vikyembassy2000:

MALE & FEMALE INFERTILITY


Infertility in women

Conditions affecting a woman’s fertility can include:

- Damage to the fallopian tubes
- Ovulatory problems
- Endometriosis
conditions affecting the uterus
- A combination of factors
- No identifiable or Unexplainable factor.

Other factors that may play a part include:

- Age – female fertility declines sharply after the age of 35
- Polycystic Ovary Syndrome (PCOS)
- Gynaecological problems such as previous ectopic pregnancy or having had more than one miscarriage
medical conditions such as diabetes, epilepsy, and thyroid and bowel diseases
lifestyle factors such as stress, being overweight or underweight, and smoking.

Infertility in men

Conditions that may result in infertility include:

- Low sperm count or quality
problems with the tubes carrying sperm
- Problems getting an erection
- Problems ejaculating.

Other factors that may play a part in infertility include:

- Having had inflamed testes (orchitis)
- A past bacterial infection that caused scarring and blocked tubes within the epididymis as it joins the vas
- Having received medical treatment such as drug treatment, radiotherapy or surgery – for example to correct a hernia
undescended testes or twisted testicles
- Genetic problems
- Diabetes
- Lifestyle factors such as being overweight
having a job that involves contact with chemicals or radiation.

Male fertility is also thought to decline with age, although to what extent is unclear.

spidyconnect:
FACTS: 8 Common Foods That Increase Sperm Fertility

Sperm Count is one of the most important characteristics in male fertility. Research shows that in more than half of infertility issues in couples, low sperm count is the cause. According to the World Health Organization, sperm count of more than 15 million sperms per milliliters in considered normal. In semen analysis which is a test for sperm quality to find the underlying cause of male infertility, the following parameters are measured: sperm count, sperm motility, sperm morphology, volume, fructose level and pH.

Several environmental, lifestyle and medical causes can lower the sperm count significantly.

Here is a list of the most common causes of low sperm count:

Drugs such as cocaine and marijuana
Drinking alcohol
Exteneded uses of computers and laptops
Long-term sitting, such as driving and bicycling for a long time
Smoking
Stress
Obesity
Medical issues:
varicocele, infections, inflammation of testicles and prostate, ejaculation issues, anti-sperm antibodies, tumors, homonal imbalance, gluten intoleance and some medications.

One common issue about the difficulty in producing babies amongst married couples is the low sperm count and sperm quality.

I am not making babies nor suffering from it, I just want my readers to know I go extra mile for them.

Exercise and a healthy diet can help you to increase your sperm count. Here we gathered a list of 8 common Foods that can increase your fertility.

1. Water:
The simplest way to improve you sperm count is to drink ample water each day. It’s necessary to keep your body hydrated in order to boost the functioning of cells, including sperm. Drinking 8 to 10 glasses of water a day can help your sperm to go a long way.

2. Egg:
Eggs help increase sperm count and improve fertility. Eggs are rich in vitamin E, a deficiency of which is responsible for testicular tissue degeneration.

Continue reading: http://igotell.com/lifestyle/8-common-foods-that-increase-sperm-fertility/ thanks.

LEXYCOM:
I want to fatherhood.....I want to start having child......

herbalcraftsnig:
MEN - MY CHILDHOOD; MY MANHOOD; MY PROSTATE.. MUST READ!!

Ladies and Gentlemen

I am here to speak with you on Prostate. The topic is misleading. Is prostate strictly for men? Yes, ONLY men have prostate and ONLY men over 40years but the healthcare enlightenment is for everyone. There is no woman who does not know a man 40 years and above – father, uncle, brother, son, friend, neighbor, colleague …

Essentially what I will be doing today is health promotion. Responsible health promotion must provide three things:

1. Information
2. Reassurance
3. A plan of action.

Let me start with a background on prostate health.
Everyone has a pair of kidneys. The job of the kidney is to remove waste. It is the LAWMA (waste management company) of your body. Everyday your blood passes through the kidney several times to be filtered. As the blood is filtered, urine is formed and stored in a temporary storage tank called the urinary bladder.

