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Sadly, you saw all these signs before marrying her and still jumped into the marriage. She didn't deceive you by pretending to be a good woman, she had always been that way, traveling to Germany has nothing to do with it.

Na the kind person wey she be.

I'd suggest you separate from her for a while, say three months. If she doesn't change, extend it to six months.

Send upkeep money for her and the kids but let her be by herself. If after 6 months, there's no change, file for divorce.

Maybe not to go through with it but to put her in her toes.

Note to the single folks out there

If the person you're in a relationship with doesn't have one or two persons that they respect very well. One or two persons that if they are misbehaving and you report them to, they will rearrange themselves. One or two persons that when they call them and talk sense to them they will harken to the voice of wisdom.

If the person you're dating doesn't have one or two of such people, abort.

OP's wife doesn't have any of such people and that's one of the reasons he's where he is now.

Our law makers are one of our big problems.

komodapson:
Oh I c...you're right. I'm so sorry for being adamant about my assumption
Yeah..some of the old movies were already being replicated on compact disc CD, yeah....
Mehn!!!..I've lost touch with movies though, no thanks to Adulthood and Lagos wahala

New too o. Motherhood has made me lost touch.

Can't remember when last I was at the cinema.

komodapson:
I disagree ...i could recall the age i was,when i saw those movies...haba...these movies you mentioned were early to mid 90s...mostly during the era of video cassettes.
And for you to reel out the list...omo!

They were made earlier than 90s sef. It was when CDs came out in early 2000 I watched it.

My dad was into movies.

It haff do na.

jeff1607:
I think so o, the thing such guys don’t chase much and most are introverts tho I have seen quite an extroverted few

If you say so.

jeff1607:
Nope , we many sis

Una no many as you think o.

There are many Nigerians in Dubai complaining that they are deliberately refusing to grant Nigerians the extension.

Do your findings well o

BrickDevo:
Yes, but am saying the signs were there, for someone she claims to love and dated she must have noticed it, girls are too sensitive to money matters..... lets be sincere

Trust me, she wouldn't have known.

A lot of ladies date and marry men and only know how much they earn.

Not how they spend it.

Ask some guys how they spend their salary and watch world war 4 happen.

They'll ask you if you woke out for their hand.

DrayZee:
So she didn't do her due diligence for someone she wants to spend the rest of her life with, because that's what "men of these days want"?
Comedy.
As he doesn't want to take his life seriously, she should also flow along with it nau.

Everything wey person dey hide, marriage e dey show.

Semaj77:
So how did she find out now

Cause they are married and now accountable to each other.

Give her an ultimatum to learn a skill or she loses her phone and pocket money.

I even cut my own sister off, thank God she now has a job and understands the value of money.

Now she is saving to buy a phone, the first she'd ever buy with her money.

jeff1607:
Why the “what most of you young men want”?

There should be moderation in everything, I prefer my woman asking questions as it puts me on my toes.

I just know you were going to put the phone password thingy, you don’t need to know ur partner’s password or go through his phone to understand what he/she is doing or does. Once you carry one leg and put on a path you should know where the other foot is going to land.

This is marriage matter not dating or gf/bf. There should be moderation in everything, some ladies or would I say most ladies don’t know how to talk, they are soooooo rude in asking questions and don’t even know when to ask questions.

Your partner comes back from work n slouching on the couch and only his shoes are off or he’s in the middle of a thought or probably just came out of an argument with someone then the next thing are questions. There are happy times to ask questions and no be everything wey enter head pesin go just spit out.

You are probably one of the few exceptions.

jeff1607:
She would have known before marriage, it’s so easy to know one especially if they are dating, how can a lady marry a man who isn’t open with his expenses and his movement c’mon, plus his movement during weekends, they way he follows up on scores not actual matches, unless they didn’t court or he was spending unnecessarily and she did ask questions, a lady who is truly matured and concerned is usually worried about her man’s finances take for instance she notices his house is usually stocked with food stuffs by month end then suddenly either the pantry is empty or he’s buying half of what he usually buy she should know there’s something wrong somewhere.

There are so many pointers to know while dating hence some ladies when they see such traits they just break up with such a guy and he would say “the lady just ghosted him or walked away”

Is that not what most men want?

A woman who doesn't ask questions about their money and how they spend it. A woman who doesn't ask for their phone password or even go through their phone.

That right there is what most of you young men of these days want.

They should leave Africa out of their madness o.

We never finish to deal with our own war (corruption and bad leaders) na to dey carry bigger countries matter for head like gala seller.

BrickDevo:
Yes i do but not all, esp when i have financial obligations to her

So it's conditional.

Doesn't mean all men like it and encourage it.

Kdon2:
You ll never be a wife material with this kind of mentality. Haba!

See this one.

BrickDevo:
She must have noticed it, but ignored it, or maybe they didn't date, never thought that their small fling would lead to pregnancy then marriage, the baby was unplanned too.

I'm telling you, it's possible for her to not have noticed.

Do you let your gf check your phone and do you tell her about all your financial transactions?

mixta140:
Above the law Chinese American movie

No. The one with Steven Segal

aikyg:
How you didn't notice this while you were dating is a big question. Divorcing him may not be an easy decision, since you have a baby coming. Since he doesn't physical abuse you, I'll suggest you both go for counseling

There is no way she would have noticed it, especially if he's an online gambler. Shey y'all like your privacy and say your partner shouldn't check your phone?

That's why she wouldn't have known.

How would she have been able to track his finances when y'all get defensive when a woman ask y'all money questions?

I'd suggest counselling for both of them, if he's willing to do the work, the marriage can be salvaged.

Juventus4life:
Lol! Your own na old movies be your favorite though the make sense.
Which of above the law are u talking about

With Steven Segal.

How many new movies dey make sense these days asides Marvel movies?

Paramount01:
Is the rush hour Nigeria movie

Nope

komodapson:
Òmó!!! U be old lady ó...u can't be less than 35years of age

You see yasef?

I still have a few years before I hit 35.

Three idiots

Coming to America

Rush hour

Above the Law

Air force One

Miss congeniality.

Man wey never get sense at 39, no advice for epp am.

This is one definition of "if there's no crack in the wall, the lizard will not gain access inside the house".

Is today April fool's day?

Cause I am not understanding what the business of a chicken is in the matters of a pack of wolves.

Na wa o.

helinues:
Reno should try and be making use of his brain sometimes..

And yet this guy called himself a pastor when he should be praying for peace

How many Nigerians heard about Tigray war even up till today?

Shame on you Reno

How many Nigerians even listen to the news?


Many of those who know about the Ukraine and Russia war heard of it from WhatsApp Status.

I just dey read

Na religious people just full this page 4.