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EastGold:
DSS whose job ought to be intelligent gathering has veered off to inviting and arresting harmless citizens

He made accusations, then i see nothing wrong with the continual invitations extended to him. He must clear the air and perhaps help the DSS with his new found intelligence.

Nbotee:
Madam calm down... We all know d fish U sold to buy dat car and na Abuja U dey sef.. U don turn motivational speaker. Considering it sometimes smells like fish, U technically sold fish

Your head is there!!

You may call it Insecurity, but i will not in my right senses allow such rubbish.

I will not tolerate that at all. It didnt matched my concise at all.

paulolee:
not even alllwed for my girl to try that when we are dating not to talk of courtship or marriage..
the only male friends that my girl or wife is allowed to have are my brothers and her blood brothers and also her cousins aint allowed too..
Reasons- girls having male friends and besties have done more harm than good in relationship...thats my opinion, thank u

God bless you!

Mouth Action is better than No Job.


Think am.

My guy,

Your case is somehow similar to mine. Ever since a girl rejected me during High school days, i detest women in their entirety. I find it difficult to have any emotion with regards to women. I find it extremely difficult to even waste my time wooing or complimenting a girl. I just dont know what is wrong with me. I also spent my 4years in the university without a girlfriend.

I am not GAY!!
Sometime i think may be its because of my upbringing, religion and culture.
Hausa Muslim Orphan

TheBlessedHero:
1. Make your own rule and be the law, what works for others, might not works for you.
2. That people want you to succeed doesn't mean their advice is the best for you.
3. Dream and dream big, as a man thinketh in his heart, so is he. There's power in dreams that drive us.
4. Don't be "Jesus" for anybody, you're not here to die for people.
5. Believe in something, even if it's in sand or yourself, there's power in belief, it works most of the time.
6. Nobody loves you more than yourself, not even "God", if your doubt, ask "Him" to trade place with you.
7. You're just another being, that is, don't ever think you're special, like specially created by "God", nah, you'll be shocked when things stop/don't go your way.
8. Life is not fair, that you're poor today doesn't mean you'll be rich tomorrow.
9. Enjoy your life while you can, it's the only thing you have power over.
10. Grace and Luck is REAL.

But you don't even have power over your life man, if you think you do, then never fall sick and never die, live forever.

Ausrichie:
Number 3 and number 6 to me are not true. If I'm with you and your family doesn't like me then you choose one me or them. Social skills are not completely necessary and looking for connections will only make you an asslicker.

Though it is your own opinion, but i think you still have a lot to learn in this life. Nevertheless, i will still advise you to look for connections, You will see wonders later in life.

pansophist:
1. Lions are called the king of the jungle because Tigers (and other stronger formidable predators) do not live in the jungle. In other words, the people who look down on you do so because you haven't assumed your throne and shine in your glory. Go be a king in your domain.

2. Resurrect your inner b!tch. The world is a jungle, and being Mr nice guy will not take you far. The unrelenting you are to exhume your inner b!itch, the farther you go.

3. Formal education will make you a living, but self-education will make you a fortune. True life's education is experienced outside the classroom. know the difference between to be schooled and to be educated.

4. Being nice and incapable of inflicting harm is not a virtue. It is a weakness. The ability to inflict an untold amount of damages, but chooses not to, is a virtue.

5. If they stand behind you protect them. If they stand beside you, respect them. But if they stand against you, destroy them.

6. Be aware of your vices, and do not let it destroy your life. A typical vice for men is philandering, negative aggression, greed, alcoholism, etc. For women, it is prostitution, chaos, vindictiveness, narcissism, and dissatisfaction.

7. The antidote to suffering in life is responsibility. pursue what is worth dying for, and every other suffering you pass through shall be insignificant.

8. Never be afraid to walk alone, instead be afraid to walk mindlessly with the crowd. Your mind can be your greatest asset, and your greatest liability, depending on if you nourish it well. Be a solitary Tiger if needed, not a mindless sheep.

9. As a man, your superpower lies in being masculine, and for women, being feminine. Understand this and accentuate it to the best of your ability.

10. The ability to express yourself eloquently is power. The power of speech can move mountains, bring down standing armies, and give meaning to life. Be eloquent. The content of your speech speaks more about the speaker, as opposed to the subject. The formation of your mental sophistication is expressed through the content of your words.

11. The weaker you are, the more fight you will get into. The stronger you are, the less fight you will get into either. To thrive is to be tough.

