₦airaland Forum

Benita27:
Rivers.
I think is done differently in other tribes, just perhaps, it could be same with hers.

Where in Rivers?

Benita27:
You mustn't marry her cos she has a child for you, her bad characters are maddening.

There are ways to go about it if you need your son, in my place: you're allowed to pay her bride price if you must claim your child, then you can both go your separate ways.

Where is your place?

wonukwuru:
I am adult married to a lady of 35years. We have been married since 2007. God has blessed us with 3 wonderful children( 2 boys and 1 girl). Before we got married, i agreed with my wife that i only want to have 2 kids ( I wouldnt mind if they just boys or girls. That means, Im not particular of the sex of the kids). My wife is a B.sc Accounting graduate, while myself, I am a Chartered Accountant, with a well paid job. My wife had a 3rd class degree. On several occassions, i have told her to go back to school for Post Graduate Diploma (PGD) in order to upgrade, but she plainly told me that she cannot go back to school again. When i asked her why, she told me that her brain cannot withstand any academic stree again. I also suggested to her, since you studied accounting in the university, why not enroll for ICAN program? When i said that to her, she told me that she could not go for PGD, is it ICAN that she can do? I have been thinking, what will i do for her to be like others.

Luckly, was transferred to Benin. I went with my family to Benin. We stayed over 4years in Benin. While we were in Benin, I told my wife to go and enroll for a 6months diploma programm in computer (because she is not computer literate). I paid over N110,000 for the 6months programme. My wife only went for the programme for 1month and stopped. She refused to complete the program. When I asked her, she told me that she will go back after she had "put to bed"( Then she was pregnant). Guys, its over two years now and the baby is even in pre-nursery school, yet my wife has not reminded me of going back to complete the programme.

Last year, she asked me to open a store for her, that she want to go into trading. When I asked her the nature of the business, she said, she wants to deal on selling rice, beans, yams, groundnut oil, etc. I now suggested that it will not be a problem, but she has to look for somebody who is already in the business so as to understudy the person for atleast 1month. She refused, saying that without her understudying anybody, that she can still make it. I told her that my reason of suggesting to her to understudy somebody was that, i wanted her to be selling in wholesale. My plan was to give like N1.5million. I told her, i cannot just release N1.5million to her for a business that she did not learn. I told her that N1.5million is not a small money. Brethren, that was why up til now, i have not opened the business for her.

My children's school fees is over N650,00 per term for the 3 kids. I provide for feeding. My wife does not want to do anything as to assist me in the family. I give her money for her hair, cream, bathing soap, panties and clothing. Im really getting tired. My salary does not carry the family again because of too much expenses.

Another problem now is, my wife's dressing is nothing to write home about. She dresses as if she is in her late 60s. I have complained to her on several occasion that i dont like the way she dresses, but each time i bring up the issue, she will get angry. People around, have meeting my sisters to tell them that my wife does not dress well as somebody that has gone to the university. Even in my house, my wife only tires wrapper. Nothing in her again attracts me to her. Infact, for the past 3 months, i have not slept with her. I sleep in the parlour while she sleeps in the bed room.

Else, i forget, my wife delibrately "took in" again since July last year. This is after we agreed that the 3 kids that we already have is enough. Her method is, each time i remind her of what to do as to be assisting me in the family, she will delibrately "take in".

My wife, went to the university but she cannot speak simple and correct english. She cannot write application letter. She cannot teach my kids who are in primary 2 and 5 respectively. I pay a lesson teacher N30,000 monthly for my kids but my wife is at home doing nothing. Since we got married, my wife has not sent me text message on her phone more than 3times. The ones that she sent, my brothers, there are lots of gramatical blunders. When i confronted her with the text message, she could not say anything. I was checking for some documents in my room last week, and i came across an application that my wife wrote to submit to a private school where she wants to teach. When i saw the letter, believe me, my brothers, one of my kids that is in primary 5 cannot write such rubbish.

What i thought she was before i married her, is not what she is. I cannot take her out for an occassion because she may embarrase me by her conduct in the public. I need a divorce but the problem now is, i did i court wedding with her. What should i do? Im confused.

I am tired of seeing marriages trying to break or at the verge of breaking. This story Is not encouraging to young singles trying to build a serious relationship and probably get married soon. This is the third story if I am not mistaking I have read in 3days now; does it mean this year 2017 will be a year of surprises( divorce and home breaking) like one of the man of God had prophesied? Godforbid!

