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^^ lol. I see you're REALLY over her...

Oya sorry, but mehn... Its really taken a toll on you. I dunno what to say sef.. Pele, it can only get better (((hugs)))

^^ HBD in arrears. Can't wait to be 36 weeks toooo, at least I'ld have overcome majority of my fears

^^ why don't you schedule your lap surgery between the 5th to 9th day of your cycle (when an HSG is usually done). I was supposed to have a lap surgery the month I got my BFP (I think). I know I didn't do the surgery by faith sha..I believed and felt preggy. Please talk to your doctor abt your concerns, you don't wanna risk anything. All the best dear

I, Even as an adult would not visit the romance/sexuality (not sure of how clean it is) and religion (don't wanna be confused.lol).My point is that there are some sections like family, health, culture, etc. You'ld expect to LEARN a lot but the family section is just something else! Believe it or not most people that come here have real life issues and its just boring having to dig through insults that I never understand anyway cos of the language... But then again its the internet so I guess anything goes

^^^ diamond, where are you when we need you .

Teewai, what you feel is absolutely normal. Try to find out what works for you. I know the nausea gets worse on an empty stomach, so you could start from there.. Btw, welcome on board..

OP, thank God you're alive *phew*

I've lost child before and there were complicating factors that made me feel like I wouldn't get pregnant again. I too became suicidal, but trust me, its just a lie of the Devil.

I don't have HIV so I can't say I know how you're feeling but when there is life, there is hope. Your wife will get pregnant again and you will have beautiful children. Hold on to God, I am a prove that he lives.
You can become a proof of his power too. Please be there for your wife, stop wallowing in self pity. There are worse situations. Please and please don't be discouraged. Depression kills faster than the virus!

Think of your wife, how dyu want her to cope? Please be considerate. Talk to her about your thoughts.

^^ are you for real So what she's going through is ideal and he just needs more time! Jesus!! ..smh

Please re-read her post and this time slowly.

@ figures, what you're going through is not the norm, don't let anyone tell you it is. Ofcourse, I know marriage is not a walk in the park, but when you identify a problem, you look for a way out.
You know your man better than anyone, use whatever approach will work best. You can try communication, being firmer,prayer, whatever! Moremi and some other people have dropped some advice.

My dear, you have a right to be happy.. Look for ways to get your joy back without abusing the sanctity of marriage ofcourse.

Congrats Champs! I shed a tear reading through your post cos I remembered how DH and I felt when we got our. BFP. Wishing you a very boring 38 weeks ahead (unlike mine).

I was listening to sermon yday and the preacher said 'everything is a matter of time'. By Gods grace everyone on this thread will share their BFP's soon too, its all a matter of time

^^^ lool. I miss being the child.

diamondlove: How is RECRITMENT & AVATUR doin?

D house has been silent

I'm here oh, doing fine by Gods grace. I managed to cajole my maid to stay *phew*... Am going to get of bedrest once am 35 weeks, don't think I can go any longer. Woke up to positive thoughts and I will keep it that way by Gods grace.

Diamond, howz d nausea?

At all...hope all our babies are kicking well. Have a wonderful weekend.

Luvlee, thanks for the prayers. I need loads of it now.

Eight years I couldn't even stay in my parents house and remain jobless for a year after graduation, they will definately frustrate me out.lol. OP, you need tough love to deal with this man.. If you don't do something drastic, he'll get worse. Tell him your expectations from him and be firm!

All the best ooo.

Thanks a lot people. I feel a lot better today, thank God! Talking about drugs, hmmmn lemme just say it is well cos I've probably taken more drugs in this pregnancy than in my whole life- for ptl, high bp, infections, name it. God will see me through, can't wait for the day I'll carry my baby in my arms.

Are they those tiny ones. My mum had loads of the tiny ones, they can be very very irritating! Her driver gave her one locally made stuff like that, and it works wonders... Will ask for the name later.

^^^ #LOL. Are you sure the guy is normal? Am beginning to doubt his sanity if this is true..lol

Gaggi: Women are too emotional on the steering. The ones who are stubborn are extreme, the ones who are fearful will keep moving at slow pace while the reckless ones usually dent a brand new car in just 1hr. Like most things in life u need men to mentor them properly.
All the women i taught to drive are world class drivers 2day.

You're so right! EMOTIONAL is just the word. I remember when I started driving, I used to cry on the steering cos of fear and intimidation by other drivers..lol.

@diamond sorry, I remember I used to take avomin tablets 2ce a day. One before food every morning and one before bed every night. It helped a bit, I was also on promethazin tablets (phenegan) to help with vomiting. I still take it atimes because of my recurrent malaria.

I'm really worried, hoping that my baby weighs a well because I've practically spent more time in hospital than out of it.

