₦airaland Forum

obstead200:
nice profile pic. U are pretty. If I was not married, maybe I will also toast u.
But come to think of it. What kinda married man wastes precious time stalking a lady?
As a married man, ur entire toasting can be summarized in 4 sentences.
1. My name is............
2. I like u a lot, But I am married.
3. My financial net worth is ............ and I can impact on your life positively and financially(show her physical proof)
4. Can we now go and have sex?


NB: u must not win all the time. Be a man to take "NO" bravely and as a gentleman. Life is easier that way.

Absolutely right.. He had money and he made a lot of promises saying he would spend money on me.

harry509:
hmmmmM! I guess mayb bcus he dos not spnd his money on u anyhow, dats y u Rr sayn all dis.

Not really.. I'm just not interested in married men

ismokeweed:
Had he fvcked you earlier?

No

Oma307:
It would have been better if both of us kiss

If we ever meet.. I owe you one kiss

Oma307:
Bad girl, well i was 23 yrs b4 i kissed

Well you missed lol..jk

Sweetie, I'm not sure if you are in love but it seems like you really really like him.

The only problem is, 'does he really really like you too'?
Normally from a man's attitude, I can tell if he's interested in sex or me.

An easy way tell if he's interested in you is if he cares about you. Does he ask about your life and interests, does he listen to you?. You should be able to tell. Study him well.

After studying him, and you are sure he doesn't want just sex, you can start dating him and let everything else come natural.

If you are not sure that he genuinely loves/really really likes you, then don't move forward with the relationship.

You don't want to have a broken heart in the university. It will affect your studies tremendously.

irunooboo:
give me his number or contact. i would love to drain his pocket meanwhile sex is nothing to me so far he got.money to spend

I feel you babe but I have not spoken to the man in like 4 years now. Don't have his contact anymore.

I encourage babes like you to drain any married man's bank account. If they cannot have self control, let them suffer the repercussions

DICKtator:
Too bad

Really I wonder why he would attempt such nonsense

And it is possible or rather I am sure that his wife is finer than you !!!!!

Married men always have ugly sidechicks and are always attracted to ugly girls outside their marriage

This phenomenon cannot really be explained!!!

You might be right.. Its just lust to be honest.
Then again this was his fifth chils in 7 years or so, so the woman didn't give him chance to enjoy her.

Not victim blaming or anything of the sorts because I believe the man is in the wrong

My first kiss was under a Mango tree with a boy named Kunle when I was 13

I was so nervous. I was expecting it to be something huge but it was not spectacular at all.

I didn't feel anything.

I went home and I was so scared that I would get pregnant.

allanphash7:
Olodo

Smartie

craziebone:
when i called you hypocrite in the first post, yo think i was lying! I wonder why you, who is claiming to b pope and assistant chineke, cam utter the word punnani! Don't you see the hypocrisy already?

And what on earth made you think everyone is a christian, or that everyone who is christian subscribes to that which you are saying or believe? Why don't you just open your mind and see the diversity we all have in this world already! What made your idea about sex and sexuality an absolute truth? Infact, i see sexism and misogyny in your post. You mentioned your daughers only, but what about your sons? This is another classic case of oppressing female sexuality!

Our body being the temple of God? Again, when exactly did we all make that pledge to 'God'? And why must any christian and anyone for that matter understand that scripture the way you understand it? I wonder why that scripture doesn't spring up anytime you commit other sins like lieing, extorting money from worshipers in form of tithe and offerings. Why must it always be mentioned anytime premarital sex in the topic? And whatmakes you think that just because sex is in marriage, you are not defiling the 'temple of God'? What about when sex is offered by one partner out of 'obligation' and not true and genuine desire to share something with ones partner?

Why don't you just show it to us already why people have to have money before they have sex? Why don't you just show it to us, fool!

God.. I'm in love with you. You hit all the right spots.

AVRecruit:
marriage today seems not a wise choice. girls in their most attractive years r enjoyed by their bfs. the mumu husband go come carry after. mschew.

young damsels no longer want to settle down. they want to be 'free'.

in our parents times girls got married much younger im talking 17-21 so it made sense to wait. today they get married 26+ while their bfs de hammer t hem. who can actually wait those years? whose the idiot?

