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Ok guys this is my first thread since I joined. Naira land not because I don't know what to write about but because am not good at writting long episttle so pardon my mistakes.


Now back to the topic, they met six months ago and they started dating now he asked her to move in with him but she refused she told me that she doesn't believe in cohabiting with a guy. Now this lady in question is a kind of person that likes being independent she likes to work for her money and the guy is not too bouyant infact any time she visits the guy she tend to spend more than when she stays in her house and he always want her to visit not considering the fact that the expenses is taking a toll on her. She told me that she is dating him because she tend to see him beyound his present status believing that his tomorrow will be better but he doesn't want to understand her he believes she doesn't care about him because she refuse to move in with him and now he is threatening to leave her if she do not move in with him. Nairalanders what do u think she should do because I don't believe in a lady performing wifly duties for a man who is not yet her husband and there is no certainty that they will be even though there is a promise of marriage but to me that's not enough to move in with a guy and I told her so.
But she claim to love this guy and she don't want to end the relationship she is confused as she don't know if to end it all or move in with him.


Please no insults. A matured and reasonable advice will be welcomed thanks.

Ok congrats to them

Daniel058:
we see it as insult... It's like calling someone ,, MUMU.. ..

Bia ebe!!!.. a nwa Wawa!!!

. Gosh pls stop this u r not igbo ok. Wawa is not an insult but a dialect in some part of enugu state used for the word NO unless u mean wawa inn hausa which means MUMU just like u stated.

Wsdm:
If you have never been to the North before, ask those of your friends who have. Any student from the North who got second class can challenge any of you with first class. We dont give out degrees in the North through prostitution and cultism. Ask Jega.
The house leaders simply asked for transparency in the schorlarship scheme and you are tailking of federal character. Why are you people so boastfull of wrong doing?

. Are u talking of a second class graduate from the north who is not a northerner or a notherner because what u wrote here is a very big and fat lie and u know it.

gistyinka:
**APC is the party that has protected Igbo people's lives and properties over these years. - Okorocha.
**Lagos APC government has the power to make life unbearable for all Igbo traders and resident in Lagos if they so wish.

The Imo state Governor, Owelle Rochas Okorocha has thrown his support for the Oba of Lagos, who threatened Igbos residing in Lagos of Death inside Lagoon if they fail to vote the APC Lagos Governorship candidate, Ambode, whom he claimed he hand picked for the position.

Okorocha speaking to the press in Imo state capital, Owerri, after Buhari's visit defended the Oba of Lagos and pointed out that the Oba of Lagos was not totally wrong in insisting that Igbos must vote Ambode .

He went further to echo that "Igbos should not portray themselves as ungrateful people, the only way they can show appreciation is by massively voting for APC the party that has protected their lives and properties over these years.

"The Lagos state government led by APC has the capacity to make life unbearable for all Igbo traders and resident in Lagos if they so wish. So you see, the Oba was figurative in his speech not necessarily that Igbos will be drowned in Lagoons" the governor added.

http://gistyinka.net/obas-of-lagos-threat-to-igbos-igbos-are-ungrateful-to-lagos-gov-rochas-okorocha/

. Hmmm thisis what. You get when you make a fulani man the governor of imo state

Well spoken like a true son of the soil we made our choice and we ve no regret over it.

ofala:
It is TIME to wipe all criminals OUT of our dear Country!.....

I believe that my able President-elect won't be jittery in executing his constitutional responsibilities of protecting every corner of Nigeria...

May 29th isn't far!!!"

hmmm is that you?

ziryboy:
Sentiment will kill u Igbos. U don't knw wat happen in River state, akwaibom, Imo n Edo? D election is not 100% ok but far better dan d way Jonathan win 2011. Useless people, I can never in my life hv anyting 2 do wit u guys again n even though, I will never trust u guys

so anyone that supports gej or make his observation known which is not inn favour of buhari is ibo right? The ibos dosent even want anything to do with u wht ever tribe it is u came from. U pple claim that the ibos are filled with so much hate while it is u who is filled with hate. And sentiments for the ibos. Rubbish.

What is wrong with u people with spreading false rumour,pls ennough of all this let's ve a moment of peace abeg.

How true is this? Or u just wanna put fear into people.

I can. Boldly tell u that the election in katsina was rigged beyound imagination. Katsina is big in land mas but don't ve much inhabitants. But they have a lot of almajiri children littered in all corners of the state whc they used in rigging as we ve rightly seen in the pics that ve been circulating. This election is far from free and fair especially here in the north but apc will say it is bcz they are winning it is only rigged whn they r not winning. Imaging election was not held in 7local govts that is mostly populated by southerners in kaduna.

cokacoola:
so you sheat on her and she cook last supar for you and you har ranting Mods plasea loakup this thrad

. Jeez what are u always writting?