About the carbonated drinks, in my 1st trimester, I could only eat boiled eggs and sprite. My doctor actually told me to take it easy on the sprite esp when I started bleeding at 13 weeks (threatened abortion). By I was still secretly taking in small amounts cos I felt I would die if I didn't. Am not saying you should do the same oh, but confirm from your gynae, if it makes you feel better and you don't have any other predisposing factors that make it dangerous to your body, he might let you take it.

Hmmmn, a bit of my own story..will share it fully when I deliver. I've been on bedrest since 13 weeks, my waters broke and I developed an infection, was told the only chance I had was to terminate, developed preterm labor. Leakage stopped, had cerclage...was transferred from hospital to hospital till I found the one that accepted me. My consultant and all the other docs still call me mama miracle. In all his years of practice he said he hasn't seen a case like mine. I am indeed a miracle. Still on bedresr right now, and my maid that has been helping me said she's leaving tomorrow. I don't know how ill cope but God that has brought me this far will see me to the end IJN.

Btw, I had a previous loss at 24weeks in the UK, spent some time with my boy but he sadly passed on. It is well IJN! I will testify, that I know...Just wanted to rant a bit cos atimes everythn just gets a bit too much for me to bear alone.

Diamond, hang on... I know exactly how you feel.

@ agiboma and avatur

The result showed ++ for malaria parasite and I have typhoid too! So am treating malaria for the 8th time now. I feel soo sick. God is on the throne.

Am going for a malaria test and will ask for a full blood count. Pls is there any other test I shld do

Thos naija guys fall my hand big time! Did IK really call the taller one an elephant? I wouldn't disagree too much sha..hehehehe

Congrats pamperme

@all, pls I have been having recurrent malaria. Am 32 weeks and I've treated malaria 7 times in this pregnancy. I still took coartem 8days ago and am already feeling feverish again. I have tested for uti and its -ve and I'm not HIV positive ooo.lol. What else can I test for? Will be seeing my doc tomorrow.

@diamondlove.. How are you?

No one size fits all, so your friend has to understand her hubby's nature to know the best approach,

For my kind of husband (one who respects my views/feelings), effectual communication is key. Let him know the effect this would have on the family, how it makes her feel vulnerable in front of the sister. Tell him to imagine if she (the wife) was doing the same thing to her own family, I.e. Telling them everything that goes on in the home. Lastly, the wife should make herself communicable..like I tell my hubby he can talk to me about ANYTHING,she needs to learn not to over react because some information cannot be easily processed by we women.lol. Infact, now my hubby and I jist like man-man.lol.

If her husband doesn't respect her opinions, then she could get her pastor or someone the hubby respects to talk to him. A couple having similar issues in my church got the pastor to talk to the hubby and for the 1st time the hubby realised what he was doing was wrong.

^^ please help, am feeling feverish again. I treated malaria 7 days ago with coartem. I have treated malaria. 7 times so far in this pregnancy. I am 32 weeks. I have tested for urine infection and that has been ruled out. What else can cause recurrent fever and vomiting in pregnancy?

^ a kid is like the nicest word ever to be used to describe that man!

PrettyCindy, ure a strong woman. May God give you a man that will love you from thr bottom of his heart.

cuteruth: @Recruitment, I used Fansidar and wen I went back to d hospital to complain I was given Artesunate with Paracetamol. But with all these my head still aches, and I am in my 20weeks now. Wat do u feel I shd do

Sweetheart please go back to your clinic. Some people experience headaches as a normal symptom of pregnancy while for some it could be a symptom of something more serious. Please go back to your clinic and do not self medicate.

P.S. The fact that I used those drugs does not mean its ok for everyone oh!! Please consult your doctor, do not self medicate especially in pregnancy

^^ have you tested for malaria? (if you're in Nigeria). I realized malaria made my symptoms worse

^ my sister, am in my 31st week and I have treated malaria 7 times so far

6 weeks - chloroquine
9 weeks - paluther
12 weeks - Lonart
14 weeks - paluther
20 weeks - fansidar
26 weeks - paluther
31 weeks - coartem

This should be too much right? Am scared now just remembering...

Hehehe... All the best, let us know if it clicks

Awww, the baby is soo tiny...

Nawa oh, choi .
What about putting 50% for the house and 30% for the wedding...that sounds better. Lol. If it was me, I would have suggested we pool our resources together and draw from it for both projects, while ensuring we reduce our costs... But with these comments, maybe am a 'mugu' for thinking that way, abi? Btw, am female and Yoruba . Can't wait for hubby to come so I'll show him the thread..

Diamond, you keep reminding me of my 1st trimester. I lived on drips, nothing worked, but I got better in the 2nd trimester, hopefully you will too. Pele dear

Kemond11: I luv d smell of my urine when pregnant,it smells nourished.i told my husband,he wondered hw possible

Wonder how malnourished urine smells..