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@Ima 1
U r right girl!!!
y do some men have the freedom to bring in another woman into their matrimonial home anyhow.
God help us women o!!!
Divorce would be great,but painful considering all u must have put into the marriage but abeg ooo.i cant imagine staying with an unfaithful husband.Even condom no dey 100% oooooooooo

@Olanajim
Could you pls explain wussy

Hiya,
i understand your plight.Right now u would be feeling alone in the world.Try to be strong Bro.Pls dont die b4 the virus gets to u,u got t o be strong.U can live a healthy long life even longer than some 'healthy' people.Pls,

As 4 ur girlfriend,r u really 100% sure u got it from her?100%?

And wat would u harming or doing 'killing' her do to ur health?Nothing my Bro.

Be Strong and really try to get over the pain so u can start going for counselling.

Cheers.

@Jenik
Thanks girl!!!

Me thinks it is all in ur head.!!!!!!!!

Mc Omo,why not??any thing that would make us know more about places and experiences even if na hell fire,feel free ooooooooooo abeg.

@ poster
Take good care of urself.

i think the girl i question would also (definately) have her own side of the story.for her to be crying on the phone and asking for forgiveness,shows that she doesnt think the yrs u spent together was nothing.

it is easy for ppl to blame or accuse u for "staying" with her for those yrs,but really many of them one time or the other would have been in such situations.u dont have to feel bad for bad replies on this forum,it is typical of some hungry nigerians to pass sadness unto others just to make them feel better.dah!!!!!

i'm sure u did ur best and u were really hurt(if not,u wont have posted ur case here just for bad replies).

As for the girl,i'm sure she is the only one that can really tell u wassup,afterall there would have been other guys and she didnt fall for all this while,y now?and the fact that she doesnt have any genuine reasons for doing so.

As for her mother,she might have told her daughter she's not getting any younger and the fact that u are in sch and she's serving now.when would u finish and when would u say u want to settle down?and many other questions.really i think her mother has alot to do with this,because she should have spoken sense to her by now.

But overall,take it easy "if" possible move on and if destiny wants it,she might end up been Urs.
Cheers Man!!!

just had to reply this,Omo u funny no be small o.

i really laughed my head off.nice and well composed "advert".
i sure will apply immediately.after all na cool bucks(ransom) dem dey collect.

teetalks,keep up the good work,i really cooled off with that.
Thanks alot.

I guess the right answer is for me to wait and see what happens. cross my fingers and leave my testosterone out of it

Hope u have really learnt your lesson.There is no gain in trying to eat ur cake and have it.

Baby,u can if u wanna.so far u understand wetin u dey yan.

Abi o,but now i'm not so keen on that again.He can be there fine, if not,no much fuss about that for me.

Hi guys,
i would also be writing my GRE/TOFEL exams soon,also for a sch in Texas,Houston.i have a cousin who has sent a GRE CD(the book is too heavy 2 be sent) to me and i hope to have it by this weekend.
i have some materials i'm reading but i have not started serious reading.Pls let's help out as much as we can.
Read well my friends.Cheers

Least i forget,i wrote a thread on GRE/TOFEL centres in Abjua,dont know if u guys can help out.hoping to nwrite my exams by the end of nxt month.Check my thread out:

Any Clue on GRE/TOFEL?
Please does anyone have a clue on GRE/TOFEL centres in Abuja?if any,where?also any clue on the fees.Please it is urgent.Thanks.

Pls does anyone have a clue on GRE/TOFEL centres in Abuja?if any,where?also any clue on the fees.Pls it is urgent.Thanks.

Na wa for this people o.

Na shit,shit dey say dem dey pack and dem dey buy cars,house,dey send moni to their ppl ova here and they tell us say na shit dem they pack.
Abeg i wan follow them pack shit o jare.
afterall people wey no dey pack anything just sit don for house(unemployment),dey suffer 4 for naija.
Abeg na shit be the happening thing o jare.i wan carry.

