₦airaland Forum

Last month, while me and my sweetheart were playing, He accidentally shot in the goal post.

I didn't take plan B.( Who get that kain money sef) and I decided to wing it.

Deep down, i didn't want a baby.. but eh I don't mind one. I don dey old.

Anyways, I prayed to yahweh and I said, "yahweh, I don't want this pikin oh, pls"

two nights ago, my period came!

This is a miracle, a testimony. The Joy in my heart that I am not pregnant this month..

Praise be to yahweh.

Amin

So sad.

Another rape case , yet there are some women out there arguing about the way the victims dressed.

The stupid man sef did not deny it and all he said was sorry.

Its a sad world we live in, where women have to live in fear of getting raped.

A simple visit to her cousin's house and a woman's life has been permanently damaged.

May God help us.

Nothing wrong with paying an entry level graduate 250,000 or more. With all the suffering they go through in those hell-holes called university , they deserve it.

kandiikane:
You may probably have had the opportunity to go through life because you have had things handed down to you and life has been soo easy for you but you shouldn't be sat there judging people just because you were lucky to be born with a mother who had something to her name and knew people.
If people can get by in life with their brains, what is wrong with those who do not have the brains and the only means of survival is because of the way they look? You can have either one or both. Do you think every single woman had the opportunity of growing up with sirens blasting away as they travel the streets of lagos? You were in a minority who had that opportunity so please don't look down on others for it. Do not spit on the struggles or achievement of women who only rely on their physical appearances. If you can go through life and achieve things with your pretty brain then let others who don't have a pretty brain achieve it with their pretty face. There is integrity and dignity in having a pretty face if one wants to, don't paint them with the same brush. Omotola you spoke of, I am sure it was her pretty face that started her journey to where she is today and possibly, her brain kept her there.

You know Nigerian men don't like to take blame. Where is this girl's father. Nobody is talking about it. Shouldn't he at least come and raise his child.

Nairaland is very toxic towards women that's why I keep staying away.

There are only lashing out on the single mother who is just trying to raise this girl.

IndianaJay:
Mercy is foolish for putting her daughter on Instagram like that, then asking her followers to rate their pictures reeks of a deep inferiority complex, sounds like someone being competitive with their child.

"Mercy be like: Look at me, look at my daughter....who looks better"?

What good mother behaves like that?

Anyway....Mercy Aigbe is a slowpoke so I'm not at all surprised at the nonsense she puts on social media.

Or maybe its because her daughter and her are wearing the same type of hairstyle. For crying out loud, nothing is wrong with this picture!

Its only on nairaland that people are proud of being pedophiles..

What if she's wearing bikini or swimming trunk.. how will these old men control their rod??

what have we turned into, that a young girl cannot take a picture without an old man thinking of how it affects his peen.

No wonder the rape cases in Nigeria keep increasing because of all this bullshit excuse that we make up.

Rubbish just rubbish.

Sagamite:
85m children to educate.

Gross Enrolment ratio at primary school of about 80%.

Gross Enrolment ratio at secondary school of about 50%.

That would mean, at least 60m children in pre-higher education schools (primary and secondary).

Nigeria's annual expenditure on education = less than $4.5bn.

That is less than $75 per child ..............................and this is based on my generous assumption that none of the education budget is going to Universities, Polytechniques and other Higher institutions, just primary and secondary education.

If you factor those in, $75 per child would look way too generous.

And you just open mouth yakata say make government "build and upgrade schools, provide it free for students, provide free meals, pay teachers more and higher more teachers"?

With which money?

And while GEJ's government has bankrupt the nation?

Just Lagos alone, forget the other 35 states and FCT, has over 1300 schools with 17000 classrooms. Do you know what it would cost to refurbish and upgrade just those alone?

Other countries in the world have public schools free , secondly there will still be private schools, so not all children will be enrolled in the public schools..
We have the money, we absolutely have the money to fund education in this country.
So we should just lag behind the times because its expensive, education pays off.
Our technological abilities grow and we can learn to manufacture and export more goods.
You would rather our students sit on the floor in leaking classes just because its expensive?

Think about it.

crazysaint:
I don't think you are a Christian.
No Christian will ask such a question.

or is this what nairalanders call end time question?

Not everyone is a christian..

Why shouldn't Christians ask this question?

Why is Jesus called a savior when all he is doing is saving you from the punishment he gave you?

God created heaven and earth and all that is within. Why are we being Saved from something that God created in the first place.

Five Polish sailors, including the ship’s captain, have been kidnapped from a vessel off the Nigerian coast in a suspected act of piracy.
Witold Waszczykowski, Poland's foreign minister, said the cargo ship Szafir, on route from Antwerp to the Nigerian port of Onee, was attacked on Thursday night by a group of “unknown” assailants 30 nautical miles from land.
"During the night there was an attack on a Polish ship when a group unknown to us boarded the vessel,” said the minister at a press conference.