If there were to be no urinary bladder, as a man walks on the road, urine will be dropping.
Now think of the plumbing work in your house. Think of the urinary bladder as the overhead storage tank. From the storage tank, a good plumber will run pipes to other parts of the house, including the kitchen. God in His wisdom ran pipes from our urinary bladder to the tip of the penis. The pipe is called the urethra. Just below the bladder and surrounding the urethra is a little organ called the prostate gland.

The prostate gland is the size of a walnut and weighs about 20grams. Its job is to make the seminal fluid which is stored in the seminal vesicle. During sexual intercourse, seminal fluid comes down the urethra and mixes with the sperms produced in the testicles to form the semen. So semen technically is not sperm. It is sperm + seminal fluid. The seminal fluid lubricates the sperm.

After age 40, for reasons that may be hormonal, the prostate gland begins to enlarge. From 20 grams it may grow to almost 100 grams. As it enlarges, it squeezes the urethra and the man begins to notice changes in the way he urinate.

If you have a son under 10, if he has a little mischief like we all did at that age, when he comes out to urinate, he can target the ceiling and the jet will hit target. Call his father to do same, wahala dey. His urine stream is weak, cannot travel a long distance and sometimes may come straight down on his legs. So he may need to stand in awkward position to urinate.

Not many men will be worried their urine stream cannot hit the ceiling. Toilets are on the floor and not on the ceiling. But other symptoms begin to show.

TERMINAL DRIPPLING: 
The man begins to notice that after urinating and repacking, urine still drops on his pants. This is the reason why after an older man urinates, he has to ring bell. A younger man simply delivers to the last drop and walks away. Just see an older man coming from the bathroom. Sometimes he may clutch the newspaper closely to hide the urine stains, particularly on plain colored trousers.

HESISTANCY
At this point you wait longer for the urine flow to start. There are 2 valves that must open for you to urinate – the internal and external sphincters. Both open but because of obstructions in the urethra, you wait long for the flow to start.

INCOMPLETE EMPTYING
You have this feeling immediately after urinating that there is still something left.

As all these things happen, the bladder begins to work harder to compensate for the obstruction in the urethra. The frequency of urination goes up. Urgency sets in. sometimes you have to practically run into the toilet. Nocturia also becomes common. You wake up more than 2 times at night to urinate. Your wife begins to complain.

Men being men may not talk to anyone even at this point. Then the more serious complications start.
Stored urine gets infected and there may be burning sensation when urinating.

Stored urine forms crystals. Crystals come together to form stone either in the bladder or in the kidney. Stones may block the urethra.
Chronic urinary retention sets in. The bladder stores more and more urine. The size of the bladder is 40 - 60 cl. A bottle of coke is 50cl. As the bladder stores more urine it can enlarge up to 300cl. An overfilled bladder may leak and this leads to wetting / urinary incontinence. Also the volume may put pressure on the kidney and may lead to kidney damage.
What may likely bring the man to hospital is acute urinary retention. He wakes up one day and he is not able to pass urine.

Everything I have described above is associated with prostate enlargement, technically called benign prostate hyperplasia.

There are other diseases of the prostate like:
1. Prostatitis – inflammation of the prostate
2. Prostate cancer – cancer of the prostate.

This discussion is on prostate enlargement.

I have bad news and good news.

The bad news is that everyman will have prostate enlargement if he lives long enough.
The good news is that there are life style changes that can help the man after 40 to maintain optimum prostate health.

Nutrition
Look at what you eat. 33% of all cancers, according to the US National Cancer Institute is related to what we eat.
Red meat everyday triples your chances of prostate disease. Milk everyday doubles your risk. Not taking fruits / vegetables daily quadruples your risk.

Tomatoes are very good for men. If that is the only thing your wife can present in the evening, eat it with joy. It has loads of lycopene. Lycopene is the most potent natural antioxidant.
Foods that are rich in zinc are also good for men. We recommend pumpkin seeds (ugbogulu).
Zinc is about the most essential element for male sexuality and fertility.

Men need more zinc than women. Every time a man ejaculates he loses 15mg of zinc. Zinc is also important for alcohol metabolism. Your liver needs zinc to metabolize alcohol.

