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I know someone who built house in Abuja with brown paper journalism.

Her take home pay is 30k and she goes on trips abroad.

Jerryherd:
Well no doubt about that, some under 18 kids might do badly when given freedom at very early stage, I behaved badly but retraced my steps too

I think rather than let kids just seat and rot at home, vocational training sponsored by the government might be introduced, or kids of certain age can be mandated to stay in school hostels monitored by school management

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They don't need to sit and rot at home if the Ministry of Education is strict on entrance age into nursery schools, then primary and secondary. There should also be an age for entrance into secondary school so that if you rushed your child through Primary school, the pikin go siddon for house with you till e reach the right age.

Jerryherd:
Why not scrap JAMB and its fraud...

I gained admission at 17 and nothing happened to me, I graduated 4 years later , so what's the big deal

Same people putting age bracket on admission would also turn around to put 28 age cap on Federal Employment and civil service

I think it's a welcome development. I entered at 16 and graduated at 21. Turned out great but I know many who didn't.

We were three who were the youngest in my class, one followed her older friends to do runs even though her parents are rich, the other guy dropped out in 400 level even though he was part of those topping the class.

His excuse was " I'm still very young, what will I be doing with my life if I leave here". I still don't understand the excuse and only God knows where he is now.

There are countries in the world whose education calendar is in concordance with age so by 18, you're just entering the university.

If the university entrance age is reduced, the whole age limit on job applications will be adjusted.

My thoughts sha.

Vulcanheph:
I am not condoning rape in any way .... All I'm saying is that Rape has more effects on female kids than it does for male kids.... I'm saying this based on the fact that most men that have ever been sexually taken advantage of as kids by older women often end up reminiscing the memory, the same can't be said for women.
Infact I've not heard about a man who went through sexual abuse from an older woman in his childhood who has later grown to hate the experience.
I'm not advocating for Rape of boys by older women but we men are naturally "sexual driven" so the negetive effects on men is often minimal compared to women.

N.B.
If my male child suffers such an abuse from an adult , I'll personally kill the person myself.

Thank God for your last statement.

I actually know of a guy that was abused by an aunt of his. The guy doesn't even know the extent of the damage that abuse is causing him. He uses that aunt to measure every woman he has a sexual encounter with.

That's just messed up.

Vulcanheph:
Madam stop taking it personal.... About 90% of guys who were sexually abused by older women as kids often look back fondly at it when they grow up
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So the rape is okay then and if your male child was to go through the same thing, you'd keep quiet and say "years from now, you'd look back and have nothing but fond memories".

Abi?

I am not taking it personal, I am just shocked at how trivialised something so serious is being made.

Should something like that happen to my child, I am not going to be saying what y'all are saying here. That's for sure.

illicit:
Stop trying to find a scape goat, I ain't one

U asked me about male, I am not female

And I am not police

If anybody got raped, let them handle it, I got my own problems ciao

I just wanted to see how much we've made it the norm, it's why I asked you those questions above.

I am not looking for any scapegoat, just a better understanding of where you're coming from.

I guess the conversation has reached it's logical end.

illicit:
It's not up to u

It's the norm already

If you believe it's the norm, should everyone feel that way so much that female rape victims who speak up are victimised and bad mouthed?

If it was your child who got raped, would you sweep it down the carpet and say "It's normal, e go dey alright"?

phemmyfour:
Yes, some of them do enjoy it. Though they don't understand that they are been exploited. Hence, they don't see any reason to cry out for help.

The boy child should be educated on the effect of such act cos they later turn out to be sex addict or rapist in the near future

Okay. So you know it's exploitation to rape young boys, but this OP doesn't see it that way.

So you also acknowledge that there's side effect of this rape.

I know someone who was raped as a boy by an aunt and the effect on the guy is shocking. Even he doesn't know the extent of the damage that did to him.

Dude can't even have a stable relationship cause of damaged childhood.

Now do you see how trivializing it like OP is doing puts those who have serious issues from the abuse at a disadvantage?

Stupidquestions:
That was not a proper rape...we need not make a mounttain out of molehill like ladies always manipulate themselves into doing

As long as you were a minor unable to give consent. It's rape.

I think we need to broaden our understanding of the concept of rape, it's probably why some of us trivialise it.

But you've been a party to a rubber stamp legislature.

phemmyfour:
They are not, though how the male gender react to rape is quite different.

Thank you, do you think that male victims enjoy their rape and see it as a conquest?

Do you think more advocacy should be done on rape of young boys?

Do think there are effects of under age rape on boys in adulthood?

phemmyfour:
He didnt see himself as a victim

Okay but does it mean rape isn't a crime and that those who come forward are over reacting?

Stupidquestions:
Not everyone has victim syndrome

Agreed. Now does it mean everyone who comes forward as victims don't have a right to do so and does it make rape okay?

kenzysmith:
May thunder fire that ur dirty stinky pussy raise differently my foot

Did I strike a nerve?

Your comment also proves you weren't raised any better.

Now get out.

Vinnie2000:
Pls, I am not defending rape..
I am giving you answers on why Guys who were abused as kids don't complain much..
Just like d OP!!