***For my real ppl out there,shit packing is just a term some selfish nigerians use to discourage other nigerians from going abroad.Though some do menial jobs(but it is not just 4 nigerians even whites) just to find their footings(mostly for ppl with poor backgrounds),but they move higher with time.
@Poster
Pray and hope for the best(after applying for ur visa lottery o!)

WHOA!!!

That is great man.Glad we could help out.Wish u the both of you the best.And Pls dont forget what u said and promised o!!!A Promise is a debt.Treat her right and she will stick with you forever,u'l see.

Cheers man.

Hi,

yes it would be great to have one's husband in the labour room(or so i wanted),until i read a piece in a newspaper by a journalist(a woman),that women should be careful what they ask 4 cos it may be to their disadvantage.i didnt understand what she meant until she explained thatsome men after seeing their wives in that can of state(unkempt,foul mood, not too great state etc ),may not find her sexy again!!!

when i read this i thought twice o!After i carried the baby for 9 months alone (he only supports),so him being there would not neccessary add to the childbirth,because i would love to still be sexy to my Sweetheart o!!!

I light a candle for my brother Kola,he died 2001.

Kola,if i was told to give up everything i hve just to turn back the hands of time i would just to hear u laugh.U were really strong and u made ppl around u feel like a milloin bucks.
We all love U,Ur death was really painful,Dad has not gotten ova it so is mum.still remember u yesterday like always,didnt know i was going to see this thread but i'm glad i did.

Love u Bro, And i pray r gentle soul rest in Peace.

True talk my Brother.i love that.

my Brother u have said it all.True talk!!!

Hi guys,

i aint really a new comer,but had to come to this forum(Travel) cos of my Cousin.He wants to go 4 his masters by next yr,may/june,in US.Pls i would really appreciate it if i can get all the neccessary information for him.he wants to study Petroleum Engineering.

he wants to know these;
1. the cheapest school offering Petroleum Engineeing
2.cost of living there(accommodation)probably in or outside the campus
3.If there is any concrete scholarship to help him with fees(he finished with a 2:1)abt 3.62/5.0
and any other useful info.
Thanks guys.looking forward to ur response.

na wa o,4 me washing ur pants should be a personal thing,(that was what we were taught when we were small).i cant imagine any one washing them 4 me not even my mum or sister so really i cant imagine my man doing that(not becos of any culture o).[b]And likewise i cant wash any man boxers or briefs[/b]sorry guys uh uh,that is a no go area for me.my father washes his' and my mum hers'.that's cool 4 me.
My guy can help me pick up my pants but no washing abeg.(men are no good washers anyways).Being the only girl in my family believe me i know.

Guys pls, for God's sake we are talking of marriage here not a boss-employee relationship.As a married couple u should know how to relate with each other,share ur joy and sorrow,be intimate and share ur deepest feelings life life,ur dreams and no culture,Black,White,Red can stop that it's all in ur heart.
So, where does calling ur husdand Uncle Lagbaja come in?to Guys out there believing that their wives should call them Baba Luku,would they like her to call them Baba Luku when having sex.
Imagine ur wife screaming Baba Luku,Baba Luku all night,men, sheesh!!!!!!!!
African mentality,if we r to go with all our traditions even men would cry imagine ur younger brother sleeping with ur wife when u die.Men,
i bow o!!!!!!!

dnt bother u head too much.GO FOR UR MASTERS.i have a brother who just finished his in Unilag and now companies r all over him.the truth is that so far u hace a 2:2(and not less) ur masters would be very effective.forget wat vacancies say abt experience,when u have ur masters they bow.Cheers

@Ima1
what is she missing?Probably the guy
didnt show show her how much he loved her and she got all the attention and 'love' she wanted from someone else.
@ Poster
i must tell u that she really loves u o!ehn, how many girls would have called the other man and break up in ur presence like that,and not being sure of your love for her.
She said 'r u ready to put a ring on her finger?' and u couldnt assure her of any particular time u can do that(if u really want to)at 25 u r not getting younger,u can have a relationship now that can lead to marriage even in 3-5yrs' time.
Reassure her give a particular time,that u can be ready to put a ring on her finger.well, u can let her go and meet her 'suitable' suitor if u r not ready to be commited to her.u said girls come and go but she stays,i think ur unfaithfullness might have added to this.pls let her go if u cant prove to her that u love her and really mean it.
Cheers.

