₦airaland Forum

NLC recently proposed varying minimum wages across the 6 geo-political zones which falls at an average of N500,000 monthly.

My concern on the one part is that prices of goods and services will suffer unexplained inflation due to so much money in circulation.

On the other part, there's no assurance that the private sector will comply with the proposed minimum wages.

The implication is that the purchasing power of the underpaid masses in the private sector will be further diminished.

Although this message is targeted at the youths of Nigeria, we citizens of Nigeria in general seem not to have a full picture of the tasks at our hands in the discharge of our civic duties. We neglect certain Germane aspects of the democratic process and this neglect turns around to haunt us and undermine our efforts.

One of such Germane aspects is intra-party politics. And by intra-party politics I mean intra-party primary elections.

We need to start taking intra-party primary elections just as serious as national elections.

The simple reason is that it is during primary elections that the choices that will be available to you on the day of national (real) elections are made.

Let me break this down because this is a very critical point we must digest.

Apc and pdp are undisputedly the parties to beat in any election in nigeria today.

The presidential candidates presented by these parties were tinubu and atiku.

These two were basically bad choices that seemed to have been imposed on us because they were the ones available on the ballots of the viable parties (apc and pdp). It then became a case of having to choose the lesser of two evils as our next president.

I say now that there is a way to change that situation and avoid the lesser evil dilemma going forward.

We must descend to the arena of party politics and be part of the process of voting for candidates at the primary elections (of apc, pdp and lp) so that we avoid the lesser evil dilemma at the real (national) election.

If we had been involved in party politics, maybe a man like former vp osinbajo would have been apc's candidate while Peter obi, pdp's and the tinubulation we all endure today would never have happened.


Let's stop Nigeria from happening to us and let us begin to take the destiny of this great nation in our hands. If we keep repeating the same things, nothing better will happen and things will get worse.

If you think it can't get worse than this, wait for another corrupt president to emerge. Afterall we all thought nothing could be worse than buhari's administration.

We can all see that this guys are not really different from each other and the moment they enter office, all we can do is complain. Let's step back and broaden our perspective.

Peace.

Believe it or not, Ronaldo and Messi are two of the greatest players to ever play the game.

Though, I will not deny the fact that the emergence of social media is greatly responsible for showcasing their Era and time on pitch to be better than the likes of Pele and Maradona to name a few. Fandom and viewer participation which saw great advancements due to the social media revolution also contributed to the success of this duo above all other iconic footballers dead or living.

The rivalry between Messi and Ronaldo has spiced up the world of football in a way that the game has never seen and it will be practically impossible to replicate the Era of this duo anytime soon. (Maybe 1000 years from now).

Anytime I remember that their retirement is around the corner, my heart skips and I know that football for me will never remain the same.

Look at what has become of the once highly competitive la liga. It's now a shadow of itself since the exit of the two greats.

The highly sought after El clasico no longer brings the joy and tension it once did.

Though, we will be counting on the likes of mbappe, Haaland or garnacho to keep the tempo up but Ronaldo and messi will surely leave a gap too wide for anyone to fill.

As we know, all good things come to an end, but I believe we will always have the age long goat debate that will live on even when the two greats hang their boots.

Whether you you are team Messi or a Ronaldo fan boy like myself, everybody who is privileged to witnesses their Era in football will forever cherish their memories. Both of them.

I just personally dread the idea that the moment any of them announces retirement, the rest will be history and I will never see them live on the pitch again.

Are you prepared to miss Messi and Ronaldo on the pitch?

Fahvvy:
The ideology that "only God can judge you" is the most fallacious and hilarious thing I have heard so far ...

In an ideal setting, you would've been very correct, but in reality, what you're saying doesn't hold water, cause as long as you're alive, you will ALWAYS be judged by people ...

I'm not saying it's right, but I'm saying that it's the reality of things ...

Secondly...
You made an illustration using the VP's daughter and all. Lemme ask, are there people in bad situations who have clawed their way out of it without compromise? ...

If the answer is yes, then what this tells me is that, whilst situations can affect a person's behavior, a person's personal decision not to compromise regardless is the deciding factor as to whether a person compromises or not ...

Thirdly...
There are certain "stigmas" attached to certain "jobs" ...

Look at morticians ("mortuary attendants", are you aware that on account of their jobs, lots of people wouldn't even consider being in a relationship with them even if they're the last person on earth? ...

