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^^^ man, you can check his profile, and contact/explain all this directly to him yourself.

on the same note, pls do go and check a few travel threads to understand that people like Justwise and Vicjustice are the reason many can thank their lucky stars. without them, the travel section wouldn't be the great place that it is to get the right travel information/tip and answer to queries.

^^But u said u can't talk to him......so how would you do it then?

ileobatojo: Why can't they do it responsibly under your roof?

there is no such thing as doing it responsibly, NONE!

Why is it not enough for you to instill it into them that sex is not a joke and has serious repercussions and they should not engage in it until they are absolutely ready and it is the right time/person?

It would be very stu.pid of me to be against a practice but let it happen under my roof happily, simply bcuz my kids are the one doing it. What an hypocrite move it would be.

Are there any other grown up actions that they may perform that will induce this same reaction from you?

Any actions that are against MY RULES can get them out, they fully well know it. I will stand fully by my children but will never indulge in their actions/reckless lifestyle while living in my own house. one thing for sure, You do drugs, I give you one chance to stop this nonsense, if you don't change , YOU ARE OUT! If you do any crime, i give you one chance to mend your ways, if you don't want to change, YOU ARE OUT!
but sex is different cuz we all know that when you have tasted the forbidden fruit, you can never stop.

ileobatojo: Whoa, did I just read this?

This, coming from the guy that proudly admits to sleeping with multiple women apart from his wife? Wait, so you believe in no sex till marriage? Basically, chasing your children out of the house is punishment for having premarital sex? This is some utterly laughable bullshyte

Please say it isn't so Mr Rudysmith...

PLS read my words carefully, I never said I was against sex before marriage, I am saying I am against people having sex and not standing for the consequences of such actions. See my sista, this is not a movie, this is real life. I am an Adult, I pay my own bills, I and the person I share my bed with have no problem with my actions, my actions has never made me fail on my duties as a providing, caring and loving parent/man. So MY lifestyle is not in question here, as honesty is the #1 value I try to instill in them.

Chasing them out of the house is not a punishment, it is the direct consequence of the act they decided to take, bcuz you have to b an adult to take such risk in life, and ADULTS live in their own homes!

^^ people have friends, and then they may or not ask that person to become their bf/gf. If they do then they become a couple and could have sex, if they wish to do so. If they remain friends then they shouldn't have sex.

laykhorn: hahaha! is this true.

Yes o! It was all carefully planned.

^^^^ lol ok i thought you believe any of this insanity. my bad!

topsyking: Yes my broda na so o. Make una tell am..he didn't even ban for a week.he ban me for a whole month...

Bro, it is clear that YOU have a grudge against Justwise as we can clearly see from what you have posted that you are the one who attacked his person without even properly reading what he wrote about nominating the Mod (aka himself)
so again, you brought this on yourself. here is a copy of what you wrote (brought to us by Justwise):

topsyking: Rubbish!!! Rubbish!!!
Its obvious the just guy will win it...how can u open a thread and u call pple to nominate..how fair is dat...its better to av the best moderator in the entire nairaland than just in travel section...I will never vote for the originator of this thread...its a free world..u can ban me again...its all good..u can't stop me from saying my mind..and if I want to vote..
I Will vote of DIS GUY..but its obvious he won't win..cos d race is btw just one person...I won't eeven mention is name...

Tgirl4real: Glad u have brought this up. At a point on that thread u mentioned how u were gonna take out d magun n bla bla...I felt u were going too far, but I dodn't wanna interject cos everyone was having a fun time. Even Sagamite doesn't go that far with his wives and concubines.

U said there's no difference between online flirtation and real life cheating, yet u do it.

So, u Mr. Rudy is an example of someone with ulterior motive.

So, I won't be comfy flirting with u.

May be u are serious about snatching Saga's babes after all.

Pls, everything I wrote about the Armnas was done in a fun way to enlighten the section a bit. I didnt think that many of the ladies talking about the Saga concubine stuff were actually serious about it, as I certainly have no grudges against Sagamite or his Harem.
As for the magun stuff, I hear it is the only way to remove it. Let's ask Saga about it as i am sure he knows better than us about it.

victorian: Sorry to say poster, but you are wacked......u need psychological help...how can u think of Evicting any of yur kid, that says Dad, guess what ?... am no more a virgin? .....seriously?..... I can't believe this.. Thank God , you are not God....

