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Vickybee:
Quivah, you don't understand my post.
I'm not judging the man but directing my post to Nairaland guys who would quote all the verses in the bible on "how devilish feminism is".

Seriously, do you expect those holier than thou men to be supporting adultery/fornication here?

for you to align feminism together with fornication..should I assume feminism is an equal evil?

but I understand you perfectly, just that if you are trying to paint feminism in the right light, you shouldn't put it in the same line with fornication/adultery.
you should have just condemned their hypocrisy based on supporting fornication and yet claim Christianity.

Vickybee:
I'm surprised that everybody is hailing him.

If it was to be a woman, all the stùpid hypocrites on this thread will scream how bìtchy and promiscuous Nigerian girls/women are.

Anyway, to each on their own.

I'm even astounded that men who quote bible for us when the subject of feminism is brought up is supporting fornication/adultery. Like seriously?

Oh well! Hypocrisy abounds everywhere.
I've grown a thick skin and nothing can deter me.

I'm astounded that vickybee, who quotes Bible verses for us that women are not slaves/unequal to men when supporting the subject : feminism is here calling people who didnt think along her line stupid hypocrites..
oh well! I'm looking for another meaning to hypocrisy.

on a more serious note; have you forgotten men live by their deaks, they are subhumans without the taste of the cookie..its rare to see a woman that age involved in such immorality, she's busy enjoying the fruits of her labours in the right manner. but then, I remember my classes in biology.

this is not an issue of men - women.. papa wants to feck, what's the fuss? he obviously shouldn't marry cause he would die any minute from now, leaving a young widow/children at the mercy of his older children.. he can't patronise ashis too, its too risky ..(if God finds that irritating, he should ensure se.xual feeling cease at age 50-60) but I expect papa to be responsible enough to click with one mama 40-50 who isn't interested in children just for fun..not too much!

but I really don't understand your rants, you mean papa should die of konji because he's 84 I see papa as once a stud(anything in skirt humper) so how can age suddenly change such a man?

old women ain't much into this act cause they are with their children(male/female) paying visits up and down,paying with their grandchildren..loneliness is out of it..now same association can't be said with old men..they are mostly left alone in their own houses and checked on once in a while.. what should such men do? sleep through the day or look for a young woman to keep him company?

bukatyne:
A number of your posts here have been refreshing

@bold, thanks for been honest

To some, their family members becomes saintly once a wife enters the family

My mum knows I will not tolerant her becoming a pain in the butt of my SIL.

that's absolutely true...I have a cousin who doesn't go along with her mum well, my aunt is what every one in the family tag 'woman tiger' .. so strict! but at emboldened„ she will definitely be a lil goddess in the eye of the family members. after all, she's the mother in law who always need to throw her fangs around..but I still won't deny the fact that there are still good family members who are aware of mils evilness, I believe covering up her act in public is the best way. she would be condemned in private.
but you know there are also some wicked dils ? wickedness is not a definition strictly for mils

thanks

And oh I can't argue the fact there are no evil mils.. I will fail at it big time..my late Granny was a VERY bad mil gosh!

but I will as much as possible not debate any sort of issue based on that line...I wasn't there, was I? we can only drop comments based on what we perceived. equally I know a daughter wouldn't hit her mum cause her mum hit her over a flimsy issue.

besides i don't get the correlation between the issue between a mil-dil and mother-daughter .. different relations, roles and bonding..

jadelyn007:
madam, I don't have any problem with your opinion. Truth is going from what I read MIL shouldn't have slapped DIL because she refused giving her pics, and you don't go about slapping adults for whatever reason.

You chose your opinion because in your subconscious you have assumed that DIL must have abused MIL that's why she was slapped. That explains your indignation.

Well after seeing how bad some MIL's can be, I chose to believe that just for declining to give her pic is what makes her receive a slap.