What makes you think girls don't marry their boyfriends.? The essence of dating is sincerely marriage and most people in fact do end up marrying their first boyfriends.

This is extortion point blank.
Big disgrace and embarrassment to Nigeria as a whole.
These are the first people that international travellers meet when they reach Nigeria.
First impressions are very necessary.
Why frustrate an innocent person just because of $50?

On Sunday, these officials will go to church and pay offering with stolen money and thank God. Who are they deceiving?

some of them will even go on-line to judge others yet they are not better.

One thing we should do is to report this people, note their names and location and publish them on social media and nairaland. They may not be punished but hopefully shame will catch them.

dyn1800:
What solution can be profer to the Vaginismus issue..... Seems I'm entangled in one

She will be prescribed dildoos of various sizes ranging from small to large. She will start from smallest to biggest until her vagina is open enough to accept a penis.
Could take at least a year or more depending on the woman

This treatment is very rare in Africa

farem:
Hmmmn.... no wonder prostitutes are having serious challenge of who to pick!!; A lot of guys are dying to take them to the altars!!!


STRONG DELUSION!

You would be surprised to hear that a lot of prostitutess get marriage proposals. Its all about love for most people not the vagina.

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Unstable electricity is enough reason for someone not to come back sef

klassiquette:
The sexual impotency got me: So what's the need for going for a medical test which is a must do condition before walking down the aisle?
Then sexual chemistry... Dad once told me that marriage is a school with time you adjust to suit your partner's needs.
Please don't use this points as a justification for premarital sex makes no meaning.... One can always learn how to satisfy his/her partner .... Time is all they need

They're also issues like vaginismus which cannot really be detected by the doctor ( vaginismus is severe pain in the vagina during sex).people with these problems can't have sex.

Even premature ejaculation is an issue, the man won't know he has until having sex.
There are also thing's like Micropenis ( even though the man may feel like he's endowed.) its a major problem during sex

there are various advantages of waiting till marriage but there are also several disadvantages and there is Nothing wrong In discussing them.

He is not encouraging pre-marital sex but let's not pretend that pre-marital sex is all bad or foreign. It happening right now and will keep on happening as long as humans are on earth. No amount of preaching will reduce it.
Besides not everyone is a Muslim or Christian or religious in general...

I personally, do not see anything wrong if two people in a committed relationship have sex (remember personal)

We are known for deceiving ourselves...

Op, did you just become a Nigerian?

She has great boobs...

pamcode:
hem actually the reason scarcity of water is just a ploy to try and send students home by force since mgt has closed the school. No matter what things cannot degrade to this level

Oh okay.. I understand now

This is unfair to these students, how do they expect them to study and concentrate properly when they cannot get access to basic things like water.

These students are going through too much. I really feel for them.

I don't know who's to blame, is the government not giving enough funding for the university or is this money being diverted elsewhere?

alexohams2000:
Na lie. The truth doesn't make you jobless. Put yourself in the shoe of the divorced. Haba, you be woman oooh. No say I no tell you, there's something called "karma" we win it at times even by the mere comments we make on nairaland.





































SORRY IF I SOUNDED HARSH.

What makes you think it wasn't the woman who instigated the divorce?

Nigerians on Instagram should get over this their holier-than-thou crap.

People divorce and re-marry. Life goes on

Best way to handle such men.

The girl says she's not interested.. then leave her alone.

I don't know why married men are so desperate. The most desperate men I've met where married.

I had one toaster who was married, he would not leave me alone, one day he messsaged me telling me that his wife just gave birth , that we should book an hotel room to celebrate.

Normally, I don't respond but I said, " your wife just gave birth 3 hours ago, don't you think you should be with her?!'and his reply was 'and so?' .

No respect whatsoever for his wife and new born baby.
It really shocked me.

To be fair, it was his fifth child in less than 7 years of marriage. So it was not really a big deal anymore I suppose.

married people who cheat are the absolute worst. They don't deserve sympathy at all.

This is the best way to handle them.

