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PrimadonnaO:
Yeah.

I think the only advantage is the elimination of the stress and complexity that comes with changing names.

Other than that, I think retaining the maiden name kinda screams individuality, as against oneness.

I also wouldn't want to bear a different name from the LOML, and my kids.

Let's all be one.

I introduce myself as Mrs (My husband's name and surname).

But my government name is my maiden name.

LegitGirl:
A friend asked me this question, recently.

A guy, as a matter of fact. He said he doesn't mind his wife reraining her maiden name.

What do you guys think?

There's nothing wrong in it.

It doesn't make the woman less or more faithful or less or more committed to the marriage.

Everyone knows she's your Mrs, the stress of going to change name upandan is not easy.

chronique:
There's someone for everyone. Poor people too have their spec.

Na so

chronique:
The hustle is real. Ladies dey try sha. But then again, Adeleke is not married to anyone and baba must find where to nut put from time to time. No crime committed but these girls should learn to own up to their lifestyle and stop passing off these things as proceeds from hard work.

If Adeleke poor, she go look him side?

Didi2d:
10/years no mean say dem dey happy o

So na three months own wey pack up better, abi?

Mavrick2012:
it's working for them yet the man came to borrow money from the OP?

Hmmm ladieesss, lol

What if that's the only way they can have savings?

What if he has a gambling problem?

Kelechi009:
It's funny that a simple point that every one is making cannot be understood, how would you feel if a coworker keeps coming to borrow money from you? Does that make you happy, are you fine with that? Because me I don't understand all this excuses.

Jan: Roman, please Borrow me money
Fed: Roman, biko borrow me some money
....... till dec
Dec: Roman, abeg can I get 20k from you make i use celebrate christmas

This continues till December. Shey you no go tire?

The way you are giving excuses, be like say na you be the wife

Lol.

I'm not the wife o.

I just done see many men like that.

One wey I know fit even beg small children for 50 naira to smoke Igbo.

InvertedHammer:
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If it works for them why is he begging for cash?

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Maybe the man is gambling?

Successlane:
Agreed.

Many couples do it and if it works for them, why not?

But the only thing that bothers me is ' ..... came begging for cash ....'

The man fit dey play Kalo kalo

Successlane:
.. and it's the coworkers salary that should be used to fill the 'pothole', I no follow o

I'm not saying it's okay to ask his co workers for money o.

haslaw:
This one dey frustrate no be small.

May God heal you.

Na you need the healing pass. As you no dey hear word so.

Kelechi009:
So this is how the man would go around borrowing and inconveniecing his friends in the name of It is working for him, abeg let him borrow that money from his wife and not distrub coworkers. Case solved.

Coworkers have wives and family too, we don't go around asking every body for money.

The reason that man might not be able to ask the wife is cause he's into a vice that drains his money.

Think about it.

ChybuzzDD:
You didn't read that the man came to him to borrow money

How would he mind his business when someone he receives salary same day with turns around to borrow from him

Surprisingly, 164 morons liked your post without asking questions!

What if he's a gambler?

Kelechi009:
That is what I am saying, he needs therapy. Woman not accountant. If she dies tomorrow (God Forbid), it means the family will die of poverty because he cannot cater for his family due to his terrble habits. Are women made to solve men's terrible habit in marriage? Is that the reason women get married?

Not all marriages are that way na.

And who is to say it will be that way forever.

If it works for now, it works.

Kelechi009:
He his a very stupid person, so he wouldn't have prospered in life if he never married his wife?

Before he got married, how did he save for marriage.
How did he save to help his family and needs of his family, He needs therapy.

Well, it's a flaw that his wife has helped him curb.

They didn't have when they got married, they grew and prospered together. Today, they are wealthy.

The wife handles all their finances including sending money to both their parents, subscribing DStv for both parents, health care for both parents etc.

GreyLaw:
Trusting your wife with money doesn't mean being stupid. Why give her sole access to his finances, and even excluded himself.

And oh, he doesn't even see his alerts. Hahaha... what a sissy!

People fight. They quarrel and bad things happen. That trusted wife or husband could do a volte face tomorrow and take all the money and dissappear. I mean, we have heard such stories before.

The man can let his wife handle his money, but he should have access to it when he wants, or he can restrict the amount he can withdraw in a month. There are several options better than giving his wife sole access and then going to the office to beg.

What if they agreed on a certain amount the man can spend and he already exhausted that amount on either gambling or frivolous spending?

Mavrick2012:
hmmmmmm women,
Now you want people to leave them because it's the woman getting the alert.