How about military women? Female lawyers? Folks in the waste management business?

My point?
Being a part of certain industries will attract certain stigma to you. Now, if you're not ready to embrace with your full chest the stigma that comes with it, then you prolly shouldn't be a part of it in the first place ...

In summary...
I have absolutely no issue with women who choose to wh.ore around for money, it's their life and it's their choice, so they can wh.ore around for all I care ...

But don't come crying when the stigma of that decision comes back to bite you in the as.s, cause last time I checked ACTIONS HAVE CONSEQUENCES! ...

I think the idea is people will judge but then they do, Don't be bothered.

Remember the biblical event where Jesus discouraged a mob from stoning an adulterous woman to death. He then told the woman to go and sin no more.

God probably knows people need to do what they have to do in their moment of need but they must keep getting better as they get more empowered


You said something about no compromising. Well, all humans are not equal in mental and physical strength but all humans must survive. The ability to persist without compromise is not just innate to some people.

And yes, people should totally own up to the consequences of their actions.

The biggest stigma remains poverty. People should just make sure anything they do that may bring stigma also gives them good money. The money will cure the stigma (yahoo yahoo comes to mind).

In all, don't hurt nobody and that's it

Deandean:
Favvy, oil dey your head.

In truth, like OP mentioned, no one has the right to judge another. And put correctly, only God has the RIGHT to judge.

But remember also that the rules of judgment are clear expressed or implied in his holy book.

So although he understands that we are dust and imperfect, he trust each one to make personal decisions that honors him and shows respect for the gift of life.

Recognize that some persons are just slaves to glamour and trends, and will sell anything sellable to matchup the social media crazy moves

In response to the embolden part, what do you think is the significance of the Biblical event where Jesus discouraged a mob from stoning an adulter to death.

For me, the take away is that everyone has the tendency to be compromise good morals under the pressure of life, but the ability to turn a new page, evolve and do better as life goes on is what determines everyone's final score card in the sight of God.

Jesus accomplished two notable things at that scene, he reminded the mob that they are not better than the adulterous woman and he admonished the women to go and sin no more.

And about the slaves you mentioned, yes there will always be people who do these things for ignoble reasons. We can't generalise based on them

Aaaaarghmed:
The prostitutes are coming to clap for you on this thread .lets wait for them

Well, I hope they also understand the duty to do better as their life situations improve.

This is not to encourage lazy girls who just ignore surrounding opportunities they can exploit and take the easy route of objectifying their body

PoliteActivist:
Kamala Harris, below, agrees with you


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4rUb0B-EhFg?si=9uFu10GxfhDPwVuo

This is very fearless of her, especially being a politician

I was once one of the multitudes of the world who despise prostitution and would berate those who partake of it.

That has changed now and for a good cause. Man tends to become more critical and liberal with exposure to knowledge and information.

And one thing my keen study and observations of humanity has revealed to me is that every man is out to survive by that which they readily possess.

In other words, humans are wired to adapt and improvise to survive by their natural endowments.

Also, every living being is selfish and this characteristic makes us hypocritical in a sense.


Let me paint you a scenario. Nigeria's former VP osinbajo is a pastor. He has a daughter who had everything monetary taken care of since childhood and was also brought up in a spiritually conducive household.

She is not likely to be motivated to prostitute herself for money in her lifetime. Such a daughter will be seen by society as better than her counterparts on the other side of the divide who do not have all the privileges available to the vp's daughter.

Meanwhile, it is a virtual certainty that if vp's daughter were to swap circumstances with a prostitute, she would have opted to prostitute herself too.

This write up is not necessarily to justify prostitution. It is to say that the world is full of pots calling the kettle black.

Nobody in this world, and I say this with a deep sense of sincerity, has the prerogative to judge another over what they do for survival.

As long as what you do does not harm another person or endanger the public, it is in order.

I am unable to understand the rationale behind the promulgation of laws criminalizing prostitution.

It's like saying a person should not make money from singing when there are people who are willing to pay money to hear him sing.

This topic is a cursory ruling on the broader topic of self help in general. Don't let the facade of morality hold you back in your journey of life and pursuit of happiness. It is a personal race and nobody else truly understands your plight except you.

The people who will pass judgment on your character do not have sufficient information about you. Only God can judge you.

And know also that the world is not a perfect place for a reason. It has been imperfect since the beginning and will not be a better place. If God wanted a perfect world, do you think he will leave the task in the hands of human to perfect the world when he could have created it perfect from the onset.

