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I will call my mum and ask her to connect me to my GF.. I will talk to both of them and let them know how much they mean to me.

gree-die:
ope u r getting better? Pls tk kia of yourself

Yea, I'm better now.. Thanks for asking.

Sorry friends, I couldn't come online to reply to Dubem's posts.. I wasn't feeling too well.

Dubem, its been nice debating with you.. You rock bro.

ATMC: Dt will be risky i think but please urself afterall u r of age

Did someone just called my name? **look left and right**, okey not me..

From what I understand, you are not a Nigerian but you are in love with a Nigerian. That said, you father doesn't know a thing about Nigeria (eating people?), he knows better then that.

Sweety, please don't run away with this young man.. Now ask yourself these question, what if at the end of the day, the whole thing didn't work as planned and you need somewhere to run to.. Where will that be??

Just try to make your father understand how you feel about this guy and let him see reasons that you guys are meant for each other.

My 2cents

I'm at d side line...

All protocols are duly deserved:
It’s me, yes me, Risky_man and I’m supporting the motion.

The level at which a relationship will be romantic/sweet or boring depends not solely, but greatly on money. Are we going to compare a relationship between a lady and a guy that can afford to take his lover on a trip to, say “Paris”, Dinner, Movie, Shopping etc, to the one where the guy can’t afford anything other than coming just by the street corner to stand and discuss with his lover? (Just wait until a rich guy come calling). Let’s bring it back here on our dear “nairaland”, we all see the type of threads ladies keep opening and that alone can give us an insight to what I’m talking about. There is a saying that “'Money hai to honey hai”.

Okay DUBEM, let me agree with you for a minute and also ask you those following question: If money is needed to sustain a romantic love/relationship, how do expect a lady and a guy in a long distance relationship/romantic love to cope? Okay, let’s look at it this way… You will be the lady and I will be the guy.

DUBEM as a lady in a relationship with me (the guy), how on earth will you feel if I spend a full month without communicating, visiting, sending gifts to you, for the sample fact that I’m not working/no income.
Let’s call a spade a spade and not call it rake (“I have been there and I have done that”).. DUBEM, both the unbiased judges and wonderful viewers reading this, knows that you(DUBEM) will walk.. I mean, that particular month will be the last month you will have anything to do with not only me, but any poor, broke ass, deprived, unfortunate, underprivileged, pitiable, destitute, poverty-stricken, impoverished and penniless guy.

Below are some responds I got from some friends online in different countries and they are not members/visitors of our dear “nairaland”: I won’t edit anything
neha , dehradun, 2011-01-27 22:09:13.41
“yes money is important. i agree u dnt need money to be loved. bt u need money to keep ur love life in existence....falling in love wid a poor guy is easy bt spending a happy lyf wid him is not possible...”

karthik, hyderabad, 2011-10-27 14:43:08.18
“with out money ur relation wont last long................”

amita, delhi, 2008-08-26 16:16:30.48
“Practically speaking money or say financial stability/independence proves making an individual strong and confident. One who's sound in money or is independent never feels frustrated or feels down from other people. Better thoughts could only come when basic needs are already fulfilled, no complexes, no stress. Money does ruin also. it plays an important role to give relations a stability.”

Raj, France, 2008-07-09 20:51:48.197
“When poverty knocks the door love jumps out of the window, Its the money which binds the couples together, Have you ever seen a girl marrying her poor lover, leaving an alternate option to marry a rich guy. You might find some cases but love disappear after few days”

MG, Delhi, 2008-07-02 12:38:01.53
“It is important to retain your love as love. I know my girlfriend always demands something or other in one or otherway. Petrol is too costly, gifts are costly too, Movie ticket, gifts, food, I mean, its not bad but yes it is important to express love, otherwise sometimes no-money can lead to huge gap in relationship and may end your relationship too.”


