₦airaland Forum

TinubuThief:
And na their brother be the President oh.
Keep on teaching obidients and Obi a lesson they will never forget

Senselessness

Una never see anything yet. Ask Katsina people

attackgat:
So why do they want "one Nigeria" then?

MadamVanessa:


Ojukwu still remains the most valuable and respected leader in Nigeria and in Africa. After the Biafra war, he was given a heroic welcome by the Nigerian government. During his burial, he was given a state burial by the Nigerian government. The Nigerian leaders and other African leaders and Nigerian army were saluting his corpse left right and centre. What a brave man was Ojukwu.

oliverwrites:
My daughters ( 3 of them ) have been through a lot this year. They are not used to daddy not being around ( Me and their mother are currently separated but I am hoping she would change and we would be back together ), so far the seem to be coping fine but I want to make this Christmas an awesome one for them and need gift ideas.

Please give me gift ideas.

I have a budget of 200k for each of them. This includes 100k each for their clothes and shoes for Christmas and New year.

And another 100k to buy them gifts they will like. They all have ulesson tablets so tablets are not options.

They are 7, 4 and 3.

beekind:
I am the 2nd born out of 2 children, my elder brother has been married for some time with no kids as a result I am super careful with issues relating to fertility.
I am in my late 30s and have been dating a 27 year old lady for 4 months now, the relationship moved so fast as she is a perfect match for me .
I have met her family and she has met mine, we are already planning marriage and have started counselling sessions in her church.

She complained of irregular periods so I told her to do a hormonal profile test and see a gynecologist, turns out she has got PCOS.

I have done my own fertility test and I am fine, I am at a cross road now, I cannot afford to struggle with child birth considering my age and also my only other sibling still also having issues with the wife also still trying to get pregnant after many years.

The only other option would have been to ask her to try for pregnancy before marriage but she is a virgin and wants to keep it that way till wedding, besides if I disvirgin her, how will I be able to walk away incase she doesn't get pregnant ?

I am at crossroads now, its not too late but walking away at this point will be very costly for me since we have already started plans towards the wedding and our families are already in touch.

My heart is heavy and I am confused, I need good advise as I cannot discuss this with anyone.

MightySparrow:
Tinubu is the leader we need. Things are difficult now but I know as a yoruba man. The stock of Awolowo that made SW use television ahead of France, we are in safe hands. People are judging APC by Buhari's performance.


I see light with Tinubu.
Long live Nigeria.

Gadafii:
In Nigeria, ordinary dada person carry for head lecturers wan behead am

SeeWahala:
Ronu people and agbadorians won't comment on this thread lie lie

Shame unto them all

pstemma1990:
Good morning everyone, how are we all doing? Pls what type of bussiness can I do with this type of car?

A friend of mine bought it 3 months ago for his pure water factory, but things didn't go as planned... So he wants to give it out for weekly remittance..

What kind of business can I do with it, and how much would be fair to be remitting every week.. Thanks

pstemma1990:
money no dey that pure water sir.

nairagenone:
In my opinion, the most important thing for a man is peace of mind.
No woman is perfect, so just highlight what is important to you and check if a lady ticks 70 percent, if she does then go for her.

For me, I was looking for -> fidelity, respect, good family orientation(especially her moms personality), godly and loves God , lastly she must not be olosho(very important).

On my journey searching, I saw plenty things because of my requirements I started going after SU looking babes, my brother, wetin my eye see shock me.
Even deeperlife babes some of them I slept with them same day they came to my house... I just dey shake my head.

Las las I met a lady who is SU, and she con be virgin and as I dey follow her talk she con get sense, theres always a level of risk but with this babe I was ready to risk it and since I made that decision I have never regretted it.

She doesnt have money and comes from a very humble background but to me thats a credit, cos many ladies in her shoes would have used that as an excuse to start doing hookup...

Enough of ranting and back to your question... I think you should consider marrying your baby mama, if you think you can't marry her then find a lady who you think has good morals and values, target the SU looking ladies => deeperlife, mfm, cac etc... But in all remember what the bible says, be wise as serpent but gentle as doves...

I wish you goodluck.

Timoleon:
With this kain song way you sing so, I must pour sand sand for your love.

Nazgul:
This post was triggered by a friend of mine who is passing through hell in his 3 year old marriage. His wife made him believe that money isn't everything and he ignorantly got married to her in his indigent state. She stopped respecting him a long time ago. As I'm typing this, she has left him with their 1 year old daughter in Lagos and relocated back to Uyo.

