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Reminderz:
If that's your behaviour and mentality, and if you're a woman, men go chop you, dump you, use you, till you wash... And then, they will go for the fresh young ones... keep deceiving yourself... Time kuku favour men, let's see if time does same to you, sheybi women and men are the same abi? You eyes go soon clear..

The so called time that favours men and doesn't favours women are those women who are "Desperate for kids"...
Besides which one be men go chop me? Financially abi sexually?
Coz with money I can get any type of NSA sex....
So what is it exactly that husband can do that other men outside can't do?? Lol.
Abeg rest....

Katcall:
are you single

Does it matter? Does my opinion depends on my martial Status?

imagrg:
You are not a wife material.

If a woman that slaves herself is now a wife material to you, then we aren't on the same page...
Besides, how you rate your wife is how others will rate them and see them..

kazyhm:
How does this answer any of the questions ?

Those without life experience shouldn't have an opinion...........especially someone with shabby and myopic sentiments.

It seems you can't differentiated values from quantity.........

Ok

Reminderz:
this is why most of y'll ladies are dumb thinking you're wise... [/b]a woman and a man are not the same and can never be the same.[b].. how men see women is different from how women see men... men will ask you for sex, the good ones and the bad ones... the wise ones among them (whether good or bad) will understand by that statement she made that she's not meant for keeps... he would think, "if she can have sex with me on the first date, she would probably have a high mileage... she's probably a hoe who have sex with men on first dates"... women are mostly judged sexually, men are judged financially or by his status in the society... you guys keep thinking you're on the same level as a man, that's delusional... some men will ask you for sex on first day or somewhere around just to test you, if you accept, he will fvck you and conclude in his mind never to take you serious... if you find nothing wrong in having sex on a first date, you be olosho... top level!

no matter how attractive a woman finds a man, she should never have sex with him on the first date unless she's a hoe or she's probably in just for the fun of it or nothing serious... a woman with standards and who goes for the real thing won't stoop that low... olosho nor get standards... for someone like her, anything goes... this is why they end up getting used and dump by numerous men and end up saying "mehn are scum" while they brought it upon themselves...

Abeg rest... All these epistle just to justify the behaviour of a man... Well, the good thing with life is dat no matter how bad or good Ur behaviour is, you will still find someone that is attracted to you...
But if this how u always reason, I just dey pity the woman wey dey reason u

Lols... So now ladies demanding sex on first date is now loose and tagged a slut....
But those guys that have sex on first and every meeting are now saints...
Lolz...
It seems NL guys are so insecure, they can't stand someone dishing out what they themselves are fond of dishing out to others....
If I'm attracted to you, I see no reason why we can't have sex on first date .. unless you aren't in the mood..

kazyhm:
Please the bolded statements refer.
1) please define good life.
2) please define life achievement.

If you're delusional, please don't export it to others.

If you define having a child as life achievement, then those poor families with 10 children have attained the highest level of achievement

BigBashiru:
Well said. I modified one of my posts and wanted to make sure you saw the modification:

It is not a bad thing for a woman not to be inclined to be a mother... The problem we have in Nigeria is we try to force motherhood on every woman... Some women are meant to be career women who have no or little interest in men, some are meant to be nuns in the convent, some are meant to be mistresses and concubines, some female players, etc... its not a bad thing....

Kudos to you dear

djon78:
I don't know how old you are
But having your own children brings joy, happiness and fulfilment

Then nurturing them well and they become responsible and successful
There is no Joy that pass that


Loneliness no good at all at all
Even Baba God talk am for Bible that it's not good for Man to be alone

Loneliness not good at all
One needs either a spouse or children

What do u want to use to "Nurture" the children ?
Isn't it Money?
After God is money....
Although money is not everything...
But money makes life sweet... Children won't...
But rather, Money and kids make life interesting

Error401:
First impression lasts longer, you should at least try to do it. Most mothers wont allow you being the first time, but respect is reciprocal.
This is only in respect to my tribe, Most yoruba mothers will give you that honor for the first time, they wont allow you else you insist.But you will gain the respect for trying

What do u mean by first impression?? To be slaving on first day? No thanks

YesDaddy1:
''Being happy is not an achievement...''
Hello??

If u have all those things u listed: money, assets, standard of living etc and u are depressed or sick, u go know what happiness means.

Obviously u are still a yungin.....at least in mind.

Ok...

worksmart:
It is arguably our purpose on this earth. Your children are a rout to immortality in this world.