“As a result five of the 16 on board have been kidnapped. There was no blood and no sign that anybody was injured during the kidnapping,” he continued, but added the ship had received some damage.

Marek Grobarczyk, Poland’s minister for maritime affairs, said it looked like the attack was the work of pirates
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The Gulf of Guinea, off the Nigerian and Cameroonian coasts, has become plagued by pirates in recent years, and earlier this year a Greek sailor was killed and three others taken hostage during an attack on Greek vessel.
Most of the crew of the Szafir escaped the attackers by taking refuge in the ship’s engine room.

“When the attackers boarded the ship more than a dozen sailors barricaded themselves in the engine-room and turned off the engines,” a woman believed to be the wife of one of one of the sailors who eluded capture told Kontakt.24, a Polish news website.
“They couldn’t get in so broke into the cabins instead and kidnapped the people they found.”
The Polish government said so far it had not heard from the kidnappers and had no information on demands but it was liaising with the Nigerian authorities.
The ship’s owner, the Polish company EuroAfrica, has made no comment on the attack.

source :[url] http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/worldnews/europe/poland/12021524/Polish-sailors-abducted-from-ship-off-Nigerian-coast-in-suspected-pirate-attack.html[/url]
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Thank you for your kind words on mental health.

I don't know why we don't take our mental health seriously, especially since it is very important.

adozie:
You are right my dear. As a country we fail to see the damage we cause ourselves and fellow citizens by our dishonesty and attitude of celebrating crime and criminals.
Nigerians don't seem to realize that there is no difference between these scammers and armed robbers. The premise is the same.

Exactly, I was going to even compare the two sef. You took the words out of my mouth.

Most of us even know who some of these scammers are. We go to school and work with them.

We need both economic and moral change.

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redsceptic:
WAIT A MOMENT!! HALT>


Stop buying into this Oyibo crap and propaganda. Agreed: all fraud is bad and should be punished when unearthed. However Nigerians are not the only fraudsters and not even the biggest - not by a long shot. White people scam both Africans and caucasians of[b] billions[/b] everyday but Nigerians are always the scapegoats. The greatest internet scammers in the world are from Russia and eastern Europe yet the English say nothing about it because the money is banked in London. You catch two hungry guys stealing 1M pounds and you want our sympathy. Do you know how much Shell steals from Nigeria daily?
419 is bad and I wont partake but no Oyibo has my sympathy.

Where in my post did I say anything about Nigerians being the only scammers. I only said we tend to encourage it.
Don't put words into my mouth.

Your post is an example of what I'm talking about.. pointing fingers at others instead of accepting responsibility.

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Thank you for your post. I'm very glad that you brought this up! Let's discuss your main points. In regards to feminism in Nigeria.

For recruitment in a banking sector, statistics has shown that banks prefer attractive women (and in few cases, attractive men) for posts which involve direct interactions with medium to high-profile clients. I have never been to a bank and seen more men than women on the counter accepting money and paying cheques given by the customers. I agree that this may be uncomfortable for some attractive women in question especially those who are not aware of the hidden purpose for their recruitment. But even among those who are aware, many are offended. Only a few are concerned. On one side, the banks are not necessarily at fault for being capitalistic and business minded, but it is discrimination nevertheless because there are male graduates who are good at sales and communication but left to roam the streets with their certificates all because they are not women.

The main reason why most women are chosen in fields like this is because women are better than men when it comes to customer service.
men are recruited into manual labour and armed forces because they tend to possess more physical strength on average than most women.
Now OP, would you let a female mechanic or electrician or plumber fix your assets? I'm pretty sure you might refuse in the real world even though the female may be skilled.
Isn't this discrimination against women?
Let's face it, men and women have strengths in different areas.

Face the facts: Nowadays, women are paid more, given more second chances, sided more and are gaining too much of advantage over men. A skinny guy can be ridiculed by girls, called a wimp, unmanly, womanly and every other thing you can imagine but if he dares open his mouth and point out a fat girl eating McDonalds, he will be flamed to high hell.

This is a straw-man argument. Both male and female are capable of being insensitive to any genders.
Research has shown that most of the women are ridiculed for their weight, are being ridiculed by other women.

In social media, especially in Nigeria. Thin girls are ridiculed with words like pelenge , flat yansh etc. While curvy women are praised.

