₦airaland Forum

dammybrite:
Hullo,miss raayah. no one is supporting anything, d simple fact remains "let patience have her full work in you". What happens when you provoke or dare your boss? I guess you know the answer already.
I understand you perfectly, but you have not rigged well enough into the reason for your parents separation, it surely has a deep cause which you know not.
Finally there is a time for everything, a time to speak and a time to be quiet.

When you provoke or dare your boss, he fires you! If your woman is too much and you cannot communicate effectively with her, Maybe its time for a divorce.. not head injury!

Fundango:
yes those are the part women can use to win men's heart.

Abi ooh...Its even much better if the man knows how to work it in the bedroom.... It will be explosive!!

cr7lomo:
Stop twisting it all, there is a difference between marrying an abusive man and provoking a man that is not abusive to the extent that he hits u. Y should u provoke him to hit u if u truly love him. Only a wicked woman like u will do that sort of thing . U can't control ur mouth but u expect him to control his hands because he has no emotions or what

The stereotypical woman talk too much.. lets hit them lol! What about the various men who have talkative wives but don't hit them.. do they have two joysticks?

What happened to your own mouth? Why don't you use it to call her to order?

Besides, Nigerian women are the most submissive and respectful women out there, they respect their marriages a lot. Because you see patience ozokwor acting in a movie abusing her husband does not mean that most women do.

Do you fight everybody that disrespects you? Why only your wife?

ayoola648:
I dont blame you.. your mother can't advice you well doesn't mean other mothers can't .. dont forget the marriage vows made during marriage..

sha u ugly ..
see mouth like Mouth Action machine ..

personal insults!
So you cannot come up with a comprehensive and thought out response??

I weep for you!

DeRay98:
From your profile you look like a senior teenager and your comment typifies that assertion. Teenagers or teenagers at heart always assume that they know all. The moment they start to hear about an idea or issue or topic they assume it's new and they are well informed on it.
Your insufficient comprehension of the advice is evidenced when you overlook the fact that the mother said she dared her husband and that brought out the monster in him and it happened just once. Who knows how your mum treated your father regularly? You can come here to say she did heavy and earth for him but you won't say the things she did wrongly.
You had better learn the right lessons now otherwise, when your heart starts to pant after a guy you think is prince-sharming(whatever your criteria) you might end up with the wrong guy and your parents history repeats itself.
Be forget your teenage mentality and learn those who have experience to share.

When a bus touts/agbero dares you , you men will cower and hide but when a woman talks backs , you strike because you know you can win!

Abusive men are cowards!

cr7lomo:
Shut ur dirty mouth and learn ... Women like u destroy their homes because they think they know it all.

Going straight to personal insult because you cannot counter my argument...Classic!! I win!

sauceEEP:
You lack comprehension skills.

Yes, a head injury which can cause brain aneurysm and death makes me crazy!

geeben112:
am quite sure u already built bad orientiation @ ur tender age.

What's my age?

Orikinla:
She must be a Yoruba mother.
Omo Oluwa Bi.

[size=18pt]Many Igbo mothers teach their daughters how to divide the monthly allowances for provisions into two unequal parts and save the larger sum for herself and her mother and deprive her husband of some provisions.[/size]

Not a bad advice, if she is a stay at home mom!

DeRay98:
From your profile you look like a senior teenager and your comment typifies that assertion. Teenagers or teenagers at heart always assume that they know all. The moment they start to hear about an idea or issue or topic they assume it's new and they are well informed on it.
Your insufficient comprehension of the advice is evidenced when you overlook the fact that the mother said she dared her husband and that brought out the monster in him and it happened just once. Who knows how your mum treated your father regularly? You can come here to say she did heavy and earth for him but you won't say the things she did wrongly.
You had better learn the right lessons now otherwise, when your heart starts to pant after a guy you think is prince-sharming(whatever your criteria) you might end up with the wrong guy and your parents history repeats itself.
Be forget your teenage mentality and learn those who have experience to share.

I am not a teenager, dared him how?... pls! So a woman deserved physical abuse because she did something wrong?
I shudder when I see women and children being abused!
Dared him so much that she got a head injury?? When you spend nights in the hospital because of physical abuse, come and tell me what stupid dare it is.

My daughter,you see this your husband? He is a
gentleman but don't take advantage of that. Don't
bring out the beast in him. My daughter,you see
this mark on my forehead?
Your father gave it to me.He tolerated me
everytime but on that day,He came unexpectedly.
It wasn't his intention but i dared him and he hit
me just once

Very Very bad Advice!

Look, my own mother suffered abuse in the hands of her husband after doing heaven and earth for him. You know what my mother told me one day? She sat me down and said, "Raayah. My husband does not love me, If he did, he will not abuse me like this for no reason".

Weeks after that, She moved out and hasn't looked back. She is planning to return the dowry to his people very soon. Life is so much better for her. No more spending nights at the hospital,(Yes, that's how serious the physical and mental abuse was), no more tears.. Life is good!

If you choose to stay with an abusive man because of the "children" or because you cannot "live independently", then say so. Don't tell women to stay with men with abusive men..
Same advice for men, don't stay with abusive women. They can kill

She dared him by doing what? How many of you will fight an agbero who dares you, or a man who disrespects you, Not a lot!
But when it comes to your wife, she does something wrong, you decide to give her head injury!
All of you justifying this abuse are cowards, yes I said it!