These issues can be managed:

1. If she does not want to stop giving birth maybe because she wants more children, you can do vasectomy, maybe not a permanent one.

2. You can teach her to dress how you want her to. You cannot be doing it with force or whatnot. Don't try to do it by imposition like she MUST; you can do it through reorientation. Remind her how she used to look like when you first saw her. Get her the cloths you would like her to put on.

3.You can teach her how to read and speak good english. Convince me that you didn't observe that she cannot speak well; how did you ask her out then? Or na arrangement marriage. Teach her with love. Take it as another job role till you observe she has improved. You can do it for yourself and for the children you love.

4. As for her not wanting to lay her hands so as to be productive and help you; I know this is the bone of contention as your bills keep increasing daily and your employer does not send you to increase your salary because them no send you..... hmm, you have to cope with the present situation while you try to figure out other modalities to help her lay her hands on something to do. Give her reasons while she needs to find something and do asap. The children are growing fast so your bills will increase more.

Lastly, divorce will be a disaster to those innocent children. It will affect them phycologically and educationally. It will change their perspective of a happy family. Try also and put all issues in prayers. God will guide you through all these.

Looking at the crazy 2017. Is gonna be GREATER and BRIGHTER than what I am seeing now. What about yours? Come on board fellas!![color=#550000][/color]

TrapQueen77:




Abeeeeg, where are these real boiz now OP?


Let them come here coz one of my new year resolutions is to be officially someone's gf sha

Lol @bolded.

Must it be *official*?

No Birthday mate (05/09; MM:DD).

Not a girl guy please!

Benita27:
They should go learn from hollywood.

You wouldn't be able to differentiate their fake from real pregnancy.

You get bad mouth. Support them and they will get there soon.

We don't really appreciate our own, why?

badassProdigy:
I am loving this...

http://www.certifiednaija.com/2016/12/another-unique-pre-wedding-photo-of.html?m=1

All these crossing of legs..... what is it for?

kenonze:


It's all win win for my haters on NL.

If Manchester city win,
I will go on self exile on NL for 21days.

If Arsenal win,
I will upload my naked pics here.

The more the goals the more the pics





Am Arsene Wenger's daughter

Fvckery statement on sending nudes and whatnot.

However, either you guys lose, win or draw..... you kidding yourself, lady.

Aniker:
Cus you stand the chance of getting married to someone intact

Shell R. A, though for now

Lol @intact. Does the *intact* have impact in my life?

When ever I hear "I am a Virg....." before completing that word I will scream NO! Like Wadafuvk! I'll so run far eh.


We are straightouttaPH!

Aniker:
Yes.. It depends what you're dating for though

Please how is it worth the stress?

Where in PH are you?

Aniker:
So virgins should die like that? Watchu saying, it's bad to be a virgin,.? Are you a Fuçkboy?

It is not bad to be a virgin, but again.... is it worth the stress of dating a Vee.

Xtianart:
What would you do if your Boss keeps exercising the 7th Law of Power on you?

oh, in case you don't know that it is, it states that "Get others to do the work and take the credit for it?

So, friends...how would you answer this?

For how long am I supposed to get stuck in the 1st Law of Power?- "Never outshine the Master".

I think what the interviewer is looking for is Team work. Every organisation has a Goal & Objective, every employee works towards the Goals & Objective of the organisation. If the company is doing well in terms of profit, it pro'lly means all the employees are doing well, Then when it comes to individual performance your appraisal can now speak for you which will be done by your line/departmental Manager.

when it comes to the 7th Law of Power, the Manager or who ever is the Team Lead gets the glory so also every member of that Team gets the glory too for working in that Team at the organisational level. This is because, if that Team is rewarded with cash or gifts, the Manager/Team Lead does not go home alone with the gifts.

So if an HR ask you such question, simple say you would work as Team. If the Team wins, you win! irrespective of who gets the glory. and also, your personal appraisal can speak for you.

PayBoyXclusives:
I know bro, Mile3 covers that bro. Check well and read through

That is Mile 2, Mile 3 still dey learn work.

AKAMAS along Azikiwe road by RSUST back gate should be in this list!

Statistics shows that 90% of girls are runz girls, 7% are corporate runz girls and the 3% are normal regular girls on the streets of PH.