When relationships fail, it’s a fact that men get tragically overlooked when it comes to getting custody of their children. According to statistics, women receive custody of children 92% of the time in cases of divorce and illegitimacy. People will argue that the children need to stay close to their mothers but this astoundingly high number means that men are being denied the opportunity to become positive role models in their children’s lives. Consider as well that the average child support payment due from women is half the amount due from men. And despite this fact, women are twice as likely as men to default on child support payments. Unlike women, society prevents men from showing emotions and vulnerabilities. While it’s perfectly permissible for women to be aggressive, the moment men let down their guard and cry they are accused of being effeminate.

Sadly, there are few to none child custody battles in Nigeria. Its not really a thing.
Besides, we can almost all agree that in Most Nigerian family settings, the woman is more active in her children's life than their dad.
That's why when we have issues where house-helps vandalize the kids, Career women are blamed. Its rarely the father's fault.

They have real feelings as well, but unlike women, they don’t have the freedom to express them openly without having their masculinity and even their sexuality fall under question. Women have been in space, fought in wars and have served as heads of state, so why is it that men are termed the bad guy if they fail to hold a door open for a woman? Has it ever occurred to you that the guy who devised the “ladies first” policy may have created it just to check out his girlfriend’s ass? When it comes to equal treatment and equal rights for equal pay, women make more noise than a backfiring Bulldog. So why is it that when it comes to picking up a dinner bill, these same women suddenly become mute? Ladies can’t have it both ways. Being equal means assuming equal duties. With great paychecks come great responsibilities.

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In as much as I hate this. Ladies first has a long history. The reason why women are exempted from war most times or why ladies go first in case off emergencies is because, If for example , only one man survives in an island with 20 women. The island will be able to re-populate and grow back. But if 20 men survive and one woman, the island goes. This is where the term ladies first began.
I haven't met anyone termed a bad guy for not opening doors or holding doors for people. Its really not that popular.
Most people courteously hold doors open for others behind them.

About men and their feelings, you will agree with me that most men who are attacked for showing their feelings are usually attacked by other men. Try hugging your male friend and they will say stop being gay or feminine.

Even in television series, men are mostly depicted as grossly incompetent. From Family Guy to the Simpsons to King of Queens. According to Marge, Homer “chews with his mouth open, hangs out at a seedy bar with bums and lowlifes, blows his nose in towels and puts them back, and scratches himself with his keys”. Similarly, Family Guy’s Peter Griffin is a lovable oaf who “isn’t afraid to say what’s on his mind; usually the wrong thing at exactly the wrong time”. The women in these same series, meanwhile, project an almost saintly glow as long-suffering wives and dedicated mothers. It’s a sad fact that we’re living in the world where unsubstantiated statements can be made about men when these same claims would never be tolerated if they were directed at women.

Using american tv shows to describe Nigerian feminism again? You will notice that most Nigerian movies always paint women as nagging, prostitutes and runs girls in the university. Who later have regrets.
Even the working class women always tend to have some kind of weird relationship with their oga's.

Most men are shown to be in a position of power or extremely rich and being used by the females.

These are very biased stereotypes also. Why aren't you talking about this?

This is so sad and embarrassing to us as Nigerians.

It is sad that we as Nigerians encourage this scamming behaviour in a way.

Saying things like the victims are mumu only help to make the scammers feel wiser. It encourages them.

Pointing out the scammers tribes too does not help in any way.

Let us come together and condemn this shameful and corrupt crime.

iotstudent:
please I am 18 years old with little or no programming skill and I am a student of f.u.t.o studying computer science and I am in 200 level
please what can I do since I do not have money for aptech or niit. please advise on how to start,where to get materials and other stuffs.
and also what the tech world is like outside there. thanks for your help in advance

www.codeacademy.com OR www.khanacademy.com is good.

Yaaay for Nigeria!!!

Even if its true, how can a woman be proud of this.?

congratulations.. you both look happy.

Stanleyafam:
Please who started this rubbish of pre-wedding shots... people should think and have visions for their marital lives, instead of unnecessary show off.

People can also take an hour of their hectic lives and have a fun photoshoot! Should they spend all their lives thinking ? Marriage should be fun ,let them enjoy.

Richy4:
Did you train yourself in school?
Are you working...?
Do you buy your parents gift ones in a while?
If you buy your parents gifts ones in a while, why do you do it?

DO you read all the post on nairaland of people begging for admission fees to enter university?
Do you see the thousands of youths out hawking and begging in the hot sun. Young female hawkers being raped every second. All because their parents cannot care for them.
The plight of the Nigerian woman is very hard .
You guys like to act as if you don't know how this country is.
Was it not yesterday that a young man posted that his father flogged him naked all his life and rubbed pepper on his wounds?

Where in OP post was it mentioned that their family supported her?
For all we know, they might have sent her off as house-girl somewhere.

