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Rubbiish:
God forbid!
No man would ever wish for this!
It is a curse!
That man is helpless!

Okay

luminouz:
That's good.

Hope you can do same to your husband too...I hear you are married.

I worship my husband cause his worth is not tied to his wallet.

Fine man with brain and self worth.

If I come this world, na me go find am marry.

luminouz:
Bet she won't respect me him at all!

If I hear. She worships him.

They respect each other.

azammi:
If it was that hidden how come you know she bought the house and car

Cause they moved out of where they were staying, a rented apartment.

She told me how the house was bought.

I know the husband doesn't earn much compared to how much she earns, so I know she's the one who bought it.

JESHAL:
Women have dual sexual strategies, they want a fvck boy whose is nasty with good looks so their baby will look fyn( good genes) and they also want the good boy whose is a provisioner or will make a good dad, usually women can tolerate the fvck boy for a short period of time even having his kids but will still want to settle with a stable man whose ambitious and knows what he wants, women settle for men with potential in the long run, but if they can't and marry the fvck boy, they are in trouble

These ramblings mean nothing to me.

I don't even understand it.

The concept of marrying the friend means marrying someone who will love, respect and treat you the same way they will want to be treated.

All you put out there is nasty and doesn't even relate to marriage.

Anyone who marries with what you put up there is on their own.

JESHAL:
Women Naturally don't marry or date downwards, they want their equals or superiors, men can downwards, why it's evolutionary hardwired in you to seek the best mate, not for yourself but your children too, if the man takes on domestic chores, the women will be disgusted with him, she might not show it overtly but the man will notice it, I always say if I fail in my manly duties for my household and I don't solve it within a specific time limit, my wife has the right to live me, and I won't hold any grudge, a woman is repulsed by a man acting feminine and definitely he's sex life will suffer, only religious and good women can still honor you in trying times but still you sexual life will suffer as man regardless of the woman

Now,your first statement is so untrue.

There are many women who marry beneath what many will call their standards. It's mostly smart women who do this, cause they see qualities in the man that they really cherish more than vanity.

Some sef, people go dey ask them "wetin you see for this guy body"?

I don't believe their sex life suffers anything. Make I no just talk too far about this sex matter for these kind couples.

Well as per religious women, like I said, the couple I cited on page 1 are a Christian couple and most of the ones I know are.

But I'd like to believe their religion doesn't have anything to do with it.

JESHAL:
When he's looking for work, he's always on the move, his heart is not at peace, he must not see his wife burdened and his children suffer,the pressure on the woman from her work mustn't be compared to the pressure he face when searching for new employment, in fact, he must keep himself busy, doing low Valued work till he gets a better alternative, he must not sit idly in the house, and yes he has no business in the kitchen, taking care of the home and nurturing children, he's a man, he's responsibilities are outside

And if it takes him up to two years to get the job, that's all he will do?

That is what will cause problems in his marriage.

When the woman has an unsupportive husband whose manhood is tied to his wallet.

brownemmanuel43:
If u take away emotion from your post, u will understand the content very well.
To my little knowledge, the content is about women contributing and as well as nagging or reminding u that they are contributing which is not suppose to be.

The post also relates to women who are bread winners with the assumption that they nag their husbands because of his inability to provide.

JESHAL:
She must still maintain her traditional responsibilities of taking care of the home and nurturing children, the man must immediately go and look for work opportunities, he must not sit jobless and expect his wife to respect him and fulfil her wifely duties

While he looks for the job and the woman still works, how will she able to maintain her traditional role? And what will the man be doing pending when he gets the job?

The same woman who wakes up to go to work, comes back in the evening and is expected to cook and help the kids with assignment when her partner was home and had time to do it?

If a man has any love for his wife, he will not sit around all day applying for jobs online and leaving the chores for her to come back and do just cause it's "her Traditional role".

JESHAL:
Any woman that believes traditional gender roles should be reversed is a feminist, the scriptures are clear about that, a man that can't provide is worse than an infidel, a woman must keep her home, majority of households men are breadwinners globally, even in advanced western Societies, men pay 90% of alimony and child support validating their natural provisioning roles during divorce

I understand your arguments of dead beat fathers or fathers that had misfortune but they are not the norms

So in this our bad economy where many are losing jobs. If your wife earns four times more than you earned while working, and you lose your job, how will you restore balance in your home without killing the woman with stress?

Or how do you restore balance in your home?

Will you sit at home and wait for her to come and cook or will you pawn the child raising responsibilities on someone else.

Or will you pressure her to resign so both of you can be jobless and you can maintain your "manship" on the home?

Please, tell us how you hope to make things work in this situation.

brownemmanuel43:
What do I even know, arguing with a woman in a case that involve a fellow woman

I don't argue about things I know little or nothing about.

As much as a lot of women say "men are scum", I've been blessed to be around very good men, as well as bad ones.

So I don't generalize.

JESHAL:
A wise woman buildeth her house and the foolish woman plucketh it down with her hands in proverbs, the wisdom of God


Majority of failed and bad marriages is as a result of women, thanks to Feminism for exposing these truth to us in mordern time proving God's wisdom

A woman being the bread winner makes her a feminist?

brownemmanuel43:
Having worked in different areas mostly with an NGO that is into human rights, child abuse and DOMESTIC VIOLENCE, I can confidently tell that my figure is accurate and nothing else.
I have come to realise that sometimes what women displays as domestic violence is not in actual sense.
We have handled cases of such

Your stats are very inaccurate and working with an NGO doesn't make it credible.

I know many people whose mum were the bread winners, either due to a deadbeat dad or dad not having as much as mum.

And I still see it everyday.

Where there's a problem is when you want the woman who is the bread winner to come back home and do chores while you lounge in the house and be the "man" of the house.

