Ujuhot: The most difficult time to be in a relationship as a guy is in your early twenties.The period when you are stuck in a limbo, trying to figure out yourself and who you want to be.
At this age, you find it a herculean task asking money from your parents, considering your dad will always remind you of how he was self sufficient at your age. So you are always left with "Nkechiyere" anyone that comes from them willingly. To compound your "woes". You have a girlfriend whom you love so much, you are 24 and she is 23. And guys being wired to want to take control, you are frustrated at your inability to take care of her like you want to. I mean where is the money?? You are still jobless, still hustling, still finding your feet. Still putting hands in to many things hoping for good. All of a sudden, she starts acting out and showing attitude. You call, and she takes forever to pick or return your calls. When she finally does pick, the call is like an interview session with those annoying and frustrating one word replies. Yes, no, fine, okay, nothing.
Then finally she ends the call with a flimsy excuse like " wait let me close the fridge", i will call you back. And the call never comes back. Then one day she calls you and asks you "where is this relationship heading to?. You don't even know where your own life is heading to, not to talk of a relationship. Then she drops the bombshell. Tells you that she met a guy who wants to marry her. And how age isn't on her side, and you are almost compelled to scream "But you are just 23". Can't you wait 3 more years let me make it. You just hold yourself and play the good guy. You ask her if she loves him, she dodges the question and replies you with " He treats me well". Well since she wasn't informing you to take permission, she was simply telling you.
You have to be the cool guy and wish her well. One week later, she gives you the traditional wedding card. And then you do the math yourself. She was talking to the guy a long time before now.
Then you realise that for every "K" you got on WhatsApp, the guy was getting a long epistle. You have been played. Worse is you cant even blame her, you are just a prospect who no one knows what will become of your life in 4years time. Would you have made it or not? She has gone for the real deal, someone who has already made it.
In footballing terms, you are a "Anthony Martial" ( prospect) while the guy is a Messi ( has made it already). I mean you were sending her cards of N200, and the guy was telling her to manage 10k for the weekend. No comparison there. And then you go through that silent heartbreak guys go through, the ones they don't talk about. And unceremoniously you get inducted into the special hall of fame where members are young guys whose childhood loves and friends or girlfriends they thought they would end up with left them to marry someone else. Your heart is broken into smithereens. In this hall of fame, you are all victims. Victims of not having found your path in your early twenties. At the wedding, no sight is more heartbreaking than seeing "the love of your life" say "I do" to this guy she just met 6 months ago. To make matters worse, you get an alert from Diamond bank telling you how N13 have been deducted for bank charges. You are mad.Your N4000, is down to N3987 rendering that N1k useless, you can only withdraw N3k now. And that's your home and abroad. Can life be more unfair at this moment?
6 years later. You are 30 now. Congratulations, you finally made it. You are as rich as you hoped you will become. You are one of the happening guys in town. You go to a wedding. With your friends, the men on suit. Those guys that just intimidate everyone in the hall. You are seated scouting the hall, and the bridal train passes by. Of course, bridal train and ashoebi ladies always show themselves. That's part of the job description. Sampling. And you spot one, she is beautiful, elegant and tall. You walk up to her, chat her up. Exchange numbers and you leave. She is 24, ripe for marriage. Three months later, you are sounding marriage to her ears. She loves how it sounds.
You are on chat with her always. And somewhere else, a 25year old boy still finding his way is wondering why the girlfriend is becoming distant these days. Why is he getting those one worded replies which is unlike her. Why do there chats seem more like interview. And fast fast, you have proposed and simultaneously she is asking the 25year old boy that question of "Where is this relationship going to". And then you marry her, and somewhere a boy gets heart broken.
You see we are always going to do this to ourselves.
Written by @jaetomz
What goes around... Well spoken. ..u deserve a thousand hugs
missKiffy: 4. Catalina and Sebastian Remember Catalina and Sebastian? Portrayed by the same duo in When You Are Mine? Yeah. Same guys. Sebastian, a rich heir fell in love with Catalina, a simple girl with an opportunist mother and brother.
