₦airaland Forum

Kushites:
Don’t mind the idiots.

In their thick idiotic skulls, they can insult the whole Nigeria and its people, indulge in character assassination of candidates from other regions, indulge in open tribalism, dismiss the country as a ‘zoo’, form terrorist groups that force their people to sit at home out of hatred for Nigeria, and a desire to secede from her, BUT STILL Nigerians would troop out en masse to vote for an Igbo guy to lead them.

They are completely mental.

Stupid outcasts with one leg in one leg out.

Nobody trusts them with power over Nigeria, and RIGHTFULLY SO.

How can you trust a bunch of secessionist traitors to lead Nigeria?

Never in a million years.

This is a big factor too.

Even if obi is a good candidate as a person, the antecedent of the easterners and their body language may make it a herculean task to earn him the number 1 office.

Politics is not logic, it has too much to do with emotions and sentiments. That is why the north may never want to vote obi. Unfortunately, they have the deciding numbers

stuffs2002:
1. The worst rigging in the history of Nigeria happened in the south east in the last presidential election.
2. SE have always been short sighted in their analysis. Why did you think the voting pattern was only between SE and SW. Where exactly did you place the huge northern votes. South east is not as big as Niger state which is just one of the 19 northern states.
3. Tinubu won North West which has always been the largest voting block in the country.
4. Hausas wantwd power to shift to the south but were careful with who was going to hold the power. Hausas will never vote a SE man into Asso Rock because of what happened in January 1966 coup. Hence they voted for Tinubu.
5.That SE don't like Hausas doesn't mean INEC will not count the votes of Hausas

Point dey here

Beremx:
It's so unfortunate that it's the Yorubas who voted massively for Tinubu are the ones lamenting about the high cost of food.
They should get ready in 2027 not to vote with ethnic sentiments

Yall still don't get the point. Even if yoruba states vote against tinubu in 2027, as long as there's still room for rigging, he will still win.

Nigerians should stop being distracted by the concept of tribal voting and understand that inec is the real and maybe the only problem.

The just concluded imo state election, was it also tribal voting that gave uzodimma victory?

In 04 when Obama became US president, there white Republicans who voted against him in that election, but because the electoral system was free and fair, the votes of all other minority groups in the US canceled out the white republicans' votes.

All we need in Nigeria is 2 things:

1. A free and fair inec
2. Assurance that rest of the country apart from the sw will vote their conscience

SOSinNigeria:
Rubbish. Actions have consequences. You voted for a condemned criminal because of tribalism. After seeing the damage you caused, you're here shamelessly talking garbage?

Spit!

This is part of the problem. Who told you I voted for tinubu.

All we are saying is people are bound to have varying preferences as to who to vote for during elections and that will not change.

What sensible Nigerians need to worry about now is how the electioneering process will become more transparent and fair. Not looking for how to drag people who voted a particular candidate for their personal reasons. Especially if their vote was not even the decider of the election.

I have observed a trend recently on the internet and especially on nairaland and I believe it will help us all a great deal if we refrain from the trend and get more clarity.

Let's call a spade a spade. That nigeria's affairs are in the hands of tinubu right now is not because yoruba people voted based on tribal sentiment.

It is because as usual there was massive rigging perpetrated by the inec as a result of corruption and impunity in the system. This is just one leg of it.

The second reason is that, as far as elections are concerned, the nigeria police and judiciary have always acted as arms of the ruling party at any given time.

That said, one problem that Nigerians have is that we have this habit of relegating real issues and hopping on trivial ones. We get carried away in the process and even begin to fight ourselves on tribal or religious basis while the real enemy continues to do more damage.

It's not further math. If all the yorubas (SW) voted for tinubu and all the igbos (SE) and SS voted for obi, obi would have out performed tinubu in a free and fair election.

This tells us that tribal voting wasn't the big factor in tinubu's victory, it was electoral malpractice.


