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Ginomel:
Have you ever wondered how sophisticated it would be to ignore an "insulter " with words like "I ignored you because replying you will belittle my personality "
The fellow will be so ashamed and will respect your personality.

That would prove your sophistication and high self esteem.

Some know how to take the hint with your quoted kind of response, some are just trolls who are incapable of any form of civility.

Those kind make my day.

BuddhaPalm:
Do you walk out on your husband?

No I don't, but should it happen, he won't put me out in the cold like an orphan.

amrichy:
Why can't you always be graceful irrespective of how the person you're arguing/dialoguing with responds? This shouldn't be hard for you to do especially since you seem to be a "good Christian". If someone says something provocative or insulting to you on a faceless forum like this, just ignore them and move on with your life.

Nope. Not all of us are willing to ignore insults.
We match insults for insults and gracefulness for gracefulness.

I won't shy from schooling any bully or swine who comes for me.

E go shock them for 2023.

Ginomel:
*stops the car a little while *

Someone must have hacked Romanoff Account, if not it is so unbelievable that you could make this point without insult.

I think you have learnt how to address issues without insult .A good way to go, if you continue like this at home, your husband will not be too hard on you as the thread.

CC yorubarere

*zooms off and continue my movement *

My response is determined by any previous comment. I can be graceful and ratchet, it depends on how civil you are.

PS, leave my husband out of it.

It's not even enough.

Ginomel:
From your response, I struggled to see a reasonable married girl. It's obvious you will be "mutually arguing " with your husband a lot.

Things look OK to you because he is tolerating you and enduring inside.

Just passing by, anyway.

Just pass by, cause this your own comment just off me.

Married people no dey argue abi?

Just dey go.

emae009:
... as in!
also when Roman killed like 8 guys that were shooting at him all in one go. Like army infantry that have been receiving training all year long. One guy??
Without Paul, they should stop the franchise

I'm telling you. Not one bullet hit the guy. Haba.

Nisiw365:
You're timid female. Making mouth because you don't know who I am

Yinmu.

Rotfl.

Boy bye.

Nisiw365:
Lol big head scared already. elenu ageh. Olori efolo

E no pain you, naa him you dey trace location?

Sha don't dare me again. I'm not one of those timid females that cave when you spew rubbish.

I come legit.

Sho'gbo.

Adios.

Nisiw365:
E pain am. I have your location already .
Don't make me trace you

Shior. Na you e pain pass. Me sef done get your location. You think say na only you dey tech savvy.

We dey wait. I fit send you tfare gan.

Nisiw365:
Omo pao bi ibon. Elenu shipoti. Oloju bi ina beetle.
Make noise again and I'll trace you to abuja

I dey wait you. Ode, oniranu, alai lanfani.

K'oshi kuro jor.

Very useless film.

I saw it on Friday and I thank God I paid a discounted rate of 1500 for it instead of 3k. W for pain me.

I've decided I won't watch any of the fast and Furious franchise after this mess.

They don't even try to appeal to our sensibilities any more.

Imagine Dom bringing a shotgun to a gun fight with am army infantry.

The lies just too much jor.

Nisiw365:
Arindin omo. You have no home training for you to talk to someone like me like that (real man). Ori e bi opon ifa

You that have home training that mentioned me with insult, where did you keep it?

Mention me again and get it hot hot. Awon were omo, awon asigbe ward.

Nisiw365:
Ugly bitch I said shut up. You don't talk to a man anyhow

See this born throway wey them spos use do menstruation. Who told you you're a man?

Rotfl.

If they'll call man, so you too will come out?

Rotfl.

Abeg comot from where real men dey talk jor.
Odenson.

eburuu:
in bible not in nageria Law

Okay. I take it the man wasn't a Christian then.

Noted.

Nisiw365:
Shut up. You talk too much

You shut that latrine you call a mouth.

observer24:
And when did Adultery become a crime against SOCIETAL LAWS, under which this murder case will be judged?

That's not what is asked.

yorubarere:
There is always a room for behaviours modifications. First we look at why she is wearing skimpy clothes and address that. Make her realize you wanted it at home, but outside, nah.... She is exclusively yours and for your viewership.

Like I pointed out above, I could have addressed the situation differently without any rancour. Cos I encroachment on people thinking and try to know why they do what they do, with that, I will be able to correct any anomalies without raising dusts.

Same results can be accomplished with different methods, which he just did. I guess his woman is the stubborn type that needs more determined and brute man. You are a lady, you understand what I mean.

Not when it comes to a woman's style. You can't force it. If she comes to that conclusion on her own, good for you.

He didn't accomplish any results with what he did. That woman will never forget how he treated her and she will use it against him.

Those brutes you talked about, many of them are languishing in prison for killing their wives.

No woman will beat her cheat and say "I want a brute" for a husband. When bible said you should see your wife as the weaker sex, it's not because she's lesser than you, it's because you'd need to handle her with love and care, like a fragile ornament.