ALCOHOL CONSUMPTION
As men begin to have urinary symptoms associated with prostate enlargement, it is important they look at alcohol consumption. More fluid in means more fluid out.

Drink less. Drink slowly.

EXERCISE
Exercise helps build the muscle tone. Every man should exercise. Men over 40 should avoid high impact exercise like jogging. It puts pressure on the knees. Cycling is bad news for the prostate. We recommend brisk walking.

SITTING
When we sit, two-third of our weight rests on the pelvic bones. Men who sit longer are more prone to prostate symptoms. Do not sit for long hours. Walk around as often as you can. Sit on comfortable chairs. We recommend a divided saddle chair if you must sit long hours.

DRESSING
Men should avoid tight underwear. It impacts circulation around the groin and heats it up a bit. While the physiological temperature is 37 degrees, the groin has an optimal temperature of about 33 degrees. Pant is a no - no for men. Wear boxers.  Wear breathable clothing.

SMOKING
Avoid smoking. It affects blood vessels and impact circulation around the groin.

SEX
Regular sex is good for the prostate.

Celibates are more prone to prostate illness. While celibacy is a moral decision, it is not a biological adaptation. Your prostate gland is designed to empty its contents regularly.

shaybebaby:
Fatherhood can change a man's life. It also changes his brain, in ways that it seems to equip dads with the very same "baby sense" that's often attributed to moms.

From an animal kingdom perspective, human dads are unusual. They belong to a group of less than 6 percent of mammal species in which fathers play a significant role in rearing offspring. In these species, paternal care often involves the same behaviors as maternal care, with the exception of nursing. [History's 12 Most Doting Dads]

But how does fatherhood change a man's brain? Science has only recently delved into the neural and hormonal mechanisms of paternal care, but so far the evidence suggests that mothers' and fathers' brains use a similar neural circuitry when taking care of their children. Moms and dads also undergo similar hormonal changes that are linked to their brain and behavior changes.

Here are five ways men's brains change when they become fathers:

Dad's brain looks like mom's

Taking care of a child reshapes a dad's brain, causing it to show the same patterns of cognitive and emotional engagement that are seen in moms.

In one recent study, researchers looked at brain activity in 89 new parents as they watched videos, including some that featured the parents' own children. The study examined mothers who were their children's primary caregivers, fathers who helped with childcare and gay fathers who raised a child without a woman in the picture.

All three groups of parents showed activation of brain networks linked to emotional processing and social understanding, according to the findings published May 27 in the Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences. In particular, fathers who were their children's primary caregivers showed the kind of activation in emotional processing seen mostly in primary caregiver moms. The results suggest there's a parenting brain network common to both sexes.

Dads experience hormonal changes, too

Pregnancy, childbirth and breastfeeding all cause hormonal changes in mothers. However, researchers have found that men also undergo hormonal changes when they become fathers.

Studies in animals and people show that new fathers experience an increase in the hormones estrogen, oxytocin, prolactin and glucocorticoids, according to a recent review of studies by psychologist Elizabeth Gould and colleagues from Princeton University. [Men vs. Women: Our Key Physical Differences]

Contact with the mother and children seem to induce the hormonal changes in dads, the researchers said. In humans, dads who show more affection toward their children also tend to have higher levels of oxytocin, the researchers said.

The effects of fatherhood on testosterone levels are less clear. Human dads show a decrease in testosterone, which researchers say may work to make the fathers less aggressive and bring them closer to their children. But some rodent dads show an increase in testosterone, which is possibly linked to their heightened protective behaviors.

It remains unclear to what degree such changes in testosterone are the cause or the result of different parenting behaviors, the researchers said.

"Nevertheless, infant contact itself seems to modulate endocrine systems and activate neural circuitry in fathers in a manner that is strikingly similar to that in mothers," [/b]the researchers wrote in their study, published in October 2010, in the journal Trends in Neurosciences.

A puff of oxytocin boosts dad-baby bond

Although dads who participate in childcare show an increase in oxytocin levels, the reverse also occurs; the hormone seems to increase childcare behavior. In a recent study, researchers found that sniffing a dose of the "cuddle hormone" gets fathers more engaged while playing with their kids, and their children are more responsive in return.