12. Anyone that loves you in the truest meaning of love is your family. Love unites people not blood, though love coming from blood relation is thicker. To understand the true meaning of love, substitute the word ''love'' with responsibility. Love without responsibility is not love, it is infatuation.

13. the natural mandate is that anything valuable comes from the inside. If an egg is broken by an outside force, life ends. If it is broken by an inner force, life begins. Do not let external forces suppress your inner voice.

14. Approach every human relationship and connections with a sense of mutualism, conversely, do not entangle with someone who does not understand this timeless rules. Mutualism is growth, parasitism is death. The tree provides shelter for the bird to nest, and the birds help the tree by spreading its seeds to fertile ground. to germinate.

15. The gentle walk of a tiger is not foolishness, but strategic. In life, know when to give up, preserver, and what deserves your energy and resources, to avoid falling deep into the "sunk cost effect".

16. Have boundaries. A hen is harmless, but as soon as it hatches, its mouth used for eating becomes a weapon to defend and protects it chick, regardless of the aggressors size.

Thanks for these words of wisdom.
Though you sounded more of a machiavellian

plessis:
Jesus cried

He had to!

Juliusmomoh:
Must everything bad comes from anambra . .
#shame on them

You ever heard anything good coming from that part of the country?

Winning team ahbi

Made4naijalove:
When u r ready to move on, just know u will always be welcome to the winning team, Man U

Another one died today.
Professor Balarabe Maikaba of Bayero University, Mass Comm. Dept.

Engrgreg231:
are you serious

Total of 13 notable people died yesterday and today Professor Balarabe Maikaba of Bayero University, Mass Communication Deptartment also died.

Two (2) professors of Bayero University also died today, and three (3) people from the neighbouring community also died.

He attends Saint Paul Collage.
Wusasa Zaria.

The thought of marriage always scare me.

Eulalia:
This news again?
If this news is for real, then the man has lost his senses and this clearly shows why man can rape a mad woman.
Now i believe when a man is Hot, he can sleep with anything. Imagine how this man is behaving in public. One hot slap from one strong guy there will reset his brain to factory settings. What rubbish?

It's not your fault.

Hausaboy239:
Am still caught up in this!
Had this girl i was dating since 2015,i was 20 in my 300level and she was 18,we really liked each other so much but her parents got someone they thought was good for her, you may have an idea of how northern parents impose marriage on their daughters.
The man they chose for her was much older atleast he was up to 45 then although she didn’t like him but there was nothing she could do. We weren’t getting intimate before the marriage issue came up but we started having sex a month before her marriage,we even had sex on her wedding day.

Fast forward to after her marriage,we promised each other we were going to keep off each other but after some months we were back making calls and chatting though she was in another state and i was in school.

More than a year passed by,we were on and off but were fooling ourselves that we were just friends. Whenever she has problems with her hubby i will be the first person she will look for cause she can’t report to her parents(they’re blinded by his money).

Unfortunately i was done with uni and went to serve in Abuja and that was were it started again,she was staying there and the husband had traveled abroad and was staying for bout 8months there.

Cut the story short,we started seeing each other often and anytime we met it happened to the extent that we got used to it!
I finished serving 2017 and got a job in Abuja,she’s still with her husband but we still hook up anytime she’s chanced though it could take months sometimes but I really feel bad when I think bout it and i sincerely want to call it off!

Pls how can i do stop it?

E no go better for you.
Adultery!!
God will punish You.
Be rest assured that Karma is always benevolent in returning the Favor.

What if you ask her out and she reject? What will you do? Sack her?

Recycling.
Bravo.

Stacyomolola:
The kind of post I would be making on my wts status
He would even feel I never loved him from onset

Did he tell you he will be viewing your status?
Girls sef..

pentsystems:
I have been in your shoes before with an older virgin .. The more older a woman gets the more painful it will for her .. I believe your dick is too big or you have a curve dick that is another complication itself .. all you need to do
Step 1 : fun play with her by kissing and sucking her boobs . Kiss and lick all the sensible part in her body

Step 2 : start by trying to insert a pencil or a finger inside her private part first you have to assure her first that all the pain only happens in a a second that once your finger is in that all pains will be gone you may need to hook her down while trying to insert your finger inside her no matter what don’t pity her and make sure you are fast enough to be successful in your first attempt of doing that never allow her tell you that your finger is so painful that she prefers your dick just tell her there is no logic there that since your finger cannot enter how possible will it be for something as hard and big as your dick to enter when your finger cannot enter .. when successful with that .. you try to stroke the part with your finger gently till she is very relaxed while you are stroking with her private part with a finger