To this end, I'm not saying the world will or should change its outlook towards prostitution, I am saying, if you are a prostitute reading this piece, don't ever feel less of a human.

You are using your sensuality as a leverage and as a means to an end. It's the same thing every other human being does. They capitalise on what they have at hand to get what they want.

Mohammed Ali, Mike Tyson and a host of others made fame and fortune from beating the shit out of their opponents. Maybe they don't have talents that can impact the world positively, nevertheless, people were willing to pay to see them fight and they went on to build illustrious careers off the talent.

If the above mentioned superstars thrived off a violence themed industry that is on a global pedestal, how much more prostitutes who if we are being fair can be categorized as therapists. (abi Konji relief no be therapy?)



I think the world is very hypocritical about the subject of prostitution. Sex is a valuable commodity that others are willing to pay for. If the two parties involved have come to a consensus to trade sex for money, it should be no one else's problem.

Some people will be tempted to assume that I patronize prostitutes. This is not the case and in fact I have never laid with a prostitute.

This ideology is not strange to the elite. But they will not speak of it to avoid liberation and emancipation of minds which will result in a disruption of the prevailing social class system.

Iziquiel:
Your sixth paragraph is why many of you keep crying of rigging.
I didn't know that votes from only two or three regions can make one President of Nigeria.

How supposedly educated people intentionally turn off their brains is beyond me.

The subject is tribal voting.

The 2 candidates I mentioned were southerners.

The way to determine which of them will survive a tribal but transparent election is to restrict the test to the southern region.

Rivers state gave tinubu a major boost in the last election due to massive rigging

If the election was fair, obi clearly would have been declared winner in Rivers state

The point being that electoral malpractice was more decisive than tribal voting in the election

However, the big numbers tinubu got from the north were as a result of political alliance and not tribalism.

Don't you feel stupid now?

Kushites:
Don’t mind the idiots.

In their thick idiotic skulls, they can insult the whole Nigeria and its people, indulge in character assassination of candidates from other regions, indulge in open tribalism, dismiss the country as a ‘zoo’, form terrorist groups that force their people to sit at home out of hatred for Nigeria, and a desire to secede from her, BUT STILL Nigerians would troop out en masse to vote for an Igbo guy to lead them.

They are completely mental.

Stupid outcasts with one leg in one leg out.

Nobody trusts them with power over Nigeria, and RIGHTFULLY SO.

How can you trust a bunch of secessionist traitors to lead Nigeria?

Never in a million years.

This is a big factor too.

Even if obi is a good candidate as a person, the antecedent of the easterners and their body language may make it a herculean task to earn him the number 1 office.

Politics is not logic, it has too much to do with emotions and sentiments. That is why the north may never want to vote obi. Unfortunately, they have the deciding numbers

stuffs2002:
1. The worst rigging in the history of Nigeria happened in the south east in the last presidential election.
2. SE have always been short sighted in their analysis. Why did you think the voting pattern was only between SE and SW. Where exactly did you place the huge northern votes. South east is not as big as Niger state which is just one of the 19 northern states.
3. Tinubu won North West which has always been the largest voting block in the country.
4. Hausas wantwd power to shift to the south but were careful with who was going to hold the power. Hausas will never vote a SE man into Asso Rock because of what happened in January 1966 coup. Hence they voted for Tinubu.
5.That SE don't like Hausas doesn't mean INEC will not count the votes of Hausas

Point dey here

Beremx:
It's so unfortunate that it's the Yorubas who voted massively for Tinubu are the ones lamenting about the high cost of food.
They should get ready in 2027 not to vote with ethnic sentiments

Yall still don't get the point. Even if yoruba states vote against tinubu in 2027, as long as there's still room for rigging, he will still win.

Nigerians should stop being distracted by the concept of tribal voting and understand that inec is the real and maybe the only problem.

The just concluded imo state election, was it also tribal voting that gave uzodimma victory?

In 04 when Obama became US president, there white Republicans who voted against him in that election, but because the electoral system was free and fair, the votes of all other minority groups in the US canceled out the white republicans' votes.

All we need in Nigeria is 2 things:

1. A free and fair inec
2. Assurance that rest of the country apart from the sw will vote their conscience

SOSinNigeria:
Rubbish. Actions have consequences. You voted for a condemned criminal because of tribalism. After seeing the damage you caused, you're here shamelessly talking garbage?