See all that energy we expend dragging and cursing people who allegedly voted tinubu on tribal basis, let us channel it towards re-examing how events unfolded during the last general election, which loopholes inec and apc exploited for their rigging game and let us brainstorm on how to be prepared to beat them to the game by bridging those loopholes next election.

I can assure you that if we continue trading blames over who didn't vote for the right candidate and refuse to talk about the real issues, 2027 election will also come and go and the story will remain the same.

I'm sure those who didn't apply wisdom in voting during the general election are regreting already. We don't really need to over flog the issue.

The post election tribal war on the internet is even a threat to sensible voting in subsequent elections so let's nip it in the bud.

God bless Nigeria.

Goodlady:
To butress the op, Nigerian men lacked empathy. Empathy ll place them in the position of not questioning a lady that they are dating or married about finances, gifts, sex etc.
They don't realise that relationship is responsibility. They ll say what your father can't give you, you dey ask from me.
Why you come toast me (woo)?
As I come gree, am I not entitled to your resources?
They also lacked empathy of hurting their wives or female partners deliberately with cheating. They don't put themselves in women's shoe that how ll I feel if she's the one cheating?
Abeg make I no tok talk in order not to be misquoted. 😂 😂 😂😂😂😂😂💕💕😘😘😘😘😂
The violence is needed for cleansing of the minds of the reprobate dirty boys here that can't feed themselves but talk anyhow here against females.

Let me tell you something today, and I hope this will change your life for good.

The moment you want to be taken care of in a relationship as if you're a child, especially if you actually lack the means to take care of yourself, then be ready to be treated like a child in the relationship.

Be ready to have your feelings and emotions relegated to the side while your primary purpose will become obedience.

You know how as a child, parents could tell you to sit there, eat this, don't go out and even tell you when to go to bed, that is what you happen when you expect a man to cater to your personal needs.

As someone earlier said, you ladies can't eat your cake and have it

Magnoliaa:
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂


There are about 200+ countries in the world today, and only less than TEN of them are involved in 'formal war'. In contrast, an average of 250 babies are being delivered per minute, running into hundreds of million in a year, with maternal deaths between 200,000 and 400,000 per annum; women do 65% of all physical housework, putting in about 2 hours daily; toddlers are nursed for roughly 5 hours in a day, give or take their age differences. These are things women do actively, everything. All year round. And we've not even considered corporate work.

The last world war ended in 1945; that gives us about 78 years until now and no other war has been tagged the third.

For a population of 200 million, Nigeria has less than 500,000 soldiers. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Even if we add all the other paramilitary personnel, dem no fit reach 10 million, and that is me being generous. So the rest of us (including millions of men) are civilians and non-combatants.

The last war we fought in this country ended ended in 1970.


So you're SERIOUSLY, like SERIOUSLY comparing labour, pregnancy and child- and home-rearing to war?


Since they've given birth to you, which woman have you gone to lay down your life for? Have you ever been conscripted for occupation?

Who is the woman you are sacrificing your life for in big 2023? I can't believe this not-so-bright comparison you tried to make, LMFAO.

Let me break it down a little further. Maybe not all men are caught out to go to active war but the man of the house is the one on guard looking out for security threats and will be there sticking out his head if any gbege shows up.

Why do you think armed robbers make it a point of duty to kill men found at home robberies?

Now, back to the child birth thing. You have to accede to the fact that not all females are mothers. Some will actually never partake of the childbirth experience.

Now, I withheld this coming point but you've left me no choice. Childbirth is a privilege for women who partake of it. From what I've been told by women, a woman who has not had a child doesn't feel complete as a woman.

It is therefore not a favor when a woman becomes pregnant and bears a child for a man. Rather, It is an avenue or an opportunity for fulfillment of purpose on the part of the woman.

It will interest you to know that women in the west will go as far as sourcing sperm from unknown donors just to get pregnant.

