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slimyem: ....and you think people don't change or want to "restitute" at some points in their lives?
...and yes,her part is the worst...,the more reason why she might decide to come clean first.
...and you think the kids would understand if they knew?
You saying you wouldn't feel disgusted that your mum was paid a few thousand nairas to have you and deny you a functional home all through your childhood?

the part daddy plays in this saga is noble, he wants children and instead of adopting some orphans decided 2 have a *surrogate mother* 2 have his offsprings. He will be there *supposedly* 4 the children 4ever and won't stop mama from seeing the kids. In the future, The kids may b mad @ mama if she never keep in touch with them, but the person who will raise, feed and love them unconditionally would never b looked down upon.
Why shouldn't the kids understand if mama has been present in their lives all along? What should the kids b mad about? Let us not forget that OP never said mama couldn't see her children.

peterugoobi: Even in america, ppl smoke medical marijuana

Pls get ur facts right, medicinal marijuana is only legal in 17 states out of 51.

^^^ As if mama will tell her part in this saga? Her part is the worst of the two. The kids don't need 2 know and even if they did, they would not care, or would surely understand.

*this is what papa had 2 do 2 get u*

VERY VERY enlightening, 2 say the least. Thank u very much sir.

Sagamite's got nothing on me. He ain't got the time nor the ability 2 treat any lady here properly. Here is one simple question 4 the man: WHO IS UR LADY HERE ON NL? stand 4 her proudly or let someone else do so!

***ATTENTION ALL NL LADIES, U MAY WANT 2 COME AND HEAR THE ANSWER 2 THIS MILLION $$$ QUESTION***

^^ But they do when they want 2 bust a dealer in the middle of a transaction. What if that transaction happens 2 b that of the unfortunate houseboy at his oga's place?
Do u want 2 take such a chance with ur family?!

Kobojunkie: It is not about what I will allow. The @Op did not stipulate from the start that he would not allow smoking of weed on his premises.

I would have drawn out a serious contract, and probably had the applicant sign in in blood(you can never go wrong with DNA) too before I even go ahead to let them near my family. I mean it all depends on the @OP. As he already announced, he has no intentions of firing the weed smoker.

Yes u r right, the OP hasn't fired the culprit so he may be understanding on such matter, bcuz if it was me, there would b no second chances. We all know that these weed smokers go get the stuff from the dealers, and sometimes the dealers come 2 deliver the stuff 2 them *meaning the OP's home*. Imagine if there is a raid at that particular moment? in ur home?

bara pistis: welcome. pls i have a lady i want to date ...but i have the following challenges..no time at all.my mind is just too focus on some goals b4 the year runs out.am really crazy about making money..she is presently leaving very far from me...so can i send her automated luv text massages and auto voice call teling her how much i luv her over a period of 1 month to water my ground till i get to met her by late dec or what can i do to avoid calls and at least avoid recharge cards n women probs

If u have no time 2 b in a relationship then u have no business trying to woo anyone. Relationships require time, effort, care and understanding, and u seem 2 have none of it.

Poster
abeg come and give us the latest gist about ur issues. btw what did u reply 2 the 35 well-wishers? and how difficult it is 2 untag urself? disgrace is what this girl needs in her life to learn not 2 do crap like that 2 others. Save the next brotha by disgracing this oloshi.

^^^So u would allow someone 2 carry clear illegal activities in ur humble abode, where u probably have wifey and children?

@Tgirl4u
I am very much game and ready but I am trying 2 make my *partner in crime/life* c light on this one. 4 reasons known only 2 her, she doesn't want her pic, or that of jr, on a website.............. yet, and that's normal as *she doesn't know what NL is*. Revealing my true identity is also something that I haven't come around 2.

Sagamite: O to be. (You no fit).

My magun is on you. Any man that tries will get stuck like a Siamese twin.

My Babalawo is potent.

Our relationship has opening on my side and closes on your side.

Arrant nonsense, magun ko, magnum ni!
This is the kind of crap that men tell women 2 keep them in bondage 4ever. The deal is very simple: If u r not ready and willing 2 care 4 a ladies needs at all times, then step aside and let someone else care 4 her, instead of having her lacking. She needs a good man who will b there 2 provide her with some security as well as comfort AND most importantly the warmth that she requires. So unless u r ready 2 elevate her status 2 something worthy *I know I will* then step aside, playa!

@Efe
although u may not b the #1 with RudySmith, u will surely b treated like such with someone like me, unlike what that Sagamite bobo is offering.

AF does have a flight from DFW but it goes via Atlanta then CDG and then direct 2 Abuja.

These videos r that of the jungle, nothing wrong with that. I like 2 watch animals in the jungle fending 4 themselves, whether lions, tigers Hyenas, but I am more fond of those in the cat family. very elegant creature.

It is embedded in the Nigerian common man to *hate*, if it is not gays/lesbians, people of different tribes. If it is not people of different religion, it is people of different social status.
The common Nigerian is a HATER!

The man doesn't want her, probably never wanted her 2 begin with. This lady should walk away while she can, and stop having sex with this guy who does not value her.

^^^Sir, what has washing panties got 2 do with sex?

Those damn parasites r now involving their mothers into their scams. Poster RUN RUN RUN!

stpat1: I tell you, I got over 50 bb requests today and the calls I returned today is over 4k. Now I am even confused as to which I should follow up cos it will take a lot of resources to follow up all the interested ladies. I'll be meeting about 6 who reside in ph between now and sunday and will surely be meeting the abj chicks by mid dec.

