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ausboo:
Yes I have always wanted him. He is tall and handsome. He is a ladies man. I tell him i wish he wasnt married

But he told you he was married and you still went ahead. You don't have any excuse, his marriage to another woman couldn't stop you, why should you be bothered about his divorce.. C'mon, now you can become the madam...
I just pity you cause most Nigerian women don't have the wisdom to face their cheating husbands, na the mistress dem go call assassins for.

The guy,even tho wicked, was still truthful (@ least, of his marital status,,, his divorce processing, no love for his wife,wife being diabolical might all be lies...they are just to trap you down)to tell you about his status...at that time,he should have become a disgusting bastard in your sight.. I wouldn't even look at him twice anymore but then,he's a good spender and that's your own mumu button.

ausboo:
I am not one. I just happen to fall in love. Even when i sometimes avoid his calls, I find myself wanting to call him back. Even when I purposefully pick fights with him, I see myself waiting for his call. I can't help it but deep down I feel for his wife and I know I need help so that i break away from him

If you truly feel for his wife... Chase him away.. At least if he doesn't have the sense to hold on to his wife,you should have the sense to know that you guys won't last...
Who knows,he might even be lying about the whole thing.
You fall in love because he's a good spender, and suddenly you wan die there...The one you chop never do? Leave him if you have a heart.
You are hanging in there for him to divorce but still dont want to be the reason..what a confusion! You are the reason..even if its glaring the man will go after another lady if you eventually let go but at least you have the feeling you didn't 'totally' destroy the home another woman built.
Gosh, shes having miscarriages.. Her husband doesn't love her, I can tell he's maltreating her,doesn't care, he's cheating on her with you and is bent on divorcing her for you....can't you just see the pain that woman is going through!

Chase the God forsaken bastard away

However, since he's a good spender..I assume you don at least open boutique abi na so so clothes and shoes he dey spend money on

eyinjuege:
Your mum must have been wicked too.
Just kidding.
A lot of people aren't being real. Maybe because it's online or what?.
A 14 year old shouldn't be sleeping with the parents. Even when we were ill as young kids, we slept in our rooms, and our parents would check up on us intermittently in the middle of the night. You'll Just hear the door open, or feel hands on your neck checking your temp.
The young girl needs love as all children do no doubt, but been asked to sleep in your own room instead of your parents room doesn't mean they don't love you.
The whole thing sef shouldn't be an issue, and I'm surprised some feel the OP is harsh or something.

Yes,she would have been if she was my stepmum but shes my mum and was just being a 'mum' .
I'm surprised too, and every body (females and males) who dont subscribe to the girl's behavior are wicked people who dont love children just because the op is a stepmum... There would be a change of tune if she were the mum.
I dont see how sleeping with the parents proves/shows any kinda love..

Sometimes, being a stepmum isn't the problem... Its the way people count your actions while you are at it that is the problem. Better to be a mum gangan and shut anybody's useless mouth than crawl on their opinions cause I'm a stepmum.
The issue in the op is that; she is a stepmum..
The child might be wrong in everybody's view but the op is a stepmum and c'mon shes only trying to tear father and child apart.
Maybe op should leave the room for them and let her sleep besides papa till 21 since she needs papa's love.

nasha1:
so the people in a whorehouse are not women?
If women stop being enabler of certain things,men won't find who 2 cheat with.They cheat with someone and that someone is a woman(prostitutes,oloshis name it).

Ok, I get.. Single women need to help married men gain their sanity..

And these ones will come here to claim stronger vessel.
Be good, and start making placards to tell single ladies to stay away from married men who are trying to break THEIR OWN homes.
Weytin concern single ladies,,I'm lost
Prostitutes who care about the money should leave married men who come to them for business, as if na them drag the men from their wives come meet them ..ok na.
If men stop going about it, single ladies won't even have the chance. If the home breaks, na the man children go suffer am not the mistress's. Maybe they should think about the consequences first cause in this case even the op will go scot free... After having her fun,holidays,paid trip to dubai,exoensive wears, money and s.ex .. Its left with the man and his problem.. I see this mistresses as business women,but most of them just want to become entrepreneurs. As a business woman,you open your market jeje and didnt force any buyer..they come by themselves.. And its no wahala of yours to chase them away if you are up for the deal. Na dem wan buy market. I wouldn't chase a renowned yahoo yahoo guy who comes to buy clothes from my shop, I dey craze.. I will even show him more than he wants.
He came, I DIDNT call him.
But Im not up for any argument..dude

Yomieluv:
You ought to put yourself in the woman's shoe.

Would you be happy if someone breaks your marriage.

One thing am happy for is karma.

A cheat will always be a cheat.

Gold digging mistresses dont to that, they wanna stop being the contractor and have the gold mine all to themselves.

nasha1:
The problem is not about him going around,she is an enabler.Let him go 2 another girl we dont know but for this girl we will tell her 2 stop.
If women say no 2 married men,they won't have anyone 2 sleep with.

