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Christianity Etc › Re: Meet The Nairaland Prophet Of Doom With 6 Failed Prophecies by quivah(f): 9:26am On Apr 21, 2015

Peterken05:
They are just liars

And shameless
.

Christianity Etc › Re: Meet The Nairaland Prophet Of Doom With 6 Failed Prophecies by quivah(f): 9:26am On Apr 21, 2015

sukkot:
all my prophesies have come true and are coming true. the buhari prophesy for instance. i have a thread on that from like 3 months before the election that he will win. in fact i have been saying it since over a year now

buhari winning the election was a prediction.. it was glaring to those who were opened to it

what if I told you I knew he was going to win since 2013 duh!
I am still keened on the ww3

Christianity Etc › Re: Meet The Nairaland Prophet Of Doom With 6 Failed Prophecies by quivah(f): 7:58am On Apr 21, 2015

Obadiah/sukkot is worse in the game.

Family › Re: Women: Do You Guys Still Want And Enjoy Sex When Ur Pregnant? by quivah(f): 7:09am On Apr 21, 2015

Tallesty1:
Ok.

To try to understand next time before concluding or better still ask questions.

I am not saying that sex with a pregnant woman is bad or wrong, what I meant is that I personally have a phobia for them.

Sitting close to a pregnant woman makes me nervous and restless.

So I am just wondering how I will be able to get comfortable with a prgnt woman to the extent of having sex.

You get?

Like I said before, don't reply until you understand.

Nice Day.

I wonder how your wife will cope.. let's hope you change for her sake.. else she's on a nine month journey of loneliness and bitterness
@emboldened you should have just dropped that instead of passing a snide comment.

your first post is quite off with this... more like trying to prove you're not ignorant when you obviously are.. don't expect people to take you seriously.

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Family › Re: What Part Of Marriage Do You Dislike? by quivah(f): 4:39pm On Apr 20, 2015

the part where a man can cheat and he's real

but a woman huh

the part where a woman should let go her life(career and sorts) to open some shop
the part where you can't make decisions solely once in a while
the part where a man cheats and the wife takes the blame..(need to spice up, red pant/bra stuffs) the woman cheats, send her packing!!!

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Family › Re: Married As A Second Wife For Child-Bearing by quivah(f): 9:39am On Apr 20, 2015

babyosisi:
So you have settled and become well adjusted into the polygamy sumtin?

1. she got herself into it
2. she's pregnant now
3 husband is ready to give her her freedom and independence
4. she's got a husband, kid and job(In future)
5. no complaints... obviously she has no troubles with husby and first wife
.she should move on with her polygamy something while building her future and also try to make peace. she should try to persuade husby to get her an apartment outside the compound she lives with first wife and maintain her 2nd wife status.

life continues

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Family › Re: Why Do Some Women Call Their Husbands 'our Daddy'? by quivah(f): 9:33am On Apr 20, 2015

Joel3:
i will tell my woman to call my "my Lord" because I am lord.

Family › Re: Must A Woman Be Married To Get Respect? by quivah(f): 9:27am On Apr 20, 2015

tablu:
"....In pain will she bear children and her desire shall be for her husband and he shall rule over her ..."Gen 3:16. No matter how affluencial, influencial, beautiful, academically sound etc a women is, if she has no husband to rule over her she will not be respected!!!! If she like make she graduate from harvard, princton, stanford, oxford, cambridge all the ivy league universities join together nah her sabi...

eermm
how does your verse correspond to the op?

academically, an unmarried woman will be more respected than you, with all your blunders.

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Family › Re: Man Quits His Job In Microsoft As Product Manager To Be A House Husband;read Why by quivah(f): 9:22am On Apr 20, 2015

vislabraye:
You see. I don talk am....

simple question

If the wife is working and the husband
is at home more, who should handle
most of the chores?

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Family › Re: Please Help! Did I Make A Wise Decision Or Was I Being Selfish? by quivah(f): 12:02am On Apr 19, 2015

Moana:
Or are we saying that a woman is better off feeling unfulfilled so long she has a husband?

