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My brother, I wouldn’t advice you to continue with the marriage. I just lost a brother to that cell disease 2weeks ago. You will never be happy with yourself if you continue in that marriage.

Sigh!... I spent 5months 17days on my last job(security job) in Lagos before I was deployed to the North for NYSC. Beyond doubt those were the worse days of my life. I decided to pick it up when I had no other option after searching for a part time job after school and couldn’t get one. Sitting at home was now out of the option so I went for it. The pay was poor compared to the risk involved, you are always the suspect if anything goes wrong on your shift, the feeling of being a security guard gives you high level of inferiority complex amongs your peers, not just girls. I was so happy when I got deployed for nysc. I will advise you to have a target, save, leave your CV with some outsourcing firm since you will be at work most of the time to help you find jobs. And most importantly pray brother, you need it more than any other thing.

Salam brother. Is very important you seize this opportunity(Ramadan) to pray for forgiveness and for Allah(SWT) to help you get out of it. No amount of self-discipline technique will help you out, no therapy will work for you. Because it’s just like you are at war with your mind when the desire comes. Your body will resist it but your mind wants it, so those funny pictures and videos you watch will start appearing in your head, then you pick your phone and zoom off into the toilet or somewhere private. Am sure you always regret after doing it. It all starts with inferiority complex so, work on your self-esteem and avoid too much idleness. The only way out is prayer. Wake up at night and pray wholeheartedly to your lord. He’s always there for us. Many people has theirs answered, am sure yours won’t be an exception inshaAllah. May Allah accept our ibadah #Ramadan kereem

My dear brother, please stick to your teaching job and think of how to increase your earning to enable you further your education. I wouldn't advice anyone I know to take up a security job(out of experience). Is too humiliating.

The olosho wre him dea carry since unkor!, They don find am??

My brother, your peace of mind is very important. You dont have to accept things you are not ok with. If she can't give the child to the father, please leave the relationship to avoid regret afterwards.

Everything has been politicise in this country, I think the major idea behind this massive release is just to maintain the northern population. I pity for the soldiers.

Well, if you ask me I will tell you all your answers are in that text message she sent. Make her feel like she's part of the family and not someone you own(being bossy), unless when necessary, avoid third party interference in your marriage and always give her that space when she demand it. I think what you both need right now is a break not a divorce. You can't tell me you don't have feelings for someone you dated for 5years oga. Shae na movie una act all along nae.

Alot has been said on this issue. But I strongly feel you lost it from the initial stage of this whole controversy. We are africans, when a woman marries a man, she's automatically married to his family. On your own part try to always make your mom understand there are things you are suppose to handle as man and wife, and for those cases where she's to be involved, don't deny her those preveledge. That's what gives her fulfilment as a mother. Your wife should be made to understand this too.

Baba should try and visit the Nysc orientation camp in katsina. It will be nice having him around.

.... Range Rover where she never pay for finish... J-autos!. Still dea reason the matter give am sef...

Solomon na hustler, na I'm account he want make them send donations through am sure...

We still have good men among the racist white. People withcore value for human development irrespective of colour. Is good to know.

JewelDiamond:
Show us your own skin. Thank you

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JewelDiamond:
Show us your own skin. Thank you

Dear brother, what am about to tell you is from experience, don't take the job because if you do, you will be so strained that you will end up spending the little money you save on hospital bills when you fall sick, secondly... The job gives you no time to go out and search for better options. Again you going to hate yourself everyday on the job because it takes practically everything away from you, especially if you are the social type, desperation and idleness is what's making you think about picking the job... I know, but you sure deserve better. If you must start from somewhere,it should be where you fit in. Thats practical slavery bro.

McAausim:




Accept the job offer..... Life start from somewhere

Shae na me won tell you how water enter inside coconut ahbi... Be asking a question you already got the answer.

They don't always end well, the poverty you fear most is back to your doorstep cos am sure the government will live you with nothing and prosecute you as well. A life of crime pays not.

Ojokwu wre fight this war is long gone, see im babe de flex life, dea chop government money up and down. Maybe na she ignite that man push dea struggle sef����.

Lol... Personal interest always comes first among this men. That's the best way they could think of shutting him up and am sure it worked out.�

Bros you messed up. Big time. Nobody will be happy to realize she got into a marriage by chance and not because of love, especially coming from someone they genuinely feel for. I will advise you involve a third party, someone she respects and keep apologizing, keep talking to her, write to her, cook for her at your leisure, try going funny attimes just so she can smile. In a nutshell, try every means possible cos am sure you don't want to keep living that way.

I will advice all this celebrities stick to the baby mama/baby daddy thing.... Cos marriage is a no no for them, it doesn't always work. Instead of devaluing this aspect of human culture and being bad influence to their fan. I think they should just stick to that!!!!���

Common!!! this dude, should just move on. This frustration is just evident in everything about him. If he owns it like he claim, he's supposed to have dropped something better since then. He's so stuck in 2003 that you can feel it in he's voice, dress sense, song and every other thing. Ah ah... Move on jare

To dea southy na by force nae, you no fit come house until the tension cool off!!!!

I've always believed the government was in support right from the beginning. Even in the darkest age, everyone can't still be labeled as a sinner. They are still innocent Nigerians who make legitimate income in SA. Moreover, as a Nation, they are better ways to address a national issue rather than being violent. The amount of drugs consumed in Nigeria can't be compared to that of SA, yet na Nigerians the sell an for them. It's all just mere accusations get to be proven true.

Other's will learn their lesson. With his innocent look.... Promoting an act of criminality up and down all because you get small influence...

It's quite unfortunate for our beloved custodians and tradional representatives in Igala land, but I don't stand to blame them, for no one would want to be singled out among all. Our tradional system is recognised only as a sub-section of the local government, which is directly controlled by the state government. That's why this power drunk governors tend to forcefully make them second to their demands and succeed. Until the source of power and financial resources are properly re-established/outlined by the constitution, this problem will keep coming up not just in Kogi but other state as well. #OjoKi-Chide'..

Indeed.... There's no place like home����..
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Shift or you no shift am, what must be must be.... Bello must go!.

Lol... When your enemies think its all over, but forget you serve a living God�, Ganduje forgot to read SLS life history before coming at him I believe. He's been eating on that Big table before you became governor Bros. Think am. Lol

I think am going wild but trust me, the thought is coming up for a reason. I kind of feel the system is created not just out of greed or outrightly to loot alone, but also to provide limited opportunities(job) for those at the bottom and then live them with no choice than to pick up what their society(Government) provide them with. Most people I know who chose this part always see it as a last resort and end up becoming a pawn in their chess game. I feel for this dude seriously. So touching. RIP Hero!.

oh... quite thoughtful of you. you will make a good leader someday. (thinks of people before yourself.)