I will reiterate that we respect the childbirthing role but calm down

ProtonX:
You made valid points until the bolded. It is your duty as a husband to provide for your wife and by extension, your household. Every religion recognizes this. Failure to be a provider makes you worse than an infidel. There's nothing wrong in her supporting you wherever necessary, it is not her duty. Many men want the title and respect that comes with husband but cannot do what it entails.

You're saying if she wants to buy even her own under pants, she should have to wait till I come home

OvertheTop:
Unfortunately,
This is the Absolute Truth!!!

This Toasting Line is so terrible!!
I hate fellow men who do this !!!
They really destroyed the Ladies and turned them into Love Sellers!!

The money they use is mostly ill-gotten money, that's why they have the guts to lavish it anyhow...

so sad...because the damage done to this ladies looks irreversible.




THE HARD FACT.

Men who have Gotten Huge Income Sources (Mostly Illegal means) Damaged the Ladies by Commercializing them (using the method you stated Above). They don't Toast women, They just Entice them with money and Promise a Life where she does not need to DO ANYTHING but spend their money to get sex and companionship in return.

Now that a lot of ladies have become Damaged ( sell their love to the highest bidder, become very entitled, looking for a lovely Relationship package of NO WORK while you allocate money to her Monthly )


The NORMAL / AVERAGE Men(mostly salary earners / low-income earners) who have not been able to secure such HUGE (mostly Illegal ) incomes are Now very Frustrated by the Damage the MEN ABOVE have done with their MONEY.

The NORMAL / AVERAGE Men can no longer get genuine love from women,
Every time he approaches her, she asks for a relationship package she can only get from the huge income Men above

so now the NORMAL / AVERAGE Men realize love is now 100% commercial and it is available to only the highest bidder.
he realizes he needs to forget the word Love, and faithfulness and start looking for means to buy the love.


in response, the normal Men Cry out, Laments, about the damage that has been done.
But since nothing is changing some have remained stuck to the path (earning legit with the hope to get better salaries) while some have gone into crime to meet up with the illegal earning high income men.

end of story.

The Damage looks irreversible.

Lol baba you see the matter finish

HRprof:
Would Nigeria men accept GENDER EQUALITY
If you want to share bills with woman or don’t expect her to ask you money then accept to be equal with women and have same equal right in very thing that’s what white people you are comparing us practice. Many Nigeria men would say over their dead bodies to accept gender equality. So bro the culture made it to be so not women

Let's be clear bro,

When we say the phrase 'nigerian men' what generation of men are we referencing?

As a young nigerian, I am not visualizing someone like Pete edoche when I speak of nigerian men.

Nigerian men are men who still have their lives ahead of them. Let's say age 40 and below.

Trust me, this category of men don't want a slave wife and have no problem with gender equality, feminism and what have you.

PoliteActivist:
Now you get it!!
Do you really think most men can make more money than us if not that we codedly want it that way? We instinctively tamp down our own ambition, we sacrifice just so men can be men.. That’s why it is so annoying to us if despite all that we still find ourselves richer than our man!

Sis, I've observed the pattern in your replies and your postulation is essentially that women depend on men for money not because they (women) cannot make their own, but because they want to boost men's ego.

Assuming that is true, why is it a certainty that once a rich husband goes broke, his wife starts acting disrespectful or the wife starts cheating or worse case, she dumps him for another man.

Because if your postulation was true, there should be no change of attitude in the wife when the man goes broke, if anything, she should stay through the trial and help him bounce back

Trustedpronet:
If the Man is demanding for sex it is appropriate for her to demand for money.

This is a fraudulent inference.

Sex is part of romance.

More so, it is an activity enjoyable to both men and women. Some will even argue that women enjoy sex more.

Women are hypocritical when they portray sex as a favour to men. They take advantage of the fact that men are more outspoken about their need for it and are fond of initiating the activity.

