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Awww so touching....
I dunno I feel so emotional when I see grown-up men cry....🙈🙈🙈🙈

coputa:
If it's character and behavior that holds or break marriages,does some characters and behaviors not tied to every ethnic groups in Nigeria,be it negative or positive.

Nigeria as a whole is a community... Now, it's left for her people to behave well or not...
Marriage is not a child's play!!!!!
It's not a place where you mold your type of man or woman....
You are tying yourself to someone already moulded, and this person comes with his or her specific behaviour...
So now it's all about understanding and the willingness to forgive... If you can't cope or forgive then just divorce the person... Simple
No need to be displaying irresponsible behaviour or attitude or be aggressive....
That's why aside financial aspect, Psychological Maturity is very important in marriage.... Coz there are some certain marital issues that are bigger than what Money or Sex can solve.....

coputa:
Correct, but conflicts in marriages involving people of same tribe and culture are easily resolved.

Lols... There are hardly two thesame type of conflicts... So because of the varieties of conflicts, there are different ways to resolve them.. and irrespective of thesame tribe and culture, they can still be solved, of unsolved.......
Haven't you seen a case of two blood brothers who ended up enemies for life, and also two best friends of different culture ended up being "Pals" for life .....
So like I said earlier, behaviour matters, even in this conflict issue... Because there are some people who are the unforgiving type...lol.. heaven must fall before they forgive you, irrespective of where you come from oooo....

Very sweet looking woman...

Lols... It depends... Lagos is a very diverse neighborhood... There are locations that can accommodate the very wealthy, and also location that can accommodate the average, and likewise the poor....
But to be economically "Okay", in Nigerian standard, a family of 4, kids inclusive then the minimum is 200k monthly, provided by either one or both parents.....
And you will live in the very remote area and be hustling everyday....

Then there's no maximum, for as your income increases, your demands increases and your location changes....

The level of exposure matters a lot to intending couples and their parents....
Both forms of marriage has their pros and cons ....
But know this that, what makes or breaks a relationship/marriage is BIGGER THAN TRIBE, CULTURE AND/TRADITION.... INSTEAD IT IS CHARACTER AND BEHAVIOUR....
If you like marry your village head, or the best in another village, if the person has a bad character, the whole marriage will scatter....

Well that's true.... The educational system needs total overhaul.....
We are too in a haste to "Graduate" and have certificate.....
The rush to finish school quick....
Everybody wants to be called a graduate..
We have lots of universities, lots of graduate, but very few with entrepreneurial skills....
As a developing country, we need to channel our educational system to courses and subjects that deals on handwork, skills, and practical....
A graduate of economics here, that can't get a good job, will be happy doing menial jobs abroad... Instead of doing it here...
Some day, we will get there

Gaspardd:
This post reeks of too much ignorance. You think life is all about our overpopulated lagos?
Dont just sit at the comfort of ur house being fed nonsense by arise news.... Go to some deep villages, you will trek almost 1km without seeing up to 50 people.

Yes, Lagos is over populated because it is the economic point of Nigeria...
Those sparsely populated villages, of it were economic viable, don't you think people will flood that place
Let's face fact, Nigeria of today, minimum monthly wage can't take care of an adult alone per month....
And this man is an adult and I doubt if he has constantly the minimum wage in his account monthly, and in addition, to feed his whole lot of children.....

BigRocky:
You talk like someone that lack home training.

Has he ever beg you for food to feed his children?

Did he tell you that he is living a satisfied or average life?? This your I-dont-care attitude is what is making people poorer and poorer.....
Why encouraging this excessive childbearing from this poor man?? Why??
Why are you not concerned about the general welfare of the economy??
You just stay in your own zone and damn all others...

An adage says, "Sweep your compound, I'll sweep my own, then the whole community will be neat"...

Lol... Wahala... Na this bony fish you wan use feed your plenty children....
Some people needs to go to jail honestly....
You are in the village, deep village....
You are trying to overpopulate the nation...
Now ordinary feeding, you pack fresh bony fish full basket....

Ignorance truly is bliss...

Lol .. I must look for way to puke so I can rest.... If not, I'll be having that feeling that it's still inside me

Lol.. this one is not "Freezer", this one is fridge.
Secondly, 4 months yet it can close on its own without the help of padlocks...
Thirdly, 4 months, with scratches left and right..
Okay

Lol

Dem don pay Seun for dis one lol

This one don come again Na wa oo....

I so much love that Sisi Pelebe

Life.....
To progress in life is now very hard because since you can't progress alone without the assistance of someone, then that person who supposed to be your anchor is now your downfall...
Life..
Where will she start from?

Even me myself, going through my previous chats, I'll be wondering if na me chat all these slutty chats🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣.


HBP is real.... Nevery check your "date" phone... To avoid unnecessary chest pain...

Pics or I don't believe 🙊🙊🙊🙊🙊

When you were dating and thinkiyof marriage to the woman what were you expecting?
You didn't learn her language.
You didn't teach her your own.
So allow the kids to learn her own.. when you come around you teach them yours.

Sleeping together is just a preference... Some likes it, some don't....
But all I know is , when you love and get married to your best friend, then you guys will do everything single thing together without it looking weird .....
Sleeping together makes a couple very close and very free with eachother...
It also makes one to be acutely aware of the health of the other....
It also makes their kids see the importance of Love when both parents sleeps together....
It also makes sex to be spontaneous instead of "timetable"....
It also makes it easier for both of them to discuss mental, physical, and social issues together especially those nighttime gist before sleeping.....

Lol... Funny how we tend to see things very cheap in the north when in reality it's almost the same.....
Using Lagos standard, one Mudu is equal one Derica and tin milk cup...
One Derica of Quality rice in Lagos goes for 700/800, then one cup is 200...
So that price is almost the same here in Lagos...
But note that once something made I. Nigeria is up to quality, then automatically the price will equal it's imported counterparts...
So good sandfree local rice in Nigeria is the same price with foreign rice .....
Nigerian economics is very difficult to study...

Food don land for ndi simps.... Them go drag this one like tiger gen for here today....

No need to divorce since you are sure it's a terminal illness... Just wait till he kick the bucket

Lie Mohammad go come say this news dey spoil Nigerian name....


But it's the truth....

This our gender sef... Wetin we go call this one? Public borehole ABI wetin? One day she go ask you say make you bring the whole men for your working place come she want check something 🤣🤣🤣...


Well, those are just fantasy it doesn't portray who she is...

OKOATA:
Those men that trusted their wife wetin happen to dem last last. Who trust help. I rather trust my mom, siblings and my dog than trust my wife.

Lol... U wouldn't have gotten married in the first place..

I so much love this question...
When I keep saying that marriage is not for everybody, people keeps condemning me...
Why will you get married to someone whom you don't trust?
Don't you know that marriage is more or less for life?
If all your life you are still searching for "the one" and you haven't seen, keep searching. Don't settle for less, because questions like this you will give the wrong answer.....
Marry your friend. Marry someone who makes you smile.

In my opinion, a Man's next of kin should be his wife in everything.
A Woman's next of kin should be her husband.
Then their properties will be inherited and shared among their children legally when they(parents) die....
Simple

Lols.
All these fvck and go men.
Just look at how they are attacking him up there?
That shows he didn't trust his wife during the marriage.
Had it been a married woman entrusted her properties to her father, how will her husband feel?
Irresponsible men everywhere, always wanting to eat their cake and have it back...
Rubbish

PerfectJUSTICE:
It's obvious

Lol

PerfectJUSTICE:
Sorry how old are you again?

Toddler