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me as a lady, I won't pretend to see the truth in the op.... where two or more women are gathered,they are talking ill about another woman's matter(progress or downfall)..,at least 90% of their discussions.

be a friend with a woman,,is like dancing with the devil in a broad day light.

damiso:
Women tend to be more dramatic and that's just cos we talk more and are more expressive of emotions. Ic find men sometimes hold deeper grudges than we do.

women hold deeper grudges than men(at least more than men) ,. men fight it out and settle it easily afterwards...
women lock it up, smile to your face and cuss you at your back. even after talking it out., they pretend it over... but!!!

for me, I prefer a male friend to the female one... forget stereotype, female- female friendship is fake. . backbitters! gossips..! discussing nothing productive other than another woman's matter.

talk to you about shade, and at your back. .talk to shade about you! have got no female friends aside the ones I just need to relate with academically(which are just so not my friends). . i wonder sometimes who would be my bridesmaid... Mayne a cousin sha
the hate is also there in male-male friendships. ..but menh the gap is wide! !! their friendship is more better,helpfultrustful and peaceful.

to me, the op is spot on! but I won't fail to realise the hasty generation. .!

male friends all the way... aside this sickening rape issue which leaves one to be extra careful with this folks too.. I used to be free around them but now sofly o... aside that, they are the best!

adamix:
whatsapp me 08129129293 where do u stay?

I stay in oyo

35k

how does it get here?

rationalmind:
There are lots of them even on nairaland. Off my head, Kay17, Redyln, freecocoa, quivah (seems she's agnostic) and several others.

wow kay17 is a female,,,

I'm agnostic

hi!
I got a UK used lg Verizon phone last Thursday.. it worked fine(tho the battery life was poor).. but by Friday night, when I tried charging the phone after the battery was completely drained, the phone kept boosting to the Verizon logo n it went off back. I unplugged the charger, tried putting on the phone.. but I was notified 'use a genuine battery' after which it goes off by it self within 10secs.. I kept trying but I got the same notification..
while charging as well, the phone kept stopping at Verizon logo n damn off it goes.

have tried another battery but I'm still having the same issue.

I thought doing a factory reset will solve the problem. rather it compounded it. since I reset it, it notified me to call a non Nigerian(+888) no..saying my phone can't be activated. after which I get the same 'use genuine battery ' info and then it goes off.
I called the no with another phone but I was told 'I can't cal this no'

I bought the phone in Lag on Thursday(tested it) n travelled to Oyo state the next day.
so returning the phone right now won't be convenient.

I will appreciate if any one can render any assistance..

phone model; lg v930

anybody??

muphasar11:
Two wonderful people
I don't agree with calling Him brother but I agree the should be some level of respect.

If you can't answer a question with wisdom why comment. Sometimes I wonder why we have this trend of people just talking anyhow no wonder

I'm trying to get how my comment is your headache!!!
I found something funny and I gave the exact expression.. how is that your business

swerve! you just displayed your stupidity.. every one is entitled to their comments..

this is murder!!


why is the mother the only specimen?

I think what the lady is trying to say is: if a woman is the one basically tending physically/mentally/socially etc to the children day in day out, she will have little time for herself not to say still give 99% attention to the husby.

the children are with her most hours of the day and hence bond stronger.. and receive her full attention.
So there's a possibility she might give her children most of the attention...but if both parents share in the caring, there will be much time and energy to attend to each other.
besides no denying the fact that a woman will love her children more than her husband but she shouldn't show it.

keep mute when he insults..doormat! that's the High way to continuous verbal abuse till he drives away your esteem
ignore for a very loong time..lol you are on your own!
op sit him down and pour out your mind..
ignoring him might have a negative effect on your marriage
someone who doesn't remember your feelings before hurting you (even after repeated complaints) will not look your side when you ignore (which will happen repeatedly) ...
when he abuse(which is always), that means you will always have to ignore Lol

better table out your inconveniences..in a polite but serious way.
try to avoid any unnecessary quarrels..

chai! some people are hypocrites fa!!!

shouldn't be taken seriously.

@madam mutter we didn't ask for your family's story.. we aren't talking about your family in the op and please don't add petrol to the fire, he never said his wife isn't on his side... God! people sha
thank you!

Forzap:
Quivah

Dragonking:
That is still an evidence that men are meant to be polygamous hence they quickly sign the bill. Your fore fathers were never monogamous but rather they were polygamous until the white men came and we started copying their cultures. Now even the women especially the black women in white countries are complaining of the high rate of unmarried women.

my dear, the truth is bitter but that prophecy in Isaiah 4:1 is gradually coming to pass.

man, you've been screaming Isi 4:1 .. did you bother to read the proceeding chapters
and tell us who he was referring to.

anyways, if the economy refuses men to marry a woman , how will it support polygamy to the extent of limiting the rate of unmarried women? even when some men(wealthy) themselves don't advocate for it.

the white men came with Christianity/Islam religions, they destroyed our idols, cultures.. if polygamy destruction is the only crime you see, then you are a hypocrite!
dump your Jesus, And start idolizing like your forefathers used to..drop civilization and go back to the bush man's life...then you can start saying we copy people's culture, practice what you preach.
white men are not your woes, your holy mighty forefathers worthy of emulation are.. they sold their lives/culture and are worse off being looked up to. Esaus!

