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Richy4:
This kind of story is the type that makes me feel like throwing up...

To think that your mum is really suffering like that in the name of marriage and insisting to stay is what i really do not understand....was it the stigma of being branded a divorcee that she was scared of? I don't know about Nigeria but there's no stigma anymore...

Maybe you should remind her one last time that life is just once... She should not live the rest of her life unhappy..

I understand people will advise you to pray.. Yes pray but while you were waiting for his answers, your mum should go and cool off ...It doesn't take much for someone to give up the ghost these days....

Zedoo:
Oga. Truth has no sex.

falconey:
a lady once posted in this section that , why will she go through the pain of working hard to earn money and acquire luxuries where she can acquire riches by dating a man that has or marry.

ennyhola:
to the relationship or quitting your introversion

njiasi30:
Dats why I said nt everyone can endure, my cousin refused even as d both families intervened.she's d one wearing d shoes according to her. D op can still retrieve his steps..... he should just hope d wife accept him back.

nasha1:
she is an idiot, a very big fool.I can't even do it 4 a husband.

1b8m:
I relate with all the pictures. the only thing i dislike about being introvert is i assume alot. funny enough i end up right most times.

1b8m:
I relate with all the pictures. the only thing i dislike about being introvert is i assume alot. funny enough i end up right most times.

daddyrich:
I disagree with you completely. she needs a genuine advise not this...

buying gifts and meeting a woman's financial needs in a relationship is not all there is to prove true. love itself is priceless. though her boyfriend behavior is somehow worrisome but you need to find out why.

I have witnessed a practical case where a guy was showering the girlfriend with gifts
and fancy outings in fancy places but he stopped immediately after wedding.

Next... are you sure this guy truly loves you or he's just tolerating you. if yes is answer, then I suggest you give him sometimes. he might be struggling with a past experiences which might have forced him to become too careful.

Besides buying you gifts how can you evaluate his love for you?

Kachisbarbie:
lol @ gala.
Darling yaki is more appropriate...
It is not easy at all but we go dey try our best.


Are you trying to tell me you are not aware husband is scarce?
If you manage hustle and hook one, you should be happier than Leicester City upon winning the EPL.

Oscarz:
Wey you! What are you insinuating? Na U fuuuck, na U get belle, na U born, when e dey seet you, u no know. Abi U wan tell me them rape you, Rubbbishh!

Walexsammy:
Lols.... dont be scared and don't ever generalise...Cuz definitely some of us doesn't have one, reason I can never settle down with anyone who has

Walexsammy:
Honestly don't really know what to say buh this situation is getting worse and disgusting. FFS if you no u not ready for marriage why not use protection if you can't abstain? imagine after wedding one gal/boy Willl just show up from somewhere to call u daddy/ mummy

Walexsammy:
Honestly don't really know what to say buh this situation is getting worse and disgusting. FFS if you no u not ready for marriage why not use protection if you can't abstain? imagine after wedding one gal/boy Willl just show up from somewhere to call u daddy/ mummy

Kachisbarbie:
Male chauvinist?
It is weird and funny that you didn't notice the sarcasm and humour in the original post, yet you are blowing kisses at someone who did.

@OP, you forgot the main one o, based on what I read on NL.
His mother is the number one woman in the world, but he should definitely come before your own father.
He can get another wife if you kill yourself but he can never get another mother,so behave well...do her bidding and call her per second. After her comes you guys kids, then the third position is for you, that's if his sisters/brothers or father fail to grab it first.

abbey621:
Funny how people hear one side of a story and automatically become the judge & executioner. Everyone could be wrong, the OP might only be seeing things from her point of view hence the emotional tone in her write-up. Some mother-in-laws can never be satisfied and until we truly hear both sides of the story we would all be guessing. The only advice to give here is for the OP to work harder and get married, if she marries a successful man she wouldn't need to worry about the inheritance and at the same time she would be able to take care of her mom.....case closed!

raydatluvs:
Everybody is saying let her go which is probably best,I just want to give you a flip side to salvage your love.
You see,my family is or was pretty much like what you are about having. my dad was the eldest and all his siblings took turns to live with us like you and my mum tried to understand. My point is I understand her fears,firstly its going to be a new marriage and when push comes to shove,you would take your siblings' side as she would be like the odd one. Its the natural thing to do unlike if its just two of you and they visit,she would feel a sense of entittlement.
That said ,I think she needs to be assured of her position when heads start to roll, that you would not put your siblings first, that you would support her when there is agrument and not stay on the fence like you say you do. She needs authority!! So bro,you have got work to do. Believe me,her reaction is normal.

blesoh:
my dear its true,last week my MIL told everyone dat wish to listen,dat i didnt help her carry her handbag untill she asked me to.
Lol,i ve my own handbag hw do i manage wid 2 bags but i carried to avoid problm yet she stil told pple abt it.MIL no easy oh

KevinDein:
what do you have to say about verbally abusive women? We should pray for them? Fast for them to change?
Sheesh! its a two way thing. You ladies have done more harm with your mouths but I guess we should all keep shut and overlook it.

sweetcocoa:
Payment of BP is not responsible for anything as there are no laws which state that, cos you are married, you must do all of your in-laws bidding.

It is just that women have been expected to behave a certain way due to gender discrimination and they have been accepting it for as long as we can remember, although not every woman will keep quiet, I certainly won't do what I'm not comfortable with, just cos in-laws expect me to and believe me, nothing will happen(if you married the right man).