, I don't want to get hurt so I figure end it before it happens?

Well, he never responded to my last message and didn't even say good-bye. If you were in my shoes, how would you feel?

If he had doubt about me, why invite me with him to see his family? Hmm, I didn't do anything. Also, he is pretty laid back.

Well am not trying to play devil advocate here cos I don't really know this guy you are talking about..


But..


If I were to invite my girlfriend to come and celebrate Christmas with me and my family and she turns me down, I will feel bad, heck I will even feel am not important to her, I might even feel she already has plans to celebrate it with someone else. We Nigerians make a very big deal about Christmas, it's very close to some ppls heart.

I understand your reason for declining the invitation, how did I know? Cos you just told us.
The question now is does he know your reason for declining? Or you are expecting him to have X-ray vision to see thru your mind?

It's a good thing you guys flow or vibe (according to you)
So this next thing won't be too difficult for you..

Pick your phone and call him, ask how is Christmas over there, ask him how its going with the family....

Then...

Tell him why you declined his offer.

It shouldn't be too complicated, we can only help with suggestions, but the answer to your doubts is with him.
So...
Ask him.
Like I told my ex once, it's all about communication, with communication you can sail thru troubled waters.

Corps1000:
He didn't seem that bummed that I declined. He just didn't buy my excuse that work was the reason for me declining. Well, I flew out to see him so clearly I am into him. I declined because the relationship is still very new so I don't feel comfortable meeting his family just yet.

I also was dating other guys at the same time (no sex) and in part,dropped them, to give this a real shot. As I actually liked him and we vibed well from the 1st date.

I was actually thinking there could be a future there because our goals, upbringing, and perspectives are very similar.

I admit I am kinda closed off to an extent because it's hard to trust men, but he seemed legit but him being kinda distant, I am having doubts.

I will wait for him and see if he reaches to me and share how I feel. And affirm that I like him.

I see some red flags in your own part, you are too emotional and that's not good, you may ask why I said that - you said you deleted his number never to contact him again. And why on earth will you do that?

He may have the same doubt about you just like you have the same doubts him. If He is like me, little things can set me off, it maybe something you may have missed but it's a big issue to him.

Don't jump into conclusions just yet, and you have to stop being too emotional, it's not healthy, it can make some men freeze in their tracks.

Sai89:
;black Fada Xmas, Thanks Sir

So you are that missing Ape that escaped from the zoo, you must be staving that explains your scrawny looks, pls return to your zoo, you will feed better there.

You have my deepest sympathy.

cartwing:
i will help you to purchase them. you are 100% covered

Pls state your total cost per Kg

talk2saintify:
lol

I can relate with number 8., as for the rest I don't know what you are trying to say.

proxillin:
Thats not a starting point. Its just an example of how they answer questions stupidly

I understand your point, but this one wont cut it even for the smart ones.

proxillin:
Is it only me or has anyone also noticed Nigerian girls are dry when it comes to conversation?

On chat, just ask any of them this question, then you start receiving funny answers.

Lady A
Me: Can I meet you?
Lady A: at where?

Lady B
Me: Can I meet you?
Lady B: Maybe

Lady C
Me: Can I meet you?
Lady C: I am not a call girl

Lady D
Me: Can I meet you?
Lady D: When I get back to Lagos

I can continue to count on and on.

Whats your experience chatting with them? Add to the list

OP, this is the lamest line to start a convo I have ever seen, you will only get dumb answers for dumb questions like this.

amakadihot87:
........nne dont mind these small small boys here o.......they can insult

But women keep saying size doesn't matter. But you are very wrong about this, its random phenomenon among men of all shapes and size.

isaacfreeman99:
My wife took my phone and deleted jane's number and saved her number as Jane.

You see, someone had tipped my wife off about my side chick, jane. I then got an SMS from jane asking for #5,000 airtime. I rushed out to the mall, bought the airtime, and sent it to jane, She did not acknowledge receipt of the airtime.