If you got a MIL treats you well, treat her like she's a god. As for wicked MIL's whatever they get is their cup of tea.

my assumption was to negate your assumption that she got slapped just because she refused to drop the pix.. you gave what you believed, and I tried to drop another assumption to it..@emboldened
and I also won't argue further cause you are judging based in your experience.. but at some point you need to think of any other possible way to the issue than what you Perceive to be the usual

and lol I am not dropping my comment based on the fact that I have a good mil (says who? I'm not married) that will be a rubbish thing to do .
#peace madam

jadelyn007:
sweery, you don't get it, not every parent beat their child and mine are such. My mum doesn't slap or blow me, I served other purnishments tho. I was grounded and all that.
If I were looking for a husby on nairaland trust me I'd be kissing every males assss on here n trying not to step on toes, unfortunately I am nt here to feed anybodys over bloated ego.

That said, I am going to go by what I read and not assume anything. The poster didn't say his wife talked to his mum anyhow hence she was slapped, he said she refused her mum taking pics from the album so she slapped her.

Why can't granny respect herself and wait for her son to return then get the pictures?

My question remains would she slap her own daughter who refuses her frm taking pics
no matter how her daughter puts it to her

going by what have read equally(on the original thread) most people didn't ignore the fact that mil was at fault for taking the first strike...but what most argued about it; should the dil retaliate?
so your last question (which I will rephrase) isn't necessary cause-- would a child slap her mum back cause she slapped her over a flimsy excuse?

and yes! she would especially due to the emboldened.. we know African parents will take no shi.t, a mother would easily slap her daughter over a lesser reason than what it might have been with the original thread.. you know, its quite easy to be disrespected by someone's child than by your own child!

also you can't live your life solely based on how people you grew up with treated you.. that your mum didn't slap you doesn't mean she wouldn't slap another person when provoked.. also your mum felt punishment was a better form of caution than hitting you cause you were young then..but I know pretty well she won't ask you to kneel down at this age when you piss her of.. if you disrespect her, you are not old enough to be corrected.. and I also expect you not to talk rudely to your mum to the point she will hit you..if you can do this then common sense should tell you , you need to be more cautious when relating with someone who wouldn't take many shits your mum can take from her daughter

Also do note that your mil can never be your mother. .. there are many things your mother can accept from you that a mil can't!! so dont judge the next mother by your own mother... same goes to every potential mils..

you have no right whatsoever to slap back at an elderly person(would you have slapped your mum's sis back if she slapped you?) I'm not relieving the mil of any blame, but you slapping back is a big disrespect to your own parents, your husband, his mum, and his family. nobody in your family and your husby's family will directly tell your mother in law she was foolish for striking first but they would Blame you for;
1. infuriating your mil to slap you
2. slapping her back
3. disrespecting your family members.
I'm pretty sure your mum will feel wounded that her daughter had the guts to soap an elderly person..
they will Shame your mum for a bad upbringing.

nobody will remember mil slapped first. so whats the fuss?

also you can't just jump to conclude they fought over 'gimme pix, I no give u' .. I can't be so sure but I assume the reason for the first slap goes beyond just that..
what you need to change the mentality that mils can do whatever they want to a dial as the thread madly implies..
you are telling one party to cool off while the other party can continue showing her craze..which very soon will rob off on the other party And when they retaliate, no one will remember they have been taking shits way back(esp if the victim is the mil) they automatically blame the one that has been taking shits. .the ability of a mil to dil good relationship to exist doesn't/shouldn't lie solely on the dil..

oh no ! she's fecked up! she should have chilled till she catches them(husby n mistress) in the hotel. .preferably naked ..
then she should take some pics and drop it on the net for all to see the shameless dangling blokos

babygirlfl:
Thank you dear for the bolded. Most people on that thread agreed that it was wrong for the DIL to slap mama back. However mama acted very badly too. In my opinion both should be told where they acted wrongly and apologize to each other. Mama had no right to also demand that her son leaves the wife.

