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Please nairalanders, is illicit sex a must or what? Who prescribed or who made it a lawful way that ppl are now normalising it. Unlawful sex is a Satan way and will always be. People don't fear God, diseases or whatever repercussion at all. Make una continue, God is waiting

Why won't u take care of the child when he/she knows only u as father. Who do u think will take d child away from u? Or do u intend to dump him in a dump site?

There is really nothing u can do other than to continue taking care of him. Where will u dump him, even when the mother might have returned to the streets to hustle and you love d child just as he loves u too?

Yes of course. Sex shd only be in a marriage not outside it. That's why we the Hausa men only go to the girl's father's house to chat and we don't take them out

AuntRose:
Wike is drinking too much and it's very obvious,, looking like a drunkard everytime

he is actually a man of integrity not an ogogoro sipper

Once mistakes have happened, we should accept our faults and take measures to guard against committing more of such mistakes again. As a man before getting married make sure you marry a chaste and decent lady and not a suspicious or loose lady whom u don't trust, not a lady that u will be forced to conduct a DNA test on her and your children because u feel she slept around and got impregnated by outsiders. It's very bad and inappropriate to start denying ur child of his/her paternity because of ur initial fault of marrying a prostitute woman.
I still remember reading about a man who had to disown two of his children and divorced his wife because of DNA testing and prostition by his estranged wife. Now what's he gonna do with those children he disowned? Will the estranged wife take custody of them and take them along as she roam the streets for more clients? Of course not. Would it not have been better the man accept his fate and mistake of marrying a loose woman and take precautions against marrying such type of ditrty woman again?

I thought el rufai had cleared banditry n criminality from Kaduna state

I hope its that you slept with all those loose ipob street girls o

Typing:
Na Igbo People dey marry underage Girls most.

underage girl child marriage in the south east! I find it really hard to believe this. Where was Oby Ezekwesili and her likes when all these were happening?

Its simple. Most ppl in the society are extremely poor and bad looking cos no money to take proper care of themselves , so to feel a little bit good about themselves they treat every good looking educated and prospective person with hate and try to tarnish their images. It's just pure jealousy

Asquare84:
The idoma's have fear of alekwu, that why the fear adultery in marriage.

they fear nothing abeg , are we not all in the same society again? We dey see their behavior and movement na. Ladies from all those tribes are dangerous n risky to wife except you are from amongst them

No its not a way to go. Children born in ur home ate urs, nobody can lawfully claim them other than you. Don't embarrass those innocent kids or their mothers

1Sharon:
They haven't stopped lol

maybe they don't want to be criticized by Yoruba and southern press/NGOs in general. And besides,times have changed, nobody wants a wife who can't take care of herself these days.
You know here in the south its even an abomination to marry or sleep with teenagers, because we all believe that they shd either be in school or serving their parents at those ages

Hope he won't pick up n spread d disease

While growing up many years a go, we learnt and saw how northerners and hausa men were always marrying teenage girls and sometimes even those below 10 years ,but now all of a sudden all that have stopped. What has really happened this past few years that put a stop all that? Or have hausa men become more westernised and educated than before? Or have those girls become less attractive to them? I really wonder. On my part , I think the girls have become smaller in statue more than they were years back, such that these days 13 and 15 year olds now look like 5 and 7 year olds of yester years. In the past , teenage girls used to the gold standard when looking for a bride but now a days their body sizes have reduced drastically such that these men don't see them as ladies but rather as babies. However in some part of the western worlds, where nutrition is adequate and children grow well, some of the men from the local culture still marry teenage ladies. But here in the 3rd world where is far from being adequate, no man from whatever culture dare to marry teenagers again, except they are gonna risk being labelled paedophile

Razgas:
It's a good thing Northerners want to have sex with Igbo girls.
On the other hand, a typical Igbo man has zero interest in a Northern woman.
No beef, just what's up.

not really, Hausa ppl and igbos are some kind of enemies so I don't understand what u mean that hausa men wanna sex Igbo women. Except if u mean that they wanna rape Igbo ladies

Why not exchange love with one of those love peddlers

tnerro1:
while one does it for money, the other gives it for free, I no call names ooo😁😁😁

all of them have now monetized it

Bonding, they will easily bond with their husbands cos that's their first and only true love
No issues of male besties who in most cases are nothing but boyfriends

How will most of them get a husband if they won't consider men who are below their so-called standard?

Many ppl tend to believe that Igbo and Benue culture are the same sexually. They see both Igbo, idoma and tiv as sexually dirty ppl who give their wives to strangers for sexual activities and prostitution. Well for me I think ppl should do more research on the origin of those tribes before making conclusions. One I have to realise is that Igbo,idoma n tiv are all cousins

Are u married or u a bad guy?

Kevineleven:
You claim to be male but the threads that you create gave you away as a female.
It's pleasure for the guys nothing more.

I'm s man but I don't know why some men go all the length ,every day even at very old ages to fornicate

SUPERPACK:
But when it results in pregnancy or HIV it becomes everyone's concern? They will now flood here with wahala thread.

No mind am abeg

HeatSeeker:
This your question is deeply flawed and portrays you as someone with very heavy biases that will not change their view even when confronted with a superior argument.

Who told you that it is only men that enjoy sex?

How is sex between two consenting adults unlawful or illicit?

To learn, you need to have an open mind and drop preconceived ideas.

OK oga let's go I'm ready to learn, pls spill the gains. Thank u

Na wa o. Well I don't think I can ever marry or date tiv, Igbo or idoma women because of their dirty sexual cultures n ways

I know some women might claim that its a gold mine for them, but for the male folks I'm still at a lost over whats driving them and what the gain is in engaging in illicit unlawful sex with women/prostitutes? Actually, if anything men stand to lose their wealth,health reputation and even religiosity

Abeg give her the money, don't deprive her pls just bcoz she refuse u to fornicate her, don't u know many of us including ladies find illicit sex highly disgusting and abhor it like hell

Na patience u go take na, abi u wan beat am ne?

That's not true, not all women are dog-like in nature. Here in d far north west our ladies are good, that's why you see many women never had anything to do wit any man except their husbands whom they married from teenage yrs

Well I wouldn't say love before marriage here in the far north is forbidden but it's with utmost care n observation from the elders because anything that can lead to illicit relationship is better curtailed early even before it starts. Most girls here marry as pristine virgins, so to maintain this tradition, the girls are married out early as young as 9 or even in rare cases as young as 7 or 8. Much value isn't placed on western education as far as girls are concerned but their husbands may chose to educate their wives to any length they wish. However, they the husbands are at some risk of losing their wives to infidelity if they lose track

1. The fear of God in them is much in them
2. The love of money is quite low in them
3.Hausa Fulani women usually keep their virginity till marriage
4Hausa Fulani women are not very much westernised as most tribes
5. Most of them don't attend tertiary schools n d few who do don't find university prostitution compatible with their lifestyle