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Bros its easy.

If you want her , take her back.

If you dont want her, ignore her.

Why complicate matter?

Bootybuttchic:
it cant concern u...oloriburuku....ur the ones who keep wishing for the downfall of nigeria just because of a. change in government.....its God that will punish you....may your home crumble the way gej did nigeria! ....may it be always destroyed the way boko haram is destroying the north....and may people be happy seeing u in disdain....and say wetin concern me all the time.....Amen

This is nonsense, garbage.

I cannot stand people like you who insult people that disagree with them. Why curse her home and life?
NOTHING WILL HAPPEN TO CR77... God will bless her continuously and forever.

You have to rethink your life madam. This attitude of yours is not normal.

4Play:
The story has no weblink which provides a source, we don't know when the interview took place and whether the translation is accurate.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xYnpJGaMiXo

For those who cannot the watch the video, the reporter is trying to say that the Media paints Third-world countries to be worse than they are. He used Nigeria as an example.

I did not put up this pictures to say Buhari is Good or Bad. I put it to show to show another perspective of how Nigeria is viewed.

Also, Sweden is not huge in politics, so its great to see a Small country talk about us in a positive light.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xYnpJGaMiXo

What do you think.

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thelish:
UNTIL THEY GET A CAREER? So no career, no marriage. This is serious

yes.. you should not depend on a man for money. Look at OP , she's stuck with a man who is cheating on her and treating her without respect because he knows she can't leave. She cannot survive without him.

No Career/Job.. no Marriage

angelchinny:
I hv read up, I hv been searchin 4 a job since I finished my NYSC 2013. I stay @ home 24 hours everyday and dats why he treats me dis way..I must confess I didn't knw him well b4 rushin in2 marriage with him cos we barely dated up2 6 months. But when we were datin he hide part of him perfectly well cos assuming I suspected any rubbish, would hv left him..he was all over me, he was leakin my feet then actin as if his life depended on me

I am sorry for your situation. Its difficult to get a job these days.

Take this as a lesson. Make sure your daughters are well-educated and tell them consistently that they are worth a lot. Tell them not to marry until they get a career.

Sadly, there is nothing you can do. You have no-where or no finance to move on. I will advice you to keep looking for a Job or open a shop. Do things you love. Stop having sex with him (Be very firm here, tell him that since he keeps cheating on you, you cannot risk your health). Don't cook if you are tired. Don't wash his clothes. Move out of the Bedroom. Let him see how life is without you.

Find a friend that will take you in if he kicks you out, save up some money.
Stop Caring about him. Be very indifferent. Its easier to survive this way. Educate your kids , they might help you get out of this situation in the future.

Just live life and see where it takes you.

stonecoldcafe:
I knew you were not working. Ask me how i knew you were a stay at home mum? 9 out of 10 times, a man disrespects and continously cheats on a woman who depends solely on him for every single damn thing. He knows you cannot and will not go anywhere cos you are wholly dependant on him. A Man also misbehaves when his wife works but he tends to hide or break the thing off entirely when the woman is equally powerful in her own right. He knows she will not eat nonsense from him. He will rarely flaunt it in her face because he knows the repercussion is grave.

Madam, get something to do with your hands. Go and learn a trade or something; there is power in a woman who can stand on her own two feet. Stay at home mum is so old school!

GBAM!

The study conducted at Kaiser Permanente in San Francisco involved more than 600 high-risk individuals including gay and bisexual men, as well as heterosexuals and injection-drug users. These individuals were healthy at the time of enrollment and were put on a daily regimen of a blue pill called Truvada as a pre-exposure prophylaxis (PrEP). In previous tests, the pill had been shown to prevent infection about 86 percent of participants.

In this trial, it was 100 percent. That's right, not a single person in the study, published in Clinical Infectious Diseases, became infected while on the drug.

The researchers said it wasn't clear from the study if the reported rate of sexually transmitted infections in the study is an increase or not and that further investigation is needed. They recommended that Truvada be combined with a parallel plan to prevent other STIs which may include the use of condoms, more frequent testing and discussions with prospective partners.

source : http://www.washingtonpost.com/news/to-your-health/wp/2015/09/04/in-new-study-hiv-prevention-pill-truvada-is-startlingly-100-percent-effective/

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Opynion:
someone is being misled here. OP you should be happy that you have such a romantic husband. how many men will have time for the dinning table (if not to eat beside his laptop in his room with his attention on one half unclad lad chating him up om fb). abeg feed your man with kiss and enjoy your marriage jor.
|Wish you happy married life

This is not the question. The question is that OP was busy when her husband was about to eat and he turned the food. She might normally serve him naked, we dont know. We only know what happened that day.

She served her husband, got busy and was unable to serve. Is it not ok for the husband to understand and plate his food? He didnt ask to come eat, he didnt ask for company. He asked for food to a plated. Im sorry if i dont see the sense in this. He was arrogant and immature

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Like all bad advice, “Follow Your Passion” is routinely dispensed as though it’s wisdom were equally applicable to all. It’s not. Just because you’re passionate about something doesn’t mean you won’t suck at it. And just because you’re determined to improve doesn’t mean that you will. Does that mean you shouldn’t pursue a thing you’re passionate about?” Of course not. The question is, for how long, and to what end?

