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If you're genuine, look for the 'Lamentations' topic and contact the OP, that might be a good start.

All the best.

I'm always too happy to 'help' my husband with almost all my money... that man just has his ways . I know he'll do the same if tables were turned, and we've been married for almost 2 years now.

OP, review this marriage oh... I can sense that you guys have some unsettled issues, you really need to talk. Although, I admit that there is usually some tension on various issues when planning the wedding, still something isn't right about this outburst and your relationship in general.

^^ if its itching on your bump due to the stretching of the belly, then I heard lots of moisturizing usually helps. Heard 'Ori' ( don't know the name in English ) is effective. I don't know about itching all over the body tho..

Ib: Ladies, do you think being pregnant in naija is harder than being abroad? Ive observed that more ladies complain of headaches, extreme nausea, high bp and other ailments. Is that the case or am i being silly. I know that woman abroad go thru difficulties in pregnancies...im not naive but it seems that in naija, its even more stressful.

It depends, I was in the UK during my last pregnancy, am in Nigeria now and being in Nigeria is way better for me because I have lots of support from family. The medical care abroad is incomparable but with money in Nigeria, you can get very good medical care.

So about the extreme nausea, headaches, etc, it was worse for me abroad.

^^ lucky you!

chaircover: What is conception?

Is it when the speerm fertilizes the egg or is it when the embryo is firmly implanted in the uterine wall?

I ask because the minipill, although mostly prevents ovulation, also works by preventing implantation of the fertilized embryo in the uterine wall. The IUD method of contraception also works the same way.

IMO, when you test +ve to a pregnancy test, so... When the embryo is implanted in the uterine wall.

^^^ . Would this be your reply if it was the wife that did this? They are both wrong and he shouldn't rejoice over cheating and getting a woman outside pregnant.... Nawa!

dramakwin: Don't knw wat else o cos couple do argue but i never tot a diovrce wud b d nxt tin
He intially gave me 3months π after my mum pleaded he increased it π said if by then A̶̲̥̅♏ nt pregnant i wud leave or he wud get a second wife or impregnant a gal outside π i have to abide by d conditions
A̶̲̥̅♏ tryin my best cos i hvnt being myself since monday
Pls any solution is welcome pls

OMG!! I wish I could do something... . To be honest, that man is no good ( sorry for insulting him) but why did your mum plead? Who is he to give you conditions . Are you sure he's not the one with the problem sef? Take it easy dear... I know there's nothing I say that can make you feel better. I've been down a similar road... Stress is the last thing you should be going through now. Hope you have a job. Don't worry, this too shall pass..

See why women go and bring in bastards a times, some men are just awful . Please don't do anything you'll regret though. Pele, it is well

dramakwin: Yes i hv π all reports showed A̶̲̥̅♏ ok...its Ʀε̲̣̣̣̥αℓℓγ̲̣̣̥ a tough one

My dear, I know exactly how you feel. Just ignore whatever he says or does ( easier said than done, I know), but you need your sanity very much and don't let anyone take that from you. I know what ttc does to one's sanity... Lol. There is absolutely nothing wrong with you and trust me you'll get pregnant soon...(((hugs)))

^ like seriously? . Have you gone for medical tests? Did the doctor say its your fault? Please don't put yourself under any unnecessary tension, cos that would be detrimental to your ttc efforts.

All the best!

avatur: Nothing more than the usual sciatic nerve thing (the one that results from the pressure from the fetus on a nerve) it affects the lower back, butt and thighs. Its pretty painful ESP when you've been sitting for a while and then stand up. See this link http://m.whattoexpect.com/pregnancy/symptoms-and-

Thank you, mine is just like that.

Take off your number ASAP, there are crazy people on NLD. Else your next topic will be ' my husband saw a message on my phone...bla bla'

Good for you and hubby... JK is actually a nice person after all

^ do you feel any pain in or around the cervix? Been complaining about this pain and he says it's a normal occurrence in the 3rd trimester. Is this true? (btw, I have a cerclage in)

OP, can you try not to write in shorthand aswell... Thank you

I cried last night after I read your post. Still teary this morning.
Only a person who has/is going to something similar can understand the
gravity of what you're going through.

The Lord will strengthen you IJN

Sorry i dont have any practical advice, just signed in to say... sorry about what your brother is going through

May the Lord strengthen you and show you the way out 'cos there is definitely one. All the best.

@afdman... Did she have a problem with constipation while on bed rest? How was it solved?

Mos def!

