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the post is actually hilaruous.

My first question is - does every man deserve this superwoman they look for, the second will be if thats the case then why is it difficult from them to find this woman wherever?

It sounds like a man that is misbehaving is looking for a woman that will sit down and tolerate all his misbehaviors?

to add insult to injury he describes a wife as an asset, he doesnt even describe it he actually calls the woman an asset. . . . . *ranting away* . . .I cannot even begin . . . . .

Joy1706:
The man runs after everything in skirts, the woman is told to turn a blind eye. He impregnates one of his side chics, the woman is told not to leave her home for any woman and is even told to bring the baby into her home to raise. He infects her with STDS, she is told to use condoms and to do periodic tests. They also never fail to emphasise that she must never deny him sex. He goes as far as bringing his mistresses into their matrimonial home to sleep with and she is still told to turn a blind eye and pray till she can't move her jaw again. We hear all these advice from men and sadly, women too.
Where is one supposed to draw the line? When is it okay to leave a cheating husband? Why do we advise women to swallow all these bullshit? Abi, is it just me that finds a philandering man intolerable?

the very first time, ESPECIALLY if the man shows no remorse or no evidence that hes willing to change.

The man clearly has no regards for their marriage no respect for her and clearly not an iota of empathy for what hes putting her through. She's meant to be his wife!!

I don't entertain women staying with such men at all!

I like this - more of a report on what exactly the president has been doing til date.

and more so if this was straight from the horses mouth as it was delivered rather eloquently.

I have a greater understanding of his tackles, and BH should be his focal point as Nigeria has no business having such problems.

on to the ministers - It sounds like Buhari wants to micromanage ministerial departments before handing them over which is a great idea. He also wants to avoid making the same mistakes as Jonathan who we all know inherited too many bad employees from previous governments.

I can imagine if this was an organisation being taken over by a rival group you need to ensure the staff are clean. I propose they begin having security clearances but that may be a pipe dream in such a country.

Politicizing permanent positions is never a good idea but knowing Obasanjo he has moles in every hole (the sick gr**dy b**stard)

he should be undermined. Nigerians didnt vote for him and we want rid of this godfatherism. how can we rid one and inherit another?

abbccc:
If you want them(all house of rep members) to sponsor bills, attach monetary value to it and see them kill themselves to sponsor more than 10 bills each...

gbam!

how dare we expect them to do any actual work? Im sure most of them didnt even attend the HOR unless it was for events that will bring them money or popularity . . . . .so they can run for another position come next election and be equally useless.

I dont even know why we bother with politicians anymore. Nigerians are literally doing everything for themselves anyways. This is all just a facade.

I think he should step down. He's incapable of running the government .

dayo23:
senseless post, infact I don't know how you became a Barcelona fan, common sense u lack!

I think he has a point. Why is this the first point of call?

We all know the Nigerian forces have their own way of dealing with criminals. Not to say its the right way but I'm shocked anybody expects terrorists suspects Tobe treated kindly. It's the Nigerian way. Rather than look for heads to roll he should be looking at general reorientation of our enforcement agencies. To encourage them to follow due process.

And that won't even stop maltreatment of the suspects nobody is going to patiently wait for someone to show them if they're indeed terrorists.

His attitude isn't encouraging we already have problems with military men going MIA.

How exactly can the legislative arm of government frustrate it? They called it checks and balances. It has to be a pretty ridiculous system if they are able to dictate their own salary and allowances. This should be done by a body independent of both houses and there will be no need for it to pass through law. It's not like the constitution has a duty to state what they should receive

hilarious article! i love it!

my friend run fast run far it cannot end well for you!

You need to think about what is important you you - clearly marriage is, but have you listened to what he has said? Are his excuses sound?

I know alot of women only have marriage in their minds because we are conditioned so, but sometimes we have to asses things for ourselves.

I don't think you should wait for him forever, and if he isn't clear on the length of time it will take him to be ready I think you should stop turning potential suitors down. He is not ready doesn't mean another man is the same. but i understand you've invested time so it's not easy to let go.

