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Hey people! Hmmmmmn am here oh, I'll be 37 weeks on Sunday. Am off bedrest. I was ill and admitted again last week and my Ob planned to induce me last weekend but changed his mind for whatever reason! Can you believe my stitch is still holding? Am off nifedipine now, yet no contractions... Infanct, I don tire sef. I 'll come online tomorrow again and hopefully have more interesting news... Btw, my feet are swelling oh and my BP is ok

Ayobarmy, where are you? How is your baby doing. Did your 34 weeker have any minor issues at all?

I know I won't deliver before 37 weeks IJN, but am kinda scared. I want to begin to do a bit more at 35 weeks... I hope the baby will be quite mature by then.

Johndoe100: I am surprised, not one of the women who posted here understands. The wife is now a woman just like them. She may have once been a man but now she is all woman. I expected some sympathy for her.

Don't kill me with laugh oh, it's early mo mo

PrettyCindy: Mr BrownJAY, HIV is a DEATH SENTENCE if not managed on time. I have seen lots and lots of people living with that stuff. If you find out on time, you will be able to manage it and still live a very very comfortable normal life but it is a certified ticking C4 Explosive when the carrier doesn't know its HIV and continues treating Malaria and Typhoid repeatedly. Remember this woman here did not ask for it, she could be your sister.
Infact i know for damn sure that all of you saying you won't tell will do serious tatafo if its your sister or aunt or best friends involved. Who are we kidding? **the crap women take all in the name of marriage**.

Are you for real? Yeparipa! Ehen... Please oh, shebi HIV test is usually done for EVERY pregnant woman at the beginning of the pregnancy. Will ask at my next antenatal. I've been treating recurrent malaria oh, but the test I did before pregnancy is negative now . No fear mi Biko

corrall: Hello My friends,

I have drawn so much inspiration from your various posts that i have decided to post. I thank God, i am in my 11th week, counting from my LMP. I can relate to diamondlove...well, maybe not as bad, but i have those sessions at least 3 times a day. I have not yet registered for ante-natal, i stay in Ajah, n i am still looking out for a good clinic with a good doctor.

Meen, the past 5 weeks has been something else o. I just crave for rest, standing up every morning to go to work is a BIG problem, and i ALWAYS throw up while brushing,and when i get to work, mayb cos of the stress i pass thru to get to work, cos it doesnt happen on weekends.

Drinking water is a problem, but i understand the need for me to have fluids in my system, so i take ribena sometimes instead, or mineral, something that has taste. I take fruits sometimes too. If i am allowed, i can eat like 10 times a day, in the tiniest bits. When i am hungry its like i have not eaten in days, after 3 spoons i would be full, and if the food doesnt go down well, it ends up in the toilet.

I keep asking peeps wiv experience, please when will this end, i cant wait for it to end. I wonder when the bump will come out...

Another thing, my stomach area is begining to itch a bit...who knows what is abt?

God will see us through

Thanks.

This just reminded me of my 1st trimester. I'll vomit about 3ce in the car, on my way to work. I vomit through the day at work. Everyone knew I was pregnant! Of course, I had to quit my job eventually. It should get better by 13/14 weeks.....hopefully! Btw, fruits causes secretion of acids which could make the nausea worse. So ensure you eat something about 30 mins after you eat fruits.

Ib, Congrats oh..kiss that baby for me

I know what a high risk pregnancy entails. It drains you psychologically and emotionally. The fear nko? that if you cough, laugh, move anything can happen . Hang in there sis. God will see you through. As per that your mum/ maid, hmmmmmn

^^^ MYOB!!

Igosun: Good morning my sisters do you know how am feeling now.......like is shd go and remove my pant but for God sake am in the office i wore loose pant before i left house this morning but everything is kind off now and am still at 33weeks not that an due you know.

O ga

Oh my!!! These my sisters won't kill me oh, choi!

Diamond, how are you? Hope ure better.