When it comes to earning a living and being a productive member of society – I don’t think people should limit their options to those vocations they feel passionate towards. I met a lot of people doing Dirty Jobs who really loved their work. But very few of them dreamed of having the career they ultimately chose. I remember a very successful septic tank cleaner who told me his secret of success. “I looked around to see where everyone else was headed, and then I went the opposite way,” he said. “Then I got good at my work. Then I found a way to love it. Then I got rich.”

Every time I watch The Oscars, I cringe when some famous movie star – trophy in hand – starts to deconstruct the secret to happiness. It’s always the same thing, and I can never hit “mute” fast enough to escape the inevitable cliches. “Don’t give up on your dreams kids, no matter what.” “Don’t let anyone tell you that you don’t have what it takes.” And of course, “Always follow your passion!”

Today, we have millions looking for work, and millions of good jobs unfilled because people are simply not passionate about pursuing those particular opportunities. Do we really need Lady GaGa telling our kids that happiness and success can be theirs if only they follow their passion?

There are many examples – including those you mention – of passionate people with big dreams who stayed the course, worked hard, overcame adversity, and changed the world though sheer pluck and determination. We love stories that begin with a dream, and culminate when that dream comes true. And to your question, we would surely be worse off without the likes of Bill Gates and Thomas Edison and all the other innovators and Captains of Industry. But from my perspective, I don’t see a shortage of people who are willing to dream big. I see people struggling because their reach has exceeded their grasp.

That’s why I would never advise anyone to “follow their passion” until I understand who they are, what they want, and why they want it. Even then, I’d be cautious. Passion is too important to be without, but too fickle to be guided by. Which is why I’m more inclined to say, “Don’t Follow Your Passion, But Always Bring it With You.”

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sinizia:
I can serve myself. I don't mind. I never said it's a must that she must serve me. If let's say[b] she is busy or not around[/b], i can go serve myself. But if she is not, then she serves me or put the food in plate and give our kids to bring for me. I do cook and serve my girl when she comes around. No big deal in it.

Gbam! The woman was busy in this situation. I don't understand the arguments in this thread are for.

dinachi:
Missed entirely! Just pray you dont get a divorce over a well prepared and delicious egusi soup not properly served!
Only foolish,bigoted,shortsighted and idiotic women fail to understand that serving ones husband is an act of love, care and devotion to the man you love most.

the problem is not about serving men. most women serve their husbands.

the incident occurred while the woman was busy with chores. An understanding man will go ahead and serve himself or help out with the chores.

everyone has different opinions and its very immature to insult people because their views oppose yours. your comment is the most disgusting comment in this thread.

dazzlingd:
you must have had a lovely natural hair

it was ok just too hard

SonOfEl:
and let's see who hurts the most eventually.....

who knows...?

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CSTR2:
The woman should divorce the man if she finds it difficult serving. There is no big deal here.
Someone else will serve the oga.

abi oooh.
The woman will also find a man who doesn't mind dishing his own food that is in front of him.

life is easy

[quote author=Treasuredlove post=37600839][/quote]thats also an option.

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4C2215131:
Careful now...tread carefully. Theoretically you're very correct, but practically, he converse obtains and we all know that when it comes to it, the practical is what counts. Again, thread softly.

You see ladies, the key to a man is in your hands. KNOW YOUR MAN! If you can find this thumb-screw (and possibly in this instance, his is wanting a wife who completely or nearly so, worships him evidenced by his need for her spooning his meal when it's due) you'll CONTROL ANY MAN! No matter how powerful, ruthless, rich, miserly, or poor!

Woman, you have the equivalent of a powerful weapon to use to get your way with your man (positively I mean). Pamper him and watch his mumu switch be forever lit.

you are right. beautifully composed.

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Ishilove:
Interesting. I actually agree with the article although I won't say I'm not guilty of some of 'sins' illustrated here. I stretch my hair with chemicals every three months, not because of inferiority complex but out of necessity. My hair is very thick and stubborn so it needs to be managed. Only a man will condemn relaxer use outrightly.
Asides that, yes, I agree with the hair fixing thingy. I haven't fixed a weave in three years and I have no intention of ever fixing ever again.
Well, we have the media to blame for the 'Whitification' of the black woman.

Me too! I carried thick natural hair when i was younger. I would break hairstylists comb, in short some people refused to do my hair. I tried maintaining my own natural hair when i became older. It was just too hard.

I love natural hair but do relaxed hair and weaves are not bad either. Whatever works for you.

edwife:
Don't mind them,the same people here when you ask them how many of them do the plumbing,electrical repairs or car servicing will raise their hands.But when it comes to cooking and house-chores it is equality.

Have you watched soul food,the black american series?and most of Tyler perry movies?

After all this is Nairaland.....

most Nigerian men don't do plumbing and all that because manual labour here is cheap.

SonOfEl:
why do you think lovers use the pet word "baby" on each other?

yes a grown man can be a "baby" to his boo

why cant the man treat the woman as a baby too. the woman does not want to do something. Pamper her and let her rest too. Cook breakfast for her and look into her eyes when she eats. I too want to treated like a baby.