Alright let’s take it a step further:

“…. My doubt is the expectation of my family and friends. They believe a poor man is nicer because he nothing to be proud of and I will not be happy if I become the breadwinner in the family. Currently I totally disagree with them, but am afraid if what they say is true. I am afraid I am not being realistic since staying in a romantic relationship, is not all about love only, but money plays an important part. Because, even if i can afford raising a family and even buying a small house all by my income, i still believe that it should be a man's job. Should I let go or keep this relationship? Am I being realistic or not with the relationship?
Warm regards,
Cathie “

The above statement is from a lady, and it clearly portrays how a lady feels when she is in a relationship with a poor guy even when the lady can afford to support that relationship.

My dear unbiased judges and wonderful viewers reading this debate knows that money is power, it sustains and is also very much needed to sustain a romantically involved relationship/love.


Still me, Risky_man

Hmmmm.. i have been winning Dubem since we started, i will afford him the benefit of starting first, maybe we will win this time around

Dubem Nwanne, i await you. Fire

Nice story line...

I will be back.

AmBeautiful: i beg your pardon?
Are you saying i cant read?

Shaa i don beg you?

AmBeautiful: i think the judges and the organizer's of this debate should have waited for me to complete my second post by replying Adaeze's second post.
Next time, that should actually be a fair case, except the debater states otherwise!
Anywayz, its all good!

Sis, dont you worry.. The results clearly shows that we killed the debate

D-Explorer:
Dubem
Content presentation - 2.5 Points
Style/delivery - 3 Points
Grammatical correctness - 3.5 Points
Sentence construction - 3.5 Points
Clarity/fluency - 3 Points
Sound reasoning - 3.5 Points
Total Points = 19

Risky man
Content presentation - 4 Points
Style/delivery - 3 Points
Grammatical correctness - 3.5 Points
Sentence construction - 3.5 Points
Clarity/fluency - 3 Points
Sound reasoning - 3 points
Total Points = 20

Bros.. sound reasoning is where i have a little problem. Well, all the same thanks

190: for Nigerian girls it is always about MONEY

forget grammar

190, are you not mostly right... some Nigerian girls cheat bcoz they think their BF is a cheat.

There are many fectors that can lead a girl to cheat on her man, it all depands on individual (Different strokes for different folks).

Mynd_44: Can I start a relationship with you?

Guy, easy nau.. na by force??

Yes, but only on nairaland

Pritheeann: @mynd44...fank u

Should i tell you the truth You will never change coz you dont take to correction... I pity you bcoz your past is still and will be living with you.

Piss

Mynd_44: **singing "wake up" by Teargas"**

I love that song, but dont understand some of the things they said in that song..


@OP.. Are you sure you have not done something with the girl and after which you are trying to run?? Bcoz something is not just adding up.. How did you get to know this girl, how did she just start calling and texting you?? Abeg talk true joor or you park well.

I want to believe that some of us here knows the genesis to the selling/Conceding of Bakassi to Cameroon. I dont see the reason we should be disturbed by this single issue over and over again. Now, let me remind you that the said "Bakassi" was not taken by force from us(Nigeria) and i even wonder why we are asking them to give us "Bakassi" back.

Bakassi was sold out during the war, just for the simple fact that the Nigerian Gov. didnt want the Igbo's to have access to the outter world (Arm Suppiles, Food, Medication etc). Now tell me if this kinda act(Selling part of your country... Not becourse the masses are hungry and the money will be used to feed them, not becourse the said area is not important etc) has happened anywhere in this world. To me, Bakassi is a forgotten matter and we should see it as it is.

Incase you dont, Bakassi is done and there is nothing the Senate, the Goverment or anybody can do about it. Does it occur to you that, oil was not discovered in that area (Bakassi) when it was sold out to Cameroon and now that there is oil in that area, Nigeria just walk up to them asking them to release the area (Do you think they(Cameroon) people are stupid or what).

If i'm the President of Cameroon, even if You(Nigeria) offers the whole Northen Nigeria to me(Cameroon), i will not release Bakassi. Lets learn how to live with the fact and move on.

Dubem fall to make any major point up there, there is no where in my post when I said LOVE is not the main issue in relationship, what me and co are saying is that LOVE is meaniless when there is nothing to support it..

Now let's look at your "SACRIFICE", even in the dark age that you tried to refere to.. They also have a way of showing love to their mate.

I'm so waiting for d Dubem..

