I suggest that you tell you wife your weakness and fears also tell her that if anything happens to the marriage tomorrow; then its her fault.
Which you can send the girl to school in other to help or you send her out with a good compensation. For Gods and humanity seek

Johnsown1:
I suggest that you tell you wife your weakness and fears also tell her that if anything happens to the marriage tomorrow; then its her fault.
Which you can send the girl to school in other to help or you send her out with a good compensation. For Gods and humanity seek

Why does he need to offload the consequences of what is his lack of self-discipline on his wife abeg?

Must her world stop rotating on its axis because this man failed to learn self-discipline when his mates were?

Kobojunkie:
Why does he need to offload the consequences of what is his lack of self-discipline on his wife abeg?

Must her world stop rotating on its axis because this man failed to learn self-discipline when his mates were?

People have different types of problems and they tends to put on the alarm before things gets out of hand.

It's better he puts the danger on the wife so that she will give it a serious thought because women hates war with a maid in their various home. So he should put it that way, so that she can act fast

Johnsown1:
People have different types of problems and they tends to put on the alarm before things gets out of hand.

It's better he puts the danger on the wife so that she will give it a serious thought because women hates war with a maid in their various home. So he should put it that way, so that she can act fast

I don't follow at all!

The man is struggling to keep his libido in check, and harbors thoughts of possibly raping his househelp, yet you are suggesting his wife should live in apprehension as a result?

What else? Should she abort all female children they conceive for fear that the child may end up raped by her husband who lacks self-discipline in the sex department?

One thing thing problem is the wise thing is always to seek help to resolving them. You aren't even suggesting the man seek resolution but instead suggest he guilt his wife into living in apprehension of his lack of self-discipline.

pedophile, Shoot your shot biko

Kobojunkie:
I don't follow at all!

The man is struggling to keep his libido in check, and harbors thoughts of possibly raping his househelp, yet you are suggesting his wife should live in apprehension as a result?

What else? Should she abort all female children they conceive for fear that the child may end up raped by her husband who lacks self-discipline in the sex department?

One thing thing problem is the wise thing is always to seek help to resolving them. You aren't even suggesting the man seek resolution but instead suggest he guilt his wife into living in apprehension of his lack of self-discipline.

Thats my thought though but am not supporting his lack of discipline but i think that should make her to hasten up.

His problem is incureable apart from the support of his wife

Johnsown1:
Thats my thought though but am not supporting his lack of discipline but i think that should make her to hasten up.

His problem is incureable apart from the support of his wife

Hasten up to doing what exactly?

Are you insinuating that men who struggle with the same lack of discipline and are without wives are doomed, and this because you claim this man can't be cured of his lack of self-discipline except his wife supports him?

Kobojunkie:
Hasten up to doing what exactly?

Are you insinuating that men who struggle with the same lack of discipline and are without wives are doomed, and this because you claim this man can't be cured of his lack of self-discipline except his wife supports him?

Hasten up with the house help temporary dismissal. He has a problem and he has identify the problem which is his lack of self discipline.

Some evils and ugly habits are been orchestrated within the environment/homes. So I suggest his wife listen to him, then they should find a way to deal with it so that it won't get more horrible

Konji dey warri you, see him head like Oxlade. Better comot, go outside go find gf to take calm your nerves. That house help na still small girl, 15yrs o. My guy, you better talk to your wife make she get sense or else you go find am outside.....

Nedangel:
So this girl ( 15 years) was brought to my house by my wife after my wife gave birth a year after. My wife said she really needs someone to help her, but I kicked against it. After much pestering from my wife, I agreed.
I sooo much have feelings for this girl.
I have fought it so much. Some times my wife is out/ travels and am alone with her and kid when am back from work. But this strong feeling comes up and I feel like having her. Most times I find my self thinking about this girl. It's to the point that my chest pains me.. When I ask my wife for s*x, Most times & always she says she's tired.
Please it's really affecting me, it's eating me up. I need suggestions/ advice from my well meaning Nairalanders. Thanks allot.

Nedangel:
It's hard to see any house help, as it took a long time to see this one. And my wife was always in tears, pains and nagging since she was always doing all d chores..

Bro... You've got to fight and resist the temptation in that case. Such affair never ends well.
Speak to your wife on the need to stop saying No to you in bed. Even if it's just 1 round, she should allow you so that you can calm your urge.
I truly understand what you are fight... I ended up getting a 'ugly' younger househelp

Johnsown1:
Hasten up with the house help temporary dismissal. He has a problem and he has identify the problem which is his lack of self discipline.

Some evils and ugly habits are been orchestrated within the environment/homes. So I suggest his wife listen to him, then they should find a way to deal with it so that it won't get more horrible

Temporary dismissal of the househelp will cure this man how?

Should the wife also send away their daughters, assuming they have kids, in the same token?

What evils and ugly habits are being Orchestrated again biko?

dawnomike:
Bro... You've got to fight and resist the temptation in that case. Such affair never ends well.
Speak to your wife on the need to stop saying No to you in bed. Even if it's just 1 round, she should allow you so that you can calm your urge.
I truly understand what you are fight... I ended up getting a 'ugly' younger househelp

You actually believe the reason this man is listing after the 15 year old househelp is because his wife does not give him sex regularly? You are kidding with that, right?

What you are insinuating is that he shouldn't be trusted even around his own pretty daughters when he hasn't been sexually satiated by his wife enough.

dingbang:
See what some wives are making their husbands to think.

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Nicepoker:
Thake this thing to crime section.

Na for jankara them go put u for kirikiri, no tame ur d1ck.