That's what it means.

How will you say you love me and lock me out in the cold while you stay in a hotel without caring if I die, I get raped, I get kidnapped or robbed?

That's not God kind of love and I rebuke it for any woman I know. Love overlooks offenses. Na so bible talk.

Nothing can't be talked through. Unless adultery sha. Ma there I hang boot.

Erojepromise:
I had to mention you, l like your submission and I am glad I have seen someone that I share the same views with.

Thank you. I was begining to think I was alone.

yorubarere:
In this guy's case. He was never wrong to ask his wife to stop wearing skimpy clothes. Though he was too harsh in his method of correction. She is married and no longer a slayqueen and she should live up to the responsibilities that comes with it. You can't be married and still be chasing outside validations from single guys.

It is a disrespect for a wife to walk out on her man when he is simply calling for talks. And even go out against his wishes.

Even the church she is rushing to made it clear that husband is the head of home just like Jesus is the head of church.

In my opinion, he shouldn't have married a woman that loves skimpy clothes in the first place.

There are married men who like their wives in skimpy outfits. So it depends on how you like your wife to look and has nothing to do with "how a married woman" should look. You think men that like their women to dress skimpy do so for outside validation from other guys?

Different strokes for different folks. He should have married a conservative woman in my opinion.

Why marry a woman who likes skimpy and force her to look conservative cause you married her?

That's the first error. I met a lady I've been chatting with on a WhatsApp group last Friday, she was so nice to me, she even sent me food one day.

The dress she wore was so short, even as a single lady, I couldn't wear a dress like that. But guess what, her husband was with her when I met her.

If your wife walks out on you, it's disrespectful. Calm down, wait till you're both calm and capable of rationality and tell her you don't like it, that she shouldn't so it again. Cut her warning.

But to lock her outside and come online to be claiming man and being proud about it, you've opened the door to the devil to bring in cockroaches to your home.

And we know how hard those roaches are to eliminate.

How many charges will they bring against him?

The charges go long like ATM queue ehn.

yorubarere:
Whatever works for him. I am sure he got his desired results. You don't leave your home scattered and go to church. That is hypocritical.

Me, I like working on my woman psyche, and there is no rule anywhere that all men should follow same route.... Most don't even know that. It you dare disrespect me as a wife, it won't go unpunished. At times, the best way to maintain peace is to know each others boundaries and limits. I won't push you and u don't dare push me without consequences no matter who you call to beg.

With powers comes responsibilities. If you are a wife, behave like one not as slayqueen without any responsibilities.

Knowing each other's limits and boundaries still doesn't change the fact that you both will offend each other. But couples should be willing to talk things out ans forgive each other of shortcomings.

If you're unable to forgive, no just marry. Cause you're marrying someone who you didn't grow up with, a full grown adult with their own way of life, different from yours.

That's why some characters should be deal breakers for you before you even marry, these deal breakers are things you won't compromise against.

Any other wrong doing can be discussed and amends made. Like two mature adults. It removes resentments and keeps the love going.

Things like "I am sorry I disrespected you, it won't happen again". "I am sorry I locked you out, it's insensitive of me and won't happen again". Life goes on.

This marriage ehn, we determine how smooth it will be, there are bigger issues in front, why not pick your battles and resolve conflicts amicably?

yorubarere:
But on a more serious note, submit to your man. Look up the Bible verse you quoted again. It has deep meaning. Women should SUMBIT to their men and men should LOVE their wives. In love, there is discipline. Discipling a erring wife is not bad, although I admit the dude went a little overboard.

And you asking who will discipline a man gives you off as a feminist dragging the man's stool with him. There can't be equal partners in marriage (it is a mirage some people love to keep). One must lead (husband) while the other follows. That doesn't mean followers have no inputs, as a matter of fact, leaders (husbands) must do what is best for everyone including his followers (wife and kids).

Nice to meet you my sister.

If I don't submit to my husband, e for done run.

Submission isn't slavery. A woman should be happy to submit to you and that submission comes from how you treat her. With love and respect.

I don't need to be a feminist to know that in marriage, there is no need to discipline each other. Correction is the word to use. If my husband does something wrong, I wait for the right moment to call his attention to it. Lovingly, no judgement.

If I am also in the wrong, we will talk it out.

Sorry no dey hard is to talk and we are back like nothing happened.

In the case above, Uncle is disciplining his wife like a JSS 1 student and he an SS3 prefect. You went to a secondary school, how did that make you feel? Did you love those seniors who "disciplined" you or did you people create a wicked name for them and even became more stubborn".

Why lock her outside when you can talk to her when she's calm. I believe they were both spos to go for that church program together but because of how he handled the matter, wifey went alone.

The marriage is too young to be showing machismo. If she had always been stubborn, why did he marry her if he can't handle it?

That woman will become resistant to the "discipline" and become a thorn in his flesh.

For those who go through marriage counseling, is this how marital conflict resolution is taught?

