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ivolt:
It is not about the stories we hear.
There was a time where rape are rarely reported that doesn't it wasn't happening then.
There are male and female predators and children must be protected equally from them.

Any woman who can't trust her daughter(with real reasons) and refuse to divorce him is not worth being called a mother.

It's not always easy. The society is unfair to women. If such a woman should divorce the man, the society won't ask her why she left him. The stigma attached to divorcees will be metted on her.

How many men agree to marry divorcees?

Some women just try to protect their kids from such men.

There are even women who know their husbands abuse their daughters and hide it.
I've heard of a woman who kept beating her teenage daughter whenever the girl reports the act to her mum.

Till a neighbour reported to the police.

Yes. A woman can stay for years without sex.

But it's the unforgiving spirit in your wife that worries me.

It's a red flag that you both don't attend the same church. A family should feed from the same source and learn the same teachings.

If she refused to listen to her people and best friend, I doubt if her pastor can intervene. It's worth trying sha. But if she ends up listening to her pastor and you're able to sort this out, please, take charge of your home by going to the same church. Be the priest of your house so your wife won't reverence a pastor above you.

Good luck.

ivolt:
Will the woman also avoid bathing their sons?
Or you think there are no women predators?

The most prevalent stories are from men.

When some women tell you they won't let their husbands bathe their daughters, e get why o.

Don't just conclude and start insulting the woman.

See what this he-goat that is meant to defend his daughter from pedophiles did to his own daughter.

Why did he marry, if he will end up abusing his own child? You abused the maid and added your two year old to the gig.

This one will also sleep with his sister if he gets the chance.

Because he's not from a certain part of the country.

Dikaveli:
Still useless to the society

I don't get.

E no dey hard for that school to expel students.

I was still a student when Igwe and Titi were expelled cause of the SUG protest.

The protest was held cause a student was hacked with a machete along the boys hostel at night, they rushed him to the clinic only for the nurses to say there was no cotton wool.

The clinic didn't have light sef, na candle the staff on for the clinic. Na wetin cause protest be that o.

dairykidd:
Oh okay now I understand u very well with the Christian courtship thing... so basically u enter into it without the expectations of intimacy right? So well no one is too strong to fall for temptation hence the advice to flee. If u haven't noticed this world and its entire system is messed up the way it is and the system promotes everything and anything to destroy what we know as normalcy. Starting a sexual relationship with other people's wives and husbands is now more easier than ever. And u need to be strong and wise to survive. Not putting ur self in any compromising position is what anyone should do. This is way more than discipline let's be honest with ourselves. I still maintain u don't need them but it doesn't mean u should be enemies but u don't need to be friendly either. Just let them go and if u ever come across each other a simple greeting or chit chat will do. Not keeping their numbers or chatting them up even without hanging out with them makes no sense to me. So my dear u shouldn't be enemies but u don't need to give them any space in ur new life or entertain them. Having known them is enough and it should remain that way.. when it comes to such things its black or white for me. No gray areas. I know what i have seen from married exes and even other married women who act like they're still single and their husbands see nothing wrong with it. I get ur point tho but u shouldn't have used the word "friends with" in ur first post because u only know what's in ur heart and not that ex. If u don't keep close communication with them or keep their contacts u can't call that a friend na. He's just someone u know and should never go beyond that.

The reason it's black and white for you is prolly cause of your sexual history and experiences.

I'm glad you are seeing it from my point of view as well.

Vinnie2000:
You re a Female, right??
But you are so Objective and never One sided in your views!!
You Criticize Males..
You Criticize Females..
Kudos..
D problems I am having with some is dat dey are Gender-biased!!
Wen dier Gender commits a crime, Dey go Mute..
But it's Opposite gender, dey go on a Bashing Spree..

I try not to be bias.

Check my comments if you have the time.

No Nigerian Court in this present government would have been able to get Nigerians this Justice.

*A Daniel has come to judge*

Judgement will indeed start from the church.

Rather than being the priest your wife looks up to, many men have left their wives running helter skelter towards fake and adulterous pastors in the name of vision and miracles.

Imagine the abortions and paternity fraud that will also be involved if you investigate well.

dairykidd:
Lol..u like to play with thunder and fire abi ?
No be wetin man never chop before dey hungry am pass? And now she's dating someone else so stealing the pussy becomes the topping. The thrill in the chase, deception and pretence, suppressed emotions building little fires ready to burst into a crazy inferno? And cut that bs about losing opportunities because of an ex involved bla bla bla.. I wish u well on keeping exes and new relationships. Your current guy dey try. I hope u wouldn't feel bad when he tells u he is hanging out with a hot ex whenever u happen to call him because they're both not yet fvcking each other?

You still don't get it.