Quoting God or the bible on such matter shows your lack of common sense. the Bible is clear on the fact that people CAN/should only have sex when they are married. now how can you bring God in this matter if you have no idea of the word of God? pls go pick a bible and start feeding your brain before coming here to reply nonsense!

jidegirl12: Lol..... Same here but you slamming your rules and regulations every-time in their ears will definitely make them move out . You just have to trust them and be their friend that's all .

Holiday inn ko , Fairmont ni

Of course, that is my house, my rules policy.....but hey, they are free to join and sleep at the salvation army if they think the rules will be any better there. Life ain't a bed of roses and I want them to take responsibilities for their action as soon as they are old enough to take any responsibilities like that. What makes you think that I will tell them that every morning?! they know the rule, and especially, the consequences of breaking these rules.

ileobatojo: Do you mind explaining the rationale behind the rule that they can't live in your house anymore once they start having sex (and are up to 18)? Yet they can live in your house up to 40yrs of age as long as they remain virgins?

It is very simple, they are welcome at home until they "think" they are grown enough to have sex. Since having sex is not a joke and has serious repercussions, if someone think they are ready for such, then they should equally be ready to do that under their own roof, and live by the consequences of what such action entails.

slimyem: I still don't see how or why if they are above 18 and are not doing it on your bed!!

ok let me explain it to you then: you see having sex can be a life changing experience, just a little mistake can be a lifetime of baby changing diapers etc. so if someone is ready to take such gamble in life, then they best do so in their own house so they can care for whatever consequences that may come with such act (aka baby). I have done my fair share of babysitting, no more, lol!

So if you daughter tells you she's not been hav1ng sex when in truth,she has...what's gon happen? ...and if she tells you she has,what would you do?
Throw her out of your house or ban her from doing it no more?

How should I know about what to do about something I don't know is happening?! But if she fully well knows MY stand (and the consequences of doing such act under my roof) then my reaction would not be a shock to her. Again, I raise them to understand that IN LIFE every action has a reaction, and that they should think very carefully before doing anything that may be against what i have instilled in them, raised them or taught them right from wrong. they fully well know that I have nothing against having sex so long as it is done in the proper manner. If someone wants to have sex, they can/should only do so when they are properly ready for the consequences of such act........... and me throwing them out would only be the simple reaction to the action they decided to take.
Again, MY HOUSE; MY RULES!

What did he expect from such a girl?! this is the industry he cherishes so much, and now looking down on its offsprings. There is drug sex and rock n roll in show business. Sometimes these gals have to suck and fukc in order to get to the top, and other times it is just a question of "how can I turn Lil wayne/kanye/Eddy Murphy/50cent or Loyd Mayweather down?"

Thank God insanity is not hereditary, someone pls smack the hell out of this man before his children believe the nonsense he is saying.
even the Op thinks it could be possible, NONSENSE!

^^well said!
yep OP, write him an email or something!

You can't afford an apt but yet could afford a plane ticket to travel abroad?! Here is a clue, Mc Ds are still hiring, so far as I know, and the pay isn't that bad. pls do check it out!

topsyking: I can't remember..but I stated the obvious..I said I can't vote jutwise, dat I will rather vote DIS GUY..becos I didn't choose him, he ban me

That statement makes no sense since Justwise is the mod and cannot be nominated, as he clearly stated:

Moderator cannot be nominated in his/her section but may be nominated in other sections

So, are you saying that Justwise banned you for saying that you won't nominate him on an award that he couldn't be nominated for?!

190-the-clown:
its 4 small boys
If dem norminate mi I go win am easily

190, I still haven't received my money....I let you win the wooing contest as you've asked me to but you now do not want to pay up?! A deal is a deal, PAY UP!

jidegirl12: Ofcourse some are ready to move out....you think every Nigerian parent likes to horde a 18year old till they are ready to marry?

My children are welcome to stay at mine for as long as they need to get settled in life, but they surely have to stand by my rules and regulations........This is no Holiday Inn!

Siena: You got in baang on the beam there, Rudy.

Thanks man, I saw that you have a few yrs on your hands before you start dealing with such issues.