Before you know now, physical abuse will enter.

Just reason and comprehend all I've said and tell me I am a feminist because of my line of thought or beliefs.

Know this and know peace o.

yorubarere:
First post you will make on this thread devoid of insults. I guess I made an impact on your social behaviours. Reconstructing behaviours is what I do best. Look at my username and thank me some other time.

You are welcome.

Yoruba rere o mean anything. Omo yooba na nimi.

But I found your first reply of my comment insulting. Not every woman associates with feminism. On this platform, I match energy for energy.

yorubarere:
I asked you to point where I insulted you only to get more insults. Are you insinuating that bin called a feminists is an insult? Wonderful

More mature and submit himself to the discipline of a woman.... I will jump and pass that kind of maturity abegi.

You don't know me and you don't know if your husband can measure up to me. Even staying put with a woman that insult at every turn cast an aspersions on his masculinity.

You coming online to insult people bfs and husbands is already a disrespect to your man. I don't need to insult him cos you are doing a good job on that already.

Oh, ready for me for what? What can you do more than more insults? I really wonder

Better invest such energies in your marriage, respect and honor him as a head so that your marriage can last. Just an advise tho

So a woman should submit herself to a the discipline of a man, so who disciplines the man when he offends his wife?



You called my comment "feminist jargons". This comes from men who aren't capable of making comments objectively without insinuating everyone is a feminist.

I hate the word. Unless you're certain I am, no call me feminist abeg.

Seeking mutual respect in a marriage doesn't make one a feminist.

God asked husbands to love their wives like Christ loves the church, is that Christlike behaviour?

And the woman is spos to submit to a man who doesn't love her enough to protect her, even from his anger.

This is the last comment you'll see from me.

On subsequent posts, just avoid my comments if it doesn't sit well with you, I can be graceful and ratchet depending on how you approach me.

Good day.

God help us o.

I want to clarify something abeg.

Is it not still adultery if someone who isn't divorced sleeps with someone that isn't his wife?

The concept of separation is something I clearly don't understand.

yorubarere:
Point to here I have insulted you so far. You are just looking for ways to show ur bad manners.

Coming from a girl that disciplines her man. Insulting people are the least of things to expect... Especially online.

Keep it up babe, the simp eyes go soon open

Shut up again jor. You people call every woman with an opinion a feminist cause you don't agree with her. Your first mention at me was insulting and the fact that you don't see it makes me wonder why I am even replying you.

Leave my "simp" husband alone. He is more mature, smarter, more intelligent, more loving than you can ever be. And he won't come here to post nonsense like this. He was raised in a proper home with love and respect, not a Master and slave household.

Where he stands, you no reach and I will not tolerate any disrespect of my husband.

Na me and you dey talk, no drag my husband come, if not I ready for you.

yorubarere:
I guess that is how u tell your man to shut up. You will all carry bad attitudes to the public space. I didn't insult you, but you, a married woman did.... So much for bin married. The marriage might as well soon crash with this attitude. There is always a breaking point for every man. That ur husband you think u have cornered with ur bad attitudes might just have his fill one day and leave you with kids.

Shut up. You can't insult me and expect me not to react cause you're a "man".


My marriage Is sweet and my man is happy with who he married. The man that married me knows me well, strength and flaws and he's still happy with who he married. Can you guarantee your wife is happy with you for a husband? Are you sure she won't pack the kids and up and leave you one day? I just hope she has a source of income because omoh.

Respect is reciprocal. If you weren't capable of making your point with any respect, why do you think you deserve to be respected?

Because you have a phallus?

I am not one of those timid ones you can bully online with your machismo.

Ask about me.

escapefromusa:
Your type would have praised master Jesus and proceeded to get dunked by your husband's security guard.

Oga .. thank God for your wife. Hopefully she did not sneak to a mans house and return early morning like our madam above would have done.

Be careful women are quite cheap these days.

Well, not all of us are as immoral as your sisters and not all of us were raised in a loveless and abusive home.

yorubarere:
Normal feminists jargons. Why should women discipline their husbands? Later Una go enter 30 and single after showing man features in a relationship. Keep dragging the head with ur husband, there is a reason cars don't have 2 drivers... It will crash. Any marriage that the woman is dragging the head status with her man will end up crashing or lack happiness.

Abeg shut up. I am married. And I am not a slave to my husband.

My husband na man. A real man that is in complete control of his emotion and his mind and I respect him for who he is. I can't disrespect my husband and he can't disrespect me. He is my best friend and we are crazy about each other.

We have something called "Mutual Respect" for each other. You should look up the meaning of the word.

Shior.

If your sister's husband locks her outside for what was written up there, throw a party for her husband, clap for him and call fuji musicians to come and hail him.

"Dragging head" with my husband means I should be treated like a miserable orphan abi? That's what marriage is to you?

Put a dog collar on the neck on your own wife, make we know say na slave she be to you.

Who raised some of you here?