Spiderman (1967-1970 cartoon). This was shown on LTV8 throughout the 1980s. It is an iconic cartoon with an iconic song (the song was covered by Timbaland, Magoo and Missy in 1998 and has featured in many Spiderman movies).
I had the video game of this version (on Atari 2600) back in the early 1980s.
Spiderman And His Amazing Friends (1981-1983). Silverbird had the rights to this cartoon in Nigeria and they showed in on NTA2 Channel 5 (1990s), Cadbury's Breakfast Television (produced for Cadbury by Silverbird in the 1990s and 2000s) and STV (2000s).
Spiderman gained new friends (Iceman and Firestar) in this cartoon.
Then you don't know plastic surgeons to the celebrities.
But that is beside the point.
Doctors, PhDs and others do very important jobs that the businessmen and the general public depend on.
Businessmen's kids will be taught by PhDs at university.
It shouldn't be all about money and car you ride.
...couldn't agree less, the differences and economic situations in this country is totally depreciating values,everyone is important in the society...the day a rich business man gets a heart attack hope he won't be needing the poor doctor knowledge.Wealth is knowledge and making the world a better place than you met it. Wealth does not only mean money
No-one is saying not to care for your husband. But don't assume doing all that will keep him not cheating. It will help as a small part of building your marriage. But if you rely on all that, it will shock you to learn that he doesn't value your sacrifice the same way. Because his own idea of pampering may be an expensive gift or something else.
Example: le hubbs was out of state and his office called him to say he had to travel to another state for meetings. He had no clothes with him and his work laptop (which had some necessary programs) was in Lagos. He was already planning on flying to Lagos, rush toVI to pack and then fly out again that same day through Ikeja. I got his laptop, packed his suitcase and sent the driver to meet him at the airport, prepared and not having to rush. He sent me all sorts of kissy emoticons that day...but he wouldn't do it for any meal because he loves eating out (he reads reviews and tries the places out) and would be bored if I made up a lunchbox of what he had for dinner the night before. He may appreciate the sacrifice but won't be impressed by it. And I would be upset, because I would have expectations of him that he shouldn't have to fulfil. Then resentment will come in and oh look, there's an unnecessary fight tagging along.
He values my problem-solving ability more than waking up at 6am to pack a lunchbox. Because anyone can pack a lunchbox. Which is why a man will compare you to his maid, because you and the maid offer the exact same skill-set. When you should be different. Because wives should bring more to the table than domestic skills and yes, domestic skills are important but not the be-all and end-all.
OZAOEKPE: GOD IS FIGHTING FOR SARAKI AND HIS PEOPLE(YOUTHS OF THIS COUNTRY), SARAKI HAS DONE NO WRONG. IF AMAECHI IS A 'SAINT', THEN SARAKI SHOULD ALSO BE A 'SAINT'. God does not defend corrupt politicians.They all know the games they are playing. support Nigerian politician at ur peril Never trust Nigerian politicians!
NOTHING WOULD HAPPEN TO SARAKI, THE SLAYER OF 'JAGABAN' DE OPOLO EYES.
1. Isaac (40yrs) married Rebecca (3yrs) in your so-called Holy Bible 2. Joseph (90yrs) married Virgin Mary (10yrs) in your so-called Holy Bible. Mary gave birth to Jesus at the age of 12yrs before going on to have Joseph (jr), James, Jude and Simon.
Aren't Isaac and Joseph both paedophiles and isn't the bible in support of child marriage. So if Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) was a paedophile (Astagfirullahi), Isaac and Joseph also were.
The article and the discussion is beyond your comprehension, far beyond your mental capacity. The likes of @ Chrisooblog understand the intent of the article and can hold useful discussions, not people like you.
Assignment for you: Please fetch the age at which Mary had the other four children and age gaps between them.