The problem is about him going around. . it just happens to be the op, could have been any woman who won't even have the heart to open this kinda thread.. She might not even be here.. It will just be another random divorce story you hear but guess what ; Husband cheated..and caused the break.

If he hasn't gone around and instead work on his marriage, someone like op wouldn't be in the pic.
If women say no to married men, they will still go to whorehouse ..those ones can't say no.
Some might even lie about their marital status. But it all boils down to one fact; he's the one leaving the crack

Miami11:
No wander this estranged wives will buy acid and go after some beech!!!

Don't you think you are the reason for his divorce, you are giving him an alternative

How about you go look for your own man and give them space to work out the marital problems,

So what if she had miscarriages it only been two years.

The married man would have gone for another woman,even if op isn't the alternative.
He's the one and only reason for his divorce, the op just happens to be around...because he's a good spender.


@op , one word ; karma

You knew he was married, and because he said he was leaving his wife ..you decided to play and have fun with him..
My bet, you've always wanted him...his marriage might have been a lil barrier but then he told you just what you wanted to hear; he's leaving his wife..
An opportunity to hang on... Not to forget he's a good spender.

Tfu! You know he's divorcing his wife for you and you are just so happy about it..your wish has finally come true

Some people are just crazy... I had to check the thread again to see if women were the only ones against this issue.. I dont get where the wicked step mum came from, when there are guys who also saw the nonsense.. What do we call the guys

zeb04:
on nairaland even married men/women behave like kids someone talked about having a step mum and it automatically opens that person up for insult on a matter that isn't even ours. At your age

If you dunno agree with them,you are not on their side and everything you say is wrong.
Fools everywhere..

I can see one person with a good heart who loves children , every other person here hates children.
With time sha,your heart will heal and will be more real here instead of trying hard to gain sympathy over your broken heart.. Cheer up

This is why I can and will never marry a man with a kid/s.. Baggage!!

It is easier to correct your own child,even send her away in this case, be strict,use cane..no worries..but being a step mother, you better be careful...even using calm words to correct her shows you are a wicked person trying to build a bridge between papa and daughter as if the man sef na fool to allow any one separate him from his child.

As for the thread, I cant relate but I can vividly remember how my mum stopped me from sitting on my dad's lap when I was 10.

Yinbanjonic:
pls where can i get this phone in offa?

I no know that one o..

cococandy:
Your sis needs to go get her own life.

I don't even see anything the so called girlfriend did terribly wrong. She broke up with one ex and started dating another?

Your sister is and has probably been always jealous of her. Those jealousy ridden ones are the ones that behave like your sister the most.

She left her then bf for greener pasture and all of her friends knew about this..you know the kinda kiss and tell stories she might have told them About that and many more..
Had a short break with a guy(maybe another ex,who knows?) And during that period,she has laid with another guy. But I dont really see how this is much of an issue, they're separated already Abi what's a short break? Space?

These are the secrets the sis revealed and the so called fiance didn't deny it. Who knows if it doesn't end there.
Hmm well, I dunno but these are quite big issues even for me as a lady. The gf here isn't much of a person I can trust...she can jump pass anytime.. I can't even trust her not to be cheating presently
And even more importantly, she is not welcomed in the family... The best is to let go, in fact I dont even know what the girl is waiting for..she suppose don flee . if she marry into that family ehn, her own don done be that.. I'm sure mil to be isn't aware of the situation, na her own go worse pass.

PS; she made a statement to the sis ; if you dont want me to marry your bf,lemme know so I can marry someone else.
It shows high instability on the girl's part... She can flee at any point..if there's a problem... That's one angle

But however, she might be right ...if she won't be welcomed,its better she knows now..no need fighting one useless inlaw fight now which will extend into the marriage. For her safety, in fact everybody's, and peace sake, she better knows now and shift.. But shouldn't repeat the same mistake sha.. Go clean. Another angle.
But based on her history? everyone will go with the first angle

Cutehector:
gerrara here, ur so lucky I didn't use a harsh tone. So why den u quoting me back? U must be a renowned hypocrite.

Sharap. What d fvck do u knw about marriage? Look at dem? Dat's hw dey will enter and wail the first minute and run back to their father"s house. Look here Valerie, u can rant all you want...

She is lucky you didn't use harsh tone ...hehehehe Good Lord!

Dont be silly na, come , just read that girl's replies to you and check your own replies...and tell me who is the ranting dog here.
What do you know about marriage? ..
....I mean if you carry this your present person into marriage, she will chase you out like a goat.. That girl is making sense,and you are forming 'better person' instead of you to use your God given brain.. Gosh! I get mad when people just act silly..and still dont know they are.

Cutehector:
thank you so much for these, these kids don't just knw anything about marriage.

Actually you have a problem...
All what the lady did was point out important questions to the op to look at rather than focusing on age.. And in fact, those questions are as important as anything..even more than the age factor. She didn't condemn or anything ..
And even mrbigman further elaborated her questions to his own view..and here you are shouting about kids who dont know anything about marriage.. what do you know than to play stupid around ..