Does this mean an oxytocin spray makes a good Father's Day gift? Not yet. The researchers warned that the hormone has a variety of effects on behavior, and not all of them are positive.

[b]New neurons in dad's brain

Fatherhood also affects dads at the neuronal level. The birth of a child seems to induce development of new neurons in the brain of fathers, at least in animal studies.

Researchers say that these new neurons may develop in response to what the scientists call environmental richness, that is, the new dimension that a child brings into the life of a dad.

Studies have found that voles that met up with their pups showed increased cell growth in the hippocampus region of the brain, which is linked to memory and navigation. Other studies have found that new neurons in the olfactory regions of the brain enable father mice to recognize their pups.

Dads are sensitive to their children's voices

Although it is generally thought that a "maternal instinct" makes moms incredibly good at picking out their baby's unique cry, a recent study suggests that, in fact, dads are just as good as moms.

To compare parents' performance in baby-cry detection, researchers asked 27 fathers and 29 mothers to pick out their babies' cries, from among the cries of five infants. On average, parents were able to detect their babies' cries about 90 percent of the time, and men did just as well as women.

- See more at: http://www.livescience.com/46322-fatherhood-changes-brain.html#sthash.euG67DNa.dpuf


sorry, the naysayers were saying...?

chocolateme:
1. Get his weight in check
Being underweight or overweight can have negative effects on a man's sperm, and it can kill a couple's sex life because weight problems can affect a man's libido and performance. Sticking to a healthy diet that contains a good mix of fruits, vegetables, lean proteins, grains, and dairy, and fitting in physical activity on most days of the week can help him reach or maintain a healthy weight.

2. Get More Folate
Folic acid isn't important just for moms-to-be. Men who had lower levels of folic acid in their diet had a higher rate of abnormal chromosomes in their sperm, according to a study by researchers at the University of California, Berkeley. When sperm with abnormal chromosomes fertilize an egg, it may result in miscarriage or birth defects. More than half of first-trimester miscarriages are caused by chromosomal abnormalities in the embryo. This doesn't mean your guy has to take folic acid pills: A good multivitamin or foods that are high in folate, like beans, leafy green vegetables, whole grains, citrus fruits, and folate-enriched cereals, breads, and pastas, will help him get the recommended 400 milligrams of folic acid he needs daily.

3. KICK THE BUTTS
Smoking cigarettes can cause low sperm counts and slow-moving sperm. To give his swimmers a boost, your guy should stop smoking. It's better if he quits as soon as possible, but he should definitely aim to be smoke-free at least three months before you try to conceive. "Sperm production takes about three months, so any changes the man makes today won't show up in the semen for at least three months," says Suzanne Kavic, M.D., director of the division of reproductive endocrinology at Loyola University Health System.
He should avoid marijuana or other illicit drugs too. "Sperm may be damaged by these drugs, and women are more likely to miscarry if their partners use recreational drugs like cocaine, marijuana, and any of the other typical amphetamines.

4. CAN THE BEER
He doesn't have to give it up completely, but it's a good idea for men to limit their alcohol intake if they hope to become a dad. Alcohol has been shown to reduce sperm production and cause sperm abnormalities. One to two drinks a day is fine.
He doesn't have to give it up completely, but it's a good idea for men to limit their alcohol intake if they hope to become a dad. Alcohol has been shown to reduce sperm production and cause sperm abnormalities. Dr. Kavic says one to two drinks a day is fine.
Another reason he should dry out a bit: A lot of men don't perform as well sexually when they're inebriated.


5. SEE A DOC
A thorough checkup before trying to conceive will give him an overview of his health and fertility status. As in your pre-conception visit, he can expect discussions about his body mass index (BMI), any medications he uses, lifestyle factors that may affect fertility and pregnancy, any genetic disorders or history that may pose a risk to the future baby, and what he can do to ensure you have a healthy pregnancy. He will also be given any needed immunizations to help prevent him from passing on illnesses like chickenpox and the seasonal flu to you during pregnancy.