Step 3 : when you notice she is well relaxed introduce a second finger inside her private part without telling her about it you will need to hook her down and make sure she does not overpower you into removing your fingers from inside her private part just shook it in and hook her even if she is crying don’t remove your finger you will feel that you tearing something while inserting your second finger just continue till the second finger is fully inside her then keep it inside her because if you remove it you have to start again from step 1 another day then start stroking deep with the 2 finger till she is comfortable with it .. you may need to introduce a third finger if you have a bigger or a curve dick .. after that remove your fingers make sure you don’t let her rest ..

Step 4 : Try using lubricant i recommend olive oil and not Vaseline on your dick then try inserting it into her private part I pray it goes in but if it does not tell her to come up and try inserting it herself definitely it will go in if you have done your finger job well .. Then you stroke her with your dick slowly and gently till you cum ..

Note : make sure you don’t put on ac and even if are using fan make sure you switch it to lowest .. because breeze dry some pussy faster making it more painful for her .. You can also give her alcohol maybe Best Cream drink or night train it will help her a lot to beat the fear..

Hope small boys no Dey here no be me teach una bad thing ooo

Respect !!

Donald3d:


I am about to go very raw, kindly permit me, I haven't gone this raw here before, but you need help, so here it is.
I hope this doesn't change people's perspectives about me sha , we Nigerians like been mute about sex. Its an important ingredient in marriage, no matter how spiritual you are.

The best way to solve any problem is identifying the source or root of the problem and eliminate it .

From what you have said, she enjoys pre-intimacy , I would have loved to ask what type of pre-initmacy to help find a solution, but I also understand she is your wife and you can't be too explicit because this is a public forum.

Anyway, as I said earlier, let's tackle the source of the problem, which is FEAR, she is afraid, very afraid, so we need to eliminate the fear.

She is also pressured because you are "reporting" her to people, keep this between both of you Sir, please stop involving other people, fear and pressure is a very dangerous combination.

Please don't give her any sedatives, you really don't need it.

The issue with her fear is closely related to why lubricant aren't even working, the internal muscles of her privates would contract making it tighter because she is afraid, her natural lubrication won't also be discharged because her fear is making her mind "switch" it off, coupled with the fact that you are also scared of inflicting injuries on her privates.

There are two possible ways to eliminate her fear

1.Trying to convince her not to be afraid (easier said than done)
2. Introducing something that would involuntarily eliminate her fear.

I assume you have tried number 1, let's go to number two.
There are a few things that are greater than fear, but we would be sticking to the subject matter.
In this context and with the peculiarity of the situation, there is only one thing I believe can exceed that fear ...... Pleasure , Excessive Pleasure, when a human experiences excessive pleasure, the body releases pain killers and anti-stress chemicals.

So what should you do ?
You need a non-invasive pleasure mechanism, proven and tested , the most painless sexual activity. Guaranteed to give utmost pleasure .
You guessed it , O r a l Sex.

Its isn't just about putting your mouth there , you need to do it right (forgive me as I am about to go a bit raw).

You know your wife more than anyone, you know what turns her on, her pleasure spots. Use your mouth very well on those spots.
You need to understand that there is a mission here. O r g a s m
But there are some "hot spots" common among most women

1. The nipples
2.The clitoris

I would focus on number 2 ..
1.Make sure the bed is well made, clean sheets, turn on the AC , if you don't have one, turn on the fan and leave it running to cool the room. Make sure no one else except the both of you is in your home, she needs to be comfortable.

2.Ensure you both have a warm bath and wash each others privates before you commence.You wash hers, she washes yours.Try and start up a conversation about some funny experiences you've both had, how you met each other and fell in love , how much you love her, all while washing each others privates. You are psychologically manipulating/distracting her with this.When you are done, dry each others body and carry her to the bed.Careful, so you don't slip and fall oo, you can leave that part out, but women love it !. You can back her like a baby or carry her in your arms, whichever you are ok with. Make sure she is unclad, but put on a boxers short, this eliminates her fears of seeing an erect instrument.

3.Its important you place a pillow under her waist to elevate her lower region, it allows for easy access with your mouth and with your instrument, when its time for insertion. It also ensures you don't feel neck pain and can breathe well during the process.