So let's talk about money in courtship, Because you will need plenty of it in marriage.

Those who are of the opinion that all that matters in marriage is love not money are not serious! In fact I'd like to term them as jokers. Why? Because love won't pay your bills and put food on the table.

Women naturally respect financially buyouant men. Or in simpler terms, men who have money.

So don't let any woman manipulate you into marriage when you are not financially ready simply because age is fighting against her, because if you succumb to her pressure and get married to her, you are in for a Shocker

Women can sweet tongue you into doing what you don't want to do and blame you for being stupid to listen to her in the first place.

Before any lady corner you and tie you down in forced matrimony, ask the following questions...

1. How much do you both earn monthly? How much will you require to run your marriage monthly? Take inflation into consideration, and calculate how much you will spend on rent, feeding, utility bills, transportation, medicals among others.

2. Who pays the running bills monthly? The husband, the wife or both of you? At what percentage? 50/50, 60/40, 70/30? Discuss it with your Partner.

3. How long will you both work as salary earners? Any plan to invest in other businesses? What does it take? How much of your fiance will it take? What type of sacrifice will it require?

4. Will you engage in monthly savings? If yes, how much percentage of your salaries would go into savings?

5. Will you be operating a Joint or Separate accounts? Discuss this with your partner.

6. If you are running a business; How much does it generate monthly? Would she join you in running it when you get married? If yes how best can you two grow your monthly income?

7. What are your yearly Financial goals? How do you both plan to achieve them?

8. Do you believe in paying tithe, first fruits, offerings and sowing special seeds? You need to discuss this with your partner, so you can both plan ahead whenever the need for such financial commitment arises.

9. What percentage of your income will be going to your parents or siblings monthly? Discuss this with your partner. It's very important.

10. When CHILDREN start coming, how MUCH will you need to take good care of them monthly? Would you want them to attend public school or private school, are there affordable Private schools in your neighborhood where you can enroll them, what percentage of your earnings or savings would they require monthly to see them through nursery and primary school. Would government secondary school be better for them or private? Would public universities be better or private or abroad? These are things you must iron out with your partner before getting married.

Plan your FINANCES before getting married.

Set up your self for Financial growth not Financial failure in marriage.

Most broken marriages occur due to lack of finances or poor financial planning from one or both couples.

bukatyne:
Instead of him to start a podcast:

How a gay man gets women with ease

He decided to go into crime

080bjaked:
https://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/2023/11/15/nigerian-asylum-gay-three-children-parcel-fraud/

PStacks:
Na the talk you talk finish so..


Better Money Ooo..


But any woman with you because of money no be the right woman...

U see say this world no balance.

If u hold bar and woman dey submissive and respectful to you, no be u she respect, na the money..


It's then safe to say a Man without money is of no material value to a woman.


Hustle Oooo! Make woman no see you finish.

Administration1:
Then why did he take the easy way out.
You that are going through a lot also, you know why haven't thought about such?
It is because you're not a weakling.

PStacks:
I don't even want a submissive woman.

I just want a woman that won't cause troubles and unnecessary dramas and all..

I don't want an insecure woman dragging with me trying to super impose on Me.


I am not dragging anything with you, why allow ur insecurities make u drag with me

I just want a Live and let live kind of woman..

That is never too much to ask but women of nowadays na witches Dem be.

Before u talk one, Dem don talk 20.

Feminism is a growing cancer.

Administration1:
He is a Weakling.

Westerhoffe:
Shame on you.
For just 5 minutes pleasure, you're paying with 4,383 days behind bars.
Now you'd be sex-starved for 12 years.

Ode omo.

But… what is in this thing that people violate others because of it?

Persephone1:
[i]"Marry a typical Nigerian Man at your own peril"

When I type these words, it's not from a place of hate towards men ( I don't hate anybody) It is from careful analysis of marriages to Nigerian Men which mostly lack genuine love, empathy and kindness. Nigerian Marriages are mostly driven by "needs" and "means" to an end. Too systematic and unnatural and the one with the highest bargaining chip gets the most benefit.