Them girls cannot even do shakara again because the most pretty ones are the Oloshos. Chai! the thing sweet me die. Enter Playhouse or Beer Ban Lounge and see fwesh boobs and they will be rubbing you with it while playing snooker but the nigga a'int got that time. You even enter Jevenik or Genesis Deluxe, they (corporate runz girls) will be staring like please come and talk to me like...... WTF! Cant you see a handsome dude and chill?

RECESSION is bad. The girls are not smiling.

babyfaceafrica:
Video or it is a lie....everybody can't be that stupid

There is no need to lie. It is something I witnessed.

I was very shock.

All protocols observed!

Something happened at the ATM today in one of the new generation banks. A white guy came into the bank's premises with his security guard, the security guard walked to the queue and said they should allow the white guy to collect money. I was like let me see the reaction of the people standing on the queue. To my greatest surprise they allowed the white guy to collect money under the hot sun and a long queue like it is his right.

A lot of thoughts was going through my head like these people are crazy, they don't know their right. What makes the white guy different from them? why can't he join the queue? or is it because of the police security? so the white man is now a first class citizen in Nigeria? I wanted to react,but then again I was not on the queue, I came for other business and I would not be surprise that if I had reacted some folks on the queue will even throw abuses on me because of the white guy.

I can tell you with good experience that you cannot try this outside Nigeria. These white people will so kick your a$$ if you try it with them.

My questions are:

1. What will be your reaction if you were on the queue?
2. Would you have allowed the white guy collect money like the guys on the queue?
3. Is it that our police men value the white guys than his fellow Nigerians?
4. Do we actually know our rights?
5. Are we second class citizens in our own country?

PaperLace:
Lol
I drove down to PH sometime ago to pick a cake, made a U-turn somewhere after Airforce. That turn cost me 8k.
They delayed me for over an hour.

Well, I learnt to pay attention to road signs and never to drive into PH.

lol. They wont put road signs so you can pay the 8k.

No careless U-turn along Aba road. Infact I cannot remember the last time police carried me and I gave them money.

You enter my car as a thief, we head straight to your station. Along the road some will want to negotiate with you while the stubborn ones will follow you to their station. When I get to the station, I walk straight to the DPO or a senior ranking officer. I will explain the scenario the next thing will be an order.... "Allow him to go" and they will be like "Yes Sir" .

That moment I will make friend with the senior officer in case of another time. E remain make I get the CP number if not that they change Rivers CP like the way women change sanitary pads.

The truth is they will play the game so that you will settle with them there instead of taking you to their office. They might even take you to their office and park you outside for negotiation.

What is he conjuring @ second picture. Use their brain, them no get sense.

The lady just admiring a man that knows what he wants.

Rotimi Ameachi, rugged Ikwere town boy.

Winnelyn:
i am not understanding isit that the guy holding her bra did not see any other place to hold, see her breast sef, nd her belle

that guy should be arrested, because he is tapping free current from that breast...

Back to the topic i have absolutely nothing to say

You have, technically said nothing.

Noted. Will tell my prospective girlfriend.

prettythicksme:
I will sure follow ur method,may God help me.

Cool

prettythicksme:
Hmmmmm thanks,i want to b like you whenever i am angry. i cant just keep it cool for once.

You are welcome thickpretty.

You can keep it cool if you start learning my method sha.

I have realized that when ever I dish out my words they are heavy and could cause big damage because I don't talk much. The one I will say you might not forget.

I have really hurt people that luv me with words not because I loved saying those words,but because I reacted to their force; but I doing great with the silence and the counting.

Funny enough peeps just get mad more because I don't say a word.

prettythicksme:
Number1 is difficult for me to do op,am i normal?

You are normal dear.

Every normal human will want to say a word or two when angry. What I do is, I will count 1,2........ 30 before I say a word. Before I will even say that word I will count another 30 by then I should be calm.

It is better to be calm and not say a word when hungry because later you might regret those words and it cannot be taken back even though you retract your statement.

I am very sure most of these girls can't endure marriage.

They can't even do the chores or cook..... only fast foods and junks.

Must we eat rice?

Don't we have other foods?

Iamhatey:
My problem is the fear.






I'm just scared, very scared

I love you already. Fear no more!

Alright Mrs. Buhari

sinaj:
Lol

Only you Waka come. Lol.

Beautiful couples to be.

Ok o......