I'm not talking about hanging out and claiming to be besties with your ex.

But vilifying someone cause a relationship didn't work just doesn't sit right with me. And I am saying this only about sexless relationships.

Y'all don't have to be best friends. There are friends we don't talk to for months unless it's necessary. Some we prolly won't even ever see again.

But does that mean y'all aren't friends?

An ex isn't an enemy. If you're unable to discipline yourself with an ex, you prolly won't be able to even discipline yourself with people you'll meet when you're in a relationship or when you're married.

I feel like instead of dealing with the fact that people can't discipline themselves, they choose avoidance all through. I see it as a coping mechanism. But what happens if you and this ex find yourselves together?

Does it mean like a dog in heat, you'll just pounce on each other?

I might not understand where y'all are coming from cause all my relationships were sexless (Christian courtships).

So maybe I'll just sit this one out.

There is hope after all. I didn't know there were still a large percentage of sensible men on Nairaland but see them all over front page.

Baba God, I thank you o.

dairykidd:
Well.. the OP said EX. If u meant an ex that didn't get a chance at ur coochie then that's even worse cos its a bloody ticking time bomb.. Keeping an ex for wtv reasons when u are in a beautiful and meaningful relationship is pure foolishness. It will never end well. There's a reason they're exes. If u weren't ready to let them go why jump into a new relationship and entangle urself in the unholy trinity. Stick with the ex and leave the new guy to meet someone wholly focused on what they have. Life is quite easy but we keep getting it all complicated.. I mean why keep an ex around when u have something good going?
Except you're not sure about the new one.. then u shouldn't be in any relationship just yet until u are ready. Abeg i have work to do jare.

I don't know how to explain it sha.

There are relationships that just doesn't work and you both agree to end it, no animosity, no resentment.

The reason I said it applies to only sexless relationships is cause I believe the temptation is less, wetin you never chop before no fit hungry you.

You both could still be valuable to each other in business or employment. I know many people that have lost opportunities because their exes were involved and they resent each other.

Doesn't mean y'all are buddies that chat every day.

dairykidd:
There is no purity anywhere near such arrangements. Take correction

Yes there is.

You can be friends with someone you weren't physically involved with.

But once you both have slept with yourselves, that's where I believe it's inappropriate.

The same one that several billions were used to renovate abi them never do the renovations?

I think this applies to sexual relationships.

Relationships that were pure can still have the two parties become friends, na work e no work, no be say una commit sin with each other.

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They really shouldn't bother. Nigerians have found a means to use Twitter. No need trying to save face.

Elsueno:
Common sis, so after marrying, I will still have to be going around with food flask in my car from one restaurant to the other? If she can't cook, even the love go disappear, food is more important to me than sex & beautiful face

Well, I've seen people make it work with a wife who can't cook or a husband who cooks better.

There are things that are more important that cooking to some people. It's okay if you're not one of them.

inioluwa03:
What is the correlation? Is it breaking up that will solve economic problem?

If the masses decide it's what is best for them, why not work towards that line?

Isn't it obvious that the structure we have now isn't working?

Why not dialogue with the people involved?

When it comes to issues that bothers on the sufferings of the people, he goes quiet.

Na wa o.

It could be anything, from poor upbringing to peer pressure to sexual abuse.

They should sha give that child a psych eval.

Lovely pictures and it looks like fun.

I have Santorini and Mykonos on my list when I get to visit Greece.

Money well spent I believe.

When it matters, you go under the ground like a Meerkat.

Food prices are soaring with fixed income, people can't eat, killings and kidnappings everywhere, high cost of living, insecurity and Nepotism and this is all you have to say?

You don't even have shame to step down, it's so disgraceful that a man of your calibre is part of this wicked government.

malakaimoscondo:
mumu.....they tell u say na all day people for prison they guilty?

Your first word shows that you're the Mumu cause you could have anything you wanted without insults.

LuQuLuQu:
Yes ma

Thank you.

LuQuLuQu:
You're always the first to type rubbish

Leave my rubbish alone. If yeh rubbish doesn't insult or call your name, just waka and pass and leave me and the rubbish.

You hear?.

SenecaTheYonger:
You are not Cuppy though, most girls are not

I am just asking. Why the double standard?

If you get 70% or 80% of what you want in a woman, will you dump her cause she can't cook?

FunnyDude:
Your type na him those calabar house help go collect your husband. Just continue u hear

You no answer me.

Why you no wan answer me?

Leave my husband out of it and just answer me.

FunnyDude:
Lol just listen to ur sef dear. Sounding like a low budget feminist

Don't cover up by calling me a feminist.

Answer my question first.

Imagine.

Just by testimony, the guy pled guilty and was convicted.

Here with both testimony and a CCTV footage, some still dey say na Set up.