The only woman that is entitled to money after having sex with a man is a prostitute

Magnoliaa:
^^ Na peenis nor dey easy to contribute for relationship?


And for marriage, definitely. Let us act like biology hasn't given a fair of burden through pregnancy, labour and breast-feeding to the woman already, that a man will never be able to contribute.

We agree, peenis is easy to contribute too, so pvssy and deek should cancel themselves.

You speak of pregnancy and childbirth, which we respect women a lot for.

However, men also pay the ultimate price by laying down their lives at wars to protect the women they leave behind at home. The kind of Valor women will never match

This is just as Important as the childbirth thing.

advanceDNA:
There is nothing spiritual and psychological in running from financial responsibility.... Money is hard to make ...pvssy is easy to contribute

Apt

Magnoliaa:
So, EQUALITY?!

Haha, I loveeee this!


Like this what we've been saying for ages o. This is what we've been saying for ages. People aren't smarter or more intelligent than another on the basis of their sex.

Thank you!

And let's take it a notch further then to agree that the concept of headship in marriage is bollocks since a man is no more better at being sensible or using common sense, etc., than a woman is.

This is a non issue for me always. Why will anyone ever propose that every man is smarter than every woman.

Regardless of media insinuations on the subject of gender equality, nature has its way of doing justice in a man/woman relationship.

There are marriages where the woman happens to be more dominant and takes on leadership roles. Some women also happen to earn more than their husbands so do you now say such family should remain in a rented apartment when the wife can help the family buy a house.

Equality or role is based on the individual, a blanket declaration will be fraudulent.

Slaveman343:
So the summary of your lamentation is that women should reduce their standards. And why should they? Have you reduced your own standards?

You want your 100 yards wife material but want women to size down their own to 50yards husband material

To be honest many of you on this space are just hypocrites.

You are sternly against women emulating their western counterparts but you want them to give you a pass to copy from western males that share responsibilities. Not happening dude.

If they must remain African women, you too must remain an African man. You cannot eat your cake and have it.

Being an African man is not a walk in the park. It comes with responsibilities. Likewise being an African woman.

And this claims that women are bombarding their partners with financial needs are just lies. I've worked with lots of women and I can tell you that many are very reasonable. Only very few women are out of character

Leave the internet, go outside and date women. Stop forming opinions from guys who can't look a woman in the eye. They have escaped from reality and now live on the internet, wasting away their lives, and justifying being irresponsible.


No woman is placing outrageous demands on you. It's biology at work in you. Stop fighting your instincts. They are just reminding you of what you are, the Man.

Let women breathe

I'm sure the category of women you have worked with are in the minority.

It is the regular nigerian woman that is under reference here not the few of them doing exploits in their fields.

Your reference to biology is out of context as society has changed since the primitive times.

And speaking of the African man's responsibilities. Be reminded that societies progress by learning and assimilating from other more advanced cultures.


A tribe in Africa was know to kill twins before the whites told them better. And that tribe has eradicated the practice since then if not we will not be enjoying psquare today.

And if you thing majority of nigeria women don't bother their men will bills, you are living under a rock.
Even south africans woman know that nigerian men are overly generous. And that generosity is a result of the entitlement mentality from nigerian women.

advanceDNA:
Availability of decent working ladies is not the reason....the problem is Nigerian men just like to settle for only pvssy and women that her far beneath them......and that's why men marry all manner of worthless women not even fit to be married...

I see your point here bro. It's a fact that some men because of their low self esteem avoid successful women with strong personalities

Aaaaarghmed:
Omo,you just dey write story OP.you must spend for Nigeria woman .if not..relationship go get k leg.Nigerian ladies enter relationship with the mind of profit . .i agree with your views o.but kolewerk in Naija

Lol, tor so let's all agree love is not a factor in nigerian relationships then. Na money by davido comes to mind

advanceDNA:
Most Nigerian women can never stop being parasites....forget it.... Most of them are broke and always dream of making it life through men....if most women were given a wish that will come true... they would rather wish for a man that is rich, instead of wishing for their own truck load of money....

men are the ones that need to up their standard to stop dating broke, stingy, jobless women.