i'm really happy for Soul-E!!!He is a good rapper,so talented and blessed.I heard he is about getting married to Ure a daugther to a former minister and that the chic is hot(financially too).The whole fuss about their wedding is that people are wondering what Soul-E is doing witha lady who they consider is not only out of his league as in pay,but also in age.She is 35 well he is 24 and that she is a divorcee.

Really, i dont personally see any thing wrong with that and the fact that his family members are in support.i dont know why people would not just let them enjoy the relationship without prophesing doom on them.Please Soul-E is an adult and can make his decisions and face the cosequences.I just thank God the lady is not a typical Naija babe because people would have really said alot of things about her that would discouraged her.Please leave them to enjoy their lives the way they choose to.Afterall, u be God,so why judge?!!!! Abeg mind let's mind our own business!!!

"Before you date the girl, and you know you're the kind that can't live without sex, I mean sex is the breath you need to survive and the source of your strength, then ask her outrightly, if the conditions don't suit both parties, then keep moving.

If both of you can't seem to compromise, then move on and get yourself a girl that share your belief. I don't feel a girl should compromise her principles and morals just because the guy can't do without esp. if she's lived by the principles all along.

Always be on the same page, if you guys can't come to a joint agreement, then you're better off without each other. Cheating behind her back because she's not ready doesn't make it ideal, and the damages when exposed arent worth the minutes pleasure. Kindly and quietly call it a day and continue with your lives seperately, she sticking to her rules and you sleeping with whomever or whatever . . but at least nobody is hurting the other person!! "

u have said the whole truth.i had the same problems with my former boyfriend we had to move on,now i'm with someone who respects my views and will not keep tempting me.Men want their wives and sisters to be virgins but want their girlfriends to bend to their urge without marriage na wa o.my choice of being a virgin seriously is not for respect or anything from any man but for the love i have for God.

"A part of what i feel for him died during this conversation because i realized the level of his selfishness. Is this what i'm supposed to go through before meeting the right person?"

u get to 'see' more i.e realise more as time goes on.i'm really happy u r getting to see the real picture.dont worry abt heartaches,sometimes things like that happen for us to learn from them.Take of u.u are worth more than any thing to God,so,Smile girl!!!

@ finemocha
that is a lie from the pit of hell.u can only "love" one for convienence sake,like say money,beauty,etc,which i would call lust(which does not necessarily mean sex) and really love the other.or better still "love" the two for the same selfish reasons.but dont go believing u can love two ppl at the same time.Even the bible says "can there be two captains in a ship?".at least u'll love one more than the other.

pls give us more info on how to apply.
Thanks

"Oh i know ! It was God that saved me from the claw of a pending bad marriage ! Like i said, Good things come to those who waits."~Sweet T

i agree with u my brother!!!

That goes further to show you that that guy is only sexually attracted to you and doesn't want to be emotionally involved.

i agree wiith that!!!100 %.Dont go close 2 him again like that,i mean alone in a room,he cant be trusted.

My sister,u just have to move on and like i said stop making excuses for him.He was probably telling to Shakara tthe other lady by staying with u outside,just to make her jealous and atick with him very well this time around.There is more to enjoy in a relastionship than what your guy is giving u.i must tell u. hanging around for 'weeks' for him to sort himself out and u moping and crying every morning waiting for him is noy it.it would probably take him forver to 'break up' with his so-called fetish girl.I know it is hard cos like i have said i been there too.but i moved on and made him realise i aint a fool for him like he tot.
Anyway a word is enuogh for the wise,dont say u were not warned sha!!!
Wish u the best in whatever decision u make.One Love!!!