When I was relaxing at home after work, I kept wondering if jane had received the airtime. So I sent her an SMS to find out if she had received the airtime. Her response was, "Call me now".

I got out of the house to make the call. You can imagine my horror when my wife answered the call! .......

Well to cut the long story short, I'm still standing outside.....��

Should I go inside or go back to work?

Just relax and enjoy what's coming to you

I don't know why all the evil things in this world is only done by Buhari

queenfav:
Hahaha.. I can relate.

Don't tell me you have hot temper.

Whitegrlinnaija:
Well thank you for the eye opener for your culture. Honesty, respect and faithfulness are all regular expectations of men where I live. I think any man who think they can take advantage of woman who works 50 hours, makes more than one thousand every time every week and supports them is more silly than anyone I know. ��

Just walk away, severe your lose. Am sure your instincts has already told you he is cheating that's why you open this thread.

It's won't matter what is said here, what matters is if you are willing to make big decisions.

If you put in 100% in a relationship you should expect nothing less in return from your partner.
Good women deserve good men, don't settle for less.

gidjah:
Never a trophy. I still find it hard to look up people in the face. As old as I am. This thing sef na wala. but thank God for us, it is a great set to be conserved.

Have you ever asked your self "what the fvck am I afraid of?"

charley94:
but you mentioned you could help with anything

As a matter of fact am helping you. If I should help you find a girlfriend you will continue being a guy with a very very low self esteem.

You must learn to handle rejection, that way you will stop being afraid of trying.


This you must do on your own.

Gucciqueen38:
Was good

OK, now am waiting for the cold hands of sleep.

gidjah:
Don't mind her jare! By virtue of my kind of job you won't even believe yours truly can't scope a babe. Was with a very high profile Nigerian today who wanted t get certain luxurious gadget from me, we have been talking for like a week and he seem to be enjoying all my flows until we met today, I couldn't even look him in the eyes o! Right here in the federal capital city he came to my base to pick me up with his car, I was so ashamed... But at last last sha I had to convince him it was me o. Before him go change his mind about buying my hi-tech gadget. Thank god that pay alert Don enter now and d deal has been sealed. Bottom line:we should learn to pretend to be extroverts a times, It help us to appreciate thebopposite temperament and become less selfish. You begin to understand how the other person feels when u snub him or give him d cold shoulder.

Lol,
To be an introvert is not a trophy o, we just have to work on our weaknesses, which is to be out going.

Gucciqueen38:
Okay.. Hope you are home now?

Yeah. How was your day?

Gucciqueen38:
Got issues with it for now. But I sent you a message yesterday na...

Ok will reply it. no fuel, no light.
Its been a long day.

Gucciqueen38:

Seems you have divorced your mail box

charley94:
Good can you help me get a girlfriend

No Sir, this you must do on your own.

Olarewajub:
The good old days....

I was not here in the beginning, but from what I gather here, it's like Ppl don't have a problem with how they are.

But if a person needs help I will be willing to help in any way I can.

Definitely, in fact I wont waste time.
It will it's just be blissful.

OP, it only benefits men that have always want to live a responsible life and raise a family.

Or in short - it only benefits men that want to be responsible.

parismarc:
A free cook, a free washing machine, a human being you can vent your anger and frustration on and go Scott free, a person you can share 50 percent of your bills with and still call your self the head. Ain't that blissful??

It's been long I saw the victim card played like this. Are you talking about the women in Saudi Arabia, or UAE or those Arabic countries where women are not given access to the internet or you are talking about Nigeria that is infested with feminist driven female population and where being a slay queen is now the craze of the decade.

Did I read you correctly when you said "share 50% of the bill"? I think I need to buy me some reading glasses.

Maybe I mistakenly stumbled on thread for WOMEN LIVING IN THE ARABIC COUNTRIES.



In summary = as long as you are in Nigeria your post is white lie.

MhizzAJ:
How is it a big deal
Because he's a cleric?

Precisely.
They are the ones "Judging" Ppl.

Hypocrites

ibkkk:
Hmmm...

OK, I have mentioned you, me too I be winch