Lol, this is hilarious but true.

The difficulty in men upping their standard as you advised is that, the percentage of women who are in the working class is very minimal compared to the demand for women by men.

If I may take a guess, the ration of working class women to men is like 1/80.

That's the reason nigerian men are forced to settle with leechy women so far the woman can at least look attractive.

And that is the reason many of them get abused by their rich husbands in marriage.

The recent trend now is young girls preferring to become a 2nd or 3rd wife to a rich guy instead of starting and growing with a promising young man.

Cassandraloius:
Is there any work in Nigeria for everyone?

No society in the world has work for everyone.

But I will admit that Nigeria is a particularly tougher environment for a common person to plug in to a job.

The more reason women who depend on their husbands should let their men breathe. Women in this category should learn to at least live within their husbands' means if they can't support the men.

Not to be comparing their husbands to other richer men.

If e easy, those wives too should go out and hustle for the money (without monitizing their bodies).

Though, I've never been outside nigeria and have no personal information about how relationships are run in the western world. I believe romantic relationships are generally more refined and stress free (for the man) outside nigeria and Africa as a whole.

I don't want to be misunderstood, this is not me trying to hold nigerian relationships to foreign standards as this will be unfair due to cultural differences.

However, certain factors should remain globally constant as far as human relationships are concerned.

We are given to understand that in the usa and other advanced climes, both partners in a relationship are at liberty and usually willing to share financial responsibilities and provision generally is not a fixed responsibilities of the man.

Women abroad are generally open to split financial responsibilities with their men according to their capability and unlike their nigerian counterparts, they are not programmed to expect a man to foot all the bills.

Against this background, I'm of the opinion that it is inappropriate for a woman to make demands for personal items in a relationship.

It is very common and almost a norm in Nigeria for a woman to ask a man to buy her a phone or pay for her hair or even pay her rent.

Don't get me wrong, if you have an emergency as a woman, you can ask your boyfriend for help once in a while. But not to make the boyfriend your source of livelihood and maintenance.

Also, it is expected and perfectly normal for a man to buy his girlfriend a phone (maybe on her birthday), or pay for her hair. But I believe such expenses should be at his own discretion not upon demand by the girlfriend.

It is no classy for a girlfriend to make financial demands when it's not an emergency or a crisis.

But also, a classy boyfriend is expected to gift his girlfriend nice items once in a while to spice the relationship and to bond more.

If a boyfriend doesn't send you gifts occasionally, it is likely he is not comfortable financially or he is stingy. In this cases, the lady is required to engage him in order to discover the reason and decide whether she can cope.

Again, a woman is not mean to make financial demands for her personal needs. It's fine if the demand is for household maintenance when you two get married.

Moreso, it is expected that adults should be able to take care of their own personal needs.

Any person, man or woman, who cannot buy their own personal stuff or whose taste or lifestyle is beyond what they can afford by themselves, run from them. They are problematic people and can never be loyal to you.

In addition, any woman who make habitual financial demands when there's no emergency is either a runs girl or has a serious relationship elsewhere.

I am not oblivious of the fact that there are less privileged women out here who actually need to marry men who are capable of giving them a better life. This is an exceptional situation and I personally see nothing wrong in it as life is dynamic and is about people helping people.

What is unacceptable here is the narrative that women are okay to be entitled to men's money even when the woman has her own money.

It is key to note that unlike some decades ago, especially after the several industrial revolutions the world has witnessed, money making is no longer about muscle or masculinity but about brainpower.

There is no scientific evidence that a random man is smarter than a random woman which means money Making is not particularly easier for the man in today's world.

This is just a call to our ladies to up their game and do better so that we can see better and more successful and less problematic relationships and marriages in the coming generations.