4.Use your mouth on the clitoris till she "explodes", don't stop no matter how long it takes, but you have to be careful not to be too hard on it as you would get the opposite of the desired effect, you would give her pain instead of pleasure. You need to be gentle and firm(I know this sounds contradictory, I would explain), use your lips as they are soft tissue, that won't cause much bruising, suck on it, in and out, grab the whole of it (the clitoris--- I have attached an image for easy identification, its that slightly protruding part of her privates that looks like a mini peeeenis) with your lips and gently slide it out of your mouth, without it leaving your mouth completely, make sure your lips holds unto it(this is what stimulate it and gives pleasure), but not too tightly, you can use your tongue as support to put the clitoris in place, if the clitoris is slipping out of your mouth. Keep repeating this back and forth.

5.Now, its important to hold her, so you can feel the "rhythm" of her body, hold her sides, or her laps, start out slowly, but not to slowly, gradually increase your "sucking pace" as you notice the rhythm of her body starts to change . This method ensures you don't bruise her and you also don't get tired easily.It also ensures a natural flow and gradual increase in pleasure.It would get to a point you might have to go really fast, this clouds her brain with pleasure, do this only when the rhythm of her body tells you to do so, when she starts to slightly wriggle or when she asks you to increase your pace.

6. Do this till she "explodes", and wriggles in pleasure, most likely at this point you are also erect, its important you take advantage of this moment, because at this point, you have killed three birds with one stone. She is too climaxed to notice her fear, her body has released enough chemicals to considerably reduce pain and she is properly lubricated for relatively easy insertion.Don't waste time !!!. Slowly (not too slowly), insert, before she comes back to reality . Make sure the pillow is still under her it ensures her lower region is elevated, so you can see clearly for insertion , I assume from the beginning she is already lying flat on her back, spread her legs out gently, this also relaxes/expands the cavity of her privates.If you still find it a bit difficult to penetrate, manually use both hands to spread the outer privates open for easy access, glide in back and forth as you both copulate to produce a wonderful seed that would bear fruit in 9 months.

7. You might need to do this more than once to be successful at it .
8.The fact that you did all this doesn't mean she might not feel pain, it just reduces the pain, it also might totally eliminate it.
9.Once you start have it in mind that you must see it through till the end.
10.If she is in excessive pain, stop and repeat the same day or another day till you get it done.


NOTE: Please stop reporting her to people, apart from the fear she is feeling, reporting her or telling other people about it, is putting her under additional pressure and stress, its adding to her Psychological lock-down. Please don't be upset with her. Buy her gifts, make her feel loved, make her understand you aren't judging her or upset with her. I am sure this steps would work for you

NB: I am married by the way, in case anyone was wondering.

You are a Legend!

The post was deleted.

You have being dating yourself for long..
I rejoice with you that you realized it now.

The choice is yours sha, But dont be a Tobi

ModestGal:
Only na idiot doesn't know SUNNIS are very brutal, dominating and arrogant. They are the bokoharamist, they are the ISIS, and they are the Afghanistan Taliban's, past government. The only thing they do is bomb, and kill. Then the few who are not joining them in killings are supporting them with their stupid preachings. You are not in support of terrorism and war, but, yet, they will be publicly uttering that Christians are going to hell fire, they should be killed. There's no where the SUNNIS are that can ever be peaceful, especially with their neighbours who are not fellow SUNNIs or Fellow Muslims. The SUNNIS should not be part of this world,since they can't cohabit peacefully. Because the land belongs to everyone, young or old, Christians or pagans

Stop commenting on what you dont know, but you refused!

tonididdy:
Your culture is shitt

No it is not bruh.

Nebuchadnezar:
at least they're better than their sunni counterpart burning police stations and terrorising

they're maintaining social distancing and with protective equipments

Stop Commenting on what you don't really know.
Just because someone said he is Sunni doesn't makes him to be one.
Action speaks louder than voice.

Italian Military Salutes The Medical Doctors.

Your mates are struggling out there to help find the cure of this pandemic, but you're here wasting your precious time on a girl that I am sure is not beautiful..

No wonder Buhari said YOU'RE LAZY.

tetula123:
Say no to incest. And for that man quoting me down there. I know people who did it doesn’t mean I support incest. It’s a taboo where I am from and I know the detriment of it both traditionally and medically.
I used a whole lot, I shouldn’t have, but try going to sites like quora and reddit and see a lot of story foreigners who do it even when it’s a taboo there as well.

In my own culture and tradition, You can marry you cousin. There is nothing wrong with it. It's not incest or abomination at all.