AmazonTopaz:
That is why they feel empty when they are broke.Many of them lack basic human skills, attitudes and virtues on how to keep a relationship or marriage to them it is just money other men who know better and whose worth ain't tied to money alone tend to do better and are treated better when they are down because of the way they chose to relate with their wives.

Imagine one just telling us the man is the head of the home so what does it mean he should misbehave and not respect or treat his partner right.These men sometimes have a warped mindset on a lot of issues Nigerian women have tried oo

The moment I realized that many of them have their manhood tied to their pockets, it made me see the need to hustle very well.

Na money some dey take buy submission. Without it, they don't think a woman can submit to them.

Really sad.

brownemmanuel43:
My brother, men dey suffer,. See how she is louding it as if is a thing a of joy for the guy man.

The wife for resign abi?

Or make she share herself into two.

brownemmanuel43:
99% of women are like that

How did you arrive at your stats?

AmazonTopaz:
The headship is even for a Christian marriage take for instance it isn't one can he impose his beliefs on those practicing the equality he seems to despise and it may be working well for the couple.
I think he should answer these questions,a lot of men interpret headship to mean power drunk to them being the head means the man is the lord and master while the wife is the slave

That's why a lot have their manhood tied to their pockets. The moment they don't have money, small talk wey their wife go talk, they will conclude it's because they are broke.

If your wife only submits to you cause you're older than her or cause you're the bread winner, that is not a marriage but a master and slave relationship.

When the tide turns, that woman will treat you the exact way you treated her.

Kobojunkie:
So never mind the man himself telling you that the plan worked for his marriage, you just must put it down as stupid advice, is that it?

Just leave them.

I've heard many men tell me this their model and it works for them.

They will just talk down on ideas they believe is stupid even though it works for some people.

My husband suggested it to me one time sef, na me no gree, cause his mind will still be policing the money so make everybody hold him money o.

capnies:
THE MAN IS THE HEAD OF THE HOME SO THE BIBLE SAYS
THERE IS NO EQUALITY IN MAN AND WOMAN IN MARRIAGE; THE MAN IS THE HEAD PERIOD. JUST LIKE CHRIST IS THE HEAD OF THE CHURCH

Does this kind of balance take away the fact that the man is the head of the home?

Or are you saying the man can't be the head of the home if he's not the one making the money?

Cause the family I cited in page one, the man is very much the head of the home, just that he has more wisdom than most men.

Idamond:
lemme screenshot.. I really appreciate

You're welcome

Idamond:
my dear where can I get all this things?

Cosmetic and beauty stores. Just show them the name of these products, they will give you.

This is the toner I use cause I also have an oily face.

It will cost you like 8-10k sha.

The Neutrogena face wash is between 3500-5k depending on where you're buying.

Zapzyt is 6k

I used this combination to fight an acne I had.

I still use the face wash and toner to keep oil away from my face.

You should also get a good facial moisturizer.

The facial moisturizer I use is 5k.

DontBullshitMe:
CITED!

Thank you.

Get neutrogena acne control face wash, use it to wash your face.

Get a toner with benzoyl peroxide or salicylic acid to clean your face, get zapzyt acne cream, apply after using the toner.

Do this twice a day.

In six weeks time, you'll thank me.

AmazonTopaz:
I don't know how some people reason how can men be broke and proud

The arrangement of this family is a healthy one and the man is truly responsible if na some men bad friends would start feeding him with insecurities

I respect the man, a lot.

JovialJune:
You see, this is how a balanced healthy family life should be, where both couples join heads to make it work no matter the setback any is facing at a period of time, I tell people that the marriage problem and high rate of divorce we see today is cos one is lording himself/herself over the other, when couples see each other as equal partners, everything will fall in place, even the bible says "two become one" as in same in body and everything.

No be lie my sister.

iamyemiakins:
You don see them finish o.
Kilode!

Like I said, they are my friends. Very decent Christian family with lovely, and well brought up kids.

One of the families I admire when it comes to Christian values and child upbringing.

Davash222:
May God have mercy on His people.

E no go better for poverty!

What is wrong with the arrangement?

Isn't that balanced enough?

Or the man should cross his leg and wait for the person that worked from morning to night to come and cook?

They've been married for 5 years now.

JovialJune:
Lol, jobless married men should be useful in the house by doing the chores, cooking, and taking of the kids, believe me, no woman will insult or demean a man like that, instead, she will make her life's goal to make him get back on his feet again, a man cannot be useless at home and useless in providing leaving everything for the breadwinner to do, then expect respect and cuddling, mbanu, it doesnt work like that, you guys should stop the whining, make yourself useful at home.

As for what your wife did abi is doing, carry your cross like that, rebuke her, or ignore her, you knew who she was before you married her.

You are right sha. The woman I cited above who just bought a house and car, her hubby takes care of the kids and runs the home while she's at work. She doesn't come back from work to start rushing to the kitchen to cook.

Hubby would have done that.

Weekends, she cooks soups, hubby does laundry.

Me I don't see any problem in this o.

Na only one bill she dey pay, yet she wan turn terrorists for your head. You sef, always remind her how expensive DSTV and foodstuff costs as often as you can.

You can add the rising cost of rent too.

Treat people how they treat you and watch them adjust.

Just cause your own wife is like that doesn't mean all women are that way.

I know women who are bread winners and you'd never know, even n their house.

One just bought car and house that her family just moved into. Na her husband dey drive the car.

So don't conclude all women who are bread winners are like that.

Even the 10k wey I dey use cook stew and two other soups every week no dey reach again.

And people still dey born pass two children, most on salary wey no reach 100k.

Kids who grew up in abusive homes with one parent abusing the other are more than happy about the separation.

I know kids who resent their mothers for staying with their abusive dads.

Rotfl

Something that was clearly in the handbook?