Do you agree with these views?

My advice to you op,

You ladies rely too much on this sex thing to force love.

If you suspect that a man's love for you will disappear after sex, you should stop seeing him already. Because even if you withhold the sex till marriage you are only postponing the day he will dump you.

You babes should have sex with a man only if you feel like having sex with him, not to hope that sex will make him stay.

Be smart and figure out if the man has genuine feelings for you. But as for sex, have sex if you are sexually attracted to him because hoping to use it as your love ticket will mostly end in tears

All southerners here saying "now the north should let us go" you are all shameless.

So you are acknowledging the fact that you are being colonised by the north. So it is when it pleases them that they will give you freedom.

Smh una go dey call northerners aboki meanwhile na una be aboki

I have been browsing through aliexpress lately and found some really cool deals on several items. Clothing mainly.

I am really about to make some purchases but I have a little concern. I observed that the measures of the clothing is Asian and not the regular UK or Europe that we use in Nigeria.

I can't afford to buy items that will be useless to me because they are over/under size.

I really need to get opinions on this subject from you guys on this platform. Either based on experience from purchase on aliexpress or just generally knowledge.

I also will like to know how legit deals are on aliexpress in terms of order versus goods delivered.

Thanks you all

I think this story is super story.

If na true story and she is angry as she claimed, y shouldn't she post the guy's picture and cast him. Shebi dey met on ig.

UyaiIncomparabl:
500k Isn't rich, please. Especially if you have a lot of responsibilities/mouths to feed.

Na average salary. Start earning it and you'll know how far.

You people should be realistic abeg..if a person earns 500k in Nigeria and still feels like he's not rich, the person simply has a low financial IQ.

Let's be objective, If in a country where minimum wage is 30k, you don't feel rich earning 512k with extra benefits, you cannot be satisfied o. What you need is contentment and management

American superstar singer and fashion icon has delivered a baby boy today.

Congratulations RiRi!

Being the head of the family requires vision. Long term vision. So the man may not be the breadwinner but first he must be contributing his quota no matter how little and he must be long sighted to secure the family.

Unlike back in the day, protectingyour family is not about muscle anymore, it's brainpower.

realG101:
Frankly, you cannot compare a man's ego to a woman's. Me I don't even think woman have ego.

The urge to man up and earn your own living as opposed to waiting for someone to wife you and take care of you is one valid way to distinguish a man and woman in terms of ego. Largely, woman don't have much ego.

So it is very difficult for a man who can't provide in a marriage to be submissive. Most men will rather become toxic in the marriage or opt out.

However, note that equality does not suggest two captains on the ship. But the captain thing should be a fluid concept. It should not be a taboo for a woman to make critical decisions for the family, esp if she actually has a superior grasp of the situation at hand. Then she can be the captain at that material time. Not the man insisting his decision is final when his decision is not the best for the family.

Frankly, you cannot compare a man's ego to a woman's. Me I don't even think woman have ego.

The urge to man up and earn your own living as opposed to waiting for someone to wife you and take care of you is one valid way to distinguish a man and woman in terms of ego. Largely, woman don't have much ego.

So it is very difficult for a man who can't provide in a marriage to be submissive. Most men will rather become toxic in the marriage or opt out.

However, note that equality does not suggest two captains on the ship. But the captain thing should be a fluid concept. It should not be a taboo for a woman to make critical decisions for the family, esp if she actually has a superior grasp of the situation at hand. Then she can be the captain at that material time. Not the man insisting his decision is final when his decision is not the best for the family.

Kobojunkie:
Woman have egoes as well, so why is the ego a man's excuse as far as refusing to be super submissive?

So what does it take to be worthy of being called "a man or head of the family"? Or is it an outies only club thing?