Adaeze.. We are waiting, please keep it coming.

pearl~hapi:
am using a phone and it rilli isn't easy to type that long witot making errors btw I shall do my best to modify the little I can

pearl~hapi, i want this opposing peeps "to agree not to disagree" at the end of the day.

Pearl-hapi, is this you? What happened to your punctuation today nau.

Ranoscky: Dem dey force Dog to chop shiit? ... If he knows that he's not cool with the r/ship, then he should leave, simple!

Abi dem use ogun tie im leg?

Guy, you dey listen to youself at all

@OP, go to meet-up zone

@OP, are you for real

tjskii: Dat seun is ugly na,must she spell it out,

Babe, i no follow ooo

Talking about how Money Sustains Romantic Love: the truth is you can't have a great relationship until you can afford to provide (no matter how small) for your girlfriend, and money is either the best or the worst area of communication even in marriages.
This is usually a very serious matter in relationships. The common saying in Nigeria that “No money, no love” is mostly true. Some people are confused about why they are really into a particular relationship especially when their partner turns out to be far from all they ever wanted. Some others are certain they are in only for the money and easily disappear when the money stops flowing.
Even those that are also in a relationship for the sake of love also experience conflicts about money issues; who earns more and thus carries more of the financial burden? How often should the man pay the bills even when the lady earns her own money? Joe Isaka, a media person declares that money is more important in a relationship, because “With money, you can make any girl fall in love with you. By the time you buy her gifts, take her to the cinema, pay for her shopping trips, she will start thinking of you as her knight in shining armor. She is in love.”

Charity, a student of University of Abuja, agrees with Joe; “money is more important than love because love dies in the absence of money. Like me, I cannot date a poor guy. I had a friend who was in love with a poor guy but another guy who she did not really like kept buying her gifts the poor guy could not get for her. After a while her love for the poor guy disappeared and today she is married to the rich guy”.

Financial security is one thing that every girl craves. I’m of the opinion that money and love go hand in hand. “Both are very important factors in a relationship". Without money the love will not grow and without love, the relationship is not very enjoyable. This is why the man should do his best to become comfortable in life before going into a romantic relationship. I’m sorry, but times have changed so much that there is a higher demand for the good things of life. The truth is that every girl wants to be secure in her relationship which is why a girl would prefer a banker as a mate to a marketer. Let's face it: When it comes to money, men tend to take more risks and don't save for emergencies. Men use money as a scorecard and can struggle with self-esteem when there are financial problems. But Women tend to see money more as a security issue, so they will gravitate toward the rainy-day fund. Because of their need for security, ladies can have a level of fear when they are in a relationship with a guy that can’t provide/Sustain a romantic love. Experts call it terror—when a guy without income is keeping a romantic relationship with lady.

Let’s not forget the fact that money provides basic necessities like food, shelter, clothing, etc. I am not talking about luxuries, but certain basics are required. My opponent (DUBEM) might be saying that without money one can be truly, madly, and deeply in love, but trust me it’s easy to say but, it's really difficult for ladies to go below the standard they maintain, it's easy to say 'yes I can', but let them try it for a week and 99.9% of our ladies will give up. Hence, money is very much important to Sustains Romantic Love, because not all stories that begin with 'once upon a time, end with... and they lived happily ever after.'

N/B: I dont want to start quoting DUBEM word to word, but i'm countering all that he has to say

I remain my humble self: Risky_man

sexkillz: [color=#000030]We are moving ahead. . .

In order to make this a 3 vs 3 debate, i will have to eliminate 2 participants from the opposing side.

I will be right back with the eliminated names and the pairing.

Participants should get ready to counter the arguments of whoever they are paired with. . .

Thank you
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I have prepared a fresh attack ooo

Nwanne, your name sounds igbo to me.. Biko(please), dont start what you can not finish ooo.. Hmmmm

Flirting either in a marriage or relationship is a sign of disrespect and disregard. Infact, its a way of telling your BF/GF to get ready you might be leaving him/her soon.

skydeep: 12noon? Mondays business is always hectic . Well lets see if customers turn-out will be less

My dear, are you praying for customers not to come, bcoz of the debate Now thatz serious.


welldone guys..