All in all I think you should make it clear that you won't wait around, you can't force him to marry you and if the idea of marriage only sends him into a rage I think the message is clear. Maybe he really doesnt want to commit.

GoodFaith:
A woman MUST CONTRIBUTE TO HER HOUSEHOLD IF SHE WORK

contribute to what exactly - rent? mortgage, school fees?

GoodFaith:
80,000.00 is money but not a lot of money
sorry sister that is not lot of money
when I talk about money with ppl
I talk about after expense

then we're probably not talking about the same thing. bottom line youre husband has to be able to handle everything at home if the wife doesnt have to work. Then again it will also depend on the lifestyle. but the wives I know that don't contribute are living very comfortably.

GoodFaith:
what do u consider to wealthy men?
Making $100,00.00 or $150,000.00?

well i cant say for the salary but by wealthy i mean can afford to send the kids to good schools feed them clothe them house them send them on holidays shopping etc etc

over here any individual earning £80k upwards should be able to handle it without his wife's help.

they need summadis

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jaybee3:
Can you now see their coochie can't be priceless then

coochie is priceless back home, the price goes up and down depending on who is demanding for it loool

GoodFaith:
one of the reasons, I said the number of year abroad make a different
How you have being cultured
If you make money , you will pay bills

not at all - i know too many woman that refuse to contribute, but they're often married to wealthy men.

I also know young women that don't think they have to when they marry (dont ask i have never understood it) and these are women make good money. but you are right, over here if you work it's because you have bills to pay male or female.

Im currently on the fence - for starters I believe the expectations are why the men mistreat their wives and why most Nigerian men have hypertension. I also don't see why a woman shouldn't contribute at home if she has the money, at the same time I like the idea of keeping my own money and also having the option of not having to work if i want *bliss*

jaybee3:
Not really..... Slight distortion yeah but the underlying reason can't be ignored..

BTW: An ashi/prostitute to me is one who is willing to treat her coochie as a commodity regardless of what was received in exchange.

Hate to generalize but nigerian girls treat their coochie as a commodity regardless, not because they don't value themselves (though they often don't) but because thats how the dynamics work back home.

You don't sleep with a man because you love him (that will make you a mugu) you sleep with him because he has many houses drives big cars and is spending on you.

jaybee3:
Not really..... Slight distortion yeah but the underlying reason can't be ignored..

BTW: An ashi/prostitute to me is one who is willing to treat her coochie as a commodity regardless of what was received in exchange.

Hate to generalize but nigerian girls treat their coochie as a commodity regardless, not because they don't value themselves (though they often don't) but because thats how the dynamics work back home.

You don't sleep with a man because you love him (that will make you a mugu) you sleep with him because he has many houses drives big cars and is spending on you.

MrsChima:
I hear you because men abroad don't hustle for toto like the home baser..they at least take you out and feed you before they tear you up like paper!

I blame those girls abroad who think giving sex will keep a man and it doesnt! I remember when I was dating my husband he was like let have sex...I was no because I don't think you are serious...he wooed and wooed and wooed for months until we got the goodies..we were already getting married then!

lol - i do very much prefer oyibos though probably because we often have similar principles and they tend to be less aggressive. but Naija men take care of the home no doubt. There will be no splitting bills or going dutch in a naija mans household

jaybee3:
Of course

Meaning you can't put a price to it naaaa

Only women with appreciation of their self worth will make their V priceless and we both know the key determinant factor that helps establish one's self worth is empowerment. I would expect most Naija based V to be empowered hence their V can't be easily bought or exchanged as a commodity

ok your expectations are wrong because of the presence of ashi's and female students willing to put out at a price. The laws of demand and supply are in their favor because the market grows stronger.

jaybee3:
You kidding me right?

If V was priceless then surely we would have had a reduction in the rate of yahoo yahoo bois

You know what priceless means right??

MrsChima:
I see. But aren't the girls In Naija give to to away like government cheese for a purse and Brazilian weave?