So long she has a husband... she's automatically fulfilled. cheesy

Romance › Re: . by quivah(f): 9:56am On Apr 18, 2015*

in as much as I believe most Nigerian guys don't worth sh.it and deserve what comes their way, but I agree with the op.. there are loads of girl like this out there...
I had a neighbor in my former apartment, all her life revolves around guys, money here money there..she turned herself to utter crap and valueless.. guys tend to rubbish her(behind her tho), but fact remains, she devalued her self over small change from worthless group of people.

I don't Blame guys like the op, I blame the girls who give a feck about them and their money..when they can earn theirs. in fact these girls don't see any thing wrong with their demeaning attitudes. . and give guys like the op the guts to generalise.. makes me wonder if his sisters are foreigners.
I was arguing with a guy who thinks and expects girls not to date broke guys..in another tone, he will call girls who stay away from poor dudes shi.ts.
when most guys come throwing money around(the only thing they can offer) on girls they met, who in turn throw their body around(the only thing they can offer) on the guys. the guys call them biches, the girls call them maga.. the wise girls amongst them save up the money,enjoy the se.x and live fine, get married to guys(good or bad)who will pay heavy bride price on them. the guys gained se.x, lose money and get married to this same set of girls.. they keep getting what they deserve.

ps: only girls who fall into the category of girls in the op will feel pained cause he's absolutely right . just mend your ways, a high percentage of Nigerian guys don't worth the value you SHOULD place on your body(except if he's got what it takes..majority of Nigerian guys are 'walking dead with only deak striving hard to get noticed') And no money is just enough.. s.ex is cheap, its everywhere as the air you breathe..you made it so!

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Romance › Re: What A Man Needs Is SUBMISSION not SEX by quivah(f): 8:28am On Apr 18, 2015

LOL

Family › Re: Reasons Why You Should Consider Staying Unmarried (FOR GUYS ONLY)! by quivah(f): 8:19am On Apr 18, 2015

I have friends(m n f) who don't ever want to get married but most of their reasons are quite logical... at first I thought the op was logical until I read when he starts to chip in Bible verses on the curse on woman.. to me, the op stance on being single is due to past bitter experiences he had with female folk

sorry! shi.t happens

by the way, let me rephrase lordreed's opinion: if women were cursed to bring sorrows into men's lives , is your mother included?

its your life tho...live it as you deem fit but hope you will stay righteous while at it?

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Family › Re: Please Help! Did I Make A Wise Decision Or Was I Being Selfish? by quivah(f): 4:12pm On Apr 16, 2015

damiso:
Which is why I think there is no need for the thread ( hence my saying no need for validation in my first post) She will just get further confused. Because some people (rightly so ) might not see her point and some will applaud her. So why does she not just face up to and stand by the decision she has taken and move on.

Except she is having regrets sha.(which again I am not condemning her for).

Now I am not saying people don't compromise for love( I know men who have relocated for marriage) but its an individual decision that is treated based on your OWN circumstances, ideals etc. I am that I am talking I resigned my job to join my husband in the UK but it was something that was done gradually. I know people both on my side and his that thought why did I go back to Nigeria when my visa expired( I still had a visiting visa) but that was my ideal( I did not want be stuck in the illegal immigrant web) again I am not judging those who do it .We were apart for about 3 years. I still did not resign until I was granted my Spouse Visa(which was Months after our wedding).

I know the issues I had in the early years of marriage esp when I thought I had given up something until I got to the point(or rather matured) where I learnt to stop yearning for what was but enjoy the now while striving to better the future.

I understand.. but you case is quite different ..
you were married, you know you needed to be with your spouse without him giving you any ultimatum (right?)
@first paragraph you right..she just wants to know if she did the right thing..

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Family › Re: Please Help! Did I Make A Wise Decision Or Was I Being Selfish? by quivah(f): 4:07pm On Apr 16, 2015

edwife:
Who told you that?are you speaking on behalf of all the filthy rich people?