If it was the man getting the woman's alert, you will begin to tell us how and why you can never do that.lol

Continue

Like I said, if it works for them, mind your business.

If the man is the one managing all the money, if it works for them, mind your business.

Kelechi009:
How come he his now begging others for money if it works for him?

People won't agree something is foolish.

Have you considered if he's a gambler or a frivolous spender?

haslaw:
Abeg make we hear word

Who block your ear before?

Abeg go see ENT doctor, make you for know wetin dey make ear pain you.

chiefolododo:
BLOOD OF JESUS
The disciples said to him, “If this is the situation between a husband and wife, it is better not to marry.” Matt 19:10
If it's your husband that is doing you like this , hope you will be happy?

My husband is not imprudent.

But if he was, I'd work on handling the finances.

If you don't trust your wife with money, why marry her?

Cadamlk:
If it works them, I don't see any reason why the husband should go to his colleague to beg for money.

The man probably can't go to the wife cause he's either a gambler or plans to use the money for frivolous things.

I know a marriage where the wife manages the finances cause the man is a cheerful giver. E fit comot him shirt give person.

She gives him allowance.

Once allowance finishes, whatever else he needs money for, na to go meet wifey explain how e spend him allowance or wetin e wan use the money wey e wan collect do.

Wifey is a bank manager, he's into construction.

If they don't do it that way, they wouldn't have a dime.

Echoban:
If it's working then the hubby should stop bordering colleagues for fund support. He's becoming a liability to other active men. One danger of having simp as colleague,

Like I said, Oga is probably a gambler.

Zonefree:
One of the few times you typed something sensible.

Good morning

If that's the only thing you can remember me for, it's more than enough.

Favfables1:
I see no problem with allowing a woman to run the finances of the home, especially if the man is not a prudent spender ...

But my problem is why the man in question couldn't go to his wife to ask for money but rather went to beg from his friend ...

He's probably a gambler.

BigRocky:
Ya sure...

Thank you.

BigRocky:
Why is the man now running around looking for moni?

The man is probably not prudent.

Is it not this same forum that a woman came to say her husband gambles all his salary away and is even in debt and unable to meet up with his family responsibilities?

The wife works and meets up with her own contributions to bills and projects but uncle gambles his away.

In that instance, don't you think it would help if the wife is in charge of finances?

odinson1:
You people really don't have conscience,like that man is a Slave to his wife. He works the money,and the wife decides when and how to spend it. I don't think you know what a Slave-master relationship is.

You'll be okay with that if it were your son? After toiling night and day,the wife bars him from touching the fruit of his labour,then there must e something really wrong with you women.

If I'm not pokenosing into my son's home, why will I care how they choose to live their lives?

Like I've said, I know couples who it works for.

The wife is the account manager and she holds the ATMs.

Different house expenses comes from different accounts.

These marriages are over 10 years old.

If it doesn't work, e for done pack up like una modern three months marriages.

Stay out of people's businesses.

haslaw:
Most hypocrites would kick and raise hell if the tables were turned or if it was your blood brother

I don't interfer with my brother's home and he doesn't interfer with mine.

Why worry about how another person runs their home?

Does it stop your own salary?

I've seen this work for many couples, especially when the man knows he's not prudent and his wife is a better manager.

If it works for them, mind your business.

When you marry, do wetin work for you.

cpu2006:
That is the best advise a Lady can ever give a Man.
Miss adviser, u too should remember that u will become mother one day. What of if your son is running for u & not allowing u to come to his house, how will you fill?
Am sure, the guy in question is hiding some things, he did not tell us the full story.
As a Man, ur Mummy & ur Wife are very important, pls take care of them well.
As a Wife, don't give advise that will scatter the relationship btw ur mother inlaw & your husband.

I have a sister in-law and each time my mum does something to her that I feel it's not right, I tell my mum straight up.

I have a very good mother in law so I don't expect any less for my mum towards her daughter in law. .

I don't give an advice I can't take e

@Op, don't allow the sentimentalists sway you.

Keep your mum far away from your family.

If it was your wife's nun who wishes you Dead, will you be asking the question you're asking?

Bond is stronger than blood o. Na who do you well and wish you well be blood.

If my mum ever wished my husband dead, she will never see me or grand kids ever again. This is coming from me whose husband calls a "mummy's girl".

You're the first line of defence of your family, protect them.

Send her money for upkeep, give her surprise visits but don't give her room to harm your child.

I no dey give advice wey know fit take.

Francis609:
She hates her because she is from the same tribe as my dad. She wanted me to marry a lady from her tribe.
she also thinks she is ugly and will give birth to ugly kids.

That woman will harm your kids.