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^^^^^^ ........ 4 the amount he is going 2 spend on this deal, he may as well tap that, just 4 enlightenment purposes, and also bcuz it is *cheaper*.
Last time I checked, artificial insemination was not cheap.

cynthio: I was asked 2 accomodate a girl I nvr knew 4 just a few days. It's been 4 months now and she is yet 2 get a place. At 1st I was comfortable sharing my things with her and feeding her( not 3 square meal though). But she hardly buys anything( not even pure water). Of course I got tired n stopped buying 4 two. And now, I no longer look her way. I sometimes feel bad nt providing these things, but hey I'm just a student and nt a salary earner. Honestly, I can't wait 4 her 2 leave, cos I'm tired.

Accomodate a stranger 4 a few days should only b possible if there is a clear day of moving out. Grow some balls or simply create an aunt/uncle that is coming 2 stay with u very soon and so stranger needs 2 move out ASAP. U r what is called a sucker, it should b UR HOUSE UR RULES, and nothing else. If stranger doesn't like it, they can always go and b a parasite at someone else's crib.

Here is my advice 2 u: get off NL, walk up 2 that stranger in ur home and tell these exact words:"Tonight is ur last night in my house, I can't take it any longer and i need my space back. I have been cool with having u but now i don't want u any longer here." and simply walk away.

jidegirl12: Can Rudy please explain this thread to me in simple words please? I really can't comprehend ....it's very difficult to grasp mentally

Eriko; you said it all ... God bless you!

ok let me try
A man and a woman get together, they date and are very fond of one another. They then decide 2 get married bcuz they find in each other what they desire in life. A few yrs down the line, one of the participant decides 2 not b at their best in one area or the other, bcuz of one Bullcrap or the other. Their partner should *evaluate if they can continue living with such lack in his/her life and adapt, *find a way 2 replace the lack or *divorce. Only after a serious talk with their partner can such decision b made. A 2nd wife, a mistress or even divorce cannot be enforce unto someone, it is all down 2 acceptance from both party *but* expecting people 2 accept something they r not willing 2 do is not the way 2 go.

We all know that many women don't want 2 hear about 2nd wife bcuz they know that the lady will b better than them, not bcuz the new lady is indeed better, but bcuz wifey knows how lacking she is and foolishly expects her husband 2 accept her crap. Each participant in marriage should b at their best at all times. even 90% won't do in my humble opinion.

erico2k2: Getting a 2nd wife is rubish, if you think you are heading nowhere with the first get a divorce B4 jumping into marrying another full stop thats how it is in my book

Just bcuz a wife may b lacking, doesn't mean u r heading nowhere with her *especially if u care 4 her and she is a good mother*, it just means that with a few tweaks u can get her back 2 where she fell from or replace that with the help of someone else under her full knowledge. How difficult is it 2 show someone where they r lacking and make them understand that since she cannot provide it 4 u, u will get it somewhere else?

Here is a great fact of life: If u r coming back home 2 wifey after getting ur *lack* back on elsewhere, chances r she will b cool with it. It's all about how u go about presenting ur case.

Lolaabokoku: so in dis whole world hav u ever heared or seen somebodt dat dies wit mouth bacteria?

Never have, never will.

^^^It cannot work that way bcuz such woman will have equal rights over the kids as u do, meaning she can decide what sort of education, religious beliefs, upbringing methods etc and she will have the right 2 have him 50% of the time, if not more depeding on if she works or not.
Unless u want the mother 2 have just as much right over the kid as u do, what u need is more like a surrogate mother.

ileobatojo: Cool...It wouldn't be a long stretch of the imagination to think that one person cannot provide every single thing one wants abi. So if you are willing to let her know you will go fulfill the rest of those desires outside, then your wife should be able to simultaneously go fulfill hers at will without more preconditions than yours.

That's where u r wrong/mistaking. People do get married bcuz the person they are dating fulfill all the requirements that they seek as a spouse. If during the course of the marriage these requirements are not met any longer, then drastic measure r 2 b taken in order to insure that this marriage lasts its course.

Blogs that r free all over the land, u want people 2 pay u for having one? That must b the joke of the day.

Blogs that r free all over the land, u want people 2 pay u for having one? That must b the joke of the day.

^^ If a man can no longer provide his wife with anything he was suppose 2 then hell yeah.

stpat1: Well I didn't mention attorney cos I do not intend to restrict the kids from their mother at any point in time. She is the mother and will remain so. The only issue here is that it is no binding that I marry her or pay her for life

Of course u need an attorney, there is much more than can happen than what u just wrote. what if she decides 2 take back guardianship of the child? what if she decides 2 run away with the child? what if she suddenly loses her damn mind and want more money? what if she claims the deal never happened?