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I am responding to this post as a career orientated and Independent woman.

1.Can you start a life with a man in one room a.k.a FACE ME I FACE YOU?
Yes, I dated a young man living in face me I face you with his parents while my family was middle class.I even sent him money when he was broke. We broke up because I moved.For some women, its not possible for them to marry such guys because its difficult for them to run into such people in the first place . Their social circle does not extend that far. Just like female Celebrities that marry rich guys, its not because they are picky. Its simply because these are the men they meet.
Another reason, women do like men who can provide for them- its a natural thing .so most women will find someone who can take care of them.

2.Can you marry a struggling man who has no regular job? A man without a job or struggling. It depends really! Are you sitting at home watching TV 24/7 or are you out there trying to get a Job or business. Also, If I bring in the income, are you willing to keep up with the housework and perform duties as a stay at home dad. A marriage is a life commitment and I will reconsider if a man will be a financial drain.
Your point about maybe his business blows or not, It does not matter. If a relationship is not working out for you, it isn't.

3.Can you have a very low budget marriage?: Yes I can! This is because I don't like being the center of attention. If you and your fiancee want a flamboyant wedding.. go for it . If you don't want it, then don't do it. People in the real world communicate!

4.Can you marry a man who loves you but is not your preferred spec?:Marriage is a life-long commitment. You cannot go into it with a person whose flaws you cannot accept. Its like going to the market to buy a shoe, you keep trying it and walking with it to see if the shoe fits! Why would I marry a man who does not fit me? The only thing i will say is that you should not be unrealistic. But if a man/woman has a major flaw that you cannot accept better to move on.

5.Can you marry a man with a wide age gap to you: Marrying someone that is Significantly older than you is not really convenient. Especially when its much younger and much older. A 20 year old woman and a 40 year old man have nothing in Common. There are usually regrets. Barring unforeseen circumstances, It's likely you will become his nurse, sexual libido will be very different. Both of you cannot retire together, his friends are way older than yours and same with their wives too, It will be harder to make couple friends, power inbalance etc.. This one is your choice

Bros... can she dish food? Don't make mistake and marry out of love. Marry a woman who will"serve" you.

ALISMILE:
Jus thinking sha! Most girls start very early these days! Some as young as 12 they er already well established in life of frivolous sex! What den happens wen she grows up, meets a responsible guy who after soooo many yrs resisted all the allures of beautiful young girls and remains a virgin until his wedding night only for him to discover that his wife is not a virgin!Is this fair? Am sure she will come up with one rape story! Will he eva be happy wit her?

I wonder how some people will choose to get into a life commitment without checking their compatibility with their partner in this day and age.

When you are starting a serious relationship with somebody, sex is very important to talk about.

If a man prefers virgins, be honest and say so! Nobody's time will be wasted
If there are some defects in your sexual organs.. say so!
If you are planning to wait to have sex until marriage.. say so! ...

It's not rocket science!

There is nothing wrong if a spouse chooses to provide for the other!

charsola:
@raayah are you an atheist?

No

tpiander:
are your lovers on nairaland?

You've opened a few sexually themed threads.

No

Dygeasy:
Nothing jare..


Is the country in the Northern or Southern part of the US?

middle of the u.s

MarvellousGod:
The country is in d US? what will US now be ? A continent?

Anyway, go with the foreign company if it's in line with your career. ...

lol.. i know..

Dygeasy:
LMAO!!!!


Dear Lord!

what's funny

PapaNnamdi:
i hate seeing topix like this, "big oil company", mtcheew,

i am trying to be discreet.

slap1:
Which foreign country? All foreign countries are not the same.

the country is in the U.S

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[quote author=ProphetUdeme post=38069351][/quote]did you read the post

On the eve of his visit to the United States, Pope Francis blasted religious institutions who are exploiting tax loopholes to make money instead of helping the needy.

In an interview with a Portuguese Catholic broadcaster, the Pope discussed the need for Christians to fight the temptation of the ‘God of money’, into which many religious institutions often fall. He then called out those institutions that have opted to enter into other industries while exploiting a legal loophole to keep from paying taxes on their business enterprise operating under the guise of doing “God’s work.”

“Some religious orders say ‘No, now that the convent is empty we are going to make a hotel and we can have guests, and support ourselves that way, or make money.’ Well, if that is what you want to do, then pay taxes! A religious school is tax-exempt because it is religious, but if it is functioning as a hotel, then it should pay taxes just like its neighbor. Otherwise it is not fair business.”

This statement from the leader of the Catholic Church is part of his continuing call for the Church to set an example and create change in what he has continuously referred to as a “bad and unjust economic system,” that continues to maximize profits at the expense of the masses.

In America, it is estimated that churches would generate $83.5 billion in annual tax revenue if the exemption was lifted on their $600 billion in untaxed properties.

Source : http://usuncut.com/world/pope-francis-calls-for-ending-tax-exempt-status-of-churches-that-dont-help-the-needy/

I am deeply ashamed of Nairaland men!

voodooman:
your father's head will be checked first.

why? he does not say stupid things like you do!