6. CUT DOWN ON CAFFEINE
A study of Danish men found that sperm count and sperm concentration were slightly reduced in men who had a high soda and/or caffeine intake. Men should limit their caffeine.


7. BLOW OFF SOME STEAM
Stress can increase abnormal sperm and reduce its concentration. Sleeping and eating well, exercising regularly to work off pent-up energy and tension, making time to hang out with his guy friends (or sit in front of the tube and do nothing!) and other activities that he finds enjoyable or relaxing can help keep his stress in check.

Information from
Tamekia Reece

tunderoc:




http://www.vanguardngr.com/2016/04/nigeria-records-first-baby-frozen-egg/

Teekay2:
Hi all, we are looking for egg donor due to the nature of the infertility I have, my doctor has adviced we use an egg dono. Is there any agency on this in Nigeria that we can trust to use? If there is any lady here with a good heart that is willing to donate pls indicate interest by sending me a private msg.it will be strictly btw you and the clinic aS we want it to be anonymous as possible.
Note - you will be compensated and appreciated

RoyalBlak007:
Fatherhood loading..........start saving for SMA GOLD and pampers.....at least save 1000 a day.....u wont like the first 2years.... .......

Aroh48:
What is d differend btw impotency and infertility.

napa:
Good morning all, does anyone have a recent iui success story. I'm thinking of going that way but not sure of the hospital to use. I did ivf early 2015 but bfn. I'm so confused at the moment. I need a good hospital that can guide me. Please assist a sister.

JustCurious:
Precious Father, We thank You for all things. We thank you for your continuous faithfulness and goodness over our lives and families. We thank you for your love that surpasses all understanding. Thank you so much for making us mothers. Thank you for blessing our wombs and the wombs you are about to bless. Thank you for causing us to triumph over principality and powers. We thank you dear Lord for making impossible, possible even amidst us here. We decree and declare that only your plan for our lives would stand! We decree and declare that no weapon fashion against us shall prosper. We pray dear Lord that you would make every one looking unto you for the fruit of the womb to conceive and bring forth in joy in Jesus name. Grant every beholder of this thread, good things. Mend broken hearts, increase our faith Lord that we may boldly say that the Lord is our Helper and we shall not fear what man shall do unto us. Help us Lord and fight our battles for us. We can't do it, for you are our Father.

In this new year, we ask that you disappoint the devices of the enemy, such that their hands cannot perform their enterprise. Make this year a remarkable, pleasant year for us all as we ask you in Jesus name. Amen.

Serefunmee:
A brief history about myself. Bn ttc #1 since August 2014. I av tried a lot of natural things in d past on my own but didn't get me d much desired bfp. I used clomid with grapefruits and EPO for 3cycles (even wen I knew my cycle is as regular as clock works), used castor oil(always got myself burnt wt it), used serrapeptase(2 bottles), used vitamin E (alpha-tocopherol, 2bottles), used Zinc and lots of others. I tried to relax. Reduced stress. I even quit my so-stressful job but all didn't fetch me my bfp. I always prayed too but at times I got weary and told God to just do His best. I always got depressed and so moody too but God is taking care of all dat now

Dottore:
Alex Powell, a man who decided to freeze his sperm 23 years ago, has finally used it to get his first child.

The product of that sperm, Xavier Powell, a toddler who is just six-months-old, has even made it into the Guinness World Records thanks to his father's decision two decades ago.

According to Mirror Online, Alex, from Australia, was diagnosed with Hodgkin's lymphoma at the age of 15.

He was told he needed to start chemotherapy immediately and made the decision to have his sperm frozen as the treatment was likely to leave him infertile .

That was 23-years ago and now the dad is celebrating his son's first few months of life with his wife Vi.

It was Alex's stepmum who convinced him to go ahead with the procedure after worrying about the effects of cancer treatment on her stepson's body.

Two decades later, Alex met his wife Vi and the loved-up pair decided they would like to have children.
In 2013, the couple began IVF in the hope that they would be able to conceive a baby.

It took one year of IVF for Xavier to be conceived and he was eventually born on June 17, 2015.