Spit!

This is part of the problem. Who told you I voted for tinubu.

All we are saying is people are bound to have varying preferences as to who to vote for during elections and that will not change.

What sensible Nigerians need to worry about now is how the electioneering process will become more transparent and fair. Not looking for how to drag people who voted a particular candidate for their personal reasons. Especially if their vote was not even the decider of the election.

I have observed a trend recently on the internet and especially on nairaland and I believe it will help us all a great deal if we refrain from the trend and get more clarity.

Let's call a spade a spade. That nigeria's affairs are in the hands of tinubu right now is not because yoruba people voted based on tribal sentiment.

It is because as usual there was massive rigging perpetrated by the inec as a result of corruption and impunity in the system. This is just one leg of it.

The second reason is that, as far as elections are concerned, the nigeria police and judiciary have always acted as arms of the ruling party at any given time.

That said, one problem that Nigerians have is that we have this habit of relegating real issues and hopping on trivial ones. We get carried away in the process and even begin to fight ourselves on tribal or religious basis while the real enemy continues to do more damage.

It's not further math. If all the yorubas (SW) voted for tinubu and all the igbos (SE) and SS voted for obi, obi would have out performed tinubu in a free and fair election.

This tells us that tribal voting wasn't the big factor in tinubu's victory, it was electoral malpractice.


See all that energy we expend dragging and cursing people who allegedly voted tinubu on tribal basis, let us channel it towards re-examing how events unfolded during the last general election, which loopholes inec and apc exploited for their rigging game and let us brainstorm on how to be prepared to beat them to the game by bridging those loopholes next election.

I can assure you that if we continue trading blames over who didn't vote for the right candidate and refuse to talk about the real issues, 2027 election will also come and go and the story will remain the same.

I'm sure those who didn't apply wisdom in voting during the general election are regreting already. We don't really need to over flog the issue.

The post election tribal war on the internet is even a threat to sensible voting in subsequent elections so let's nip it in the bud.

God bless Nigeria.

Goodlady:
To butress the op, Nigerian men lacked empathy. Empathy ll place them in the position of not questioning a lady that they are dating or married about finances, gifts, sex etc.
They don't realise that relationship is responsibility. They ll say what your father can't give you, you dey ask from me.
Why you come toast me (woo)?
As I come gree, am I not entitled to your resources?
They also lacked empathy of hurting their wives or female partners deliberately with cheating. They don't put themselves in women's shoe that how ll I feel if she's the one cheating?
Abeg make I no tok talk in order not to be misquoted. 😂 😂 😂😂😂😂😂💕💕😘😘😘😘😂
The violence is needed for cleansing of the minds of the reprobate dirty boys here that can't feed themselves but talk anyhow here against females.

Let me tell you something today, and I hope this will change your life for good.

The moment you want to be taken care of in a relationship as if you're a child, especially if you actually lack the means to take care of yourself, then be ready to be treated like a child in the relationship.

Be ready to have your feelings and emotions relegated to the side while your primary purpose will become obedience.

You know how as a child, parents could tell you to sit there, eat this, don't go out and even tell you when to go to bed, that is what you happen when you expect a man to cater to your personal needs.

As someone earlier said, you ladies can't eat your cake and have it

Magnoliaa:
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂


There are about 200+ countries in the world today, and only less than TEN of them are involved in 'formal war'. In contrast, an average of 250 babies are being delivered per minute, running into hundreds of million in a year, with maternal deaths between 200,000 and 400,000 per annum; women do 65% of all physical housework, putting in about 2 hours daily; toddlers are nursed for roughly 5 hours in a day, give or take their age differences. These are things women do actively, everything. All year round. And we've not even considered corporate work.

The last world war ended in 1945; that gives us about 78 years until now and no other war has been tagged the third.

For a population of 200 million, Nigeria has less than 500,000 soldiers. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Even if we add all the other paramilitary personnel, dem no fit reach 10 million, and that is me being generous. So the rest of us (including millions of men) are civilians and non-combatants.

The last war we fought in this country ended ended in 1970.


So you're SERIOUSLY, like SERIOUSLY comparing labour, pregnancy and child- and home-rearing to war?


Since they've given birth to you, which woman have you gone to lay down your life for? Have you ever been conscripted for occupation?

Who is the woman you are sacrificing your life for in big 2023? I can't believe this not-so-bright comparison you tried to make, LMFAO.