Our mothers didn't teach us enough about Men. They didn't know either until they got married, unfortunately they are still learning about Men too. That is why the popular saying "Ile oko ile eko ni" (Your husband house is a school) is usually the soothing balm to unfavourable experiences a wife has with her husband. One question I always ask myself when I hear these words as parting words of advice for young wife is. Does that mean she is getting married into a strange,unknown and possibly unfavourable world? Why represent her husband as an unending course? And will she ever graduate and be relieved of painful lessons?. Ask these women these questions and they will shake their heads in mockery but the truth is, They weren't taught enough about the Men they are getting married to. How would they when they didn't know who they are either. To understand another person there must be a certain level of self awareness you have reached yourself. This way you have enough level of intelligence to be a perfect judge of character. But when a woman believe all she needs to be is a good cook and good konji reliever then all she will seek is a man who has Kitchen and bed.


Men are the worst in this joke of an institution. Configured to believe all they need to posses is Financial ability to provide. The upbringing of the typical Nigerian Man is very very wrong. Trained with little to no empathy,kindness, self care, sense of belonging, self love but burdened with sense of responsibility brought up like a robot to "provide" only. Most Nigerian men are robotic minded, unable to connect emotionally without aide yet this men are expected to naturally see their brides as a part of themselves. Wishful thinking if you ask me. And when some men luckily achieve this, the society (Men and Women) mock him. Aside this, they don't readily know what they want and are easily tossed by the society.

We create a society devoid of emotional engagement but want the benefits emotions birth. Compassion and affections brings liberty, a man who lacks these will see his wife as his slave and property, he gets to do with her what he seem best and not what is good for her. We really have a long way to go as a Society.

Nigerian Men make terrible horsebands

yrhuhfy113:
wow, awesome... you are right and have a strong point
A very compeling piece of idea about Nigerian men... sadly its true but wholistically its myopic.


I am not here to make a CASE for men... i acknowledge your expressed thoughts as reality but as INCOMPLETE.

SEE, MEN ARE NOT LOVED UNCONDITIONALLY... We are only LOVED BY MERIT, RAISED AS HUNTERS TO COMPETE AND PROVIDE else we are not competent.

THE THINGS YOU MENTION WE LACK ARE ACTUALLY NOT LACKING BUT SURPRESSED BY THE HARSH REALITIES OF LIFE WE HAVE LIVED THROUGH....


Let me explain... EVEN on the case of wooing or getting a LADY for sex or marriage... LADIES GENERALLY FEEL SAFER WITH A RICH DUDE, THAN A CARING, EMPATHETIC S.O.B. Whyyy because the COUNTRY IS HARD.... and Ladies think of the FUTURE ALOT.
So after being drilled by our parents to always COME FIRST IN CLASS, and being punished for not coming first or not outdoing others.... we now enter a tetiary institution where only the BEST GRADUANDS are assured of jobs or connections... so we have to compete, hustle for money and do everything possible to be among those who thrive or survive.. AFTER YEARS OF LIVING AS A SURVIVOR.... we now marry, with HOOOOOGEE responsibilities, wife and kids... most likely WIFE HAS NOTHING DOING OR EARNS LITTLE YET FEELS ENTITLED TO BE TREATED LIKE A QUEEN.... Then we should let down our GUARD and still be as caring, as emotionally sensitive, as all that you women want us to be??
C'mon sis... YOU CAN'T HAVE IT ALL.

Marry unambitious men from other countries who are not living in the same terrible conditions we have had in NIGERIA... they have emotions to spare, because THEIR FINANCIAL SYSTEM WORKS and is DEPENDABLE... not here. So you can't come here and GENERALIZE, when majority of your GENDER.... WILL CHOOSE SIX CARS OVER SIX PACKS. Pls... have some balance.

Little wonder why MEN are no longer interested in MARRIAGE... because it has become like an orphanage, so baby mama is now what many opt for, so as to retain their freedom. Ladies wanting EVERYTHING yet offering so little JUST BECAUSE THEY EXIST, is the highest form of lowkey witchcraft ever.

ALL MEN ARE NOT THE SAME, ALL WOMEN ARE NOT THE SAME..... MARRIAGE IS NOT FOR EVERYONE..... BUT MONEY IS IMPORTANT TO ALL.

Bigkoko:
Tufiakwaa! I can wager a safe bet that 90% of people from that side don involve their self with rituals where humans were used. That is why they are cursed to actually support bad leaders because in their psyche, if you dont do one or two evil things, you no go make am. But the Igbos and minorities from Akwa Ibom, Rivers, Delta etc have proved them wrong.

How these people get these kind cold, heart simply amazes me. I dont accept free stuffs from these people, you no know wetin dem don go involve themselves with.