Cutehector:
what insolence she chop winch? After all d guy did for her, if na me I go gang rape am. Nonsense.

. Don't u think u r rather too harsh on the said girl judging only from the op's side of the story. He may not be completely sincere abt the whole thing like the poster above u have stated.

[quote author=sinizia post=31502207]This is the scenario you get when the lady is also a BROKE ASS. Two of them are broke asses. Stop making it a man affair!! [/quote
]
I guess u didn't read my comment, didn't u see where I mentioned the girl bearing the burden alone both in finance? Now how will she be able to do that if she is a broke ass. My point is she will not hold onto that r/ship for if she alone will continue bearing the burden without a single help from the guy. She will definitely be having a second thought abt that romance

henribj:
thank you for being truthful and sharing your experience

thank um this thread also reminds me of a thread that said broke guys should not ve access to sex even if that is not entirely true there is some sense in wht she said nnow b4 u guys crucify me, let's just say a lady eventually falls in luv with a broke guy, they made luv and unluckily for them she gets pregnant now tell me how will this broke dude handle it, even if they decide to abort it where will the money come from? If it come from the lady bcz her man is a broke ass how long will she continue to love u and mk luv to u knowing fully well that she alone will bear the pain,n the risk and the financial burden of wht u both enjoyed. All the guys in this forum where busy cursing and calling her all sorts of name without giving a deeper thought to it apart from the gold digging aspect.
Though I think she would ve said broke and lazy guys bcz me I try to look beyond the present status of a man unless he is the lazy type

Lastly wht mks a man is not ur age nor ur third leg but ur ability to handle responsibilities, mk decisions and live with consequences of ur actions.

Who ever said money is not important in a r/ship doesn't knw wht he is saying. Money is important no matter how small. I use to think so until I dated a broke guy for how long will ur woman continue to come to ur house without u offering her tp for once yet u will always like to see her, u don't offer her money for her hair do or evenn body cream no matter how small even though she doesn't ask yet u will want her to look Good and sexy. Even if a woman does everything for her self a day will come when she will throw it back at ur face bcz a woman will always be a woman she expects u to do somethin for her no matter how small









Bottom line is, money is very very important in a r/ship at least for the simplest of thing that keeps a r/shp going only love is not enough.

What was he doing in the hotel whn he caught her? If he wasn't guilty of the same thing why didn't he mk it known to her there and then? My guess is that he was there with another woman too that was why he didn't say a thing to his wife to be so she won't also catch him in the act.

Lastly if he wanna call off the wedding he should mk sure he is being honest and fair to him self.

Iamfrank:
Sum pple r takin it too personal...... I didn't say he wanna leave d gal, I only said he is confused abt bn tired of sleepin wt ha........ Is it ideal for him to go ahead wt d marriage.....?.

Op u r the imaginary cousin, maybe its not ideal to go on with the marriage but try and mk sure she understand and agrees with ur reason that is my point. If u go ahead and dump her like that without mutual agreement even if she dosent witch hunt u, karma will definitely come after u bcz karma is justice and justice mks no mistake it is the law of nature and not the law of man.


By the way op wht was it that made u fall inlove with her in the first place, was it just for the sexual pleasure? Bcz that is the only reason that will mk u stop desiring her bcz u ve gotten it a thousand times, if u get married to ur new girl after hving sex with her a thousand times will u also not get tired of her?


Op don't even think of getting married just stay single.

Iamfrank:
D lady in question is d demandin type.....

. Is he just realising that, y didn't he notice that all those yrs he was a broke ass b4 he got a job? Wht an ungratefull being.

Iamfrank:
Am pretty sure he loves ha, cz up to dis moment sh neva lacks anytin, he gives ha everytin sh wants

. My friend will u just keep quiet how cann u be tired of someone u claim to love annd u call giving her material thinngs love after so many yrs of digging her? Now u are looking for an excuse to dump her annd u r using spending on her to justify ur. Action. Just to mk ur self feel better she was with u whnn u had nothing nw u r a graduate. With a good job u suddenly realise she is not good for enough for u. Op hmm. My advice for u is that u should discuss with her and mk her understand the reason u both need to part ways and pray she understands and agrees with u if not u will be inviting a curse upon ur self and who ever it is u finally tk as a wife if u just dump her like that.





My two cents

Op is sick maybe he need the agama lizard to cure his weeping. Cough

jaelz:
please i don't know whether am the only one seeing it like that o, buh there's this new man building his house in a developed place around my side wonder why he raised the gate so high and used such strong gates is anything wrong with the height of the building? or its just in my own imagination?