Let me break it down a little further. Maybe not all men are caught out to go to active war but the man of the house is the one on guard looking out for security threats and will be there sticking out his head if any gbege shows up.

Why do you think armed robbers make it a point of duty to kill men found at home robberies?

Now, back to the child birth thing. You have to accede to the fact that not all females are mothers. Some will actually never partake of the childbirth experience.

Now, I withheld this coming point but you've left me no choice. Childbirth is a privilege for women who partake of it. From what I've been told by women, a woman who has not had a child doesn't feel complete as a woman.

It is therefore not a favor when a woman becomes pregnant and bears a child for a man. Rather, It is an avenue or an opportunity for fulfillment of purpose on the part of the woman.

It will interest you to know that women in the west will go as far as sourcing sperm from unknown donors just to get pregnant.

I will reiterate that we respect the childbirthing role but calm down

ProtonX:
You made valid points until the bolded. It is your duty as a husband to provide for your wife and by extension, your household. Every religion recognizes this. Failure to be a provider makes you worse than an infidel. There's nothing wrong in her supporting you wherever necessary, it is not her duty. Many men want the title and respect that comes with husband but cannot do what it entails.

You're saying if she wants to buy even her own under pants, she should have to wait till I come home

OvertheTop:
Unfortunately,
This is the Absolute Truth!!!

This Toasting Line is so terrible!!
I hate fellow men who do this !!!
They really destroyed the Ladies and turned them into Love Sellers!!

The money they use is mostly ill-gotten money, that's why they have the guts to lavish it anyhow...

so sad...because the damage done to this ladies looks irreversible.




THE HARD FACT.

Men who have Gotten Huge Income Sources (Mostly Illegal means) Damaged the Ladies by Commercializing them (using the method you stated Above). They don't Toast women, They just Entice them with money and Promise a Life where she does not need to DO ANYTHING but spend their money to get sex and companionship in return.

Now that a lot of ladies have become Damaged ( sell their love to the highest bidder, become very entitled, looking for a lovely Relationship package of NO WORK while you allocate money to her Monthly )


The NORMAL / AVERAGE Men(mostly salary earners / low-income earners) who have not been able to secure such HUGE (mostly Illegal ) incomes are Now very Frustrated by the Damage the MEN ABOVE have done with their MONEY.

The NORMAL / AVERAGE Men can no longer get genuine love from women,
Every time he approaches her, she asks for a relationship package she can only get from the huge income Men above

so now the NORMAL / AVERAGE Men realize love is now 100% commercial and it is available to only the highest bidder.
he realizes he needs to forget the word Love, and faithfulness and start looking for means to buy the love.


in response, the normal Men Cry out, Laments, about the damage that has been done.
But since nothing is changing some have remained stuck to the path (earning legit with the hope to get better salaries) while some have gone into crime to meet up with the illegal earning high income men.

end of story.

The Damage looks irreversible.

Lol baba you see the matter finish

HRprof:
Would Nigeria men accept GENDER EQUALITY
If you want to share bills with woman or don’t expect her to ask you money then accept to be equal with women and have same equal right in very thing that’s what white people you are comparing us practice. Many Nigeria men would say over their dead bodies to accept gender equality. So bro the culture made it to be so not women

Let's be clear bro,

When we say the phrase 'nigerian men' what generation of men are we referencing?

As a young nigerian, I am not visualizing someone like Pete edoche when I speak of nigerian men.

Nigerian men are men who still have their lives ahead of them. Let's say age 40 and below.

Trust me, this category of men don't want a slave wife and have no problem with gender equality, feminism and what have you.

PoliteActivist:
Now you get it!!
Do you really think most men can make more money than us if not that we codedly want it that way? We instinctively tamp down our own ambition, we sacrifice just so men can be men.. That’s why it is so annoying to us if despite all that we still find ourselves richer than our man!

Sis, I've observed the pattern in your replies and your postulation is essentially that women depend on men for money not because they (women) cannot make their own, but because they want to boost men's ego.

Assuming that is true, why is it a certainty that once a rich husband goes broke, his wife starts acting disrespectful or the wife starts cheating or worse case, she dumps him for another man.

Because if your postulation was true, there should be no change of attitude in the wife when the man goes broke, if anything, she should stay through the trial and help him bounce back

Trustedpronet:
If the Man is demanding for sex it is appropriate for her to demand for money.

This is a fraudulent inference.