Alex told Nine News: "For me, it's that sort of feeling in life you want to relive every moment if you can."

Before Xavier, a baby had previously been conceived in the UK using sperm frozen for 21 years.

There is technically no upper limit on how long sperm should be stored for but it is usually between seven and 10 years.

http://www.tori.ng/news/15735/baby-boy-born-from-worlds-oldest-sperm-after-dad-f.html

geeneva:
Hello everyone!
I'm happy to see that we can discuss about this key treatment on forums in Africa.
Nigerians Doctors have really developed expertise, and some Cameroonians too.

My story: I have two kids, all girls, and my home is very fragile because of that lack of a son. I don't know why I conceive only girls...Because of that, I'm really concerned and I know DH is not happy as he could have been. Not that I don't love my kids because they are of female gender like me; on the contrary, I really work hard to protect them and raise them for them to become God-fearing strong ladies in this manly society.
I've recently started to think about going the route of IVF-PGD in order to have a son as number 3 child, and with God's grace, twin boys !

I'm looking for a serious clinic to do that in Nigeria. Because it is like this service does not exist in my country. I've seen that Fusion Nest Fertility does that...But not sure if that is even where to go. Please let me know:

- What are the most serious clinics in Nigeria?
-Is IVF-PGD permitted by law in Nigeria?
- How much does it cost overall?
would be grateful if could provide links to follow on these questions.
You are all just wonderful! I pray for God's blessings upon you all who desire Him sincerely, in the mighty name of my Lord Jesus-Christ!

liliamaka2003:
goodmorning all! plz I'm new on Nairaland. this Nov will be my one year anniversary. my hubby has been struggling with sperm issues. motility, morphology, or zero. count less than a million. the first time we conducted SA, everything was bad but count was 105 million. we have done like five more SA and the count varies at 21 million, 7 million, 5 million, 3 million and now less than a million. his scan also reviews he has varicocele on the left scrotum and they have told him at Teaching hospital that he will have to undergo surgery. at a private clinic, they said the surgery is 50/50% improvement.

plz I'm so concerned about this surgery. every1 says I shd be happy. how could ds b possible when one is going through a lot? no job, no fertility issues. Plz is there a way to get out of this without surgery?

thank all

mayGodhelpme:
Hello house!I just got to know about nairaland and have come to love it ever since. I have issues that have been bothering me,though its quite lenghty,bear with me please.

I have never known my dad because he died when I was just 1 year old,though my dad several wives and children of which most are older than me. Ever since he died everybody grew apart with their mother. My dad left enough inheritance of which we are still reaping till date!
My mum on the other hand remarried after my dad's death,which made my stepdad my dad,he has been the one I called dad till date. My mum had 3 kids for him,we all grew up together. My stepdad was not having any job for close 15 years,it was the money coming from dad via money shared among the children from his numerous properties and other businesses my mum used to train us all not until recently he got job. Ever since he changed,am not bothered about that. Though I went to one of the best schools you can think of till my higher school.

Am introverted in nature right from when I was young,some of my mum's friends sometime tell her my quiet nature is not ordinary,one of her friend even told her am ogbanje. My mum will in turn insult me and all that. It was while I was growing I got to know I inherited that from my paternal family as they are very reserved(most,some are not still).

I have been the a obedient type of child right from when I was young,i dont make troubles,am not wayward etc am not perfect though. Among my siblings am still the most obedient.

The problem here is that my mum dont appreciate me,she compares me with everybody,she does not understand me and she also insult me especially infront of my younger ones. I will give instances, I decided to start collecting my inheritance money personally this year due to somethings that happened,ever since my mum changed,she will tell me am greedy,(this is money she still borrow from me),am hiding money at the bank etc

Secondy,am not yet married,she will compare with my cousins and her friends children who are married(these are people who either gave birth at home,impregnated girls even those that are married got married because they are pregnant or impregnated someone. Some of them even got pregnant for thugs that have wives). I have always want to be different,as in get married before getting pregnant.i have always want to marry a man I love and love me too. My mum tell me husband is husband whenever I tell her am going to be different from people she compares me with. I never enjoyed growing up as I was abused emotionally and verbally. Whenever I tell my mum something bothering,she will use it to insult when the need arise that made me to keep to myself.she tell me am a bad person, I have a evil mind all because am d quiet type. I had low self esteem while growing because I always believe what my mum say(abuse) is true.