^^ Isn't it clear/obvious that she values security more than luv? There r no angles 2 play with here.

i guess we can all edit our post

Poster
It all depends on the relationship u have with that said person, and the living arrangement. If u r very tight and u r not in the way of that person's life then u can stay as long as he sees fit. But u ain't that tight with that person like that, or u r sleeping in the sofa or infringing in his family lifestyle, then this should only b a very very short stay.

No man should get a 2nd wife, that's like adding insults to injury, but let that wife know that u will b getting urself someone that can provide u with what she is/was suppose 2 provide.

akj26: Nairaland has really help me to understand women because I don't have a sister to seek advice from. I need your advice concerning a lady I love & I intend to marry her if it works out. We attend the same church and she has everything I want in a woman. I've ask her out and she claims we can only be friends because she has a fiancé who is taking care of her finances and her family but she tells me she doesn't LOVE him.
Anytime I call her, the first word she says is ''HELLO FRIEND''. Please I need your advice.

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Look at the above in bold, this is the reason why she will never b urs. Unless u r willing 2 take care of her and her family, there is no way this lady will ever b with u. She is telling u loud and clear that her needs, and that of her family, is much more important than luv. That's why she is dating him, and not u.

^^^ Man, stop worrying about what people r saying negatively. U c, in 9ja every man wants children but they believe that 2 do so they have 2 find a girl and get married. Many do so with women they don't love and end up miserable 4 the rest of their sad lives. U on the other hand, u found a way 2 get rid of the *possible* headache by removing the hassle of marriage in order 2 have children. So many will be upset simply bcuz u r getting the milk without having 2 marry the damn cow.

Beware, 9ja is a very religious country and most will look down on what u believe is right 4 U. So long as u and the girl r ok with everything stated, then so be it.

As 4 people saying that ur kids will resent u, tell them 2 go ask MJ's kids if they do.

Poster
what do u think is a correct insult during fights, in order 2 hurt ur partner wella?

stpat1: Thank you jare my brother. I am not saying its worth it neither am I trying to buy the kids.
That's just I can offer. Remember that the kids will need to be continually taken care.

I'll appreciate one who's willing to look pass

The revenue but for the love of the kids who she can be assured will be well taken care of.

U do know that u could get all this for free, if u took ur time and look 4 the right person. There r many women out there who want children but do not want the duties that comes along with them. U know? women who want children and still want 2 have some kind of a social/fun/nightlife.
Just b fully honest with the girl about ur intentions and ride on.
btw when u write the kid will need 2 b continually taken care, u mean taken care by who?

alienvirus: I always pity women that put on such high heels. They sincerely suffer in silence. How on earth will someone with right senses put any of these on?

Women! Over to you...

I love me a high heel wearing woman, very classy but in the below picture, u put some stripper shoes, and these r definitely *not* classy.

Rosell: Good afternoon everyone, I'm 26 and bald, so I want to maintain a bald all the time- just like 2face Idibia. I don't want hair growing on my head so the bald patches won't show, as it makes me ugly. Please can anyone here recommend a good hair removal cream for barbing bald and can be found in Nigeria? Im tired of going to the salon everyday. Thanks in advance!

I think the celebrity u mentionned shave their head with razor, have u ever tried that? I doubt u would have a sharper cut than that.

What people need is a bucket list, and fulfill everything on that list before they reach the age of 50, if they can make it that far in life.

ifyalways: 250 what an insult!!!
On average, a Nigerian graduate earns above 100K a month. Multiply that by 9 months.

3M for a school cert holder.
10M for a graduate

The lady will only stop working 4 a month or two and he is offering 2 pay her 100K per month 4 a yr after the birth, why would u expect this guy 2 pay more than that?

Poster
Since u r a hard working man, who will raise the kids? will the mother have right 2 c her children whenever she pleases? will she have 2 sign a paper that gives away her rights as the mother?

IMHO the notion of asking a lady is kind of childish. I would instead think that the actions between the two of you should confirm ur status i.e. kissing, holding hands etc

Normally One night at a hotel starts at 2pm and checkout is between 10am and midday the next day. No matter the time u check in, u have 2 checkout the following 10am/midday. This is a business and not charity, and people who r looking 4 hotel rooms at 1am know that very well.

ifyalways: You'll start by translating and typing all this in French.

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