*deleted my rants

If he's impotent, might sound enticing

He's extremely kind
He sacrifices his comfort to make me happy
He provides all we need as a family
He doesn't drink, smoke and has NEVER looked at any other woman admiringly (hopefully )
Even when we were apart for almost a year, I NEVER had a reason not to trust him
He comes home straight from work, every outing is usually with me
OMG, in pregnancy, am a total queen... I don't do nothing! ( tho on doctors advice sha)
We've been through so much together, terrible losses, but they only made us closer
He protects me sooo much and covers up for me in front of his family. If you wan see his red eye, vex him wife

BUT

He's a workaholic, Gosh! He can work every day, every minute
He doesn't like going to church
He can be very strong headed, but I have my ways
His dressing...

peggykorol: Given a 2nd chance honestly I would marry sumbodi else.me and my 5 months old daughter lives frm hand 2 mouth not because he does not ve a Gud job buh he uses all he has in settn up a company dat brings nutin year in year out buh rather d company sucks from us.ve tried talkn 2him he refuses 2 listen.so tired

I know that feeling, its so annoying when they think they know what they are doing especially on issues that have to do with investment . Do you get the speech of " this discomfort is only for a while, it's for our own good".

Don't worry dear, hopefully he will listen to your advice soon enough. You can get someone with vast knowledge of investments to talk to him. Am sure he's going through discomfort as well. Also, try to empower yourself more cos these men a times ehn...

In the midst of my tears, I praise you because there is none like my God. He has brought me this far, he will see me till the end. God please can you give me joy and boldness. Can I have a new reassurance? I seek you my God. Please come and be with me. I love you Lord, your mercy is abundant.

Ruthabokoku: Thank you all ever so much.
I have been reading all day and smiling but at work so could not reply.. CC you are not my aunty but my mother,some of the things you have said on here, my folks didnt even say to me. God bless you and yours.
I remain positive.

I just feel the need to defend him a bit in light of what the thread has become. Just for the sake of the future, what if he sees this someday?.

He is not lazy or relaxed about the whole situation, infact he worries day and night and I catch him looking into thin air all the time searching for what is not lost ...lol. I only feel he is in a wrong environment, one that he is not used to and has been unable to penetrate.

Years ago, before I met him he ran a successful business that went down the drain. He still has the company papers and some documents he shows me to prove it. Things went the order way and he lost all (long story). His longtime girlfirend left him and he sold what he had left and moved to another city thats where we met. Infact we joke about it and I say so you have made money before and I have never enjoyed your money and he replies that you would soon enjoy it and be tired. He started hustling and doing all sorts of business to make money (nothing bad) and by the time I met him he had bought a new car (toks o..lol) and was saving money to get a place. According to him, he bought the car first in order to move around easily. At that time he was staying with a friend. As for me, I would not lie I met someone with a bit of potential that I fell in love with and married him. He got a small place before we got married and we moved in. After a few months we moved to a bigger place. I was working and he was still hustling,selling all kinds of things, doing middleman for businesses etc. I would not say all was rosy because we were still managing but at least we were fine.

We relocated due to some reasons (I wont be tempted to share..lol) and obviously he is not used to this UK system, hence the position he is in. I encourage him all the time to think of what he can do to supplement the income but he tells me he is thinking, but if you ask him of what he can do in Nigeria, he has a long list. The not wanting to be seen in places issue as to do with people he knows back home, he has friends and past clients that visit and all that kind of thing (to be honest, I don't blame him)

Therefore, I came on here to seek advice on how to move ahead so we can at least increase our income and save enough money to return to Nigeria where I know he can excel.

To the law degree and accountancy, thanks for your advice but it did make me chuckle. Infact it made my day, I am my hubby's PA as he calls me o, I fill all his forms and pay all the bills. He is no good with computers and books o.

Once again guys I really appreciate the prayers, something +ve happened today, I received an invitation to a test from one of the coys I have been applying to and I believe this is due to all that happened over the weekend. I am someone that believes God answers some people's prayers more than others and he must have heard the cry of you guys. I am positive about this job.

God bless us all.

Am i allowed to say ' I just love you' to a fellow woman...lol. You have a good heart. All the best in your test and hoping you and your hubby all the very best too!

^^^^ Good girl!

@ mogbomoya .....true true talk!

Diamond, I soooo understand what you're going through, I went through what you're experiencing up on till 24 weeks in my 1st pregnancy and lost him after all the suffering. Please be grateful, try and try... Honestly, I know it's not easy. In this pregnancy, I've gone through so much too. I still cry almost every other day due to different reasons which include fear...but am holding on. Pele dear, it is well... It will be sooooo worth it when we hold our babies

Whrz avatur?