OkoAnike:
It's very obvious that you don't have any experience in marriage, sure thing, you are not married, hence u lack the necessarily opinion here.
Again, it's not all issues u respond to, learn to be quiet when the need be, have a great day my brother & God bless you.

Abi o, dont mind him acting wise.. It refreshes him sometimes.

johnson232:
anything more than the respect given to u women equates worship...

just recently, every woman in tokyo is now entitled to certain monthly allowance, all because of her gender. isn't that more than respect?

Come, tell me how is that the women's problem ? If the guys over there are not ok with it,what's stopping them from voicing out?

Again,I'm yet to see where zebo said anything about worshipping women..
And I recollect she said women ain't treated with respect.. Its either you let us know she was wrong or not..dont try to mince words.

johnson232:
the bold is spurious and baseless...

u want the world to start worshipping women before u can say women are respected, abi?

there is a sharp difference between respect and worship....

We all know the difference between worship and respect..I'm still looking for a place in her post where she mentioned anything about worship .

johnson232:
Lolzz...

The husband na sub zero, and the woman na Sonia....

Honestly, this is a little bit too extreme, why not just divorce her...

A little bit too extreme?

God!!

lilmax:
So i should start crying right now? As if thats not the way a woman is designed to be.....its her choice to have children or not

We all know you are that alpha male but it gets boring when you force your toughness,it makes you look just dumb

Like Mr bean forming commando.. Duh

Eliba:
which do you want housewife or a career woman?

Acidosis definitely wants a housewife..
That we call Alabodo in Yoruba language

Adaeze003:
Lol... at first I just thought to ignore this post but...

Firstly... you interpreted "he who finds a wife finds a good thing" as the bible equating us to things not humans Haba brother! Ever heard of "figure of speech"?

Then you went on to say weaker vessels also meant we're things? Lol... didn't it by the slightest chance occur to you that since we're weaker vessels, guys are stronger vessels and as such, you are as much a THING as the next girl?

But how shallow can a human get

Anyhoo... extend my sympathy to your future wife...

*bows out*

Shhhh why na?
Since hes going to 'buy' his wife and not you, leave him to enjoy his property na..

Bible din't classify women as humans but living things... Jesu Kristi
And women are bought with a price..
I thought Jesus also paid a price 4 Christians.. Irreversibly,we are all bought..and as our prof rightly put, we are all things.
That guy na mumu grade 1.

PS;
Na im people be thing, I mean tin.. Pangolo

See person wey dey call another person shallow..
Some people are just wasted!

francizy:
You mean, Kabo Snoop?

KB.. How e take resemble kabo snoop.. Olodo
How u dey?

kaboninc:
Quivah - like Queen Vaheeda?

Wait That's cool
But not like that

bennyrazz:
life is hinged on destiny. Fulfilling your destiny is very tantamount

Destiny Who's that?

lilmax:
i give up

But he's right

kaboninc:
B

KB 4 Kaboninc

Acidosis:
Being a Lawyer is one. In the business/corporate world, what we have is employee & employer; principal & agent. No one cares whether you have PhD in Law. A Lawyer can either be an employee or an employer.

Now my point is: whether we like it or not, your organization employed you to work for the company, to achieve its aim and objectives. An organisation is not rocket science, it was founded by one or more persons, so you're to uplift the person/persons' dreams.

In marriage, you cannot abandon your home for your company's objective (your dream). Your family should be your 1st dream, others can come after.

Mind you, I'm not against career-driven women. I actually don't believe in the concept of 'career women'. I had to use this term to pinpoint my views on this thread. All I see is women striving hard to make ends meet (in the marketplace, school, or in a bank).

K

Acidosis:
Lol


Is this an internet/empty rant or a real fact? Please endeavour not to get married to a good man o, you deserve a 'player' who has no time to feel your presence or absence in the home.


Marriage is not about YOU please.

Smiles...
You still don't get it, do you?
I thought we were doing an analogy here!
Hmm I understand now.
And sorry to disappoint you, I will marry a good man.
Btw, who's a good man.. Hope you are not referring to men like you here o..
And marriage is about US... DONT PREACH WHAT I KNOW ALREADY.

Acidosis:
Someone else's dream in that contest means the love of being an employee (lawyer, or any title) to an organisation/company owner at the detriment of the family.

There are certainly married women who feel bad about the fact that they spend less time with their family. Anyone can cope with that situation while striving to attain a better and more conducive opportunity.

If you still do not understand my views, then you can stop responding. The conclusion of the matter is that for me, I cannot cope with a woman that exalts her job above the family through her actions and inactions.

Lmao, being a lawyer in an organization is following another person's purpose? What if I want to become a lawyer and I got that in an organization.. What's the big deal.

Now you are changing your tune o... What you detest is a career woman, whether she exacts her job than her family or not, its not your business..right?
Except if have been reading something else all along.
Anyways, good luck to you bro..