I think there's a price on sex back home where here that isn't the case. So I will call naija girls everything but easy in comparison anyways.

In fact with that mentality I often shock my friends when I ask them why they've slept with a particular person.

MrsChima:
I had it both from two different tyoes..one is more open while the other is traditional.

They both think hard and pounding thrusts is "African men duty".

Lol it's nothing to do with tradition we have no tradition teaching us how to have sex lol
It's more to do with exposure. Nigerian men are very open and it seems surprisingly learned on how to please a woman. And they often take pride in it. (Not all let's not forget women are 2nd rate citizens to these people) but from what I'm getting from movies and just talking to guys back home they know how to please and aren't all about thrusting and hopping off.

jaybee3:
Even though majority of them are probably going to have first, second ,third, nth option to satisfy thereby making it less likely for any of the option to be satisfied since the attention will be divided….

Lol an oyibo guy won't be interested in any of it ( where there's badoo and pof?) Why work to hard for the V.

Back home the V is priceless. . Some will jump in the lagoon for it lol

MrsChima:
You mean with hard and pounding thrusts in the name of good sex?

Lol no comment. If you were a single woman I would have told you to give it a go. You'll be pleasantly surprised

ArchEnemy:
Queen you ve a point. But would you rather let anyone generate discord in your home simply because you don't wanna call somebody aunty? Is the fight worth it?

she's already generating discord, she could have easily said shes not a fan of how her daughter is addressed. Instead she kicked up a fuss, tomorrow she'll start something else.

One better not allow anybody to tear her home down. If the MIL doesn't want to behave she can be phased out.

MrsChima:
. The home based Naija men thinks going out to eatery and sharing a cup of chocomilo is romantic.

lol thats just a matter of class and taste - but in terms of trying to please your partner. The home based men are much better.

Obiagelli:
What exactly makes you think buhari didn't want Saraki?

If Buhari meant what he said during his campaign he definitely doesnt want Saraki, a man with a corruption case in court. No he didnt want Saraki, and neither did the party

MrsChima:
Who's better?

On bed.
In handling business.
In being a husband.
In being a boyfriend.
in education.
in political offices.
in romance.
in cooking.
in driving.
in making money.

These are some examples and you can format your own. My personal experiences dealing with are polar opposite! Home base guys are bit backwards and traditional while abroad base guts are more modern and forward thinking!

Your thoughts?

lol youre such a jowka!

the first one no comment

handling what kind of business? if the 1st no comment

Those back home seem to have a better handle on commitment and relationships. Depending on age oyibos (my pet name for em) tend to be commitment phobe. That doesn't mean there arent good ones.

Education - i think back home you are taught more how to learn and not really to think. You'd find the oyibos have a better sense of perspective and are independant thinkers. Hence they'll be better at solving problems etc. Whereas back home they;ll just be better at passing exams.

Politics in Nigeria is not a topic anyone can take seriously, but on a good platform like the one in UK Nigerians fare pretty ok (both men and women).

Oyibo guys can be romantic but not as romantic as the ones back home.

Guys back home are definitely better cooks (if they arent the lazy types)

Nigerians drive like mad people

Nigerian men hustle earns a reputation of its own

ArchEnemy:
Call her aunty and let sleeping dogs lie. It won't make you any lesser

This is where the first mistake has been made - because the precedence or tradition of calling your in laws such is due to the woman actually being regarded as 'lesser'

Just because she has married into the family doesn't mean she needs to degrade herself in such manner - I assume the op isn't in the village, isn't uneducated and whether or not she has uneducated in laws is the problem of her husband and not hers. If the mother in law can kick up a fuss in such trivial matters she doesn't deserve to be entertained.

It starts with 'you must call your younger ones aunty and uncle' where does it end? Before you know it they will have less respect for you and start demanding more. You have to nip it in the bud.

how about the children between the ages of 11 and 12 and between the ages of 15 and 16? What kind of nuisance law writing is this?