My answer should be a straight yes but men's approach is a little different when they are not contributing to provision..their ego sets in and that is where you have a couple trying to divorce. Ordinarily, any man who doesn't contribute to provision at all is not worthy to be called a man or head of the family. It's okay if the woman happens to be doing more. In today's world, women are almost at par with men in terms of earning power.

Kobojunkie:
Would a man who doesn't support the wife financially in providing for the family also under the same super submissive requirement?

There are equally many homes out there where the woman is breadwinner.

I personally believe husband and wife should maintain a level of equality in marriage. But what pushes the balance of equality off is when the man is virtually the only provider and the woman brings nothing in terms of finance.

A woman who doesn't support the husband financially in providing for the family will have to be super submissive.

My advice is women should also achieve substantial financial empowerment before they get married

The primary goal of every human being and even animals on this planet is the pursuit of happiness.

Ranging from food, to fashion, travels, sports, love/romance etc down to the universally certified joy giver (Money), people find their joy and fulfillment in one or more of these aforementioned virtues.

Depending on what corner of the world you happen to be born, happiness could be hard to realise as the above are in varying supply from region to region.

It is not in doubt that Africa is the hardest continent to be happy in. Esp after all the spoils left behind by colonialism.

Other factors like poor economy, self colonization, poor infrastructure, over religiosity, badly managed multiple ethnic diversity also compound our problems and impede our chances at happiness.

Here are tips to finding happiness in Nigeria:

1. Social media discipline: social media is the best invention since VCDs and automatic transmission cars but it is also a double edged sword. 70% of information on social media is false and intended to startle you and stampede you emotionally. People post their successes in exaggerated manner but leave out their moments of struggle and failure. Generally, too much information is not healthy and make your head full without time to think your own ideas through and be productive.

2. Keep your burden light: this is especially applicable to the youth of Nigeria who are trying to start up their lives. Avoid every avoidable responsibility. If you're still finding your feet financially then you should avoid a girlfriend (unless she is financially buoyant and van help set you up or is willing to provide support). I'm not saying this to spite women, I'm saying girls without money are for boys with money. This is the cold reality you must accept if you want to know peace and progress in your life. Same logic applies to marriage.

3. Learn a skill/trade: For young people again. We are more than informed today that university degrees and even masters degrees don't guarantee you a white collar job in Nigeria anymore. And when you pass through fire to bag one, it most likely will not earn you a decent living. Nigeria is not fully industrialized yet. The country mainly trades/import&export, and not a producing country. Find your place in the formular. Become a trader, importer of goods or an artisan of some sort. We are fashion crazy all over the world now so fashion designing is good, auto engineering (mechanic is good too in a packaged manner). The list is endless.


3. Avoid barbaric people: They say African is the dark continent. This is to say that majority of African inhabitants are still primitive and animalistic in their outlook towards life. Avoid fetish people, surround yourself with open minded people.

4. Contentment: It is common knowledge that wealth is not fairly circulated in the Nigeria society. Not even a little. The gap between the rich and the poor is wide. Therefore, you may feel intimidated when you find your self in some gatherings as a regular Nigeria. But as long as you're giving it your best day by day, endeavour to be happy with the little your may have. Also if you look around, you will find people you're better than, that will make you feel better too. This is not to say you should not strive for a better life and rock the 1M naira Samsung phones, but it is a slow process to get there and you need a joyful spirit to survive to see better days.

5. God: Religion is good. But what is intended here is spiritual understanding. You need to establish connection with your creator and seek his guidance to navigate in this world and trust me, you need his more in Nigeria. Elevate you appetites and desires beyond worldly and material things. When you achieve spiritual enlightenment, your joy and fulfillment will no longer depend on money or fame or power but service to humanity. Mark my word, IF MAKING OTHER PEOPLE HAPPY IS NOT WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY, SOMETHING IS NOT RIGHT WITH YOU AND NOTHING CAN TRULY MAKE YOU HAPPY.


These are my thoughts on the subject of happiness in Nigeria. Share your thoughts too