Muslims/some Christians still practice polygamy cause they want it.
if you want 5 wives, go ahead(no one will penalise you) but don't forcefully bring verses that don't agree with u into it..

emzila:
the bulk of it all is tied to financial challenges on the part of men. I agree with u that there are men who dump ladies they both struggle together, in same vain, there are ladies who do same to guys for reason only them can explain better All thins being equal, it would have be a game of one man's poison is another man's food but d economy is so bad that guys are losing out in getting jobs in Nigeria. Select some establishments around u and take statistic of their staff by gender and u will be more clear on dis

I will not totally blame the girls here. men have it that they should have some things going for them or even flex a little before getting hooked, any girl who fall into the category of these men have a long way to go 'being girlfriend with them'. . so they(girls) would rather not waste away their biological time with guys who 'ain't ready'. after all, it is still the same gander who come around to mock the girls.. however we've seen relationships of 5-10years, what happens if such girls get dumped? they add up to the no of single women too. its not a crime to remain loyal..
yeah economy is bad, then why should the blame fall totally on the girls? when most times its the guys who ain't ready/doesn't wanna get married.
the girls can't Marry themselves..
and also wouldn't want to raise kids in penury.. chai!!

I see financial instability of the guys is part of the major reason some women of marriageable age remain single..according to some posts.
the problem most times isn't about the financial status of the men, but most of these men don't remember the ladies that stood by them when they were church rats, before cheating /even dumping them for girls who snubbed them in the past... probably they just wanna get laid or they suddenly realised the girls who stood by them are classless , hence need ladies that suite their status.

most poor men are loyal, humble, caring and all good things because they are POOR. let small change come, the beast in them become unleashed... And you begin to wonder if they were worth the loyalty and stress.
even worse still, many of these poor men are insecure, unstable, aggressive! (with these type of men, its better to cry in a limo than on their bicycles)

financial stability SHOULD(not just the criterion) be part of the criteria to get married.. don't leave it out.

manage with them in one room, when they can afford a flat, they remember they need a second wife

nb: very few poor turn rich men still remain loyal.

men have also realised marriage don't worth the stress, s.ex is cheap, you can get a baby outside of marriage these days...And hence decided to remain single. who will marry the single girls then?
ladies abeg shine una eyes, when you see a good man..hold am tight. but don't settle for less(bad men) all in the name of marriage.. those guys saying trash now won't be there when you face hell in your marriages .( I pray not) .. know your worth, find him but don't overdo it.

don't because of marriage, go with a tout when you are worth a responsible man.
also don't lose a good man while pursuing your career, you can simply have them both..if you so wish.

^^ this is only for those that are diligent and with integrity.. not those that have wasted their lives sleeping around..

busky101:
you weren't the first to wish me a Hbd but apparently you are on the verge of being the last person to. Either way you made history am very grateful boss..thanks

happy birthday ...in arrears madam

apparently I'm the last, what's the gift? I learnt april-borns are cheer givers

standd:
Pls help us move thread to the appropriate section

I'll need a truck for that
.. not with all these heavy old wo/men here.

since I'm not invited ... peaceout

peeps*
ok!.. why is this in the family section?

standd don't you have a husband to attend to tonight ?

Onyiridike:
Well, I am not responsible for your woes.

I advised you to see things beyond your prejudice and level of awareness but you continued to pour your frustration on me.

Also, you shouldn't be self-opinionate Mrs. Smartness. The fact that I don't support your opinion shouldn't make you insult me.

I must also admit that you have a strange concept of the word "smart" since nobody does well in my field without being over-smart.

Finally, I don't need your respect. It doesn't affect me in any way.

More insults!

another trumpet blowing

tell me more about you


I know you are married with kids
discriminate single mothers
have a very sound educational achievements
ignorant and illogical
trumpet blower hence unintelligent
'over smart' in your field
what more? the kind of car you drive which single women/mothers shouldn't drive

TooNoisy:
You don't know me neither can you tell. But obviously, this was what you saw growing up and I really feel sad for you. No wonder you are soo bitter. I initially thought you were a troll, but I can see you must have come from a very dysfunctional and bitter home. So sorry for you.

you just said someone doesn't know you , so she can't tell .
lemme just assume you know her a lot to conclude she's from a bitter home…

married women can conclude the home one came from but single women need to know one before she can tell..hence married women get more respects.

I saw a comment

married women don't get sexually harassed, beaten mercilessly by guys nor asked to keep quiet in a gathering.
and some one thinks that's RESPECT
so a single woman shouldn't be respected enough to be relieved of sexual harassment or beaten beaten is that how guys beat up women around you? change your association.!!
I mean...beat single women? let me just assume you meant : single kids

No right thinking person disrespects
a mother (in marriage).: but mothers (out of marriage) can be disrespected see judge of woman affairs
NO RIGHT THINKING PERSON SHOULD DISRESPECT ANYONE-- that's how a right thinking person should talk. single mothers/women around this lady will be facing loads of discriminations.. single mothers shouldnt even celebrate mothers day cause they are not mothers but irresponsible: D


and a gathering a single woman won't be allowed to speak is a gathering for married people only... a married woman won't also be allowed to speak in a gathering of the singles expect if invited.