Dis Guy: same way a man cannot control crowd, its teamwork

If you've ever attended concerts, major sports events, you will clearly see women amongst the security details and crowd control officials, security/safety is not about one person and his biceps, its much more than that

of course it is team work in very crowded place, and guess what? the majority are men, and the women who are part of the security are there to deal with the females in the crowd, (for body search, handling etc). But go to smaller venues and you will be lucky to have one women security for 10 men there. and a single guy could single handedly control the crowd with JUST his presence, (something that a woman can never do)

ihedioramma: IS IT YOUR HUSBAND? LET ME TELL ALL OF YOU HERE THIS THING OF BOYFRIEND AND GIRL FRIEND IS NOT ALL ABOUT HAVEING SEX IF SOME ONE IS YOUR GOOD FRIEND WHY ARE YOU HAVEING (OR ASKING FOR) SEX WITH HIM OR HER WHY YOU HAVE NOT MARRY ? THE BEST FRIEND YOU CAN HAVE IS THE ONE THAT DONT ASK FOR SEX OR DONT WANT TO HAVE SEX WITH ANY BODY ONLY THE TIME HE OR SHE IS MARRYD, WITH ONLY HER HUSBAND OR WIEE .

There is a HUGE difference between a friend and a BF/GF. If you think that all friends are potential BF/GF then you don't really understand what a friend is. Yes, it is best if your BF/GF (or future spouse) happens to be your best friend , but it is NOT a requirement in marriage.
One of the main differences between friends and BF/GF is the intimacy part, how could you expect friends to become spouse, and skipping the BF/GF part.
don't put the carriage before the horses. it is 1st FRIENDS, 2nd BF/GF and 3rd SPOUSE, not the way around.

^^I am sorry but if anyone think they are old enough to be intimate and live by the consequences that it entails, then they should be old enough to have their own apt to do just that.

ok the Mod clearly stated on the first post that:
"Please if you have any complain or question about the rules take it to complain thread and not here, this is strictly for nomination. Thank you."

so, now, care to tell us what you wrote in your hidden post?!

laykhorn: I agree with the things up here but the question is WOULD YOU MARRY SOME1 WHO GOES TO BED WITH OTHER GUYS ON WEEKENDS. It all depends.. Maybe cos I'm no player who just sticks his willy in abruptly gurls u can 'access'

If she still did it today then probably not, but if this was something she did when she was in her party mood while single and discovering life, then why not?! I understand that such women can be a handful to some guys (especially if these guys didn't live/believe in such lifestyle), but to me it is just another day at the office. I see these girls every weekends, many don't even do it bcuz they want to, but simply bcuz that's what everybody around them is doing. Good times can be quite addictive.

Tgirl4real: Oh! I see! So, this where the campaign against Saga started.

Na wa o.

We all know there are real flirtations and harmless jokes. Of course, there is a limit to everything. There is a limit to the "harmless joke" I can take on line. As long as the 2 parties involved both know/understand it's a joke, others shouldn't read unnecessary meanings to it (I'm refering to d harmless banter done on here).

Yep, the "take over Saga's harem" campaign started right there, lol!

as for the E flirting, how would you know if someone was joking or not? especially from an online forum. how would you know if a AHAHAHA is sarcastic or not, meant or not? Although it could be inoffensive, it is very difficult to know the difference between the two.

^^^ Here is one of the main reason why I would "need" to know.
I have already told my kids that they are welcomed at my house for the rest of their life, if they wish so, but the day they start to have sex, then they best find their own places to do the do, and not under my roof. So knowing when each and everyone of them (not just the girls) has/had sex is important to the family unit.

If you are above 18 and think you are wise and mature enough to have sex, then it is time for you to go.
If you are under 18 and think you are wise mature enough to have sex, then the countdown has started.

What else can you do but to move on with your life?

No different than the millions of battered women who stay with their abusive husbands/BFs. Sometimes what that evil man brings to this lady's life is just too good to let go.

laykhorn: only God can save us from those leftovers. We too have to start watchin very close and keep tab on ladies we are serious about

These ladies can only be considered leftovers by Virgin guys. If a man has had his own fun in life but looks down on ladies who did the exact same thing then I see that as simple HYPOCRISY 101.
Yes a runz girl is a pro.stitute and therefore different, but there are many girls out there who are simply ladies who want to have fun every weekend, drink and have sex with whoever they wish (just like us men), and so I don't think it is right for us to look down on them, since we do the exact same thing.

At the end of the day, it is all about being comfortable with who you are.

^ I happen to know Rudy lol, and he is one of the few men that can bring a smile to your face, a genuine smile, not the Chinese version that Sagamite is trying to offer you. So open your eyes, open your mind and don't be afraid of the unknown. You never know what you may find.