yeah.. I saw the thread And most people blamed both parties . but I was referring specifically to this thread..
mil have the right to be evil, dil should just accept it that way and be patient that's bullshit! that's the coolest way to build another set of bitter mils..
I'm quite happy the husband isn't like many here...else dil would be facing a bigger problem.. now, mil has no right to demand her son leave his wife. its left to the son tho.

bukatyne:
The bolded should be on a bill board

jadelyn007:
lmao, you r such a moronn, you can't even keep up with your own stupidity. If there is anyone supporting domestic violence its you fool, if not you won't think its okay for a ghetto MIL to slap DIL and expect DIL to go meekly into the room to cry and pray. I'm all for people getting served their own bullshiiitt.

I don't blame you anyway, I blame the illiterate women who give you nitwitted halfmen something to get high on after all how many times to you see FIL going to their daughters matrimonial homes to slap their SIL over the most stupiiid stuff.

Good thing girls are not smiling, dealing with each pest one at a time granny would never try that shhit even in her next reincarnation.

girls are not smiling .. we've taken too much shits, now wrapped into one and thrown back in a ball that hit hard.. but a very sensible, intelligent girl shouldn't rant all over the thread in full glory of hitting her mil in retaliation.. that's very spiteful... we know not every woman has the coolest mil, you don't have to come on here to show to the world your mil (to be) will be as miserable as she makes you, you might not see husby here o ..

ps:
how many times have you returned your mum"s blows?

^^ true
an old woman should respect herself and her son's home and not engage in any form of violence especially the fact that she's the matured one..obviously mama didn't respect her age.. its worthy of note too that mama wouldn't have slapped her son or daughter if they were in the dil's shoe because no sensible child would push His/her mum to the point of receiving a slap(in this case; I believe the dil talked in the most irritating manner to her mil for her to must gave received a slap..)
however, it shouldn't justify the dil slapping a woman old enough to be her mum, her aunt or even her mum's aunt! she should have respected mama's age and the fact that she's her husband's mother even tho mama failed at being an elderly woman.
no body would blame the mother in any African home setting(the elder is always right..) this, every African knows . if her home happens to break, its solely HER fault.. but I won't fully put the Blame on her as most people are doing. both mil,dil and husband should share the blame and equally work towards making things right.

ps: mils should start respecting themselves too. not every body has the man power to act Jesus all the time. you don't preach patience and respect on one part and at the same time allow ' aggressiveness and intolerance from the other part. it won't always work that way !

why don't you discuss with your doc to know which birth control method will work well for you..?!

SAMBARRY:
na im type dey sleep with 11year old pikin.if you expect me to say sorry you will have to wait for me to grow pheneese before I say sorry

why should I expect a woman who insulted someone's father openly to have the dignity of apologising

just letting you know you don't have to always show you are rude and uncultured

#peace madam

no one has answered the op's question

At his
age, won't the frequent sex affect him or
does it make him stronger.

if your dad has been this way right from time, I don't see how his age will make him change. so stop being disappointed cause hes having sex at that age..im pretty sure you are only bothered with the age and not the immorality.. you have two options:
1. leave him to his game
2. get him a wife
3. keep praying he doesn't die on top his game

either of the three, its your burden to carry..when any problem or pregnancy or death arises. your pa will obviously leave it to you.

SAMBARRY:
really?

Na now you remember age. Does sshagging have age boundaries when an obuko is concerned?

age has no relationship with sex..any body regardless of age can have sex with as many people as possible...and because he's a 84year old man sleeping around equate him to your level of name calling?

if you don't respect his age, respect the fact that he's someone's father!

its as if the op made that clear

I have decided to share this here not
for nairaland members to start any
form of insult on my Grandfather but
for knowledge purpose.

SAMBARRY:
omashey o bukky.age no fit change a he-goat

that's rude.. that's someone who could give birth your father!