^ we are pregnancy buddies, 30 weeks aswell. EDD- end of June aswell, but mine has been a real journey. I know my God will see me through to the end too

diamondlove: Finally decided take drips
Vomit has stopped bt y do I still feel weak

Diamondlove ooooo, pele dear..... I was in the hospital throughout mu 1st trimester due to severe hyperemesis (vomiting). I practically lived on drips alone. I was soooo skinny. I was permanently weak too. I even hate remembering, it was awfull. But don't worry, it should get better soon.

You will definitely overcome.

I would advise you to apply wisdom. You can strike a balance...

About the issue of 'finding happiness in your kitchen' ... I find that bit funny tho ... What about dishing your husbands food into a flask immediately after cooking, also dishing yours into another flask. Leave hers in the pot so that when she comes in, she can happily scrape the remaining in the pot. This way she's happy she dished from the pot and you're happy you' dished yours first. If I were you, I'll totally ignore her and find a way round her immaturity without reducing my self to her level, but then again it's your call.

About the abuse, handle that VERY well now! Let your husband know you will NEVER condone it. Tell the world, even the dead and threaten thunder and brimstone if it ever happens again.

All the best

mogbomoya: How can I help my mood. Some days am so happy , other days I feel so miserable. I also feel so fat & ugly!!!!!! I really can't wait to put to bed and get back to my size 10! My face is so puffed up.

Hehehehehe, welcome to my world

osikhueme: I had cerclage as well, was on bed rest d whole of dat week bt resumed work immediately after, bt I consciously tried to eliminate stress as much as possible both mental and physical, didn't hv constipation per say bt had a lot of gas in my stomach at some point dat I had 2 go 2 d hospital cos since it was my 1st, wasn't sure wat labor pains felt like cos dis was so painful, I think they gave me mixmag or so
My cerclage was taken out on d day I turned 37wks n my baby came on d day I turned 39wks dats 2wks after

Pls just 2 clarify, does this thread cover baby care related topics or just pregnancy

I'll ask for mist mag at my next appt. I have hemorroids aswell . Yes, I have the gas too...I'll ask for mist mag at my next appt.. Pls I like pepper, is this safe for baby?

I pray baby stays in for a while after my stitch is taken out too cos I need some fun before he /she comes

The thread should cover baby related topics please, for after delivery support

Tetwa, you have told this story over and over again and in different forms too. People have advised you. What do you want to hear? That you should divorce your husband?

You are going to have to make that decision yourself and live with the consequences, no one is going to do that for you!

So think hard and make your decision wisely. All the best!

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Hi everyone,

Aigboma, do you remember me. Am now almost 30 weeks with cerclage and on bed rest. Problem is I am constipated. I can't eat, my stomach is full. Pleaseeeee help!

Thank you, replied you on the other thread

Thanks Aigboma, am seriously trying to keep calm now. I am in Nigeria. I have never had a transvaginal scan. I have trans abdominal ones. Can u catch a short cervix with a trans abdominal scan?

I had a transvaginal cerclage. I have been on nifedipine for preterm labor. My doctor never said anything about the p17. I don't think they do them in Nigeria.

I will tell my doc to do a vag.inal examination for me to check the cervix. Hope that is safe.

Viability starts at 28 weeks in Nig ( that's wot my doc said) so I don't think he'll do steroids before then.

I will send u an email after I see my doctor and get myself together. I trust God will keep me by his graceIJN.

Thank you

Hi,

I had a cerclage placed in 5 weeks ago after a previous 2nd trimester loss. I would classify it more as an emergency one cos I was dilated a fingertip and cervical length had shortened to 2cm at 17 weeks.

Of course, I was given the normal instructions like no heavy lifting, no sex and too take it easy. My Ob/gyn is not an advocate for bed rest but he did say I should take it easy.

I have been fine so far. I foolishly had an heavenly feeling a few days ago and started having pains at the stitch and and increased womanly discharge. Thank God it has calmed down now. My questions for anyone who has had the stitch are
1.    Did you have pains on and off in ur cervix ? ( I've had those a lot)
2.    Did you feel the stitch throughout when it was there?
3.    How do I know if the stitch is holding up fine?

Thank you.

Hi,

I had a cerclage placed in 5 weeks ago after a previous 2nd trimester loss. I would classify it more as an emergency one cos I was dilated a fingertip and cervical length had shortened to 2cm at 17 weeks.

Of course, I was given the normal instructions like no heavy lifting, no sex and too take it easy. My Ob/gyn is not an advocate for bed rest but he did say I should take it easy.

I have been fine so far. I foolishly had an orgasm a few days ago and started having pains at the stitch and and increased vaginal discharge. Thank God it has calmed down now. My questions for anyone who has had the stitch are
1. Did you have pains on and off in ur cervix ? ( I've had those a lot)
2. Did you feel the stitch throughout when it was there?
3. How do I know if the stitch is holding up fine?

Thank you.