Ok

BigBashiru:
I also agree with you that having a child is not a life achievement.... in fact, human beings are an evil specie full of sin and evil mindedness - why then do we continue to have kids as if kids are angels?

The primary reason for having children is to have a successor....

Yes... That's true...kids contunues our lineage... But the main question is as a man what lineage do you want to pass on when you/ the man is poor...
Even bible said A good man leaveth an inheritance to his children's children, so you need to look yourself well to know if you are able to take care of that child and keep "investment" for him to continue....
So everybody has reproductive organs, but not all has the money to train a child

jaksmillioniar:
I think like u wen I was young wen not married. U have a baby brain.wen I born I knew dat dat was my biggest achivement in life d best thing dat happen to me.wen u marry u will understand children are gift

Better reanalyse your life... Your child is not an achievement... Any potent man and fertile woman can conceive regardless of their financial status...
So your child won't make your life better or worse... Maybe seeing them gives you joy, that's fine, but being happy isn't an achievement....
Are your living well?
Is your standard of Living high/good?
Do u have assets,?
Consider all those....

Lol... So who's to say she hasn't been sexually molesting him while he was young... Now that they are married, it's now legal for her to do to him all her fantasies....
But most boys / guys are always shy to speak out when being molested....

Imagine me telling a male frnd that will rape him... He say "I am all yours"...
Men! Men!! Men!!!

Smh

worksmart:
Yes but people have ways of deluding themselves until one day their eyes clear and regret hits hard.

It is a million times better to have a child out of wedlock than than to have no child and be regretting.

To have a child is easy....To see to the needs of that child is the problem..
Try and go out and be exposed and see that there are actually some people living good lives who are aren't bothered about kids...
Some people are actually living for today.. they don't think about anything like future or tomorrow...
So having a child is not a life achievement...
It's just a common option for those who are Sexually Mature to procreate...

Lolss.. Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder..

worksmart:
Of course not, but it is an important objective of almost every person in life.
You don't want to allow your child-bearing years to pass you by and then start regretting when it is too late.

I'm sure she noticed the "Childbearing years" more than any other person....

worksmart:
Single or not, you need to get pregnant and start having babies before it is too late.
My candid advice to you.

Is having a child a must? Children doesn't guarantee a high standard of living.. children does guarantee long life.. children doesn't guarantee living a well satisfied life... So why should she have kids when obviously she said she doesn't need them... Live and let live

ecolime:
I could still feel the pains behind your writeup. Please don't put yourself under any pressure.

Also, know that no one is perfect so don't always look out for men that ticks all your boxes.

God will surely do your own.

pains behind your write up... Are you trying to bullying her into admitting what you want to hear even if it not the truth

Money first my dear.... No matter how ugly you are, once your pocket is deep, your are my Mr Nigeria...

Since its progressive to them I see no big deal

Thick and straight long divk... And can maintain a long lasting erection....

thaoriginator:
shut up! E get wetin una no fit carry?

Lol... The man too big abeg..

Lol... This big and heavy man... Na wa oo.. Some girls dey try ooo to fit carry man wey heavy like dis..

Rip pastor

It's not right... But sadly you can't do anything as a parent... Just condemn nd scorn their lifestyle and you also move on with your life...
Since those guys are above 18, then they were already adult...

Why renting a apartment that will take all your finance? Being a tenant is not a competition so don't feel as if you have to rent a high quality place to prove you are up to standard...
You are still new in the compound to be asking loan... Don't take your landlord jovial character for granted...
That loan you need and want to ask from him might likely be the beginning of the end of the relationship between both of you...
If you need a loan try and approach your bank or a loan company and "SIGN AGREEMENT" with them...
I'm sure because your landlord is a friendly person, you will feel bad when he gives you loan with interest... Abi?

Quenncee:
I think say na community dey train Pekin?

Wrong... When the child becomes a menace in the same community, who will be held responsible? Is it the community or the Parent

Here in Nigeria, it's very easy to procreate, but difficult to monitor and train a child....
Most people or parents are just after giving birth, then they give little care to the wellbeing of the child and rather occupy themselves with "working for the family to eat"..
We hardly employ the services of qualified caretaker to look after the kids...
Surprisingly, in this day and age, some people don't know that looking after a child or children is a full time job.... Coz the wellbeing of your own child is your responsibility completely...
It is well

Lol .. All these people attend one church ooo.... see insults.. lol....

talented321:
Yes

Since when?? ..
Okay I will sample you and confirm... Most virgin men don't last . Dem dey quick cum

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Thanks... I'm doing fine ... Business is going well...
Thanks anyway