They should complain. It is a crime and it shouldn't be trivialised.

That's what I'm saying.

kenzysmith:
are u the one rape? Can you swear is only one guy that has pound that pussy of urs no come online come dey form holy holy we kW he dey go

Those of you who have promiscuous sisters who do runs just assume every woman is that way.

No, some of us were raised differently.

Now get off my mentions.

Vinnie2000:
Nice one..
But Dats part of wat I said..
D Non-violence involved makes d young boys not to see it as a crime..

Even with Little Girls, if the rapist uses 'sweetmouth' to have his way, many would not see it as Rape..
It's mostly when der is Violence or Force dat Probably trauma n pain comes in.
My two Cents..

Rape is rape even if it wasn't violent. As long as the person didn't consent or hasn't reached the age of consent, it is still rape.

Vinnie2000:
Truth is many Guys who were Forcefully dragged into sexual intercourse by older Girls hardly see it as Rape or Abuse..

Many just take it as a normal occurrence..
Maybe it's because the Girls didn't use Violence to have sex with Dem..
So Most just Chill, and really, it's clearly Child or sex Abuse..

As for young girls being abused, Violence, Threats, Tricks,etc may be used and it's really bad..

But Most Ladies Take Full advantage of being Sexually abused as Kids to Commit terrible acts..
Wen you see female Prostitutes, Lesbians, pornstars, drug addicts,
many quickly claim dat 'My uncle raped me when I was little'..
Dats what Affected me..
Using it as a cover to do Rubbish!!

While some use it to manipulate dier Boyfriends/Husband's..

Truth is that rape has a psychological trauma for some victims and that's the truth. I've heard of rape victims that never enjoyed sex after the abuse, I've heard of others who became promiscuous after the fact. They became numb to sexual Immorality.

It doesn't change the fact that some women lie and use it as an excuse.

Maybe rape is different for females cause this Op obviously enjoyed what was done to him and doesn't see any crime in it.

drizzle0007:
Most men do not have the victim mentality women posses.

Well, we can't all normalize rape.

SultanOfPuna:
90% of marriage start from lust
If you check well
Your father married your mum out of pity.
Na normal tinz

Your own papa fit marry your own mama because he give her belle too.

I get your point.

Danzakidakura:
yours I need now. I have escaped Nigeria abuse.

No. It's obvious you still have PTSD.

Danzakidakura:
will you please come and abuse me ?

If the abuse Nigeria is abusing you isn't enough, then you're quite unfortunate.

You are not in love with her.

You're either marrying her out of sympathy or lust.

illicit:
So many rapes go unreported, especially when the victim is male

So should we normalize it?

Heartbender:
Your dp would be used for a poem. You have earned my respect

Thank you.

illicit:
He doesn't blame her

That's what makes the difference

So rape is not a crime then?

Who done die done die, this girl keeps changing her story and she has not yet been arraigned in court.

She could walk free with a crooked lawyer and continue living her life while the man is dead and gone and his family in shreds.

Jezebels and Delilahs all over the place, protect yourself and your family by living a decent life.

stupidmod3:
not every one is wired same way.
i employ his weird ways on d matter i would have done same instead of crying like a little bitch in d future n looking for someone to pay money to talk to.

Rape is a serious issue, when a victim makes it look unserious, it makes victims who take it seriously seem like they are over reacting.

On a thread today, someone accused me of focusing on the girl child rape and not talking about the boys who get raped.

Look at this poster now, how will I be crying more than the bereaved in this case?

@Somehow come and see.

A young boy was abused as a child, something that should be frowned upon but the victim isn't even taking the issue seriously.

somehow:
I am a campaigner of addressing issues by the root and not surface.

Can the female folks protect themselves against the male folks if all male actually are rapists or potential rapists?

Since the thread sees all male as potential rapists, neglecting the male child while trying to curb rape against the female child makes no sense because the circle will continue.

I believe you got my point but just can't bring yourself to accepting realities.

Have a nice day.

The posts is just talking about rape factors and how they can be curbed.

No matter how sad it looks, it's the truth.

This is not a hate post about the male folk cause not all men are rapists and not all rapist are men. But the post has a focus point, the girl child. This doesn't mean the boy child doesn't get raped or abused, this only means the poster's focus is the girl child. Just like you said you talk about raped boys.

somehow:
Your analogy get comma.

AIDS affect both male and female.

Rape affect both male and female.

It will become an issue just as it is here if someone creates a thread on AIDS just for the female folks and heap the blames on the male folks.

I want to believe you will understand better now.

All I'm saying is, comments were made based on the topic.

Since you're a campaigner on raped boys, bring your campaign here.

Let's learn.

We will learn and contribute.

somehow:
What I have done and doing is not mainly on nairaland, I do mine in real physical life.

I also do by correcting post like this and comments like yours.

If you must create thread, create a balanced one.

So someone talks about how AIDS kills, you will want the person to also balance his or her post by stating how other illnesses kill.

If you don't think this logic is flawed, I won't even bother to responding anymore.

Meanwhile, bring your campaign to Nairaland so we can contribute to it.

The reason we are both having this conversation is cause someone is advocating on Nairaland.

Thank you.