For a child to forget her sick mother, something terrible must have happened to her.
Until I hear two sides of the story, before i condemn the woman.

baby124:
Have you even confirmed that she is really a pharmacist and not a pharmacy sales girl. Some people tell their family what they are not. Also do you realize that she may not be as buoyant as you think she is and may just earn enough to survive? Maybe your mum needs to go and spend some time with her, and if your family and your mum has offended her then you people should apologize

Exactly my thinking.
I still fail to see how her success is a curse to his family.

Richy4:
Some people here don't just understand African settings. they equate every thing with American ways of life. some are even given Suzie orman show example on how she will be poor bla bla bla.

The Girl in question was trained by somebody in the family, she was invested upon so that when the people that invested on her became tired, she inturn will help out that is African settings.....


When it comes to abroad, They all got student loans and grant that will see them through University and when they graduate, and start working, they will pay all that. so they will never depend on their parent for anything, That is why they don't give money to their parent or any thing. and their parent on the other hand were saving a pension fund that will see them through retirement. because their kids will not look after them, they are going to a nursing homes or retirement village with the money they saved.

So that girl did not train herself neither did she applied for a student loan grant. because I am sure such thing was not in Nigeria. so the money the parent should have saved for retirement was used on her which was investment.

So now that she is working and the mother was not, she should help.....
People should not come in here and start forming oyibo and start supporting the girl's action because it was wrong.

After all if you get a student grant you will have to pay when you are working, no matter what you are passing through financially, the people that facilitated those loan and grant will not listen to you till you start paying by instalment.

No where in the post did OP say their family trained her. A lot of people in Nigeria train themselves through university. We don't even know how her family treated her when growing up.
It could even be that she has been giving them money all these while , yet they keep insulting her because she's single (as you can deduce from OP original post).
We need to hear both sides.

Franzinni:
Your sister is frustrated... Man problem... Or may be she drank some of the drugs she is producing.... She needs tb joshua.

Its comments like this that will make the sister hesitant to help. Even OP said that his sister is saving money for her husband, which kain reasoning be that?

etankoko:
I have four siblings who are in the high institution and am working and schooling at the same time. My elder sister who graduated from A.b.u Zaria as a pharmacist is doing very well. She is still single and claims to be a devoted Christian but fill less concern about anything that has to do with our mum . My dad is late and we are not finding things easy. The last time i checked my mum she was looking very sick and worried. The little money am making is not enough to carta for the whole family. My school and work are shaking me seriously.

To cut the story short, we have talked to some people to talk to her, both elders and other reliable family members. I don't know how to cope with the situation.

She is in another state. I don't know if she is just waiting for my mum to die so she will come and spend the money on her burial to impress crowd or she is saving the money for another man when she is married

My mum is dieing silently. Please make this front page i need advice cause i don't want to lose her now.

Sad to say this but she is not obligated to take care of you guys. Maybe she was maltreated as a young woman or you people are simply not nice to her.

I notice that you made mention of her marital status. You said she is saving her money for another man. I am very sure you have expressed these backwards sentiments to her that's why she is ignoring you guys.
Try and live your life on your own.

I feel so sorry for the young-man !

There are so many damaged people in this country.

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munex007:
Why saying something you have no knowledge of?

Women in Islam are thought to be subjugated, degraded, oppressed - but are they really? Are millions of Muslims simply that oppressive or are these misconceptions fabricated by a biased media?

Over fourteen hundred years ago, Islam gave women rights that women in the West have only recently began to enjoy. In the 1930?s, Annie Besant observed, ?It is only in the last twenty years that Christian England has recognised the right of woman to property, while Islam has allowed this right from all times. It is a slander to say that Islam preaches that women have no souls.?


Islam honours women greatly. It honours women as mothers who must be respected, Pleasing one's mother is regarded as part of pleasing Allaah. Islam tells us that Paradise lies at the mother’s feet

Islam also honours women as wives. Islam urges the husband to treat his wife in a good and kind manner,and says that the wife has rights over the husband like his rights over her

And the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “I urge you to treat women well.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 331; Muslim, 1468.

You are pretending to be unaware of the various oppression women face especially in primary islamic locations.
If you can plainly deceive yourself like this, opinions and facts will not deter your thinking.

This is why government and religion should never mix.

What sort of backward thinking is it? Women in Northern Nigeria already have it hard, they are being sold as wives to old men everyday. They have been stripped of their rights as human beings already.

The bulk of our problem in this country starts from parents having children they cannot care for. These children are being put to the street at a very young age to work, given as house-help, maltreated and abused daily. They in turn, grow up to be abusive and wicked just like how they were treated. Its an ugly cycle.