Sex is part of romance.

More so, it is an activity enjoyable to both men and women. Some will even argue that women enjoy sex more.

Women are hypocritical when they portray sex as a favour to men. They take advantage of the fact that men are more outspoken about their need for it and are fond of initiating the activity.

The only woman that is entitled to money after having sex with a man is a prostitute

Magnoliaa:
^^ Na peenis nor dey easy to contribute for relationship?


And for marriage, definitely. Let us act like biology hasn't given a fair of burden through pregnancy, labour and breast-feeding to the woman already, that a man will never be able to contribute.

We agree, peenis is easy to contribute too, so pvssy and deek should cancel themselves.

You speak of pregnancy and childbirth, which we respect women a lot for.

However, men also pay the ultimate price by laying down their lives at wars to protect the women they leave behind at home. The kind of Valor women will never match

This is just as Important as the childbirth thing.

advanceDNA:
There is nothing spiritual and psychological in running from financial responsibility.... Money is hard to make ...pvssy is easy to contribute

Apt

Magnoliaa:
So, EQUALITY?!

Haha, I loveeee this!


Like this what we've been saying for ages o. This is what we've been saying for ages. People aren't smarter or more intelligent than another on the basis of their sex.

Thank you!

And let's take it a notch further then to agree that the concept of headship in marriage is bollocks since a man is no more better at being sensible or using common sense, etc., than a woman is.

This is a non issue for me always. Why will anyone ever propose that every man is smarter than every woman.

Regardless of media insinuations on the subject of gender equality, nature has its way of doing justice in a man/woman relationship.

There are marriages where the woman happens to be more dominant and takes on leadership roles. Some women also happen to earn more than their husbands so do you now say such family should remain in a rented apartment when the wife can help the family buy a house.

Equality or role is based on the individual, a blanket declaration will be fraudulent.

Slaveman343:
So the summary of your lamentation is that women should reduce their standards. And why should they? Have you reduced your own standards?

You want your 100 yards wife material but want women to size down their own to 50yards husband material

To be honest many of you on this space are just hypocrites.

You are sternly against women emulating their western counterparts but you want them to give you a pass to copy from western males that share responsibilities. Not happening dude.

If they must remain African women, you too must remain an African man. You cannot eat your cake and have it.

Being an African man is not a walk in the park. It comes with responsibilities. Likewise being an African woman.

And this claims that women are bombarding their partners with financial needs are just lies. I've worked with lots of women and I can tell you that many are very reasonable. Only very few women are out of character

Leave the internet, go outside and date women. Stop forming opinions from guys who can't look a woman in the eye. They have escaped from reality and now live on the internet, wasting away their lives, and justifying being irresponsible.


No woman is placing outrageous demands on you. It's biology at work in you. Stop fighting your instincts. They are just reminding you of what you are, the Man.

Let women breathe

I'm sure the category of women you have worked with are in the minority.

It is the regular nigerian woman that is under reference here not the few of them doing exploits in their fields.

Your reference to biology is out of context as society has changed since the primitive times.

And speaking of the African man's responsibilities. Be reminded that societies progress by learning and assimilating from other more advanced cultures.


A tribe in Africa was know to kill twins before the whites told them better. And that tribe has eradicated the practice since then if not we will not be enjoying psquare today.

And if you thing majority of nigeria women don't bother their men will bills, you are living under a rock.
Even south africans woman know that nigerian men are overly generous. And that generosity is a result of the entitlement mentality from nigerian women.

advanceDNA:
Availability of decent working ladies is not the reason....the problem is Nigerian men just like to settle for only pvssy and women that her far beneath them......and that's why men marry all manner of worthless women not even fit to be married...

I see your point here bro. It's a fact that some men because of their low self esteem avoid successful women with strong personalities

Aaaaarghmed:
Omo,you just dey write story OP.you must spend for Nigeria woman .if not..relationship go get k leg.Nigerian ladies enter relationship with the mind of profit . .i agree with your views o.but kolewerk in Naija

Lol, tor so let's all agree love is not a factor in nigerian relationships then. Na money by davido comes to mind

advanceDNA:
Most Nigerian women can never stop being parasites....forget it.... Most of them are broke and always dream of making it life through men....if most women were given a wish that will come true... they would rather wish for a man that is rich, instead of wishing for their own truck load of money....

men are the ones that need to up their standard to stop dating broke, stingy, jobless women.

Lol, this is hilarious but true.