It has not been easy getting job after I finished school,all the while I have been at home its from one insult to another(mind you am not the lazy type,i have engaged in different businesses,did IT course,going about searching for jobs at a point I sold recharge cards ) with all these all I get is "I should do what my mates are doing" i.e get married or am not sharp etc

Concerning my relationship life,have been into differnt relationships,i was engaged to be married to somone few years back,but I realized I didnt love him and he wanted to trap me because this is someone that wanted to rape me twice, ( he said he wanted to trap me with pregnancy so I wont leave) he smokes,drinks I hid all these from my parents just because I want to leave home. It was God that saved me I would have been regretting now. That aside,after him I have been into other relationships that didnt work,mind you am not the choosy time as I even dated a guy that sold okrika and was not educated,along the line I tried to encourage him to further his education. His ex came back,even though he didnt want to let me go I had to opt out of the relationship. His people were of the opinion that am not their
language.

I prayed to God to direct my husband to me,and decided to be.Am 26,still a virgin. Last year,I started making plans to travel out of the country just to change location and see maybe things will workout,but still my mum still complain. Any time she tell her pastors about my not being ,some says I should hook a man,some say evil forces dont want me to get married of which I dont believe but my mum believe them,she will in turn use those words to insult me. One even said I have done abortion before!

Am very hurt,i cried many nights to sleep,my mum cant encourage me,she is always opposing and insulting. Anytime I have money she accuse me of not giving freely,am stingy etc. I give freely infact I cant count number of people owing me. I give to the needy some still call till today. Sometime I take clothes to the needy,give them money even jobless women with kids! Its just that I dont like listing things I do because I see it as boasting and its not according to God's way of giving. Even if tell her of the givings I did she will still find something to say!

What have I done wrong to deserve all these treatment? Have tried talking to her she will tell me one cannot be wiser than her parent. I have contemplated sucide many time. I dont have any close family to talk to. Am nothing infront of my younger ones! Am not always happy at home. I dread going home all the time. What is my offence? Or am I the one not doing something right? I ALWAYS displease myself to please her! My mum is suppose to be my comforter all the time. I dont want my kids to grow up uhappy like me!

Please advise me on what to do,am fed up.

Ps: my mum can be nice at times most especially to people outside

psalmz:
My own. Is coming this december.i will soon be a father.fatherhood here I come

LordAdam:


Please see a doctor. Many are religious, but please ask as many as you find until you find a doctor who will treat your gf as a patient needing help than see her as Hitler in a feminine form.

A lot of people would advice you to keep the kid, but of you and the lady do not want to keep it, please do not keep the baby. This is not a matter of religious conviction, it is a matter of personal choice and critical thinking. The peeps advising against abortion and the church will not raise the kid for you.

Why people have to force their beliefs and convictions down the throat of others is beyond me.

macho44:
bros just like ur signature quotes, U are the type of nigga that made D "FUCCCk" happen. anyway sha! Congratulobia, Welcome to the fatherhood club, Ndi nna Papa!, isokwaaaaaa.

haftob:

Go and find more about IVF, it's not as expensive as u tink. I tink it's more cheaper in some hospitals than some. Ask around about cheaper IVFs centre. For u to be able to afford dos gynaecologists, u shud be able to afford IVFs in some hospitals.

Caracta:


So sad. May God comfort you. Please take heart and be strong.

jill28:
I used The Bridge Clinic in Lagos and their support has been overwhelming. I am blessed to have an amazing team of doctors assisting me.

Arlington:

GENBBBBBBB This is what happens when I am missing in action congratulationsssssssssssss I was so excited when i read this . May the almighty God keep her safe during this period .
@ Rocksqueen thank you very much I had not even gone that far i was trying to read my way up.
@ Camry I pray everything goes well the lord watch over you and be with you.