Nedangel:
So this girl ( 15 years) was brought to my house by my wife after my wife gave birth a year after. My wife said she really needs someone to help her, but I kicked against it. After much pestering from my wife, I agreed.
I sooo much have feelings for this girl.
I have fought it so much. Some times my wife is out/ travels and am alone with her and kid when am back from work. But this strong feeling comes up and I feel like having her. Most times I find my self thinking about this girl. It's to the point that my chest pains me.. When I ask my wife for s*x, Most times & always she says she's tired.
Please it's really affecting me, it's eating me up. I need suggestions/ advice from my well meaning Nairalanders. Thanks allot.

bro it's lust...and she is underaged..you can't handle the consequences that may arise from sleeping with the innocent little girl...please control yourself because sending her away might be a little difficult cus she helps your wife.... so what reason would you give your wife that's making you to want her to go?..you might lose respect from your wife if she discovers that lust made you send her away...but it's better you send the little girl away than fall for the temptation and "destroy" the girls life..please be wise enough to know that you have no business sleeping with that little girl.. please

Op go through this post , it's a good piece for you
https://www.nairaland.com/5559757/boy-calls-father-not-bear#84543436

The parents were begging for her to be with us.

Nedangel:
So this girl ( 15 years) was brought to my house by my wife after my wife gave birth a year after. My wife said she really needs someone to help her, but I kicked against it. After much pestering from my wife, I agreed.
I sooo much have feelings for this girl.
I have fought it so much. Some times my wife is out/ travels and am alone with her and kid when am back from work. But this strong feeling comes up and I feel like having her. Most times I find my self thinking about this girl. It's to the point that my chest pains me.. When I ask my wife for s*x, Most times & always she says she's tired.
Please it's really affecting me, it's eating me up. I need suggestions/ advice from my well meaning Nairalanders. Thanks allot.

send her away imidiately. It will save you alots of embarrassment

The parents were begging for her to be with us. When she was taken back, so she was brought back.

Kobojunkie:
You actually believe the reason this man is listing after the 15 year old househelp is because his wife does not give him sex regularly? You are kidding with that, right?

What you are insinuating is that he shouldn't be trusted even around his own pretty daughters when he hasn't been sexually satiated by his wife enough.

99% of men can't be trusted in such situation, there won't be no issue if the girl never come around. Just give him good advice

ALLNIGERIANSMAD:
99% of men can't be trusted in such situation, there won't be no issue if the girl never come around. Just give him good advice

I have to disagree with you on this. Not all men lack self-discipline and control when it comes to the opposite gender and certainly not all men would consider a child for sex.

The OP, and yes, the many others like him who were likely raised to see women as nothing more then sexual objects do indeed reveal a societal problem, and yes the may be of the majority, but I doubt they number in the 99% of even Nigerian men or else women are indeed doomed.

Nedangel:
The parents were begging for her to be with us. When she was taken back, so she was brought back.

The gal is not the problem. The fact that you perceive her as nothing but a sex object is.

Go see a shrink and begin learning the discipline you obviously forgot to learn from childhood..

Nedangel:
So this girl ( 15 years) was brought to my house by my wife after my wife gave birth a year after. My wife said she really needs someone to help her, but I kicked against it. After much pestering from my wife, I agreed.
I sooo much have feelings for this girl.
I have fought it so much. Some times my wife is out/ travels and am alone with her and kid when am back from work. But this strong feeling comes up and I feel like having her. Most times I find my self thinking about this girl. It's to the point that my chest pains me.. When I ask my wife for s*x, Most times & always she says she's tired.
Please it's really affecting me, it's eating me up. I need suggestions/ advice from my well meaning Nairalanders. Thanks allot.

That's lust , just because your wife denies you sex so the next thing for you is to have feelings for your housemaid that is just 15

I pray God should provide for everyone so that their children won't become a prey

Why don't you take that maid as your daughter or junior sis .
At the end is you men that will be shouting all this small children has spoil , pls who are those spoiling them

Oga sleeping with house maids is getting out of hands . any rapist seen or reported should face the law , no mercy for rapist .

Potential pedophile

Nedangel:
So this girl ( 15 years) was brought to my house by my wife after my wife gave birth a year after. My wife said she really needs someone to help her, but I kicked against it. After much pestering from my wife, I agreed.
I sooo much have feelings for this girl.
I have fought it so much. Some times my wife is out/ travels and am alone with her and kid when am back from work. But this strong feeling comes up and I feel like having her. Most times I find my self thinking about this girl. It's to the point that my chest pains me.. When I ask my wife for s*x, Most times & always she says she's tired.
Please it's really affecting me, it's eating me up. I need suggestions/ advice from my well meaning Nairalanders. Thanks allot.

She is a child.
What you are thinking is only for pedophiles, so stop.
Send her away. NOW

I hope your newborn is not female.

Op you are a pedophile how can you even think of touching a 15 year old girl you deserve to be jailed and a pedophile tag hung around your neck

Kobojunkie:
Temporary dismissal of the househelp will cure this man how?

Should the wife also send away their daughters, assuming they have kids, in the same token?

What evils and ugly habits are being Orchestrated again biko?

I think such thing will never happen to his daughters maybe it's because the house help is not blood related

Johnsown1:
I think such thing will never happen to his daughters maybe it's because the house help is not blood related

So all the stories we read of father's raping their own daughters are what, fiction?

Kobojunkie:
So all the stories we read of father's raping their own daughters are what, fiction?

He is a young guy and I don't think that it will result to that

Johnsown1:
He is a young guy and I don't think that it will result to that

So in all the stories you have read of such cases, you came away believing no young man can rape his own child?

Oga if this is true, I will advise you to flee and maintain discipline, because if any thing go sup, I see the girls people firing for rape, I see you going to court, I see you loosing the case and .......hmmmm.
Oga prison never full oooo..E'won lo'ma kusi