The difficulty in men upping their standard as you advised is that, the percentage of women who are in the working class is very minimal compared to the demand for women by men.

If I may take a guess, the ration of working class women to men is like 1/80.

That's the reason nigerian men are forced to settle with leechy women so far the woman can at least look attractive.

And that is the reason many of them get abused by their rich husbands in marriage.

The recent trend now is young girls preferring to become a 2nd or 3rd wife to a rich guy instead of starting and growing with a promising young man.

Cassandraloius:
Is there any work in Nigeria for everyone?

No society in the world has work for everyone.

But I will admit that Nigeria is a particularly tougher environment for a common person to plug in to a job.

The more reason women who depend on their husbands should let their men breathe. Women in this category should learn to at least live within their husbands' means if they can't support the men.

Not to be comparing their husbands to other richer men.

If e easy, those wives too should go out and hustle for the money (without monitizing their bodies).

Though, I've never been outside nigeria and have no personal information about how relationships are run in the western world. I believe romantic relationships are generally more refined and stress free (for the man) outside nigeria and Africa as a whole.

I don't want to be misunderstood, this is not me trying to hold nigerian relationships to foreign standards as this will be unfair due to cultural differences.

However, certain factors should remain globally constant as far as human relationships are concerned.

We are given to understand that in the usa and other advanced climes, both partners in a relationship are at liberty and usually willing to share financial responsibilities and provision generally is not a fixed responsibilities of the man.

Women abroad are generally open to split financial responsibilities with their men according to their capability and unlike their nigerian counterparts, they are not programmed to expect a man to foot all the bills.

Against this background, I'm of the opinion that it is inappropriate for a woman to make demands for personal items in a relationship.

It is very common and almost a norm in Nigeria for a woman to ask a man to buy her a phone or pay for her hair or even pay her rent.

Don't get me wrong, if you have an emergency as a woman, you can ask your boyfriend for help once in a while. But not to make the boyfriend your source of livelihood and maintenance.

Also, it is expected and perfectly normal for a man to buy his girlfriend a phone (maybe on her birthday), or pay for her hair. But I believe such expenses should be at his own discretion not upon demand by the girlfriend.

It is no classy for a girlfriend to make financial demands when it's not an emergency or a crisis.

But also, a classy boyfriend is expected to gift his girlfriend nice items once in a while to spice the relationship and to bond more.

If a boyfriend doesn't send you gifts occasionally, it is likely he is not comfortable financially or he is stingy. In this cases, the lady is required to engage him in order to discover the reason and decide whether she can cope.

Again, a woman is not mean to make financial demands for her personal needs. It's fine if the demand is for household maintenance when you two get married.

Moreso, it is expected that adults should be able to take care of their own personal needs.

Any person, man or woman, who cannot buy their own personal stuff or whose taste or lifestyle is beyond what they can afford by themselves, run from them. They are problematic people and can never be loyal to you.

In addition, any woman who make habitual financial demands when there's no emergency is either a runs girl or has a serious relationship elsewhere.

I am not oblivious of the fact that there are less privileged women out here who actually need to marry men who are capable of giving them a better life. This is an exceptional situation and I personally see nothing wrong in it as life is dynamic and is about people helping people.

What is unacceptable here is the narrative that women are okay to be entitled to men's money even when the woman has her own money.

It is key to note that unlike some decades ago, especially after the several industrial revolutions the world has witnessed, money making is no longer about muscle or masculinity but about brainpower.

There is no scientific evidence that a random man is smarter than a random woman which means money Making is not particularly easier for the man in today's world.

This is just a call to our ladies to up their game and do better so that we can see better and more successful and less problematic relationships and marriages in the coming generations.

Do you agree with these views?

My advice to you op,

You ladies rely too much on this sex thing to force love.

If you suspect that a man's love for you will disappear after sex, you should stop seeing him already. Because even if you withhold the sex till marriage you are only postponing the day he will dump you.

You babes should have sex with a man only if you feel like having sex with him, not to hope that sex will make him stay.

Be smart and figure out if the man has genuine feelings for you. But as for sex, have sex if you are sexually attracted to him because hoping to use it as your love ticket will mostly end in tears

All southerners here saying "now the north should let us go" you are all shameless.

So you are acknowledging the fact that you are being colonised by the north. So it is when it pleases them that they will give you freedom.

Smh una go dey call northerners aboki meanwhile na una be aboki