1. Isaac (40yrs) married Rebecca (3yrs) in your so-called Holy Bible 2. Joseph (90yrs) married Virgin Mary (10yrs) in your so-called Holy Bible. Mary gave birth to Jesus at the age of 12yrs before going on to have Joseph (jr), James, Jude and Simon.
Aren't Isaac and Joseph both paedophiles and isn't the bible in support of child marriage. So if Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) was a paedophile (Astagfirullahi), Isaac and Joseph also were.
The article and the discussion is beyond your comprehension, far beyond your mental capacity. The likes of @ Chrisooblog understand the intent of the article and can hold useful discussions, not people like you.
Assignment for you: Please fetch the age at which Mary had the other four children and age gaps between them. So at 3yrs old Rebecca was fetching water for thirsty camels?....try harder
queenfav: @realberry pls try to change your impression of marriage.You can have a wonderful marriage despite your all you have seen in your family.My parents are separated,I was raised by a single mum.My dad till date doesn't even have my number,cos he was never there for me.I owe my success today as a lawyer to my mother.I am sure you have not seen the worst of marriages.
As someone who was mediating on at least 3 divorce cases a day,I should not even be getting married with all. I have heard a lot of sad/negative stories to the point that nothing surprises me anymore.From a man who woke his wife up in d middle of the night,bathed her with acid simply because she bought a land.Abi is it a woman who was sleeping with her husband's younger cousin that was living with them?Yet,I still believe that marriage is a beautiful thing if you are well prepared and do it when its right for you.With God,financial and emotional maturity,there's nothing you can't survive.My mother always taught me never to judge a man based on my father,or what I see as a divorce attorney.
Today I am engaged to an amazing man that cares for me more than he cares for himself.Trust me when I say I am more than willing to spend the rest of my life with him.In the pastI, didn't want to ever get married,but my mum would tell me to reject it for myself!That I will have a happy marriage,and I started making a conscious effort to work at my relationship.There is no perfect relationship/marriage.The key is to apologize and laugh it off.understanding is very important too.Many get married,without trying to understand themselves to a point where they can cohabit peacefully.I have a very hot temper but he has figured out a way to calm me down,me too I have to bend in most cases and swallow my pride to apologize to him when we have issues.
Never for once has he raised his hand to hit me,or disrespect me.Not all men are physically abusive,there are still men who would never hit a woman!He doesn't have so much money,so I am not even with him for what he can do for me.I am with him because I love the way he loves me,and I have come to love him more than he loves me with each passing day.I see in him the accomplished man he would become in future.With me by his side,there's nothing he can't achieve because I am willing to support and encourage him in his dreams.Marriage based on deep love will always find a way to overcome challenges.Hold on and I am sure you will meet the one that will make you come and modify this post in a few months time.
As for those saying those who have been. married for less than 10 years should not talk about being happily married.I pity you!More than 50 percent of the divorce cases I handle happens between couples married for less than 5 years.Newly married couples have a lot of issues ranging from family interference,adjustments to the quirky habits and values of their partner.He may want the light on at night,while she doesn't sleep with lights on.Probably they were just seeing on weekends during courtship so one had to succumb to the will of the other.Things like that are the issues they face,for the immature ones it can lead to their divorce.That's where he/or she says their partner doesn't respect his/her opinion,simply because they couldn't find a way to resolve little issues.
The grudge of those small things head on to affect the big things.Before you know it they have drifted apart and calling up a lawyer to file for divorce on grounds of irreconcilable differences.So,for someone to have crossed that. 5 year mark means they are done with the adjustment stage in marriage,therefore more compatible and mature to handle challenges.
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GOD IS FIGHTING FOR SARAKI AND HIS PEOPLE(YOUTHS OF THIS COUNTRY), SARAKI HAS DONE NO WRONG. IF AMAECHI IS A 'SAINT', THEN SARAKI SHOULD ALSO BE A 'SAINT'.