Onyiridike:

I can assure you that you will live all your life begging God to match my achievements educationally.

I urge you to see things beyond prejudice and your level of awareness, otherwise, you may end up exposing your own ignorance.

Don't hide under a faceless forum to insult people at will.

People who are intelligent don't go around blowing their own trumpet.

if at all I attain your achievements educationally I will definitely hang myself for still being ignorant.. well, education doesn't equate smartness.

2nd bolded...Mrs onyi, don't talk with your mouth full ...on this thread, its you who is blowing her trumpet...who talked about educational achievements? you!! should I conclude you aren't intelligent after all?

madam peace! but by the way, why is there no 'married women's' day' ...
on a lighter note, sorry for the insult.. you are someone's wife and should be respected. but any way you can hide behind your keypad to call other people irresponsible...


peace madam.

Caracta:
I get really upset when I find men that are not smart at all. Not even a tiny bit.

Nobody condemned getting married. We are talking about respect here. You don't need to be married before you earn respect. Simple. Just like you just displayed. same way someone can be married and extremely foolish.


If you are an example of a true Christian, I would rather remain the opposite. And what makes you think I'm single or searching? What makes you think I am against marriage?

Jeez!!! Common sense. It's not that hard.

you know there's one on this thread @emboldened

in a normal setting, she should keep shut and respect any Intelligent single lady who tries to draw her out of your ignorance

why are kids in the orphanage called 'motherless'
why is there no 'single women's' day
a mother is one who raises a child in the family setting..(marriage) while someone who 'gives birth' to a child outside marriage isn't a mother but irresponsible woman buhahaha

Onyiridike:
If you didn't nuture up your child in a family setting then you are NOT a mother.

You are simply illogical. Go to motherless baby's home and tell me why those children are called motherless.

madam I give up..

swim in your ignorance..

Onyiridike:
Do you call them mothers? ONLY those who were raped deserve to be called mothers.

Any woman who gives birth deliberately outside marriage is an irresponsible woman and NOT a mother.

Do you call every young man who goes about impregnating women outside marriage a father?

Motherhood goes beyond giving birth to a child.

yeah.. your marriage has given you the ultimate right to judge..

through rape, fornication or any other means.. a mother is : A (human) female who (a) parents a child or (b) gives birth to a baby... and they are celebrated in the same line as married mothers: p..
mother hood start from giving birth and goes beyond how the child came about.

a married woman is a WIFE not MOTHER.

yes he's a father so far, those ladies give birth..

Onyiridike:
You are the one who is ignorant. Children born out of wedlock are bastards and the giver of the birth is an irresponsible woman and NOT a mother.

If Beyounce is happily married to Jazz and still tell you that she is a feminist then she is simply deceiving you. She MUST be submissive to her husband, respect him and bear children for him. Where is the equality if she does that.

Better go and get married.

madam onyi your posts have been cracking me up..
kudos!

but honestly, you are ignorant!

mothers' day (as you put forward) is to celebrate MOTHERS! married or single because they are mothers.
there's no single women's'/men's' day because they are SINGLE(what is celebration needed for) however some of these single women are celebrated if they are mothers.. are there any 'married womens' day' .. however there's a day to celebrate 'international women day'.. for singles/married/mothers/female kids a over the world.

is that what you know about feminism@emboldened

lastly madam you have a loud mouth, common sense should tell to me to respect a disciplined single lady over you.. you jumped to call people irresponsible even tho there might be circumstances surrounding their situations and you think I should give you a dose of respect cause you are married irrespective. even if they are irresponsible, THEY are MOTHERS! and are celebrated to your ignorance..

Onyiridike:
Could you explain what you mean by slave mentality?

No achievement worths more than a big happy family.

A lovely husband with beautiful kids in a wonderful home is like a heaven on earth.

We ought to pray to have it.

good! how many of such do you know?

Tallesty1:
I asked a question in my first comment before typing that God will help some people.

That "some people" was referring to me and my likes because I am sure there are other people who feel that way around pregnant women.

If I am ignorant like you said then why would I ask God for help?

I wonder when nairalanders will start making their point without dry humping people's nerves.

Sha, my attitude finished menstruating last week so I am ready for a fukk.

The emboldened is what I am talking out.

you really don't need to prove anything so I wonder why you are trying to dribble with your own words.

you made a snide comment: na God go help some people after asking a question. its very easy to conclude you think people having s.ex with pregnant women are wrong , hence 'na God go help their case'
which is quite insulting. you don't have to change your words, not everybody cares. I only interpreted your post the way I read it..now that's my business! if I wanted you to bail our self out..I would have asked! don't feel all guilty.

btw

not trying to have some Bleep with you, so I don't care when you finished your menstruation.
have a nice day!