Hope the politicians and senators who tweet/publish false allegations against others will be sentenced to two-years in jail.

safarigirl:
did I ask anybody not to shag? Why do you sound like a wounded lion? There is nothing people who have sex are doing that I don't know of, I probably even know more than most, I just haven't involved myself in it. I'm not judging Mercy, I'm questioning her parenting skills like any right thinking adult should. Apologies if my post hit a nerve, I'm all for sexual exploration, just take care of consequences

That is why I said kids should be taught the use of contraception , literally my first response to you.

Let's Recap

- I responded to someone else talking about why we keep bashing the mothers forgetting the fathers.

- You responded that girls open their legs for idiots and keep chasing dead beats and that women should suffer the consequences alone.

- I said that people will have irrespective of the consequences and that we should promote safe sex. I also asked why you would insult mercy's husband.

- You then said something else about mercy's family and said I was excusing immorality. You said you are also a virgin at 21, that why is it so hard for others.

- This is why I asked is the question, is your virginity making you a parenting expert at 21? Do you think you are better than others who didn't.

I don't think I sound like a wounded lion.
I was only asking how your virginity makes you better than others or how it even matters to the discussion.

I'm not going to respond anymore because I'm sick of it already!

And FYI, Serial killers are mentally sick peple (sociopaths). And most abused women stay in marriages because they simply cannot leave. They are usually women who depend on their husband for income/housing.

Headlamp1:
Bwahahahaha I knew this and was expecting it.

Take heart. Don't hate on the tender untouched intact lillies. We read your own thread sometimes back where you were declaring in foolishness that you squirted for the 1st time after a shameful round with your sin mate. We read you pull up your skirts at the slightest provocation

You are what the consumate society tags 'old cargo' or tokunbo.
Seeing this as you are, hating on a 'tear rubber' babe makes you appear jealous or evil. So quit hating on that fresh babe abeg

Or I........

Lol.. At least I'm not judging anybody's moral choices.

To be honest, I think Safari girl needs to get some for getting worked up over Mercy Aigbe's parenting skills .

Besides, Its Safari girl that brought up her virginity... wetin cosign me?

Whatever insult you feel like giving me, go ahead!!! .

Wetin dem never call me for nairaland before sef. The floor is open.

safarigirl:
nobody called her trash. If you're old enough to shag, be old enough to care for a kid. You were born in a patriachal society so why act like you dropped from Heaven? I'm 21 and I have NEVER had sex neither have I considered it, am I immortal? Stop excusing immorality in the name of modernity. As long as Genevieve isn't throwing her daughter in my face, I can't say a word of her. Does a jury judge a case that hasn't been brought to public notice? You asked where her dad was, well her dad is a dead-beat and her stepdad has traded family time for money. Or have you ever seen him? Na you ask for papa

Ok.. Because you haven't had sex at 21, you are better than rest of people who have.

Your hymen is so important to you that you place yourself very highly on the morality ladder..

You feel free to judge Mercy, her kids and her spouses just because you're a virgin?

Well, If that's your reasoning, so be it.

safarigirl:
these are the consequences of opening your legs for eediots. They impregnate you and run off. Being a single mum is no excuse, abi is Genevieve not a single mum? Mercy even found a maga moneybag to marry her and sponsor her luxurious lifestyle, Genny didn't see, but she's not advertising her daughter, is she? When you go and have pre-marital sex with thugs and street boys, you will train the fruits of your tryst alone

So the father is excused as an idiot while the mother is called trash. I don't get it , people will have sex.

Since we don't know who Genevieve's daughter is, do you know the way she dresses or her morality.?
Coming for Mercy Aigbe's husband and family is really low. What's your issue with that.

Most of the pressures on a young girl to have sex are pushed by the man in our society, why can't we teach the men to close their legs too.
Its a natural thing. The only way to avoid accidental pregnancies is to teach teenagers and young women the value of contraception.

If you had any issues with her dressing, a simple message on facebook would be nice.

Instead of calling her out in her comments.

I would block you too!

One day Liar Mohammed will just deny that promise altogether.

They promised #5000 naira for both the unemployed and poor people.

We are waiting