A lot of scammers have also tried their tricks. From the one demanding air tickets fare to other wanting 200k monthly (as if person dey pluck the money).

For those that called and took out precious time of your busy schedule to talk and advise me, I say a big thank you. I can only wish I am as lucky as you are. God bless you

I am also glad 2 read the above, and remember the golden rule, don't hand a Kobo until u have signed and sealed the deal. Meet the prospective ladies one on one *always in a public place* and study them carefully, don't b in any rush. A lady could still take whatever u r offering b4 the birth and then abscond with the baby after birth so b wise on this. Let me not even start on the many girls that have had so many abortion that you will sex them from morning 2 night and they could never get pregnant, and so waste ur time and energy. No handouts should be made before a confirmation of pregnancy, no balance payment should b made b4 confirmation of paternity *DNA test*. Some scammers and greedy golddiggers are good at their cons, watch out.

Here are a few questions that u should ask them:
Why r u thinking of doing it?
What r ur plans afterwards?
What does ur family think of this?
Do u want 2 have some kind of relationship with the child afterwards or complete separation?
R u in a relationship at the moment?

good luck and keep us informed!

mondi_cheeks: A Stupid man focuses on a girl's mistake and forget the shitload hey did in his own past. He probably made a couple of women mothers and a few other abort. The value of a woman is not measured by the mistakes she made in the past but what she is willing to have and maintain a healthy relationship with a man she loves. I don't see anything with ending up with a divorcee because the are human too and they probably have more incite about what not to do in marriage

If u think that a single mother is a lady who did a MISTAKE then u r part of the problem here. There is nothing wrong with a single mother, she is just someone that chose 2 live her life differently than most, but calling that a *mistake* is wrong wrong wrong.

maygah: can its b seen as a culture fin here ?

It is a social problem, and also got a lot 2 do with men and their misplaced ego. U c, men want 2 b the only one between their wifey's legs, so being with a single mother confirms 2 the whole world that they r not. Many look down on being with such woman bcuz they don't want 2 support another man's child.

Even some bastard preachers will look down on single mothers, so why wouldn't confused followers/sheep do the same thing? We all know how church/religion is the driving force 4 many out there.

^^^^ So Sagamite is the online hubby u were talking about?! taking u away from him will b like taking candy from a child. Join me in my private chambers 4 a discussion, and let me give u the attention that u truly deserve instead of being overlooked and under appreciated by that Saga bobo.

@Sagamite
stay away from Efema, u have been warned!

as 4 flirting, yes many do it innocently, and that's no big deal, but when people enter *the zone* and go online 2 meet and share special moments with someone, then it is no more play play flirting. here is another clue, NL is not a dating site, while I am sure the guy in this thread met these babes via some dating or single website.

as 4 jidegirl having the hots 4 me, That should b normal since I am a great guy, LWKMD.

This morning I shed a tear, it was so cold and a tear just popped out of nowhere.

^ removing the drug doesn't solve the problem, it just sweeps it under the rug. It would b very foolish of a woman 2 believe that her man is cured simply bcuz the other lady is gone.

btw removing the drug while still living in a drug infested environment *aka the internet* is surely a waste of time, and shows us all how some women have very distorted sense of reasoning. The problem is hubby who doesn't respect her, yet here is ur friend focussing on what isn't really important in this equation

In 9ja, probably not bcuz a single mother is mostly viewed as soiled goods.

They should have a court marriage, and be happy just as they r now. Having children should b out of the question until they r properly ready and equipped 4 it.

Hundreds of thousand have a sex change and r happily living their new lives. Sounds 2 me like someone who took a sound decision, then saw the huge consequences of his/her actions *especially his family disowning him* and now is trying 2 claim some nonsense 2 get back on his family's good side.

If the lady doesn't mind, why should we?

Don't they call it Indian hemp in 9ja? Is it not illegal? So, doing an illegal activity in the house (or elsewhere) is a good enough reason 2 fire the guy, who probably ain't got a contract 2 begin with. I don't have a problem if people want 2 smoke weed in their lives, but if I employ someone I expect that individual to be a non weed smoker, or else he doesn't get the job.

jidegirl12: Good points @greatgod and Rudy.... but 100% of online flirting is just go to sex and one night stands ..... I have accompanied a friend to embarrass one s lut she discovered on her hubby's computer history cos the guy was always glued to his computer everytime..... Very very ugly!!!

I have difficulty understanding the above in bold, as it is a mistake that many women make. Instead of dealing with the hubby directly, they go confront and possibly insult the stranger. If anything, the only person who has a duty towards ur friend is *her husband*, trying 2 save an addict by removing the source of his addiction, instead of curing the person directly, will have ur friend fail time and time again.

The sole problem is her man who is married and flirts with others, while he shouldn't.

If it is a very close friend and I didn't get an invite, then I expect him to verbally mention that I should come. If he never mentionned the wedding in my presence then that means I am not welcomed there. If I didn't get the invite but he mention the wedding in my presence then I will clearly ask about the invite that I didnt receive, but there is no way I will show up at the wedding if it is not clearly stated that I should.

Some wedding dinner party have tables with names of each guest already reserved, how can I crash the party?

go 4 DNC, as planned.