I know men who take full responsibility of their in law,and they are not even filthy rich and yes i said FULL.
In Igboland it is very common.

@Damiso you are right.

Family › Re: Please Help! Did I Make A Wise Decision Or Was I Being Selfish? by quivah(f): 2:34pm On Apr 16, 2015

damiso:
But sis if the guy too trusted and loved her why must it resign and pharmacy shop or nothing?

actually... its always about the women when it comes to marriage.. men are vindicated cheesy

no matter what

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Family › Re: Please Help! Did I Make A Wise Decision Or Was I Being Selfish? by quivah(f): 2:33pm On Apr 16, 2015

damiso:
My dear I am not saying that they(men) should o I am just emphasising the fact that I kind of understand her predicament. Hard but she has made the decision she felt was best for her and her family at the time. No need to keep overthinking(except deep down she feels she has made a mistake).

Another guy will( or might not) come along.

I understand ma...I'm just saying, even a filthy rich man wouldn't carry all the responsibility of his wife's family.

its not worth killing herself over if another guy doesn't come, at least its better than being stuck. but he will come cheesy

Family › Re: Please Help! Did I Make A Wise Decision Or Was I Being Selfish? by quivah(f): 1:20pm On Apr 16, 2015*

damiso:
Edwife spoke my thoughts . There should have been a middle ground esp as the distance in this case was not inter-country. One can even say Owerri and PH are around the same region. I can understand OP fears as the breadwinner in her family. How many men except filthy rich would want to take on their FULL(note I used FULL) responsibility for their wives family?

OP just move and don't seek validation, You have done what you think was right for you at the time.

I don't see why and how any filthy or no filthy rich man will and should take full responsibility of his wife's family while he's there taking care of his, their children and friends needs.. he will at some point complain bitterly..and yes! I won't blame him. gosh! what have we turned women too huh

useless?!
reasons parents send their daughters (and sons) to school is to be successful,enlightened and be able to take care of their responsibility on them without necessarily depending on some one..any 'someone' else will be an advantage not the original source.
it is hard I must say

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Family › Re: Please Help! Did I Make A Wise Decision Or Was I Being Selfish? by quivah(f): 1:12pm On Apr 16, 2015

Ralphlauren: a smart and savy woman can maintain
her home, have a happy marriage and
still fulfil all her career aspirations - as
long as she is married to a supporting
man and not some d!ckhead!

yeah supportive!
loads of women in top places in Nigeria wouldn't have made it there if they were stucked with unsupportive husbands and left to look over some pharmacy, boutique or provision shops or if they themselves think marriage is the 'all all' for women...And that children is the ultimate. moreover they have children and husbands themselves. so all these 'sacrifice' I don't know o.. its compromise I understand without necessarily falling out of your dreams.
I don't know who says a woman can't be every thing aside being a wife and mother..

these same men who compelled woman to minute jobs(such as self employment) will open mouth to accuse Nigerian women of not dropping any great inventions towards civilization..when women were not really given chances to exhibit themselves... and careers

what we need is support!! not restrictions, phuleaaase!!

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Family › Re: 30 Rules For A Woman To Have Successful Marriage by quivah(f): 11:12am On Apr 16, 2015

@jasmines , the op is only being one sided... going by the Bible verses he attached , they didn't specifically point to the 'woman'
but I guess op is just giving his own tips..on the part of a woman..
but ideally, topic ought to read : 31 rules for men n women, which I don't think anyone needs to be told before doing. it should come with common sense to both parties..

its not the duty of a woman to keep the marriage... its the duty of the parties involved.