Oh YES!!!

diamondlove: What have I done 2 YOU, y YOU makin me go thru hell, I thot YOU don't eva give pain bt pleasure, so y is mine goin dis way, y can't I hav a moment of peace, I can't pray out bt I pray 2 YOU wit my mind every second, even wen I type, I type wit shaken hands, GOD, YOU being so mean and hard on me, where hav I gone wrong? I hav neva maltreated any child b it abnormal or normal, I walk on d line YOU hav choosen for me and yet, YOU decide to torture me, I am livin in pain, its killing me
Wat more do YOU want me do, tell me now oooo, tell me

Wow, dear it is well. I know it's hard but please keep trying to hold on. Look beyond what u're going through now, focus on the big picture ( this helped me a lot). God is your strength.

Congrats luvlee!

debrief08: Madam CC, you have no idea the kind of crazy men existing now, I don't know if its the economy or the lack of psychatric Hospitals here but its bad. My very close friend who registered me on Nairaland is dealing with one now. He calls her 25 times a day, stalks her and her fiance even though she has never met or even dated him, he has been reported to the police, been arrested and locked up yet he still calls and texts them, telling her fiance that God has directed to marry my friend so he is just wasting his own time. So imagine how far this idiot would have gone if they had previously dated. He sends her texts messages quoting scriptures and telling her that the kingdom of God suffereth violence and the violent taketh by force so he must marry her by force. Madam you won't understand I swear, I get scared of even having daughter because of d kind of sickness I see oh. Besides madam just like a physically abusive man and a nagging woman you don't have to do anything to tick them off, they have an illness, a very bad one. D need to control and when they can't control a person or situation ythey go mad

Hehehehe, i had a stalker exactly like this before I got married. He flooded my phone with scriptural text messages, called at odd times. Turned out he was a bit crazy, this is very real oh.
Btw, I have a feeling it's the same guy oh. Does he stay in Lagos?

In hospital, on admission. Diagnoses - malaria 2+ . This is the 3rd time am treating malaria in d past 4 weeks. Trust me, mosquitoes never bite me. I drink only Eva water, I eat healthy... I dunno again . I've been vomiting. God is on the throne, I will rejoice in due time IJN

P.S. using chloroquine injection this time. I think I've grown a resistance to every other drug

nonyJ: A friend of mine is heavily pregnant, and her hubby has been denying her sex for the past one month and it is really killing her. Any time she as for it he complains that he is so tired and weak. What is the best advise to give to her. And their communication in the house has been so low. She is the one that is always trying to start a conversation in the house. She does all the house chores, even prepares meal before going to work and after coming back from work. Please what is your advise

My husband won't touch me with a long stick he's absolutely scared! Don't worry jare, he'll come around later.... She should stop asking for a while, that might be what is affecting their communication.

Omg! I feel sick, treated malaria and typhoid last week. Went for a blood test yday, No malaria parasite was found. I have headaches and just feel generally unwell. Can the next 3 weeks come any faster please!!!

afdman: moremi SHUT THE FUCKUP........ How e take affect you. Leave the man to solve his emotional issues. Titan handle your biz man. Its all good.

I know Moremi's post sounds really mean but that might just be what this guy needs to jolt him back to reality!

OP, are you literate at all? So a younger woman is a guarantee that she won't have a CS. If you spend a quarter of your internet surfing time acquiring knowledge, you would know better.

Anyways, let the woman know your fears and if she's comfortable marrying you, then I wish u guys all the best!

OYINBOGOJU: Well the only elevator i know at the airport is obviously a death trap.

Even when there is light,sometimes it refuse to open.
Sometime it will just be moving up and down without stopping.
Sometimes it will even close when you still your hand is still on open button.

I have personally experienced all of the above. Infact on a particular day it almost cut off my dads head! His body was inside, we were holding the open button and he tried to look out to call someone. All of a sudden the lift door started closing and the man didn't know the danger..lol

^^ I was thinking so too... The scenario of the boy killing the madam might be more likely than the other way round.. A 24yr old hard working village boy! Hmmmn ur mum is something

Ofcourse NOT!!

The day when you can't be bothered if she's doing well or not..and you can even wish her well, then you're over her