ZedX6:
[color=#150000][s]First of all, I never said you had a job. I said you had a source of income. Since when does "source of income" translate to having a job?

You are both young and relying on someone else to pay the bills, so calm the fvck down and wait till you are both in the real world all alone and fending for yourselves before you fvcking talk to me about logic and what defines you![/s][/color]

yes Sir.. will get in touch when I start to fend for myself.. so till then, can you chill?! don't get all worked up over a girl who still doesn't give a flying donut about your opinion.

ronald4lif:
She may have sound reasons for that, maybe there's a propensity of a pharmacologist getting employed quicker than a biochemist. But whatever reason it is, is irrelevant. When there's no money there's no money. Except she has other ideas of seeing herself through the course.

Quiting the relationship when she's aware you're not earning is very selfish and insensitive of her. Good you wished her well, just move on.

if indeed pharmacology has more job opportunites (which in fact is true) than Bch.. then her reason is not irrelevant.. however she should know no man owes her the responsibility of seeing her through a second degree.. anyone who wants to go for a second degree should have the means to see himself thru

to me, she's on her own
.. selfish and inconsiderate!

vizkiz:
just wanted to know the reason for your first comment

why I said , nl of all places? yeah!
I already made that clear: I don't believe in online relationship , and a social platform is even worse off.

but my opinion, I also made that clear.. vizkiz, that's my reason.

vizkiz:
what if she meets him here and they hook-up in real life and get frequent with each other and other stuffs like that?

that's plausible.. but don't blame me if I don't think there's a 2% chance that's gonna work..

so, why are we discussing this? I'm not convinced the op is a lady neither do I need to change my view on online relationship

NinoBrown888:
why not keep your opinion to yourselfv, I doubt if she needs that.

I'm sorry but last I checked its my opinion and I have all the right to spit it out!! do you see me with a knife to her throat?! what's my fuss if she needs it or not

you have a problem with that? puke yourself!!

vizkiz:
yeah, that is what you just stated there...because you don't do it doesn't mean it is a bad thing you know

you mean... its not 'all' a bad thing.. true! you will agree with me, she's better getting her man in real life.. only few of online dating turn out good.. to me, she's only here waiting her time.

but my opinion-- not a universal thing

NinoBrown888:
You expect her to stand on the roadside with a placard ?

I expect her to get real...

ZedX6:
[color=#150000]You never give a flying fvck when there's an element of truth involved in what is being said. I know you aren't ready to settle down because you are dating a student. This is because you are also a student and you are both young. So from your calculations, by the time you both are out of school, things would be better for you to settle down together.

I don't give a fvck about you or about your comment.

Ladies are the same. They have the same emotions and feelings. Some, are just better at suppressing them, it doesn't mean they aren't there. I wouldn't even give 3 quarters of a fvck if you are talking to me. I used that "smooth talk" line because that is what ladies say. All ladies. Until reality hits them squarely in the eye.

I'm amazed you thought this was about you since I obviously don't care whether you are breathing or not. I am only quoting and countering your points solely based on the thread and topic, so this is no fvcking time to display your over bloated ego and sense of self importance.

I don't give a fvck. [/color]

chill mister! before we turn a good thread upside down..
have dropped my opinion, and your say about it doesn't matter. so chill, its not like you are trying to change my mindset ok? its not needed!

don't get stressed up! I love your generalization skill

ZedX6:
[color=#150000]Love rightly came into the picture because that was why she was there with him in the first place, isn't it? Every lady has her limits, no matter how much she claims to love a guy. Enough soon becomes enough. Ladies factor in a lot of things before they date someone. They also do run out of patience. When a lady leaves someone she loves to be with another person, that doesn't mean she has stopped loving the guy, it's just that he cannot sustain what they have together at that time.

You talk as if you do not meet guys who are well to do and way better looking than your student. You are still with the student because you have a source of income and also, because you are not ready to settle down in marriage. Remove those two out of the equation and you'll drop this same guy faster than hot potato.