. Maybe he grew up in the north, come to katsina and see their fence, wht they use in building their fences will be enough to build a 2 bedroom flat.

Dragonking:
Up GEJ!!!!

Click like for GMB and share for GEJ let see who wins.

. Una no dey tire with this una share and like? Na wah o, it's childish abeg annd boring too

barcanista:
I specifically said IF the OP story was true...


Meaning nobody should be disenfranchised!!!!!

. It is very very true some times we will see all these their almajiri children with pvc and one can't help but wonder where they got it from. And they also register under age voters.

Pelmet:
How appalling...If true then, this ought to be on Front page as every Nigerian has the right to vote

. It is very true my friend.

doctokwus:
Which non indigenes when it was reported that as at 28/2/15,more than 90% of registered voters in katsina have collected their voters cards.
U people shd continue creating mischief.

. Which 90 percent? Something they are just dumping in the trash, yesterday some one brought a bag containing non indigens pvc he said he found it dumped some where I was a wittnness to this cz my lodge is opposite the church right here in katsina some of the church members were able to see theirs there. And this is not the first time this have happened.

[quote author=tom28 post=9169010]One of the main reasons that hausa girls hardly freak over money is because their various state Govts carter for their various needs by providing bursaries and allowances for especially hausa girls who are undergraduates.Note that such welfares are almost absent in the south.I even heard that in Kano state when a youth becomes an undergraduate he or she is provided with a car with fuel allowance but such things dont happen in the south.Though many ppl may think otherwise the northern part of nigeria is much richer than the southern part and the ppl over in the north hardly freak over things like ppl freak about in the south.For example blackberry that is giving many nigerian girls in the south jungle fever many hausa girls view it as a common commodity and u will never see a hausa girl begging a man for money.[/quote. ]. I only laff at the comments am seeing here some who has never been in the north talking about hausa/fulani not being materialistic. Op they may nnot be wearing brazilian hair but the amout of money they spend on jewelries is jaw brking and who told u they don't don't ask men for money? For the fact that u met one or two hausa/fulani who is nnot materialistic does not mean all of them are like that innfact they are evn more materialistic than u will ever know. Some of them u see are high class runs babe that roll mostly with their. Alhajis the onnly differennce is that they do it codedly so op don't come here annd say wht u don't knw.

Mr barcannista I don't knw if I should be happy or not, even though my pvc is for GEJ I just hope u sincerely and honestly thought this over b4 mkinh ur decision. Let me stop here b4 apc warriors start will start hauling insults on me.

contactmorak:
I believe she doesn't want to end up with another woman's husband

contactmorack I didn't comment yet u pmd me, how did u knw I was viewing the thread?

AustineE1:
people like you are the reason igbos will never support APC,because the party thrives on violence and built on the born to rule mentality of Hausa-Fulanis,the Yorubas may be comfortable with their perpetual servitude but we in the East/south-south are tired of the forced marriage where 'baboon dey work,monkey dey chop'.Yet i didnt hear you say that they lives of Northerners in the south is in danger,since Arewa consultative Forum equally endorsed Buhari.You are indeed a victim of darkness,a son of an unknown slave and a national clown,you are only good for comic relief.

how I wish there is more than one like to give you. Thanks for that response.

barcanista:
Jonathan has been an accomplice in all these sharing. All yje listed people supported Jonathan in 2011, TY Danjuma is a PDP Chieftain and Jonathan's confidente. Non of the mentioned people are Buhari's ally. This is another reason the Niger Delta must kick out Jonathan

may u not choke in your hate for jonathan. I ve never seen u say anything without calling jonathan even when he is not needed

lacasa:
Pictures don't tell the story here



The PDP Kaduna campaign team got so desperate to the extent that they couldn't mobilize average Kaduna people to go to the rally point today.


There were free buses to transport people but no passengers willing.


They had to start promising 10k to people and begging them to wear the branded GEJ shirts and caps b4 entering, ironically, that even made matters worse cos even wt the 10k people ignored them and still said NO!.


I was so proud of my KD people today wallahi.


Even wt the 10k inducement, they were not moved and some were even threatening to beat up the agents if they didn't leave the area.


From Zaria to KD metropolis this was the case.


This people you see were mobilized from groups under the budgeted payroll of the PDP registered wt Ahmadu Ali's campaign organization.


#I am in KD today and an eye witness to this fact!.


GEJ/PDP r like enemies of the state in most parts of Kaduna.



Even the Governor and Vice-president who are from the state are fearful themselves after the events that followed during Sarki Shehu's anniversary a month back.


Kaduna is an APC stronghold!
Quote me anywhere


Sai Buhari kawai!

. U can lie ehhh chai!!! There is God o