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Commentor:
Ordinary drawing?

Yes.

What's the difference? Sensible people will know this is just ordinary drawing.

papaejima20199:
This is my first time posting NL , although I've been reading a lot in the last few months . I'll try to be as detailed as possible. I don't even know if I'm asking a question, or advice, or what. I just have to get some things out of my brain.

I’m 36 and my wife is 32. we've been married for 12 years and have two children, twins age 1. I would say happily married. As in, we don't fight, , never any abuse of any kind, no major life disagreements. I love my wife. She is a great mother, a great provider for the family, and we make a great team when it comes to raising our kids. However, she leaves me feeling undesired. Sexually, just intimacy in general, not feeling wanted or desired, missing that flirtatious quality that we all enjoy in a relationship. Our sex life has been on a steady decline, honestly since we got married. Less and less and less every year, and yes, kids make that even more difficult (and provide very easy excuses)

About 2 years ago, I was close to cheating. There was a girl at work that I flirted with often. We started hanging out , and we always seemed to end up talking, touching innocently, flirting, but nothing ever happened between us. The feeling this girl gave me inspired me to tell my wife how I was feeling, what I was missing, etc. I told her how important sex was to me, asked her what I could change, or if she needed to change something. Her response was that she "just didn't really think about it like you do" and that she would try to work on it. Well she didn't work on it, at all.

The flirty girl didn't work with me any more, and I lost that "flame" with her and let it go, and went about life as usual. I've been working a lot of hours over the last six months. I fell into this flirty relationship with one of my coworkers 22 and we just would have a lot of fun with one another. Mad sexual tension. A few months back things happen and she blows me. Its great. Best sex of my life. We set up plans to meet up off work hours and we do.

My coworker is in perfect shape. Its like my perfect woman. I love the way she loves me. She appreciates me, she satisfies me, she matches my sexual drive, and even exceeds it. She is everything I was missing in life, and I'm as happy as I've been in a long time. She is also crazy about me which feels unbelievable. Its been a while since someone has just wanted me to be happy and wanted to please me. I now consider her my girlfriend.

I don't wish to hurt my wife. But I do wish to be happy.

I do not wish for my children to grow up in a home with divorce. I want them to grow up with myself and my wife still being the team we've been so far, doing equal parts to take care of them, and always be there for them.

I realize a lot of what I'm saying are things that can't go together. I want to be with my girlfriend, I don't want to hurt my wife, and I don't want my kids to suffer . I can't have it all. Now I feel stuck

I need help because I can't seem to go through with this alone, and I have no one close enough with the time and level of trust that I can confide in, so I would really appreciate it if you'd offer me some advice.

Thanks for reading

What is wrong with you? Is there any crime in marrying two wives? If you don't marry a second wife there is no way you won't funicate because your first wife will never change. She's trying to avoid the labour room stress.

Use your head!

Ambode!

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This information should be helpful

Some groups are filled with fools and needed to be told how foolish they are. They are only waiting for who to tell them.

Somebody should help me finish the job.

ahiboilandgas:
Theives are missing him ....i think

You don't need to be reminded how foolish you are!

Foolish government

Don't ever send your nude picture to anyone.

Solution

Save all the chats and pick the call for once to know the intention of the person.

If the person's intention is to extort money from you, tell him/to go ahead that you don't care.

I hate this kind of thread!

I won't read it. Learn how to use your head

Racoon:
False! All the fanatic Islamic terrorists derived their ideological inspiration from the Koran.

-Sura 47:4

It only need wisdom to know this verse of Quran is only referring to the prophet during the war. It's of no use again.

agemmy113:
Pls Nairalanders, I need your advice. My boss traveled out of the country and she posted a picture on her WhatsApp status which I commented on 'what a nice pics'.

But to my surprise she is taking it up.
Pls what should I do?

Edited: I wrote Good pm ma, what a nice look.
She hasn't confronted me but she told her housegirl that I will have to explain what I mean to her when she comes back.

1,000 ways to lose your job! Always mind your business.

Just wait till she returns, when she ask you why or what you meant? Just apologize, don't try to give any reason.

I can only see two Okada riders dragging each other here oooo!

luluosas:
https://thenationonlineng.net/anxiety-as-supreme-court-rules-on-imo-gov-monday/amp/

Not this term but after 4 or 8 years of governance by the PDP. This APC candidate may defect to PDP also.

Sorry for them

Kinikini:
Prayerful Muslims get insight and guidance from dreams and visions. Some even hear verses of the Quran recited to them in their dreams. This helps to direct them to the path required of them.

quote author=AIIyIic post=85357013]Please, no pun intended here. Just trying to get my facts right and make proper decisions. Do Muslims see visions and do they fall in trance?
Lalastica

Yes. Very correct!

I don't know what our ladies are turning to this period. No prestige at all!

Infinixhot6:
What is breaking about the news?

I tire ooo

Wait till I buy one ok?

TruthinAction:
This competition seems unpopular. I thought it's one club from each continent. Which club represented Africa? What are the list of all the clubs that participated and their scores? Has any Nigerian club ever participated?

Yes, Eyimba of Aba represented when they won the CAF champions league. That shows you don't follow football after the champions league.

Liverpool leading by a lone goal

Na snake Na. Abi watin he be?

Neymar's life after retirement, only God knows!

Please quit the relationship and focus on your life!

REASONS

1. Your health is important

2. Your marriage will be filled with hatred because your family is against it

3. Your wife won't enjoy the relationship

4. Your family may disown you or distance themselves from you.

5. You can get someone who better and your family will be happy with her in future

6. Don't allow her visit you during the Christmas because of an unexpected....

ADVISE

Please quit the relationship now!

NO!

Being a professor doesn't mean you can't be foolish! This man is one of them!

He was making mouth before na.

And AJ does it again!

This woman is a shame to humanity. Even the worst Buhari better pass am.

Akinwunmi Ambode!

Useless write up. Na this 3 years wey remain now APC wan come put GEJ for tight angle. Why them no hold am since.