@op I guess this doesn't apply to non Christians *cleans sweats*

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Family › Re: Please Help! Did I Make A Wise Decision Or Was I Being Selfish? by quivah(f): 10:43am On Apr 16, 2015

pickabeau1:
While you are strictly right,... its still semantics

The fiancé today becomes the husband tomorrow

Note the use of the words by the OP

The man who claims to love me etc bla bla bla

The sacrifice required is not the full issue though bad timing, family obligations and lack of compromise from the man exacerbated it.
She was not sure if the man is worth the hullaballoo

let me assume the emboldened was the major reason she chose her career over his marriage card..then I'm free to say she took the right step
if at all you are going to halt your own dream to help a man build his, then that man ought to be 'near Jesus' And worth it. okkk maybe he doesn't worth it in the first place but the op still tried to drop few options just to make them click...which he felt he was too traditional to follow.. then...

person wey you wan manage wey dey form huh

you drop like he's nothing..

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Family › Re: Please Help! Did I Make A Wise Decision Or Was I Being Selfish? by quivah(f): 10:29am On Apr 16, 2015*

na wah o...
sometimes I just feel women have no career opportunity in marriage(aside self employment) which I really think, I would have asked my dad for the sum total of my 6yr tuition in opening a big shop for me instead of sweating my bu.tt through the university in the first place if I needed to be a shop owner..now that I don't see myself in that line, I don't think any one earns the chieftaincy of dictating my life otherwise... if a woman wants to quit her job, it should rest solely on her and her options if she deem fit..
not because someone said.

I dont know if you took the right step, but I believe you would have dropped your dreams to pursue his if he already planned out the pharmacy shop and not just promises..so its really not as if you are holding to your career but just being careful (what if he failed with his promise? or call off the marriage?) , you would have jumped at the marriage card if the shop was available already, no?
but since he was basically giving promises and worse off, ultimatum then if you feel you made the right choice..then you did, its your life.. anyone who thinks because you are a woman, then you should live your life as she did/is living hers..is living in denial.
that it works for her dropping her dreams, might not work for you especially as it is based on uncertainty..
I WILL NEVER drop my dreams(if I was studying another course, okkk well I might have a rethink, but I don't want to have a rethink hence I'm not pursuing any other dream) to become a housewife or one boutique owner..
actually I don't mind having a boutique at the side while fulfilling my main dream. cheesy

maybe women don't have dreams...I dont know! what I know is, I have one and I will fight to follow it regardless..

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Family › Re: Girls Who Cohabited In The University Do Not Deserve Bride Price!!! by quivah(f): 10:43pm On Apr 13, 2015

tomhank:
Na wa for this quivah girl o... Aii look at it from this angle..... Just puzzle over this little question... Why do yhu think a guy pays 500 to bang a LovePeddler and pays up to #500 thousand for a girls bride price...
Why didn't it go the other way round.....
Forget bout character and the rest..... Pucci also gat value!

wait o.. that's like saying, why should I pay n200 to board a cab and 2milN to buy a car.

no, no one should forget xter n d rest..every girl out there has a pucci, not all of them get good xter. if you are all about the pucci, why can't you get married to that wh.ore?

it can't go the other way cause those two girls(wh.ore and wife) serve different purposes.. the former is just for s.ex hence cheap, the latter goes beyond s.ex. the former is for few mins, the latter is for a life time.
mind you, those wh.ores who get banged for 500N get men who pays thousands for their bride price too.. so, what's the fuss?
let's let it rest here, we will only keep going forth n back.

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Romance › Re: Women Reveal What Drove Them To Cheat On Their Husbands by quivah(f): 8:25pm On Apr 13, 2015

1freshdude:
Lol...madam, its not unique to Nigerian men.

that's right.. its just just worse with them

Romance › Re: Women Reveal What Drove Them To Cheat On Their Husbands by quivah(f): 7:39pm On Apr 13, 2015

iPopAlomo:
Finally... a woman that shares the same opinion...

honestly!
speaking from a woman's view--- Nigerian men ain't worth the sweat..

Romance › Re: Women Reveal What Drove Them To Cheat On Their Husbands by quivah(f): 7:36pm On Apr 13, 2015

Mznaett:
This Stuff Just Reminded Me Of My Dad...he Cheated On My Mum And Later Confessed And Now,mum Has Taken D Lead...and Dad Is Feeling Bad..

N/b One Good turn Deserve Another

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