The problem with most relationships is that they both met themselves at the wrong time. [/color]

honestly you won't go far with me if you keep bringing up the emboldened.. can't one be logical? I'm equally a student, two years his junior..and academically I still have miles to go..now this is a man I love and understand he doesn't have the resources yet cause of his situation.. you know sometimes you can plan your future (based on Human understanding).. now if I've planned well, he ought to be working by the time I'm tru with schooling and 'ready to settle down'(invariably, I won't be marrying a broke man) So you want me to be sincere? my broke student has it all for me than the rich ones I see out there..the only thing they gat is money (which I don't lack)..I shouldn't stress my self telling you this, but I hope you stop bringing up the bolded..doesn't define me! I don't have a job btw!

now the remaining of your post-- your opinion! doesn't count to me

vizkiz:
be careful of what you type, your future boo might be a Nairalander

of all places?!

yeah he might be a nairalander i knew in the real life before meeting him here .(I even introduced my bf to nl, that's the only way a naira lander can be my boo)
maybe cause I'm not a fan of online dating And believe any One who wants the kind of quality the op desire in a man should look far from nl or any online platform..

ZedX6:
[color=#150000]If you're truthful to yourself, you'll realize that you're still with him because you aren't ready to settle down in marriage, so keep the "crying in the limo" bullshit for some guy who gets swayed easily by a lady's smooth words. . . [/color]

if I'm truthful to myself, I shouldn't give a flying feck about what you think..! but just for fun: how do you know I'm not ready to settle down?
I didn't expect you to give a damn about my stance not to say believe me, you were not the purpose I commented.
if I ever wanna smooth talk a guy into believing, it definitely won't be you..so don't stress yourself Blackett

ZedX6:
[color=#150000]I see you carefully avoided the "but" aspect. [/color]

the 'but' is exactly the problem..
love doesn't pay the bills, true! but that love is dead the moment she left because there's no money.
when they 'leave' cause you are broke, they stop loving you till they gat the next rich man. such girls obviously need the money and not love.. because as you rightly put, love doesn't pay the bills and the only thing they need is the bills not you or your love.. i don't see how 'love' should come into the picture

this case only applies to hardworking responsible broke guys the lazy 'e go better' ones can go to hell!

and nl is the best place to come

By the way, why do they always come back to
you after you must have made money after they
left you for someone else? That's because they
love you, but love doesn't pay no damn fvcking
bills. So when they leave you, they don't stop
loving you, and when you can pay the damn bills,
they remember that love and a guy who can pay
bills is a good fvcking combination.

any man that believes this should always prepare for second heartbreak..

there's no love in a girl who left you only for the reason that you are broke and comes running back only for the reason you are made.. once you go broke in the next minute, history will repeat itself!

op are you broke? ?

what exactly is the definition of a broke guy? . I'm dating a student(not working so hes virtually broke) but I've never asked for 1kb from him and still love him darn! so I believe it has to do with the situation and person.

I would rather cry in a limo than laugh on a bicycle with a lazy broke a.s.s graduate(or any man outside the blocks of a uni)

I hate lazy men!!! and to say a broke one at that..

pickabeau1:
Na wa

You say im jumping to conclusion yet managed to call the guy forward for making his girlfriend Next of Kin
saying the same I said

OK.. I give you one clap
[img]http://cdn.meme.am/instances/500x/34718822.jpg[/img]

Meanwhile, you've not been around
How are you

And moreover she does not care about
the mom but likes the son's money and
property

we both agreed the guy was too forward... but neither of us know if the girl in the op is exactly what you've painted her to be in the attached quote.. you only jumped into such conclusion... i don't agree with that

I'm good, thank you sire

pickabeau1:
The bolded summarises your position.. "BUT"

All before it na theory

whatever you say... just learn not to jump into conclusion as tho you were an invincible plane in the situation.